M64
Would you mind ?
May 08 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
It plays a part in our fun as we seek single M & F as well as couples. It's always great to experience a situation where your partner is having fun and it works both ways. Not sure about the standing back side of things though. While at times its nice to take it all in visually and see your partner progressing from flirt to full on. At some point we usually give in and become part of the action to. From my perspective the first time the Jane was set free ofter putting up with only me for 12 year (all of her sexual life at the time) It was really only the first few times where I experience any unnerving feeling. Not threatened by the other participant they have always been great but more a boy this is so hot but so wrong feeling all at the same time. That was actually a intense feeling as I was taking it all in. i guess like jumping out of a plane its a rush but a good one.Over time I have found you come completely relaxed about the idea. Both Jane and I have been on both sides of the fence and both enjoy unselfish play.We still don't play compleatly alone as we both want to share all the experiences we have and don' t see the point in playing separate.Tim
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm a firm believer in monogamy....if your with me then your with me alone. If you want someone else then leave.....Hugs roxxy :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Id be ok with a woman I'm seeing having sex with another woman ... with a another bloke ... nope. Guess that's a common view
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RHP User
13 years ago
One on one for me. Monogamy all the way and I do not share my toys or my boys. Not gonna ever happen. Im with you RoxxyRose. You may have sex with whomever you like...Just not me as well. I really dont care where you get your appetite from though...just so long as you eat at home.
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RHP User
13 years ago
a huge turn on!!I have seen him receive oral...mmm yummy and he has watched me with another guy mmm yummier ;-)x
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RHP User
13 years ago
So far, she's had three 3somes without me (all ffm), she's hooked up with two guys and one other bi lady. Do I feel threatened? Well yes, a little. I always fear that I'll compare poorly but she always returns to me. She's gotten quite a bit out of her system. She's no longer interested in rendezvous' with other men and she says she doesn't enjoy the group sex bit without me. She's still keen to play one on one with other women but that's the only time she'll leave me behind anymore.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love watching my hubby with other women, have zero jealously or possessive issues at all! Emotional connection in another thing entirely . He gives great oral, has a nice thick cock and I think he should share his goods :) He is similar , we see sex for what it is, and love for what it is. Married 22 years, swinging for 18, it's obviously worked well as we are very happy.
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jandv
13 years ago
I would love my wife to get it on while i was out with a guy or even two guys while i was at home in a different room. Nothing hotter then being at a couples party or club and see your wife enjoying herself. We were once at a couples club and i went to the toilet and had a look around some other rooms. When i came back to find my wife I saw her at the door way to a room (looking at couples inside) and a guy standing behind her rubbing her pussy under her dress. It was Soooooo hot !!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
The first relationship he introduced me to swinging - the second I introduced my partner With both partners the rules were basically the same...full swap but always same room..and I have to say, had some awesome times as a result and met some terrific people..some of whom Im still friends with today even though my relationships ended. With both partners no jealously, no issues, had some hot awesome times...definitely no regrets However with the second relationship, and even though we swung regularly, my partner came and asked would I consider a open relationship....I was hesitant..I hadnt done that before and I was a little hurt that it appeared I wasnt "enough" for him...but you know I considered myself a free lliberal swinging kinda chick, so I said Ok..give it a go..but I went against the little voice in my head. The rules that we agreed to were broken by my partner..time and time again.thats when the lies started....and funningly enough even though I was "given permission" to also seek outside play I was too wrapped up in chasing a career and time was of the essence...so I didnt...I was too bloody tired shift working, studying, running a house trying to maintain a relationship etc etc...so it fell apart... We agreed to go back to being monogamous but apparently that was something I agreed to by myself ...cause the ex apparently didnt...even though Im pretty sure he nodded Yes when we discussed it. He went back to playing up behind my back...and most people will tell you who have been cheated on.., its not the sex/cheat thats hurts..its all the lies etc that went with it...so for us it didnt work...not one bit...I naturally take repsonsibility for some of that..but not all and also his other partners caused us a lot of grief too, a few couldnt accept that they were the "bit on the side" and we had major dramas with one lady resulting in a court case. So in answer to the OP questions...do it again.? ..go swinging again....? yep absolutely...have no issue there as long as it is same room......have a open relationship...? No ......that is now a no go for me.. Im sorry but Im just not prepared to share Daniel Craig around !!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
We had been monogamous for 12 years (my only sexual partner) until about a year ago. I have been allowed freedom to explore and have adult relations with others as a woman and my partner to further explore his fantasises. He is away half the month and I play with singles alone as I think 3sum's or more is a bit greedy- I don't play alone when he is home. I try keep it simple and pure sexual and social relief. I don't see us not being in the room as separate as we both know what's going on and talk about it mostly before and always after so there is a level of inclusion. He does what he can when he can but is happier swinging with me so my major focus is on making the most of our time together ;) When he has 'private little moments' I feel the need to high5 him and I vicariously and mentally gain pleasure out of him gaining experiences- good/bad or mediocre it's all growth to me.I have my priorities straight- love my partner, he is my favourite person on the planet and I am completely secure in what I am doing- I couldn't care less if some romantic, rich super nice Adonis wanted me. I appreciate my partner more now than I ever did when we were monogamous, I knew nothing else and took him for granted. Only time will help to ease my partners common and normal insecurities (that exist in monogamous relationships to)I am a Sagittarius and I suppose that whole set them free and if they come back they are yours- Is true for us because before we did this mentally I was often somewhere else (in the last few years)- wondering what it would be like to be with others and felt a level of experience missing in my life. Now whenever we are together I am mentally and emotionally connected to just him. Which is reinvigorating.Cass xxx
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RogueGeek
13 years ago
We have an open relationship so we do that fairly often. The rule is family comes first, but what you do in your own time is up to you. We might go out seperately a lot, but we also go out together a lot more than our friends who are couples (even the ones that don't have kids!).The one time I was bothered by it was when Geek was sending another person more text messages than he was sending me lol. We talked about it, moved on etc.I know Geek will always come home, and I know he would do anything for myself or our kids. He knows I would do the same. That's enough for me.Cheers,MS
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's funny, I think I've been 'professionally single' for so long it would be a bit of an adjustment to be in a closed relationship. I could do it of course, but if I settled down with someone I'd like them to share my attitudes to sex, and that would definitely include the possibility of some sort of arrangement, whether it's playing together, playing alone, or whatever. I think my natural preference would be to play together, and would have to seriously consider the playing alone aspect, and what the 'rules' might entail. I think, from hearing other people's experiences here (and a friend of mine recently), communication is key. It seems it can be a pretty fraught lifestyle unless both partners are absolutely on the same page and in it for the same reason, with clearly established boundaries and expectations. So while I would be open to the idea, it's not something I'd enter into lightly.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I love it when my wife plays with other couples and single males, but she is the one who chooses which single males she wants to play with. I wish she would play more often because that is my fetish seeing my wife with other couples and single males. When we have went to swingers clubs i try to get as many guys there as I can to pleasure my wife and see her give endless pleasure to them. But my biggest fantasy is to see her being pleasured got hour by a large group of men 10 to 25 men at once. Is that sick of me to think like that..... Mmmmmm think I have just opened the flood gates now LOL Mr cns
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RHP User
13 years ago
Interesting thread . I myself love to watch my wife being pleasured by another partner to watch her body move and feel the warmth that her eyes display as another partner brings upon her . MMMM just builds the sexual tension between us .. Its been 3 yrs in the making getting to this point . Talking about all the pro's and cons but now i find mrs-4fun on here looking at all the possible candidates Although its only been 1 gentleman to entertain us so far i think there could be a few more even a few ladies ??? as her eyes have opened and the pleasure chest is bearing fruit.. Our sex life was great 4-5 times a week { not bad for being together 12yrs}..But this has by far added a spark to our marriage that both of us didnt see coming . We have found a new lease of life and it feels like the honey moon just started all over ... Mrs-4fun is feeling sexier feeling more wanted and im feeling that i have to be on my game now as too be not out done by a younger man lol... Although this may not be for every 1 we have found after a lot of talking together and the trust we have between us this adventure is best kept private and kept to a very few and limited circle .. And i will keep us smiling and enjoying the road ahead...MR-4FUN
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RHP User
13 years ago
I live polyamorous so no jealousy here, had a boy friend that lives with us for over 3 years now..and we all get on like a house on fire.Leesa
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RHP User
13 years ago
Actually after reading over the OP again My answer could be No. Although we invite single girls and guys to join us its always been as a couple. We both wouldn't be happy with one another going off as a single and just having fun alone. For the same reason others have mentioned I think its laced with danger. Its more about keeping everyone's mind at rest. When we are entertaining a single we don't create a overpowering atmosphere as a couple. We both enjoy giving the other person freedom to flirt and get up to mischief in a way that gives the single some alone time with the other and that can add a fun dimension to the night.For example perhaps one of us would need to drive to town to get some drinks only to come home shortly after to the other two all ready playing .Or another example if we need to drive to our play location (house) Jane might ride passenger with the single guy and entertain him on the drive there. So I guess in our minds its fine as we are aware of who each other is with and it sits well in our minds.Couplesint:Your kind of situation to a lesser degree has come up in talk between Jane and I. Although only in fantasy talk . The reality and complexity of it to the full degree on a long term is not for everyone. For us the idea of a in house playmate or couple not BF-GF situation though (usually coming about just by luck) is a huge turn on for us both and idea gets used a lot in fantasy talk. More of the room mate with benefits situation LOLTim
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RHP User
13 years ago
As someone who has had relationships that have been monogamous, casual (harem style! Damn those were the days!), somewhat open, and monogamous-with-potential-for-complications... They all have their benefits. They all have pros and cons, but I can say that *I* have gained something, learnt somewhat about myself, from each of these. I say go with what feels right at the time :) because it usually is!
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QLDtwo4fun
13 years ago
When we started playing, she was happy to engage in intercourse with other guys before I was comfortable engaging in intercourse with other women. I'm fine seeing her with someone else, whilst we say we always play together, that doesn't mean we both heve to participate equally. Being present and supporting each other to achieve our fantasies work for us.
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x2ForU
13 years ago
my man has my full blessing if he goes out without me and picks up!!..he has done so numerous times and i feel no jealousy at all!!! after all.. it is only hot and wonderful sex...AND ONLY sex...!!!... no emotional ties or involvement.... and i love hearing all about it the next day... makes me even hotter!!!shelly x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nope No dramas at all ... It wouldnt bother me 1 tiny bit. In fact if i cam home from work and she told me by chance today she had her brains rattled by some guy ... I would think ..DAM that is HOT ..Tell me more
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RHP User
13 years ago
Agree we do as a couple not alone, my wife and I have had 2 3somes both MMF and it is exciting as for me to watch but I just have to join in, just gets too exciting. Have not had the pleasure of the FFM yet, have too wait till the right lady comes along hopefully
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RHP User
13 years ago
Our marriage is very strong and we talk freely, openly and very often. As a rule, we play together, same room and separate rooms (once we know and trust our playmates). Only once has Mr gone off, but it was my idea and it was with a regular playmate and I didn't mind at all. No jealously, not a bit. She needed the company that night, I didn't. We know and understand our priorities and we seem to be evolving in terms of what our rules are. I think the only thing that won't change is our communication - open and honest always. Who knows what the future holds.
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RHP User
13 years ago
and I don't care if that makes me a hypocrite
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RHP User
13 years ago
It took me longer to get used to it than him, but now I do it much more often and he gets a little jealous sometimes, so I have to try and make it up to him...
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