Yes, it’s ANOTHER “Help me” topic

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  The_Antichrist

  7 years ago

  Do you want honesty or do you want answers that are aligned with what you want to hear?? There’s a big difference and I sense(based on your post here) you just want people to blow sunshine up your arse....correct me if I’m wrong... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Did I ask for advice or compliments? Positive and negative feedback. But keep it to yourself if it’s not gonna help me to actually improve my profile. In case you are still unclear of what I’m asking, what can I do to make my profile as good as it can be? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  The_Antichrist

  7 years ago

  You want people to tell you what to write to make you successful... Truth is, however much you won’t like it, is that no one can tell you what to write in your profile for it to attract all that you wish to attract... And the reason for that, is because then it’s no longer your profile...it’s a collective profile with bits and pieces thrown into the mix like a bag of lucorice all sorts...and while that may be appealing in a superficial form, it’s bound to be a laxative.... But I digress.... Even if you added all the things that people tell you to add, YOU as a person are still the same.... I can give you one tip..... Inject yourself into your words, and not your agenda and you’ll soon discover enlightenment.... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  So basically less “I’m looking for...” and more “About me”? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  "I'm looking for X, Y and Z." Well, congrats, so are a zillion other people. You're on a sex site, looking for sex. So why would anyone else want to have sex with you, over all the other candidates who also want X, Y and Z? Where's your elevator pitch? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  You have written a detailed profile, in actual sentences, with punctuation. That is less common than you might think, and if your messages to ladies are written in a similar manner then you will at least have their attention compared to the "ur hot, wanna fuk" that are far too often sent. You explain your home situation, which is good, so that there are no surprises down the track. Assuming it is accurate of course - there will always be a level of cynicism around these parts due to there being so many "misleading" profiles. I think though that you go on about it a little *too* much. Open relationships aren't unknown here, so we don't need every tiny little detail. However... Some things don't jive. You have only ever been with one woman with vanilla activities, but you play hard and dirty? How do you know? Plus, the "only ever been with one..." line doesn't go down well, because it comes across as you wanting pity sex. That is if it is even believed in the first place. We are adults here (for the most part!), we are allowed to have a past. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  You have a towel hanging off your dick? I’d out the naked shots in your private gallery and show those after you have established a convo with someone.

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  The_Antichrist

  7 years ago

  Is about personality not words... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  HotNightsGC

  7 years ago

  You’re on the right track but just a little polishing is needed. You’ve got a well written and light hearted description. You clearly say what you want and that you’ve discussed this with your significant other and have her permission. You need to loose the naked pic. Save that for another private gallery and until you have a woman who requests to see it. Believe it or not, women don’t want to see that in a public gallery. More on pics......Get some better photos of yourself cleanly shaven and dressed in non work clothes. It shows you’re willing to go to the sane effort with your personal appearance as you have done with your profile description. You probably already know that it’s an uphill battle for most guys on here. How to stand out from the crowd? Well presented, respectful, well written messages and transparency with your personal situation. Good luck..... Ms HNP. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  don't lie about things like your height or your age.Be truthful.People will click on to the truth sooner or later, quite often before you've even met face to face so if you have lied, they will most likely take you to task on it.

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  madotara69

  7 years ago

  If you are being honest, hard pill to swallow so far, however improving the profile you may put some insight to why you would involve someone else in a train wreck. You if this is true and you and your wife, the love of your life ? guessing by 'unsure of the ideal partner' and you and your wife agreed it would be fun. It will be for your wife and you will need to reckon with yourself and to how it will effect you when you have little to no luck and your wife having as much fun she can manage. Helping her with taking more time with stuff to do, to free up some more time in support for her to have fun with the guys, might well be a plus for mention. hope this helps Mado Mado Tara xx

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  Met a guy recently, lied about being married, lied about age, old photo and lied about his dick size. Dearie me

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  Lied about his height. But he never said he'd have no trouble etting/maintaining an erection so cant xall him out on that one. Not a lot going for the chap. So don't be like him OP.....

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  As others suggested, lose the workwear ones, add s.iling ones wi help appeal. Goodluck

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  Gr8distraction

  7 years ago

  With your wife and write something together.That could be a learning experience in itself

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thanks everyone. I will certainly take all of that on board when I redo my profile tonight. The work pics are simply there because that is where I spend 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. But I will remove them and endeavour to have some candid social photos taken. I will remove the “not for public consumption” photo/s also. Everything in my profile is 100% truthful. I did seriously wait until I was 20 before losing the V card and have not been with anyone else. It wasn’t added for pity but not that it has been brought to my attention, I can see how some may see it that way. Consider it gone. All of my measurements are accurate and I would be happy to post proof pics if requested. The only thing that I need to review now that is not mentioned here is my marital status. This morning it was married. This afternoon it is separated. Again, at the time of writing it was accurate. I am not here to deceive anyone. Believe it or not, I would rather be doing this in person. I’m just not much of a social butterfly and have always been able to hold better conversations with people I’m meeting for the first time after gathering a little bit of information from them in forums such as this. Once again, thank you all for your honesty. Hopefully it leads to a little bit more of a shine on my profile that catches an extra set of eyes or 2. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Freaky_Fun

  7 years ago

  I must say I do like the way you write. Paragraphs, full stops, capitals, no text talk. You're already way in front of half the profiles on here. 😊

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  That’s what people reading your profile want to know. Those words will be their first thought into who you are, what you want and how you present yourself. No life stories necessary as that’s not what a lot of people want, they don’t want your baggage, this is a release for them... a chance to explore inner desires without fear of judgement so knowing everyone’s full life details isn’t attractive to most.. Pics are good as people like to see what’s on offer.. cock pics I would save until requested and then share privately. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  madotara69

  7 years ago

  you came to the forums asking for help with your profile, to make it better for the chances to hook up. it began with you and the wife of the most part of your life agreeing to open the relationship, it might be fun. Now separated and profile in limbo What are you going to write. You don't have time to socialise due to work commitments, your profile is more than just yourself and better the chances, its also about the person who may take a chance on your words and hope you are the person that meets what they believe in. It may be a new thing for you and in reality be prepared this is not so easy a quick fix idea, your profile is likely to be on the wall for some time even well written, one amongst many men, so you will find yourself searching and presenting yourself to others and again one amongst many. What are you going to write. ? You have to be honest with yourself and are you a good person. Then if you will, write your profile accordingly, it may take some time to do that. Mado Mado Tara xx

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Mado, you are right. I know very well the calibre of single men that I’m up against here. An average needle in a pile of better looking and more available needles. I don’t need to be reminded of this. As for my marital status, that really isn’t your concern. But this outcome has been a long time brewing so while it is not a shock, it is no less devastating. With that in mind, it would be foolish of me to even attempt to write an appealing description of myself. In my current frame of mind, all I would succeed in doing is advertising how broken and unavailable I am. So for the short term at least, I am going to remove my profile from view while I work on myself. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  madotara69

  6 years ago

  for reading between the lines, one thing though, the good looking guys fall away with the majority of women, from what I have read many women share thoughts in the forums over years, is intellect, women are intellects and he may be the better looking guy, if showing the intellectual capacity of a toasted muffin, the fizz is short lived. You shine It seems. Hope everything works out ok.

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