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You send a detailed thoughtful message...

March 08 2015

OK... So you send a detailed thoughtful message to someone who sounds quite interesting.You receive a detailed message back with "you sound great" and "we should meet" etc... You respond with suggestions of when, where etc... ...and... ...never... ...hear from them again... Does this happen to most of you? Because it has happened to us like 10 times so far. (or more!) Very frustrating and confusing. A&A

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    As soon as I open my of with my face. Then it's the sound if one hand clapping. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    too many times - but thankfully there are some honest and lovely folks out there too

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It happens to a lot of us. I've had it happen at least 15+ times

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Yes,and anyone who is not interested in moi..Phttt ..just what are they thinking...This lil ol Piece of Pie has now been gobbled up by someone else...well in her fantasies she has been 😜xxFreya

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    10 years ago

    You are referring to a couple/s, thats normal for them. Consistently inconsistent time wasters. No longer seeking them.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    you're giving away too much too soon?? Just a thought... - Posted from rhpmobile

  • LifeUnscripted

    LifeUnscripted

    10 years ago

    Is that you can't take rejection personally. You just can't. It could be a million and one things. Maybe one of them got nervous. Maybe one of them is struggling with jealousy and they called a halt. Maybe they ended up freaking out when it got real. Or maybe they just aren't that into you... Honestly it doesn't matter what the reason. Things happen, attraction doesn't end up sparking, who knows. All you can do is keep looking for the ones who enthusiastically want you. :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RedHotCoast

    RedHotCoast

    10 years ago

    We have noticed this too. We exchange pgs, say how hot each other are, ask for the girls to chat on the phone then..........gone. We think its the guy from the couples living out some sort of fantasy behind their wives backs. It makes us wonder if the wives even know about this site. Is just emailing each other the new swinging?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    No1 talks to me - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Wives? couples? I think most are single men using your images and sexy conversation as wanking material. I dont go near couples profiles at all as I am over the disappearance or worse still you arrange to meet and then suddenly the wife is away on a business trip but its OK to come over anyways.. Bullshit and I hate the taste of bullshit and with the cream they vigorously whipped up on top.... I dont eat at the couples restaurant anymore...

  • MrandMrsBrady

    MrandMrsBrady

    10 years ago

    please there could be many reasons people disappear ( it's a fake profile,they are newbies and got scared so shut it down or one part of the couple didn't know etc etc ). For every so called picture hunter out there there is also just someone who exchanged a couple of messages saw a pg decided they were not attracted to that couple so "disappeared" sometimes it might be easier then giving a polite thanks but no thanks and getting an abusive msg in return ....something to think about? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • AUS_PlayTime

    AUS_PlayTime

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'RedHotCoast' We have noticed this too...(snip) We think its the guy from the couples living out some sort of fantasy behind their wives backs.Hi RHC. We thought about that whole "guy behind the scene thing" as a possible reason as well but we were really curious if it was a typical thing others experience as well. Its a strange thing because it is not rejection that is the frustrating thing. Heck, they replied so on some level its rather cool. Not understanding the dynamic of their mindset is the confusing thing for both of us. As we were both talking about it we just thought we would throw it to the forum wolves to tear at it a bit. Pleasantly happy with the responses so far. After thinking about it some more, we have a more refined theory in conjunction with the whole guy behind the curtain thing. It starts with these ladies drinking the better part of a bottle of wine... leads to a realization there is nobody in the house and they get bored/frisky and they get online and reply to a message... or 100. They goto bed all fired up and excited... dare we say titillated at their risque naughtiness. Next day the "OMG what have I done" mode sets in as the replies start flooding their mailbox. LOL Days of shame follow as they avoid all messages from those they contacted the prior evening. But then again... who really knows the mind of another. Speculation can be fun. A&A

  • glennannie

    glennannie

    10 years ago

    It is super frustrating at times almost to the point of giving up online and just going to the clubs. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Its not so much the lack of willingness to meet as I find you can work this out in conversation and save your heart ache/time. What I find more annoying are the ' Stimulate my mind and my body will follow' types, you give them well thought out intrigue, they acknowledge your ability to stimulate them but then reply weakly with 'haha I like to see who I am talking with before I'll talk' Maybe I am wrong but to get your mind stimulated by someone they have to be equally interested in stimulating your mind !! its not a one way street ppl

  • 2play4fun2014

    2play4fun2014

    10 years ago

    Other than what's mentioned above there are 2 main reasons we don't get back to people... First is if the messages are all about how hot I am with no mention of hubby - seriously, we're a couple and if you only want a woman then don't message us in the first place. The other is that we have small children and no family support, so it can be hard to organize a time to meet up and it's just exhausting to keep up with all the people who want us to email them - even if we have hit it off and there's a genuine attraction and we can't wait to fuck their brains out. There's one couple in particular that we'd love to catch up with lately but it just hasn't worked out (yet!) We agree with the OP.... Don't take it personally - life's to short to worry what strangers think about you (even the hot ones!)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Happens all the time! We think its all a lot of cpls want is to show off their pics and thats it....rarely actially meet. Time wasters! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'glennannie' It is super frustrating at times almost to the point of giving up online and just going to the clubs. - Posted from rhpmobile Yep. I think everyone should do this if you can. You get to meet lots of swingers that way, who are real! Not sure why you bother with the online hook up.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Annie_Whichway' If You are referring to a couple/s, thats normal for them. Consistently inconsistent time wasters. No longer seeking them. I've only managed to meet couples so far, and had more than one meeting with all of them. So yes, there are real and understanding couples profiles out there.

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    10 years ago

    Quoting '2play4fun2014' Other than what's mentioned above there are 2 main reasons we don't get back to people... First is if the messages are all about how hot I am with no mention of hubby - seriously, we're a couple and if you only want a woman then don't message us in the first place. The other is that we have small children and no family support, so it can be hard to organize a time to meet up and it's just exhausting to keep up with all the people who want us to email them - even if we have hit it off and there's a genuine attraction and we can't wait to fuck their brains out. There's one couple in particular that we'd love to catch up with lately but it just hasn't worked out (yet!) We agree with the OP.... Don't take it personally - life's to short to worry what strangers think about you (even the hot ones!)Sorry to point out the obvious, but you only have female pics in your public gallery, so it is impossible for them to make any comment on the hubby. If your advertising is not attracting the leads you want, change it!

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'kissk' Sorry to point out the obvious, but you only have female pics in your public gallery, so it is impossible for them to make any comment on the hubby. If your advertising is not attracting the leads you want, change it! A lot of single female profiles don't show pics of the male other half either..... although, they so frequently make reference to sharing with him hahahaha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    yes - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    There are reasons couples back off. It's always harder when more than one person is concerned as you need to discuss everything. We got spooked recently when an email reply came to us "and one other". Put us right off the guy as we'd just sent a picture. Could have been completely innocent, but everyone has a level of comfort. Also, with the messages on the site it's sometimes hard to keep track of who you have answered. Although if you have progressed to messaging that's less likely. It is a drawn out procedure though isn't it? And that's probably a good thing for us so we can get it right.

  • tipper930

    tipper930

    10 years ago

    Really!! Sigh, admiringly I'm a single guy but I have politely and respectfully approached quite a few couples and rarely get a reply. I always compliment her pics and his if their up, give an explanation as to why I'd like to join them. I must say the two couples that did reject the offer and replied did so in a very kind and thoughtful way... I respect I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I'm sure couples are inundated with offers from single guys all the time but even a simple no thanks would be nice.... Now standing with head resting on arms against the wall...... Tip

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    And they have mostly replied to my emails. I always try and make sure the other couple are into both of us, otherwise what's the point? Plus I love to see a face pic, especially of the man, after all, it's him I am going to kiss and suck on his cock and other things, and I like to know what he looks like. I don't judge just on face pics either, I like to get to know the couple. The other bits I am sure are very delicious and delectable. I love tasteful and teasing pics, not so keen on those cock pics being thrust in my face as some couples do (blushing). I think that a couple should just say we are not into the both of you rather than leading us on. I will never play without my man as we are into this together. Yet some couples ask if I will play with them alone. Sheesh Sandy xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    At this point in my life give me a couple over a single any day...better still a 4 way ;),,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    One half was keen but the other half vetoed any action. It's harder with couples you have to appeal to both !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'kissk' Quoting '2play4fun2014' Other than what's mentioned above there are 2 main reasons we don't get back to people... First is if the messages are all about how hot I am with no mention of hubby - seriously, we're a couple and if you only want a woman then don't message us in the first place. The other is that we have small children and no family support, so it can be hard to organize a time to meet up and it's just exhausting to keep up with all the people who want us to email them - even if we have hit it off and there's a genuine attraction and we can't wait to fuck their brains out. There's one couple in particular that we'd love to catch up with lately but it just hasn't worked out (yet!) We agree with the OP.... Don't take it personally - life's to short to worry what strangers think about you (even the hot ones!)Sorry to point out the obvious, but you only have female pics in your public gallery, so it is impossible for them to make any comment on the hubby. If your advertising is not attracting the leads you want, change it!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    We are only new to the site and it is interesting trying to work out who is real and want too meet and who is just pic hunting. We think many reasons for it, for us this Easter weekend there are couples we would like to catch up with but can't due to work/family but are able to the following weekend and would love to have 2 or 3 couples to our room for fun, but haven't really had to much interest. So sometimes schedules don't align? We have had couples contact us that we would meet and play with pics looked great and they seemed into us. Then one couple sent face pics and I said beauty they're cool and other half went awe I don't know. Now that may seem shallow but I'm sure it happens to us as well, I think it's harder to get all 4 in both couples to be relaxed and attracted. BUT I saw a great point made in a forum that sometimes people can be more attractive in person than on a screen, so we thought really let's just meet people for a drink and if comfy then all good if not have a chat and go on with our night. Another couple we would've met for sure! Pics looked great they liked us and then face pics came through and male halves or though not mates both know people in the same circles( not overly keen for our social circles knowing just yet). Just an insight to what we are experiencing so far, hope it helps. Any feedback on this issue or our profile would be greatly appreciated.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I take silence as a no thank you - but I don't know how to tell you that .I do not see the big deal at all !