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Your place or mine...or a hotel?

December 28 2013

Apologies if this topic has been posted before So, this has been playing on my mind for a while. I'm new to all this and most things I make up as I go. After you send a few messages across and you find there's an attraction/chemistry between you and the other person, then you meet for drinks and things definitely kick off and you want to take it to the next level....which is getting down and dirty, doing all those things you have been thinking in your head....amazing sex/lovemaking or whatever you wish to call it. My questions are: 1) Where do you go from there; your place or theirs or do you book a room or do it in the bushes? 2)What are your reasons for the answer you have given to the above question 3) If the other person wont host/cannot host, would that be a deal-breaker for you? **my response to these questions is quite lengthy so I shall put it up as its own post**

Comments

  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    11 years ago

    nice hotels.We have however had both couples and singles around to our house to play as well as just for drinks and also been to others houses a few times.Anyone that we have had around to our house we have been more than comfortable in doing so.For us anyway, it is more what works on the day best for everyone than a specific rule we have made for ourselves.Mr Luvsilver.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I would say it depends on how comfortable you feel with that person. Do you feel secure enough with him/her/them to invite them to your home? I always feel wary of guys who say they can't host. Makes me wonder what they are hiding. Hotels do seem to hold a certain sexy appeal for me Whatever you decide, think of your own safety first.

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    go to the ladies residence. I have heard it said a few times by psychologists that ladies feel more at ease in their own home environment when it comes to these 'intimate' encounters, whereas men don't really mind which environment they're in. So in that context, I would like the lady to be comfortable with her hooking up and therefore at ease at her home. Depending where we met, if she could not host for some reason, it could be a deal breaker coz it more than likely would be at some distance from my place - therefore the time involved in travelling would not make the overall effort worthwhile (possibly). Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Do it anywhere Hotel.movies,bushes,beach,cave,your place,my place,what ever feels comfie.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I've been divorced for 4 years... And been through 7 years of financial upheaval 😳 For the past 7 years my income has been 1/2 what it was in 2006... And well, has anyone's expenses gone down over this period ? 😄😄😄 So, yeah I like it if one of us can host. And I'm not particularly into dogging... 🐶 so, while hotels can be ok, to me they are just a room with a bed and bathroom... (Take note Captain Cockroach !!) And as such are a financial drain that I can do without... But I get by... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Some women feel very uneasy about hosting until they feel that they know the real you... #toomanycreeps... Hp xo 💌 Be safe my beautiful friends...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    A hotel makes it more illicit, less personal, more suited for a hot sexy experience with someone you may know or care very little about. At home it's personal, you are giving much more of yourself and on the other hand, the visitor is learning so much more about you just for being in your home. Shit gets REAL here.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    As a single Mum on a pension I can't even afford to go out to the pub to pull, let alone pay for a hotel room. RHP is my pub and I generally prefer to host.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have a place of my own and do not mind hosting, but the guy has to host first. My reason for this is I am wary if guys who cannot host, I mean why can't he host? I use this to weed out the married/attached guys and also guys who still live at home, huge turn-off for me I do not want to pay for a hotel room. In my mind it almost feels like I'm paying for sex.....worse if he get the bill for the room. Another reason for not wanting hotel meets is, well, I'm not after a one-night stand and also to weed out the married guys. And I won't do it in the bushes, wouldn't want any dirt/grass going up the wrong entry, lol If he can't host it is a deal breaker. I also won't invite someone to my house before I have been to theirs first just in case they turn out to be some weirdo/creep; I live alone, a girl can't be too trusting. I let a guy come over once and he turned out to be a weirdo and I cut ties with him and in turn he stalked me for months until i eventually had to move house. I once had a guy say to me "no hos in my bed" and I thought well f*** me, if I'm a whore what does that make you seeing as we are on the same site - Posted from rhpmobile

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    11 years ago

    First time (or two) is always at a hotel, no exceptions for me these days. I had a scare early days, before I woke up to the fact some people had ulterior motives. Nothing worse than being in your own home and it dawning on you the man was more intent on checking out your home security than pleasuring you. These days my play dates get invited to my home after I get to know them a little better...

  • blond_gypsy

    blond_gypsy

    11 years ago

    My living arrangements recently became much easier. Just one very laidback male roommate who couldn't give a damn if I brought home a different girl every night. That said, it can be kind of awkward when they want to stick around past their due. At least when you go somewhere else you can dictate when you go. If you invite someone to your house you're obligated to be a good host.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    The first play date took place at: . His/their place: 46% My place: 27% Hotel: 27% . As you can see, I prefer to go to a guy's house, and yes, if they can't host I will ask them why not. . I have no problem with hosting myself though, but I would never take a guy home with me on the first night. He must like dogs and I will always put valuables out of sight just in case, until I know him. I don't invite couples over, as my place just isn't cut out for that. . Hotels are usually too expensive for me and will only be booked on special occasions or by someone visiting from interstate. I've flown interstate myself once to stay at the house of a forum poster. Totally worth it.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    1. His place or mine (though never on the first date for either one), but definitely not outside or in a car. 2. My home is my sanctity and my dogs get a little overexcited when I have visitors, so it needs to be someone I feel comfortable with in my space. 3. That depends on his reason. I've met men who had flatmates, in which case I'm cool with it .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Ohh mes, you make me blush... 😄😄😄😄 Umm... Hang on... You've never flown anywhere to be with me... 😥😥😥😥😥 Hp xo 💌 😥 seems like I'm not as worth it as I thought... 😄😄

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    11 years ago

    HP - this is off topic - but do you do triathlons? I will send you a message lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    My place isn't an option, and even if it was I probably wouldn't utilise it very often because I don't really like doing sleepovers at the moment and like to be able to leave when I want. I'm also not financial enough to be paying for hotels. So it's usually the guy's place. I think I have a fairly good weirdo radar, and I haven't had any problems so far.

  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    11 years ago

    How is your place not cut out for couples? Mr Luvsilver

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    11 years ago

    Ideally we plan ahead and split the bill. The best encounters are when we make a real 'date' of it, from early check in to late check out...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    It could be the swingers, the club, maybe a kinky place that you both want to tick off the list. Usually its who's is the closest as the eagerness to tease and play are high on the cards. Most of all people, gauge you radar (weirdo as some call it) and if you comfortable at theirs, yours hotel, back of the car, front row at movies, the swingers club, the night club and what so ever, (lets face it, this is not vanilla adult sex site), then go to where you are comfortable to enjoy the time and safe enough to feel comfortable and be able to get home (been stuck there).

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I do much prefer using my place though, as I like to have my home comforts. Am a bit more security minded these days though and am aware that some people have had thefts of various items when having 'visitors'. I need to feel really comfortable going to man's home, feel a bit vulnerable in a new environment unless I have met him a few times. Having said that, I have never been afraid when I have been in someone else's home.I don't usually go back a second time though if he is a slob and his house is dirty.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'luvsilver' How is your place not cut out for couples? Mr Luvsilver My place is fairly small and it (I) feels crowded quickly. Also, my dogs are excitable enough around one visitor, two becomes a party for them. And since my bedroom has no door, it can get a bit distracting. . Have never met a couple that couldn't host though.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    and only play when I go to Sydney. So, hotel it is for me. For a first date I don't even tell them which one in case I'm not keen. I pay that way I know I'm safe. If I let them stay I do hope they offer to split the bill but that doesn't actually happen very often. One date I had even ordered room service and didn't offer to pay.

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    as I do feel more secure in my own environment as I can be quite shy and reserved and my dog offers protection. Have only had 2 guys that didn't make it in the door as the dog just wouldn't let them and who's going to argue with that. But when looking for a regular FWB I would like a guy that can host as well to maximise the playtime. I am also wary of those that cant host.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Missb72' as I do feel more secure in my own environment as I can be quite shy and reserved and my dog offers protection. Have only had 2 guys that didn't make it in the door as the dog just wouldn't let them and who's going to argue with that. Dogs always know

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    So, their place or a hotel, I can split the cost but would prefer not to have to. I have a variety of reasons that I won't go into here. Yes, it's a deal breaker- have your own pad guys... Be in a situation where you can do what you want.

  • chockisses

    chockisses

    11 years ago

    it really depends on who we are meeting. We can host, so do so with couples - unless they are already staying in a hotel, who doesn't love hotel sex When we play alone, the rules are slightly different Mr Choc will host whereas I prefer not to. I have to have met someone a fair few times before they would be invited to our place. Mrs Choc

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Isn't that thinking a double standard awesome ? Guys might have reasons why they can't play at home too... That attitude reeks of hypocrisy, you can quite rightly set whatever rules you wish for you... But there have been threads recently where some women have expressed their distaste for chauvinistic attitudes like offering an arm for a woman to cross the street... It's no wonder so many guys are unsure of how to treat women... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I can't host because I don't live alone and struggle with privacy, therefore it would be a deal breaker if the other couldn't host and or pay for a hotel as my finances are extremely dire. I certainly prefer to meet first and I. Have to be in the right mood for outdoors. Simply think of your safety, that always comes first. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    On only one occasion have I met someone (here or in the real world beyond Rhp) have I been to her home. Not because of any caution on her part.... more because I am proactive in making the decision that a woman comes to my home. DG - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I don't host. That doesn't make me a weirdo, married, or anything else. I feel quite embarassed when people ask me where I live, and I say in the truck, as they quite often laugh and say no seriously where do you live?? I much prefer the hotels option, as I feel quite uncomfortable staying at someone else's house. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I'm yet to meet a lady who can climb up into the truck in high heels :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    when the kiddies aren't around, I love a guy coming back to our house, however, I do point out the fact that we work from home, so hubby is here 90% of the time! makes me safer........ I still can't do hotels, for me it's just the feeling of him or I paying for sex?? Although, there is one guy and a couple that come from interstate that we are happy to join. Just recently started playing alone (if hubby meets first) and for that it's the couples club, just feel a little safer!

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    If I did organise motel sex with a guy I would expect to pay half after all this is for our mutual benefit why should he have to pay it all when I am just as keen to play with him and at a motel. Motel sex is not something I would do with everyone but if there was someone and we just couldn't coordinate the hosting and he was a distance away then I would suggest it and see what his take on it is but the cost should be split. 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    Have absolutely no intention of taking anyone home, aside from not wanting my new roomy to think I'm a revolving door; home is whete the heart is and like Mes says it's also your sanctuary, haven, home. I would only ever invite a Lover (in the truest sense of the word) back to my home as this is also a sign of trust. Also not big on being completely at the guy's tender mercy either by going back to his place, definately not on the first few meets anyway, trust factor again. So hotel rooms it is, split the bill or not I don't care but someone will know who I am meeting, what room number and hotel I've got booked and there will be a minimum of 2 txts or phone calls set up throughout the evening as a safety precaution until I've determined if you are safe, sane and fuckable. I'm a safety girl.....end of story. PS there's also the safety call in the morning by my guardian angel to ensure I survived the night and pls don't be taken aback when I request to see your driver's licence so I have your real name (you may hide your address details, not interested in that detail; police should be able to find you easily enough if needs be.). ~ Indy 😎 because I'm not an easy target 🎯

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    I believe they can track just on mobile number and email address these days. My stalker has many names. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I might just copy some of your ways, liked the part about getting to know their real name and the safety calls. And Bigmamma1....yeah I'm with you in the paying for a motel, not sure why I feel that way though - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    There indi 😳😳😳 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    When booking a hotel for the night does someone stay there after the playing is all done ? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    And yes HP very serious shit, I'm no fool bimbo either. You would be invited home though because you are a friend and it's always wonderful to catch up with friends and entertain at home. Missb I've had 3 stalkers, none of them fun. And Nat your real friends will want to ensure your safety, it's simply common sense; you wouldn't let just anyone drive your car.....I'm sure as hell not going to trust just anyone with my body and personal safety either and just because you've been chatting for a year beforehand and they seem nice means shit......it didn't stop him from forcing himself on me. A levelhead was all that kept it from being horrific. Never again EVER.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Hugs indi... Without making it too personal, maybe you could distill some of your experience in a "cyber dating 101" type thread ? Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Either I host or I go to the lady's home but regardless of either way respect for the persons privacy is a MUST... I have kids so can't host all the time nor can I just drop n meet at will either... Never ever just do the drop in as it's creepy ?? Missk can I cum around ;),

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I've been pondering this a little lately as I spend a lot of time in the city but live a fair way out which does seem to put women off from travelling to mine. I totally understand why they may not want to host also (given that they don't know me very well initially) so hotels seem to be a good option. I did meet a very entertaining couple for a daytime hotel meet recently which surprised me as I thought the nicer hotels were pretty shy about renting rooms daily and this couple definitely weren't staying overnight. I guess it's like anything, if the connection is strong enough then whatever works for everyone at the time is the way to go. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Sorry if you think it's hypocritical but if I don't know someone I'm not going to invite them into my home. My sanctuary, my family's sanctuary. A couple have made it in eventually, but only after i feel a real trust and connection. And yes, some men may not be in a position to host but there are so many men on here that women who feel as I do can just choose the ones that can.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' I'm yet to meet a lady who can climb up into the truck in high heels :p - Posted from rhpmobile An old mate owned his truck, therefore it was pristine, not a rattle or squeak, lots of little pieces of rubber stopping all that. He referred to some people mentioned that he had all it is, to an Obsesive compulsive disorder, relationship with his truck. He simply explained that one rattle you can hear, Two gets harder to pinpoint, soon the whole fcken truck would rattle to pieces, Called it maintenance. Bright and shiny, cleaner than new, and tighter. All but a single hole in the vinyl dash Passenger side. He was also told it came from his wife, riding in the truck wearing her stilettos. He said that was ridiculous, she knew not to put them anywhere but the neat folded towel that I put on the floor. Fair enough they were always prepared and dressed accordingly, for if a good band happened to be playing at any given time. But He swears she knew and agreed to the rules. It was the only imperfection that he seemed to let go to it. Every single thing else bugged the shit out of him, and so did I when sitting on the seat he prepared for me. There was a sleeper right behind us. But it was the office off bounds and he regularly dusted it. If they wanted to sleep when they were out in the truck, they had no choice other than renting a room. Funny was the sleeper was nicer than most rental rooms and as big. Thanks for the memory pinger. Some good times were had and some shit hot music. Mado

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Someone else's home also THEIR sanctuary...? Somewhere for THEM to feel safe, somewhere for THEM to nurture THEIR kids... ? QUOTE: "Yes, it's a deal breaker- have your own pad guys... Be in a situation where you can do what you want." UNQUOTE: Should the above quote also be directed at the women of rhp...? I wonder what sort of thread would eventuate if a man instructed the women and single mothers of rhp to "be in a situation where you can do what you want" Ummm... Insert thinking woman... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    In today's age of hidden cameras I never go back to the guys house. I always play at a hotel. Also, I don't want to meet you for dinner. I want a 5 minute introduction, 10 at most and then we agree to fuck. I have looked at your pics, chatted on the phone once or maybe twice then agreed to meet. I have met a lot of guys and because I want to fuck them not marry them my expectations are different. 99% of guys I have met, I slept with. There was only 1 guy I absolutely hated and that is unusual for me. Usually I can see some good in them. I met him and had left within 10 minutes.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Theoretically I agree. However, the practicality of it all sees one big difference. A mans physical ability to over power a woman. That's not to say a woman can't physically handle herself, but let's face it, 100kg of me has a greater chance of over powering a woman with a petite frame, than the reverse. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You are 1 of the rare women that would offer to pay. Every1 we have been with expect us to pay for the room & usually dinner as well. If u want agree nite contact us lol - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Violetincredible

    Violetincredible

    11 years ago

    I meet in a public place.. Have a safety friend.. Who I txt and let them know how things are going... Then it is up to the situation: hotel, outside or their house. No one comes to my house until they are a really good friend and have been continuously for at least a year lol. I learnt this through a bad situation as well Indy. Xx violet

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    86% of single parent households are headed by women... (Abs 2011). It's a bit more of an issue for us. Many of us would like to be in a position to do what we want but unfortunately have been left holding the baby by deadbeat dads who feel they can just fuck off and pretend like they have no resonsibilities. Given also that I am statistically unlikely to physically or sexually assault a man, that his safety is pretty much not at issue here... That I require the safety precaution of being able to get away from this person when I need to, just for my own peace of mind. Y'know all this equal rights stuff... It's bull, men will achieve equality when they behave equally- equally caring of their children and equally non-violent. Then there will be equal trust! Some might behave this way and they do earn trust, but they usually understand the need for it to be earned because they have empathy. They are evolved!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have hosted, but get a little weirded out when girls start looking at my stuff (I am very private) I have booked apartments in the city and this is by far my favorite as you can usually book close to where you are having dinner and drinks, plus it is naughty to have sex on a balcony without giving a shit who sees ;) Also happy to go back to a girls house if she is comfortable. I have had sex in the handicapped washroom a few times, is this offside? Never had a person waiting outside in a wheelchair after, can you imagine? Car parks on top of a stranger's car (sorry if it was yours). In the hall outside the rented apartment when we couldn't make it to the room after starting in the lift. Really, I'm a guy, so long as the animal attraction is there, I am good with anywhere ;)

  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'luvsilver' How is your place not cut out for couples? Mr Luvsilver My place is fairly small and it (I) feels crowded quickly. Also, my dogs are excitable enough around one visitor, two becomes a party for them. And since my bedroom has no door, it can get a bit distracting. . Have never met a couple that couldn't host though. Mr Luvsilver

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I would never expect to be invited to "her" - general term - place right off the bat....I'd much rather develop a mutual trust first. I think it makes things more comfortable in the long run. Given the prevalence of unsavoury behaviour towards women, I don't blame 'em for taking steps to protect themselves. While *I* know my own character and the sort of person I am, anyone I meet for the first time doesn't - more so if the connection is made via the internet since one can put forward any kind of persona very easily. For mine, I'd go for neutral territory as I'm not always in a position to host. CheersJAB

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You need to feel secure in the decisions you make, have mutual trust and respect for each others privacy, and always go with your gut feel. If something seems off on an initial meet, go with your instincts. You might be wrong, but that is better than finding out you were right.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Great topic ..... Ladies place: My preference is to go to the ladies place: Pros: lady in her own environment and can have taken her own security precautions (familiar neighbours, phones, locks etc) Cons: she might have a psycho ex stalking her place, you may turn into her next stalker ;-) I do think that this is still the most secure option for a lady, there are extremely strong laws in place to protect against stalking, just tell the guy he is no longer welcome and use the law if they don't respect that. Hotels: But .....if a lady does not offer her place for whatever personal reasons then I'll offer and pay for hotel. At present I can only do that as I am separated and still living under one roof (nothing to hide, just simple economics): Pros: both on neutral ground Cons: ladies sometimes get cold feet and duck out of such a meeting (my pet dog has gastritis today....) leaving the guy to foot the bill for a plush empty hotel room and a sense of what could have been but wasn't. Booking hotels does kinda leave me with a feeling that I am "paying" for sex which kills the passion a bit. Bush sex: Pros: Free ......that's all Cons: Fun for a few times but hard to relax with ever present danger of snakes, things that nibble your ankles and make them itch the next day, flies landing on wetted pussies, and absence of running water before/after and possibility of meeting your work colleagues as you both exit the bushes with flushed cheeks and undone zippers. Fun but fraught with danger. My place: Once I get my own place I'll be pretty open to receiving lady friends over (as long as I think they will leave and give me my life back within a reasonable guest/host timeframe) Pros: I can cook up a storm and set the scene to get the romance going, plenty of garlic tonight I think .... Cons: Getting the forks and spoons in your cutlery drawer rearranged, tea towels hung elsewhere and your other things moved to "tidier places", finding things in the wrong place three weeks afterwards. Having your choice of (last weeks deal) toilet paper extrapolated to represent your entire personality and outlook in life ....(my advice ...buy the expensive stuff and hope she only uses a few sheets but is left with a great impression)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'daelene69'You are 1 of the rare women that would offer to pay. Every1 we have been with expect us to pay for the room & usually dinner as well. Do you discuss this with your dates beforehand?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    These days I prefer to entice the guy to go to a swingers club with me.... If not and we are at a pub already, the disabled toilets suffice :P Works for me :)

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Awesome71' . Given also that I am statistically unlikely to physically or sexually assault a man, that his safety is pretty much not at issue here... We only have your word for this atm - how do we know we guys are actually safe with you .... Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    To answer your ??? Yes on a few of dates we have discussed splitting costs before hand. Until it comes time to split the bill. But like I said we don't really mind paying but once in a while it would be nice lol. If u want to know more msg us I would love to talk more about this subject & get your views. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    a room is always nice. It affords both of you the opportunity to show each other exactly what you're capable of in a 'safe' way

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You can cum to my place any time ;),,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Kids kids kids.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Warning69' You can cum to my place any time ;),, very tempting

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I like to host, to be honest I don't really like going to women houses. Meet close to my house, 30-60mins get to know each other. Then back to mine. Women can be very nervous at times, young ones especially, if I'm relaxed giving space we both relax ... & I do this better in my own environment, when I'm in control women are more comfortable things move much smother.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I cannot host so I have been to ladies' premises probably 4 times our of 5 or paid for a room. Several times I have been invited to interstate visitor's rooms, other times I have paid for a hotel. One friend insisted we go dutch, so we each paid once. I don't have a problem going to someone's place if they are happy to have me. My regular FWB cannot host so I pay for a room - am honoured by her presence and I work, she doesn't. For me, the pleasure of someone's company for intimacy is worthy of being hosted, if they offer I don't decline.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If a lady picks me up in a bar, it's back to her place. If I meet someone from RHP, it's either my place or a hotel.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Funlover71' If a lady picks me up in a bar, it's back to her place. If I meet someone from RHP, it's either my place or a hotel. Why? Why the difference? Perplexed!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Why? What's the difference - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Are you talking about meeting up with women or men? The way I see it the couple woos the woman, so taking her for dinner and paying for everything doesn't seem so crazy to me for a first date.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'MissKay' Quoting 'Funlover71' If a lady picks me up in a bar, it's back to her place. If I meet someone from RHP, it's either my place or a hotel. Why? Why the difference? Perplexed! It's just what happens. It maybe, ladies that pick me up are confident and realise I'm harmless. As far as RHPers go, maybe they've read too many of my posts and are a little worried about my mental stability. I am talking about the first time together.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Dinner out locally to see if we click enough then back to mine for the night :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I think for me it goes with whatever vibe I'm getting from the other party at the time. I like hotels but mostly I've had ladies invite me over, meet at pubs, then invite me over, meet at a pub then shag in the bushes/park or car etc etc Classy I know but hey.. What if I never met them again?! Let the chance slip?! And it's just the buildup for round 2,3,4... It's the same with couples. After chatting/msg'ing they may feel comfortable enough to invite me over. And usually they know what they want too. They're the 'I didn't come here to fuck spiders' sort of people. :-P - Posted from rhpmobile

  • oralalot

    oralalot

    11 years ago

    The best location is the one both parties are comfortable with. Although I prefer meeting at a home, there are many legitimate reasons why this might not be possible. Children, house sharers, timing etc. Hotels are a good neutral choice. If you meet when you travel, then meetings are almost going to be in a hotel. At the end of the day, a room is not that expensive if you can make good use of he time.

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    That's bizarre and funny at the same time...lol... I would invite you to my home...just sayin... And the cupboard where you will be chained is a good size 😁😇 - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Funlover... I definately wouldn't go home with him... 😋😋😋😋 Hehe... I'm telling fibs again... Of course I would 👍 I meant to reply to this the other day, and to funlover in particular... I was wondering if the reason that a non rhp woman would drag funlover back to her place was because of the male/female imbalance in here... An attitude of "I can pick and choose, so I choose not my place" ? Maybe women in the matrix (rhp...) are more aware of their personal security or more paranoid... Than their non matrix sisters... ? Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Mr D prefers home (safe zone), me I'm pretty happy anywhere ;o) But, if I were single it would definitely be somewhere neutral to begin with, until I would be comfortable enough to bring them home. Ms D - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    And drink just good time - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I thought it was a weird quirk of yours that made me question your mental stability.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'MissKay' I thought it was a weird quirk of yours that made me question your mental stabilityBut I have plenty of other quirks that will answer your questions about my mental stability.

  • N4November

    N4November

    11 years ago

    I would always have the bullshit metre running and only met them in a public place first for lunch, dinner, drink - you get the idea. I usually knew within a few minutes of meeting someone if I thought I would enjoy playing with them. Rule number 2 - never assume anything!! lol But I love the men/girls/couples I have lured to my bedroom and I always felt safest there. But I also like the excitement and adventure of going somewhere else to play. Play safe with someone you trust who know’s who you are meeting etc etc. The kids were NEVER home. Too many rules are crazy so my advice is to go with your intuition and jump in with both feet!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    unless I know the person reasonably well and am reasonably confident they aren't a stalker. The noise factor is a concern (common walls), plus nosy neighbours plus living with a family member who I would rather not know everything there is to know about me. I will always meet in public and am happy to go to a hotel room but have never even considered the idea of getting one myself (hasn't been needed on this adventure yet).

  • madferrret

    madferrret

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'kissk' First time (or two) is always at a hotel, no exceptions for me these days. I had a scare early days, before I woke up to the fact some people had ulterior motives. Nothing worse than being in your own home and it dawning on you the man was more intent on checking out your home security than pleasuring you. These days my play dates get invited to my home after I get to know them a little better... great post... power to you x

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Missb72' That's bizarre and funny at the same time...lol... I would invite you to my home...just sayin... And the cupboard where you will be chained is a good size 😁😇 - Posted from rhpmobile I just got out of Freya's restraints. My friend is starting to get worried about me (and yes, I meant friend. I'm not a well liked man.).

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Well personally speaking. It's not to much of an issue, I will host or go to theirs, or a hotel can be quite fun. It does depend on the other person/couple/group. (Take your pick) to, what if your place isn't suitable for meets. You have to be flexible, and consider the other parties needs to. Reasons are all on ian individual basis really. Each meet and person etc is different. Judge it and go with your feelings. Sometimes their place is a good choice, keeps your personal life and residence private if your that way inclined. Is the not being able to host thing an issue. Not really, as far as I'm concerned we all have reasons to not wish to host, or inability to do so at times.

  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'madferrret' Quoting 'kissk' First time (or two) is always at a hotel, no exceptions for me these days. I had a scare early days, before I woke up to the fact some people had ulterior motives. Nothing worse than being in your own home and it dawning on you the man was more intent on checking out your home security than pleasuring you. These days my play dates get invited to my home after I get to know them a little better... great post... power to you x Thanks I like to concentrate on the fun rather than the safety. And hotel rooms can be lots of fun