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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  is the fact that you're attached and playing without your partner's knowledge. It's good that you are being upfront about it in your profile (whatever happens don't be tempted to hide it / lie about it)...but it is the type of situation that a lot of people - women and couples - want to avoid. Even single guys can really struggle on here, so I think you need to appreciate that it most likely won't be easy for you at all. Not impossible, there are people on here who don't care about relationship status, but you will need perseverance and yes, you will need to pay so that you can send messages (although paying and being able to send messages also won't give you any guarantees). If you do pay for a membership your best bet may be contacting people who are in a similar situation to yourself, or people who state that they are not fussed about relationship status. As for your profile, it is better than many on here although I am a bit puzzled about what you mean by 'liking your women to be women'...particularly when you go on to say that you like all body types. Does that comment mean you prefer women to behave a certain way? Something else? Maybe you need to elaborate on it if it's something specific you prefer, otherwise it's a bit redundant. All women are women, yes?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  BUT you are attached and don't really mention anything about that..It's off putting for many women.and for many reasons ,one being that you are emotionally unavailable xxFreya

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  simply by turning up to meet and greets...you don't need to pay to attend them... - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  What Luckdragon said. Welcome, and good luck.

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  Mischeviouslad

  9 years ago

  Good luck in here Eudaimon Now, Im going to say what others are probably thinking....... and I will say this from personal experience and the benefit of hindsight.... without knowing the detail of your personal circumstances. You're 33...... you're attached...... and you're not happy with what you have in that relationship. You're plenty young enough to start over and go find what WILL make you happy.... instead of establishing a belief and habit that makes seeking external sexual validation and gratification.... acceptable. You know your partner does not find it acceptable, so why perpetuate two unhappy lives when you can go seek what you desire....... and make two people happy instead of continuing to make two people unhappy. I am not judging...... I am simply suggesting you consider yours and your partners alternatives to long term happiness. 2.7c DG

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I haven't been to any... almost did...but work got in the way. I've heard they are great. I have had paid membership before. It is as mentioned, no guarantee. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' is the fact that you're attached and playing without your partner's knowledge. It's good that you are being upfront about it in your profile (whatever happens don't be tempted to hide it / lie about it)...but it is the type of situation that a lot of people - women and couples - want to avoid. Even single guys can really struggle on here, so I think you need to appreciate that it most likely won't be easy for you at all. Not impossible, there are people on here who don't care about relationship status, but you will need perseverance and yes, you will need to pay so that you can send messages (although paying and being able to send messages also won't give you any guarantees). If you do pay for a membership your best bet may be contacting people who are in a similar situation to yourself, or people who state that they are not fussed about relationship status. As for your profile, it is better than many on here although I am a bit puzzled about what you mean by 'liking your women to be women'...particularly when you go on to say that you like all body types. Does that comment mean you prefer women to behave a certain way? Something else? Maybe you need to elaborate on it if it's something specific you prefer, otherwise it's a bit redundant. All women are women, yes? Thankyou for the comments - which applies to everyone. I adjusted a few of those lines based on feedback, often it is hard to see the anomalies when you have written them! As for my status - based on Freya's advice I clarified my reason for playing a little better.Appreciate the suggestions :)

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  AnnieWhichway

  9 years ago

  I didn't see it before the modification. It is well written i think. I will let you know what i think when i get through it all. I've not much on this week so should be able to finish reading it over the next few nights...............

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Good luck in here Eudaimon Now, Im going to say what others are probably thinking....... and I will say this from personal experience and the benefit of hindsight.... without knowing the detail of your personal circumstances. You're 33...... you're attached...... and you're not happy with what you have in that relationship. You're plenty young enough to start over and go find what WILL make you happy.... instead of establishing a belief and habit that makes seeking external sexual validation and gratification.... acceptable. You know your partner does not find it acceptable, so why perpetuate two unhappy lives when you can go seek what you desire....... and make two people happy instead of continuing to make two people unhappy. I am not judging...... I am simply suggesting you consider yours and your partners alternatives to long term happiness. 2.7c DG Thanks for the comments DG.I have considered this of course, and have thought about the alternatives.That being said, I am honest enough to openly seek encounters that are outside what I currently have - not replace what I currently have. I realise this is not to everyone's liking, but it suits my physical needs. Whateverway: Apologies it was too long - perhaps the Abridged audiobook next time? :P

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  What they said, more input will cost you a beer at least. 😜

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  Mischeviouslad

  9 years ago

  I think you pretty much missed the point a little...... but.... merry christmas and I hope it all ends well. DG

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  What it is you aim to achieve OP?? But more so why it is that you seek outside experiences when with a little effort, you can may just be able to share some of these experiences with your partner??? "Is she a bit nutty??" "Are you just wanting to be a douche??" Kind of questions come to my mind...but feel free to tell me to me mind my own business as its your journey and I don't mean to pry....but I've a dead cat here and it seems that the cats death would be in vain without the juicy stuff....know what I mean ??

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  sweetgem

  9 years ago

  As always, when I receive messages from men, the very first thing I check out is their relationship status because, it helps me to determine whether or not I need to read their profile content. Yes, relationship status is a deal breaker, or maker, for me as I am not looking just for sex only, even though I am not seeking a serious relationship either. Yes, some members will roll their eyes at comments like mine and think FFS this is a sex site! But hey, I cannot see any written policy of RHP that says everyone must hook up for sex only and nothing more! Hence, I go with what my feelings desire and enhance my sexual experience with some non-bedroom spices instead of just meeting up for sex only. And this enhancement cannot be achieved with an attached/married man :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  PurePeony

  9 years ago

  ... like what everyone else has mentioned, bummer about the relationship status. If you were single, I would have been very happy to meet you because I find intellectual men sexy. However, I do not wish to be the third party in someone else's marriage. That would be like being a mistress, but without any of the usual mistress benefits whatsoever. The world is so ironic. Here I am, a single lady who wants a partner with a sex drive to match mine, and all over the place, I see men who are married to wives who are disinterested in sex.

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