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Your worst first meet?
August 14 2013
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
My first..... She suffered what I will unofficially refer to as body confidence bi polarity. On meeting, we shared a drink, told our stories, had a lot of laughs.... she made a shy but deliberate proposal and invited me to her home..... during which time she swung between wild abandon with her body, and shame/embarrassment that she wasn't 'perfect'. (Her body was fantastic. Tall, slender and toned) The poor girls self esteem had copped a hammering from her screwed up ex husband and I had to cradle it and seek to rebuild it for her. She was such a lovely woman, that I do wonder how she is travelling now. I've since learned how to determine a womans self esteem a lot better. DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Please accept my apology in advance if I have offended anyone. My experiences were with people that were not ready to be out in the dating field and in denial about still being in the grieving stages of mourning their spouse. SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
the man who told me to be quiet every time I tried to say something....then sent me a text to say he just wanted to be ''convo '' friends. the really dirty man......yep covered in black tar or something similar,face, hands fluro clothing,all black.....I ran. the man who threw a tantrum in the café because I wasn't interested in him . the man who proposed after a ten minute coffee.. and yes,I am still single But there have also been some lovely sexy men too,thank goodness
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RHP User
11 years ago
But other NORMAL date sites many years ago.turns up at first meeting with Lingerie, in a wine container and I thought it was some material around a wine bottle so whipped it out in the middle of the coffee shop. Looking into empty container saying, there is nothing in here?Waitress says, your holding the present ...was a three hundred buck silk gown.I stuffed it back in and handed it back...game overHave heard this one twice from women I know on RHP.guys who turn up and have no petrol money to go home again.guy who turned up with suitcase and said he was homeless and can he stayGuy who turns up pissed with an E plate on his car.Guy who took me for a walk on the beach and then did a huge piss beside me, yeah first impressions do count.Guy who as a girlfriend( again Normal site) if she liked dogs, and then said nooooo I mean really like dogs..she threw up.Guy who got me undressed and I am Horney as hell and he is still dressed and he stops and goes, fuck I cant do this to my wife ( again normal date site) I had no idea he was married. He fled screaming into the night. the next day a guy I was doing art with came over and I told him the storyI said shit I cant give it away...he saidI will take it and he did , and every wednesday till that art class finished he showed me his etchings.I am sure there are guys saying how I was their horror date...including the guy who saidand fuck I told her I was married just to get out of there.......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep LT, I have also had the pisser date. We met for a drink where he told me all about his financial woes and how he couldn't afford to get his car fixed, etc. I wasn't impressed but I thought, okay, I am 10 years older so a bit more together financially, don't be so harsh. We went for a walk along the beach reached a secluded spot and started kissing, very good kissser, then after a few minutes he starts trying to push me down onto my knees!! I said I can hear people close by....but he didn't care. So after he just didn't get that I didn't want to suck his cock after a minute of kissing I said I need to go. Of course he needed me to drive him home and I reluctantly agreed. He then says.............hang on a minute I just have to piss, and he turns slightly and starts to piss while I am standing there. I was totally unimpressed by the whole performance. He seemed like a kid not a 31 year old guy. BIG FAIL!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am quite reserved about my personal life and I although I may speak very freely about sex, I am not one to really discuss my work, or family, or childhood, etc. Mainly because it's boring, and I just don't know... I just don't talk about these things unless I know someone fairly well. But there are some people who seem to have verbal diarrhoea. I sometimes wonder, do these people ever stop and think, Gee Meeka knows my whole life story, clearly she was absolutely riveted (NOT) but I know next to nothing about her. Nada. Or do they just not give a rats arse ?Or is that just me. What makes someone think that a person who is only meeting you for the first time is interested in your entire life story? Do they want to know about your exes, your parents, what happened to the family dog, what school you went too, etc, etc. BORING!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
That one then had the cheek of saying she turned up after I left (this was almost an hour later, so I guess I was the fool. However, I did make a lot of progress in that book I was reading). Yes guys and gals, bring a book along. It helps when someone fails to show Recently, I had another interesting story. The woman was so drunk that I had to drag her to get some food in her, an extra strong cup of coffee and sit down with her until she was sober enough to drive. I offered to take her home but both of us drove and both we didn't want to leave our cars in the city.Oh, not to mention going on a date and she shows up with a fiver in her purse. Not a good first impression. Do a lot of women here expect the guy to pay for the meal on the first date? BTW, none of them are from RHP.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Luckily I backed out first OP with the guy who wanted to meet recently but his team was playing and he didnt weant to miss it and wanted to still meet me. I said what will I do whilst you watch the game and he said I can still talk to you.....lol....I said how about we meet an hour earlier and his response was ...yes I have some bets to put on and pre game matches also. Typically he was one of these guys who whinged girls never met up with him.I did let him know gently ...not happening.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Exactly why I refuse to meet anyone, that in their photos, that show them drinking alcohol. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But do wonder how you guys can pick these great ones! Feel like I'm missing out because I haven't had a shocker! Are these people just very good at deceiving you until you actually meet? With some of the people posting on here, seems a lot of experience and great advice so I'm surprised you pick such shockers to meet? Or is it the case that a polite genuine intelligent naughty guy is just a rare find indeed that knows sport is best played and not talked about, no one wants to hear about ex's and that one is meant to piss in a toilet? D- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do you ever think to yourself, "ahhh fuck it, one disaster after another, is this really worth it??" - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Just two questions.... 1.... why fall them dates? You're meeting the person for the first time... Call them "meets". (you'll see why I suggest that next). 2. Why are you going on dinner DATES? Calling it a date, and doing the traditional date things, creates an interesting set of problems. Making a dinner "commitment" means you're locking yourselves down for a minimum of 90 minutes..... and that's quite a long time to pre-allocate towards someone you haven't met before and really don't know.... especially for a woman who must be cautious of her safety. And let's look at another position.... you might not even like the person, in person.... for a number of reasons. It's better to allocate a half hour, and then, if that goes well, another half..... you can suggest dinner if it's still going well and you feel the interaction is going well and deserves more time. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
No, because some time stuff happens, and you obviously won't hit it off with everyone. A bad date isn't the end of the world you know, and you shouldn't stop trying. Everyone knows you have to kiss lots of frogs to find your prince. Ever considered that the common denominator is you? You should have a think about that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That was terribly presumptuous of me. Sorry SL.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Usually coffee or a drink, I am getting a little better with this now.....no obligation to go any further. I did do a dinner date recently not sure what came over me...lol...but it was ok.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems like nothings change...same positve attitude. Ever the optimist.
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RHP User
11 years ago
1. Stay away from people who put up photos of alcohol in their hands while saying they rarely drink. Well, at least I shouldn't act surprised in they turn up drunk.2. Make it a coffee meet rather than a dinner meet. At least I'll find out which cafe makes the best hot chocolate or chai latte in my city.Although in that one case of the lady who was drunk, I couldn't in good conscience leave her on her own. I noticed that there were a lot of guys wandering the streets in packs so being a lady who was intoxicated and alone might not be the best situation to be in.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess I have been lucky, I have definitely had more good first dates than bad, BUT... - one woman who had posted (and sent me) photos of her adult daughter instead of herself, she was nothing like she described herself. Never finished a coffee so fast. - one who got drunk on two glasses of wine. Thought it may have been illness etc, but the next two times we met she got drunk very quickly as well. There was no forth date! - one who 'assumed' I was molesting my daughter because she lived with me and not her mother. According to her, all men are sexual predators who would not be able to resist the temptation. Funny end note to that very quick date: she reported me to CSA who after a 5 minute phone call realised there was nothing untoward going on but then found the woman was working whilst claiming full unemployment benefits etc. She ended up having to pay back thousands .. :-D Nowdays, I have some rules for the first date: - only coffee or a drink - never dinner or a movie, if you don't get alone a dinner can seem like it lasts for hours and a movie, come on you are there to get to know each other, how can you do that when you can't talk. - she makes her own way there, saves having to drive her home if things don't work out or pay for a taxi.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot'Do you ever think to yourself, "ahhh fuck it, one disaster after another, is this really worth it??" - Posted from rhpmobile that's why my current status on RHP is Not Meeting Anyone at the moment! Over the liars and bores! Might rejoin the meet scene again down the track but happy to just hang out with my friends for now. SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'zu7bcv' That one then had the cheek of saying she turned up after I left (this was almost an hour later, so I guess I was the fool. However, I did make a lot of progress in that book I was reading). Yes guys and gals, bring a book along. It helps when someone fails to show Recently, I had another interesting story. The woman was so drunk that I had to drag her to get some food in her, an extra strong cup of coffee and sit down with her until she was sober enough to drive. I offered to take her home but both of us drove and both we didn't want to leave our cars in the city.Oh, not to mention going on a date and she shows up with a fiver in her purse. Not a good first impression. Do a lot of women here expect the guy to pay for the meal on the first date? BTW, none of them are from RHP. You ask a woman out for dinner, and you pay. Its a date your trying to impress her.If you start to date on a regular basis, then sure go dutch or take turns to buy the meal.Any woman that goes out without enough to cover said meal or taxi home is an idiot. My father used to call it MAD money, that if you get mad at the way a guy behaves you can ditch him and get home. The other thing is I would like a dollar for every guy that said, hey I bought you dinner so I am supposed to get a fuck. Thats when I reach in their purse and hand over the 5.95 for the Big Mac they were so good as to buy me for dinner.If a woman is drinking to much, then say things like would you like some water, or coffee. Any woman that drinks to much on a date is an idiot, or drinks to much where she puts herself at risk is an idiot and should be avoided at all costs.dumb men fuck drunk women.At least you had the brains to bring a book, but I would not have waited more than ten minutes. I always get them to text when they are leaving to come see me, how the progress is an what is their eta.If they don't show up and so far thats only happened twice, then never answer their text or messages again.If they have let me know before the meeting they cant come, then thats fine, but if they dick me around more than once.I dont answer their text or messages again.Why bother? You are a smart cookie you don't need to wait for any princess.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well i met a RHP lady ,who picked me up in her car ,i had my backpack as i had a few things in it ,Diary,work plans ect!Low and behold she looks over and says " What's that LUBE doing on the floor of her car" I was like ... "its not mine" and she was like "its not mine"Well it was mine ffs it had been in my bag for 6 plus month and fell out of a side pocket of my backpack!She must have thought what a weirdo.. an honest mistake i did not even realise it was in my bag.Geesh i felt like a perverted prick!I have taken women out to dinner,paid for it and never expected anything but good company,if there is not a spark i do not expect to use someone just for sex ! I like great dining and meeting new people ,you can learn a lot from the opposite sex ,if both people are honest and open.
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RHP User
11 years ago
"Do a lot of women here expect the guy to pay for the meal on the first date". I do not expect the man to pay, however, it certainly will bring you a lot of browny points. My father drummed that into me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeting a guy at a party, we chatted, laughed and got on quite well. We chatted and text messaged for a week and he asked me to dinner. I get to the restaurant, he gives me a kiss on the cheek, we sit down and then he looks directly into my eyes and says to me "I've been masturbating all day, but don't worry, because I should be fine to go again after some food and wine". Yep, I left, there and then. That approach doesn't work boys.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd rather remember my AWESOME first meets.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for all your comments and suggestions. Looks like I hijacked Sensory's post for a bit. I used to pay for the meals as I was raised that the guy pays on a date. However, a lot of my friends say I shouldn't on the first date. However, most of my dates don't mind paying for their own meal, I usually shout dessert though. Based on your comments, I think a cafe would be the better first meet venue rather than a restaurant. I am a foodie and love trying out new restaurants so, I guess it is more an excuse for me to go to the restaurant. As for that drunk girl on the date. She is quite intelligent but seems to pick the wrong guys. I am not saying I am the right one, as we decided it wouldn't work anyway but she she would be a bad HR person. She has a criteria for guys and picks the opposite to have relationship with. I guess the old saying is true, love like justice is blind.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'grand_poobah'"Do a lot of women here expect the guy to pay for the meal on the first date". I do not expect the man to pay, however, it certainly will bring you a lot of browny points. My father drummed that into me. I will always offer to pay half, but I do appreciate it if a man pays the first time. My dad drummed that into me as well. No bad dates recently. One that stands out was a meet via a vanilla site, many years ago. As soon as he walked into the bar in Bondi, I knew he was not 6ft tall, nor the person in his profile pic. I asked him if it was really him, and he was rather insulted, telling me I was no prize and looked too Jewish anyway. (Me? Jewish?). My non-smoking date then lit up a cigarette (told you it was a while ago), which prompted me to say I didn't think it was happening. He got up and left, but a minute later he walked back into the place, and sat with some young blondes at the table right next to me, constantly checking to see if was watching. I took a looong time to finish my drink, while texting my friend all about my date.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My parents met on a blind date... Dad got really drunk was totally obnoxious and peed on the wall outside the restaurant. Thank god she gave him a second chance... They are still married today- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Diamondsnpearls' My parents met on a blind date... Dad got really drunk was totally obnoxious and peed on the wall outside the restaurant. Thank god she gave him a second chance... They are still married todayTrue Love ....or maybe love at first sight. Foxy, the problem with human brains is bad experiences really stand out as it has a stronger emotional reaction. The good stuff tends to be remembered but perhaps exaggerated to be better than it really was, especially the longer it was. The same with bad experiences, it becomes worse as time goes by.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's good to be able to look back and have a laugh at some of the first date disasters. Love it. Keep em coming SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
This was a first date many years ago from a guy I met on another web site. We'd had coffee and been talking, which seemed to be going well when we decided to continue on to dinner. Somewhere over dessert he looked at me intently and said... "I think you're really beautiful and what I would really like to do is date you, get you pregnant, we'd have a little girl and then I'd sue you for full custody. I'd love to take her to ballet lessons". It was all I could do not to run out of there at full speed.
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RHP User
11 years ago
on ABC1. Thank goodness I've not been in those kind of situations before.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'zu7bcv'on ABC1. Thank goodness I've not been in those kind of situations before. Haven't seen it but might have to take a look. There must be a few laughs in that lot!. Cheers SF
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RHP User
11 years ago
Have only had 2 shockers thank god, first shocker got so drunk on our first meet I had to drive him home after waiting around in a car park while he went to a party and ended up almost sleeping in my car, was nearly daylight but the time I found somewhere to crash (had driven over an hour to meet him) waste of time! My second shocker said he was very dominant and I had arranged to crash at his after getting excited about our flirting lead up, found out that he was more submissive than me had the worst sex ever and ending up still staying coz I felt bad :/- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have to admit I am guilty of this - I don't really watch much TV normally, and as a result I have a *really* hard time looking away from a screen with all its bright flashy colours and moving pictures - it totally fucking mesmerises me. I typically have to position myself so I cannot see a screen, otherwise my eyes just drift off of their own accord. It's quite embarrassing, actually.Beyond my own faux pas, I really have to say I've been very fortunate in all my first meets - through this site or otherwise, no complaints at all, even when it hasnt worked out, everyone I've met has been pretty awesome.Some of the things guys think they can get away with, in terms of behaviour just blows my fucking mind.
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