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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I think that is fair enough. I would find that really rude as well. Mind you he may have been saying that to give himself an excuse to go early if he decided he wasn't attracted to you.

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  Dryphuz

  9 years ago

  I think that's a perfectly reasonable expectation. I would have let the guy know why too. Lots of posts here on the forums about contacts that have simply disappeared or changed their tune with no explanation. Considering how all those on the receiving end of the vanishers felt, you may want to consider laying it out for him, lest he learn nothing from the experience.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Sammty.....good call there...your expectations are fine. The best meets I have had with couples are where we have met at a bar or have had a couple of drinks and a chat at their home before heading in to something more devilish. The flirting and teasing before hand is half the fun and leads to a hotter experience all round in my opinion. Time taken to get to know each other a little, build some form of lustful attraction is well spent I reckon. Sharing your lady is a special thing and if you are getting a less than par vibe from a prospective playmate then you did the right thing in calling it off.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  You're entitled to be comfortable with the arrangement, if either of you have doubts, you should postpone! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  madotara69

  9 years ago

  We talk on the phone Tara is happy to chat and flirt a bit, messaging though she does not enjoy so much and I end up organising things with a fellow, always suggest that Tara may want to keep him there for the weekend, don't think a lot of fellows contemplate just how much sex with so many combinations in the mix satisfies a sexually liberated woman in such a short amount of time. Mado Tara xx

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I think his message was quite pleasant. I think it was rude, though only because you planned this date with him two weeks ago and he waited until the day to say he couldn't stay long. I agree with Meeka, he may have created a back-up plan (for whatever reason), and also you don't mention in detail what exactly was said in your messages. Was your suggestion to meet an ambiguous "Let's have a drink and who knows?", or a clear "If we get on we'll move to the bedroom" one? I'm just wondering if this man's thought process was actually of the "Wham bam" kind, because from what you've written so far I'm not totally convinced he was expecting the same thing you were. p.s. I gotta ask: how are you able to message back and forth with a guy for a whole month without meeting?

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  madotara69

  9 years ago

  Bahahaha, so that's what you do ? Nup, if a bloke said he probably can't stay long, we would pass too. We are not free hookers

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I'm curious why, as Meander said, how you managed to message back and forth and not meet. Wouldn't it be more prudent to arrange to meet first without planning to move onto more? Maybe he did have a back up plan, maybe he was just an idiot. Just think of it as a lucky escape. And next time try meet first.

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  OzRednecks

  9 years ago

  Hey Sammty, my opinion is that you did the right thing in giving this guy a miss. I assume that during the messaging over the month that you and your wife expressed your plans for the night together (ie, meet, chat, get comfy and then play etc). Good on you for being strong and stopping it after his request that he not hang around as he is catching up with mates. I mean, What the? Who would pass up the opportunity you are offering to go hang with your mates (prob so he can brag...) You show great respect for your lady and that is admired. His loss! I don't think your expectations are high, you have the right to set them as high as you want anyway, it's your wife. Again, I do assume you mentioned this is your messaging. Hope you find the right playmate for your wife next time :)

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  Mr_MrsAraps

  9 years ago

  For me it pretty rude that he only wants to spend the minimum amount of time with you for him to get his rocks off before going off to his plan A for the night. Kick to the curb and plenty of other guys out there who will make the night and everyone's pleasure their number 1 priority. Cheers, W - Posted from rhpmobile

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  AnnieWhichway

  9 years ago

  Lets not inconvenience the poor guy. He has a big night planned with his mates. Next week he will post a thread " oh woe is me, i cant get a fuck on here". FFS. Have to hold myself back here, Auntie could easily ranble on about these guys.......losers....

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Over the mnth we had discussed what was expected from both parties , we have other commitments in out lives ( kids jobs etc) so we have to work around them as did the guy, there is always two sides and I do thank you ppl for the comments ..... I'm of the opinion my missus is pretty dam hot. But maybe he doesn't Nd that's fine .... all in all i took his comment as he thought he'd get a quick fuck then he'd be outta there to do whateva ....... Maybe I was wrong maybe I wasn't ....... I'll never know Nd he'll never get the chance Cheers Nd thanks again - Posted from rhpmobile

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