any training for anal sex?????

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Anal sex is all about relaxation, wether you do it doggy style, or lying side on, or the passive sitting saddled on top of the male so their face on, or the passive having their legs over the males shoulder so their face on...either partner can cause pain to the other not just the penertrator its a case of gentle flowing movements even a forcefull thrust backwards can hurt the male..... the face to face position is more intimate, allowing for eye contact ,and face touching and talking, and its nice to be able to tell the man in action, how hot he is and what a masculine man he is and thanks for wearing a comdom. cheers astralwalker

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  It all has to do with being relaxed. You need to make sure the woman is really enjoying herself before you broach the 'back door'. I've heard it's best in the doggy position as it automatically opens the passageway a little bit more than any other position. Use HEAPS of lube and start with using a finger. Use a finger for a while, not forgetting to keep her stimulated elsewhere as well. Then insert 2 fingers. Doing this while you're going down on her would be best... When it comes to penetration time, again, lube up and enter only slightly. Let the tip rest in there only slightly and then pull it back out. Enter again but only slightly. Alternate this with fingers and eventually she'll start to 'loosen up'. It's all a matter of taking your time, being patient and always entering and moving slowly. If you can stick with that for a while, eventually she will become relaxed and you will be able to move deeper and faster.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  thanks for info,, I tried with fingers ,one then two and it was ok but as soon i tried to penetrate it was painfull not only that i started to loose my hard on...lol I duuno why,, and we did use heaps of lube.... But i guess the angle needs to be right???

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  I find it best if it just happens, rather than "let's have anal sex now" So just play around with each other, then gently finger her anus and still remember to stimulate her elsewhere, and when she is aroused and really relaxed and really lubed up, then gently enter her slowly, very slowly just a little way, and then when she is used to that, then slowly keep going just a little way more, etc etc. Well it works for me anyway, but if anyone says"lets do anal or whatever, then i automatically tense up and not much happens

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  In my experience with guys and girls I found anal beads useful. They allow the receiver to become comfortable with the sensation . It would be good for you to also give them a try so you can understand what she is feeling.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  are these available in any sex shop............

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  HotOzCouple_cc

  17 years ago

  The anus, as opposed to the vagina, has two circular muscles that need to be breached to gain access. The vagina has only one, making it easier to stimulate and relax, therefore much easier to gain entry to. As said above, you both need to be relaxed. Make her come through foreplay and use LOTS of lube (natural - vaginal - or from a bottle). Go with a silicon based lube, as water based dries up and needs constant reapplication. We've been using Ansell Lifestyles LIQUID, and rate it. It's in a clear bottle and has to be pumped out ala handwash. It's not super slippery, but has very good lubrication qualities. Doesn't even feel like there's lube there. To get the guy in initially, different ways work better for different people. The rest and pause works for some, fingers first and gradually stretching works for others. We use a combination of all. Vaginal stimulation, followed by rubbing (NOT POKING!) of the anus, graduating it fingering, all done incognito with continuing vaginal stimulation, for total relaxation. Also try letting her be on top, for two reasons. Firstly, she's in control, she might find it easier to relax doing things at her own pace. Secondly, when she's bent over, be it doggy style or on her back with her legs up, the muscles from her back right to her calves are stretching, including the pelvic area. As far as the vagina and anus are concerned, they're also being stretched, making it feel tighter, but also never allowing the muscles to fully relax. Slow and steady, and don't be put off if it doesn't work first time. It may take a few successful attempts for her to feel comfortable enough to fully enjoy it.

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  Yes they are in most sex shops. As hot oz couple said, use plenty of lube and go slow. Good luck

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  RHP User

  17 years ago

  hi guys, can I say a big thank you to all to responded to my post.I finally 'cracked' it a couple of days ago..... It wasnt the best but i believe we are on our way.... A few things i picked up were..... DONT PLAN FOR IT LET IT HAPPEN at least for the first time woman needs to be aroused big time plenty of lube relaxed mood get the angle right take it slow take it easy patient Thank you once again

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