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approaching a guy in real life
November 21 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
'Hi! I was going past and couldn't help but notice you and had to come and say hi. Do you want to have a drink some time?'Works every time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As you're walking towards him have a piece of paper with your name/number on it. Stop him, by saying (something along these lines) excuse me, I know nothing about you besides what I can see when I pass you here everyday, I'd like to change that, slip him your number and Walk off, give him a quick glance back so he sees you looking at him then go about your business. I'm no expert but something like that would get my interest
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe that will start the ball rolling, if he is interested he will respond accordingly and try to keep the conversation going.
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RHP User
12 years ago
to my housemate,he was on a bus going to work,she handed him her name and number on a piece of paper.They dated for a short while but it did work,at least initially.Good luck,let us know what happens and you go girlx R
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TomatoSauce33
12 years ago
Guy starts to politely give directions...You interrupt - Sorry I lied, I just came up to you because I thought you were cute/hot/insert word here and I had to meet you.(By saying you find him attractive this makes your intentions clear, and avoids you being put in the friend zone later on)Gauge his response, most people will be pleasantly surprised and flattered and be polite and intrigued enough to give you a few minutes to have a conversation, where you exchange names and small talk. If it's going well and there's a connection, the conversation should just be flowing and at some stage point out your attracted to him again and say you'd like to meet up for a drink/coffee/fuck later on and exchange numbers.It's Low risk High reward, If he is taken, or not interested, you take a little embarrassment and you move on and forget about him. If however you do click after the approach, then great, you may have found yourself a soul mate.If you never approach him, then you'll die never knowing and only pondering on what if..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Asking for a fuck without a hi is out...but seeing you've done the pleasantries, then you're in like Flynn!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Maybe it's time to visit the dentist
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' YOU stop walking, face him directly, hold eye contact, and say it. If he fails to engage your open and friendly gesture...... he doesnt want to. Do you see him in the same spot each time ? Maybe leave a little earlier and ask him if he is in a hurry and then say... Quoting 'Torturedcliche'"excuse me, I know nothing about you besides what I can see when I pass you here everyday, I'd like to change that" I know if a gorgeous lady said "Hi" to me every morning when she walked past then I would be taking the hint the 2nd time and making the effort to get there early next day to ask her if she had the time for a coffee and chat one morning. ET xox
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like the phone number on a piece of paper,its a HUGE ego boost to him if he's taken and if not you might just find yourself talking more and more...Good luck, tell us how you go!
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RHP User
12 years ago
tomorrow being Friday (YAYYY!!!)after you say 'Hi' you could perhaps add something along the lines of "It's going to be a gorgeous weekend, got any plans?" if he mentions anything about a gf/wife in those plans - you're probably not in, but you never know, you could end up with a 'two for one deal' if that's your thing, Great!!!If he says he's doing nothing you could invite him to have a drink somewhere. Follow your intuition, if he has a genuine smile and 'that' tone of voice and twinkling eyes when he says 'hi' each day you should be able to read the body language to guage his interest, I've not failed yet in knowing there was an attraction... although there was that gorgeous guy who ended up being gay and was actually interested in my husband. Good luck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
While working we pass each other 2, 3 times but don't actually have a chance to stop and chat. We also both finish at different times so I can't chat to him after work either. And unfortunately we don't have breaks at work. Only do a few hours. so I see him walking towards me, say hi as he passes and we both smile, blush slightly lol and keep going. So the here's my number on paper seems like the best option?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I wouldn't take his lack of initiative as a lack of interest. He could just be like me and be a bit shy. I can't remember the last time I approached a girl myself. Think there is enough men who harass women in this world In my opinion, a woman who's confident and knows exactly what she wants is the biggest turn on ever.Good luck Miss!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Club HIM over the head, drag him back to your cave, and tie him up and gratify yourself that way. Or...what the others have said :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm following this thread with interest, to see if I can learn some things that will boost my confidence. Rejection is always the fear, of course. The stumbling blocks for me are comments like "if a gorgeous woman said hi to me every morning". What if I'm not gorgeous? What if I have to see him again in the same spot every day? I've run a little experiment for a while now - checking how long men look when they're walking by and glance at me. Not more than the simple glance of strangers it seems. Is that because I'm very ordinary or because I'm shy and don't seem receptive, or a combination of both? I honestly don't think I could ever pass my number to a man out of the blue. I do tend to think that if a man's interested he'll act - perhaps way too big an assumption on my part. I'm not actually looking for answers from the forums, I just wanted to share some of the challenges I'm sure many of us face. I am keen to build my confidence so I'm thankful for this thread :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Rejection is not a reflection on you, it's a statement they make about themselves.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The statement they are making is "I'm just not that into you". and that's fine. We are all attracted to who we are attracted to, sometimes it's a chemistry thing, sometimes it's more a physical thing. Then there are those we are just not attracted to, don't ever take it as rejection, it's just human nature... and it is absolutely not a reflection on you, just the way they feel. My husband was checking you out some weeks ago Braveheart so don't go thinking that you don't appeal to anyone. TRUE!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
but,Hi, how are you? is even better. as a guy I think that subtly works, but sometimes a sledge hammer is required. (sometimes wee not that bright)to Brave_hearti think its more that people don't actually look at people when wondering around these days. I've found that when people do look up and that you smile it generally takes them by surprise. I see that you are based in Sydney and i found something interesting when i was last there. At crossings they write on the ground " look left" i didn't realise simply because I don't tend to look at the ground very often whilst wondering the streets. so my thoughts are, its just peoples conditioning.cheersa
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not the guy I was after but while driving to meet someone I copped a whistle and few yells from young blokes in the car next to me. Subsequently pulled up at the lights, said hey.one introduced his mate as shy. I handed him my number. No txt/call as yet. Lol just a trial run... Lol.will give it a try on the one I like tomorrow if he's working... And if it doesn't work I will still see him everyday.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi kme123 I was out with friends clubbing recently. A guy tried to talk to me several times but we couldn't converse due to noise and constant interruptions. As we were leaving he approached my gf and asked her to pass on his business card to me. I loved that he was persistent and confident enough to take that initiative. A few days later I called him and we caught up. I thought it was a great way to meet. I think your situation, although work related, is similar. So give the paper and number idea a go. What do you have to lose and you may be pleasantly surprised . I know I was! Hugs SFxx
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uneventful
12 years ago
My daughter and I had business cards handed to us by some random guys down at Darling Harbour one night recently.I give top marks to these guys for their resourcefulness and imagination.. It incorporated the words to a song on the cards it went like this .. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^* Hey, I just met you, and this is crazy, but here’s my number, so call me maybe.. ^*^*^*^*^*^* Don't think, just do it!! 69 Awesome avenue, KME123 Awesomeville 4215 04********** ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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RHP User
12 years ago
stop walking and say Hello ... odds are he will take it from there if your shy Job done or walk up stand in front of him put your palm on his chest take your gum from your mouth open his palm drop the gum... unzip his trousers drop to your knees and start sucking cock when he is close stand up zip up and say call me slip him your number and walk away I bet he phones you inside 10 mins
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RHP User
12 years ago
By saying that "they're just not that into you," you infer your self as being no good. So try this angle. When somebody says "no sorry, you're not my type" it says something closer to "I'm sorry, but I can't love you/fuck you/whatever, the way I/you deserve to be." And to me, that's just honesty, and how could honesty ever be a bad thing?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was on my way to an interview... All suited up at the Petrol Station filling up. A guy pulled into the station in the spot next to me.. Wound down his window and said .. Hi, I drove past and saw you and had to come back and say Hi and ask if you were single. I was totally flattered and blushing and embarrassed and smiling all in one. I was in a hurry, agreed to give him my phone number and said call me later I am in a big hurry. Now this guy ended up being not really my type, but I have to say ..... boy did he make my day.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When were working just stop and talk is not an option, not even for 30 seconds. Is the industry were in. that's what makes it challenging. I'm gunna give him my number if I see him tomorrow. Now what to write on it, If ya single and keen to catch up for a drink here's my number? Not single bring ya missus to? Lol would that be to forward, a turn on/off? Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a pretty direct woman. I would make time to go and talk to him, if you can't make the time, send him an email - find a reason is always a good approach. It's all about getting someone to notice you, even if it's just subtle... Flirt, stare, drop something as you walk past. GET Noticed, once you have his attention, you wait for him to come to you. Good Luck.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ask him "Would you like to go for a drink,i will buy you drinks till i look good" Or "would you like to go and grab a coffee,my shout, i am rich, as im single"People who laugh at them self while asking a question is a good ice breakerI believe it shows confidence and humour all in one.If he says "no" don't look at it,as rejection ,look at it as life has another adventure for you planed.@ Brave_heart errrrr do you know that men are very visual creatures?Dont think you have anything to worry about you look great,If anything most guys would not approach you as they would think"there is no way this lady is single,why waste my time"Life is funny like that
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
Quoting 'brave__heart'What if I'm not gorgeous? What if I have to see him again in the same spot every day? I've run a little experiment for a while now - checking how long men look when they're walking by and glance at me. Not more than the simple glance of strangers it seems. Is that because I'm very ordinary or because I'm shy and don't seem receptive, or a combination of both? I honestly don't think I could ever pass my number to a man out of the blue. I do tend to think that if a man's interested he'll act - perhaps way too big an assumption on my part. 1. Being seen as gorgeous is totally in the eyes of the beholder. 2. If you are gorgeous then depending on how you carry yourself, your confidence in your walk, men will often think you must already have a drop-dead handsome bf. 3. A lot of men don't act first because they too do not like rejection. 4. Going by your pics you are definitely not ordinary. ET xox
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jensta
12 years ago
Look at him & then with a Cheeky Smile "Be nice to say more than Hi .... how about Breakfast tomorrow Morning"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well I finally got 2 seconds as he was walking past to run out and give him my number. All I said was call me. Lol had that damn song stuck in my head ever since.. You know the 'here's my number so call me couldn't Lets hope he calls
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RHP User
12 years ago
LOL....nice one. Good luck! SFxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'kme123' Well I finally got 2 seconds as he was walking past to run out and give him my number. All I said was call me. Lol had that damn song stuck in my head ever since.. You know the 'here's my number so call me couldn't Lets hope he calls AWESOME work!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Haha....looks like i caught on to this late...But now i'm hooked.All tense waiting to know what happened in the next instalment of this.And from a guy who would love love love for women to approach him ( and it bloody never happens) ....Good on you!I think slipping him your number was awesome.....and i wish more women did that.Don't keep us in suspense for too long now!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sweet but confident is sexy. Unless he is absolutely gorgeous,use this 1 as a practice. What looks gorgeous shortly after a breakup,can look shocking in a few months. Make sure only the best will do huni. Hey you may be lucky and he may be the 1 though!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I can totally relate to your dilemma OP. Earlier this year I dipped my toes back into the dating pond after 20 years being in a committed relationship. Here's how i tackled it. I'd noticed a guy checking me out at the traffic lights....gave him a smile and a wave. We played a little cat and mouse over the next few kilometres, each time we pulled into the next set of lights i'd try and get in front of him or pull alongside and smile and wave. This went on for some distance. When he finally pulled into a car park i followed, jumped out of my car, walked over and gave him my number and said "call me" 30 minutes later he called and i asked him what took so long, he laughed and said he had to call his mate first to tell him what happened. We went on a date after a few days of chatting on the phone... Too bad, we weren't suited, but hey at least now i know i can do approach a man with confidence. I will also add, i would never have done this in my 20's!
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RHP User
12 years ago
and then introduce your self! simple and easy haha!
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