M47
are woman so busy or just rude.
February 10 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
because I'm on an iPad. You might also have more success if you send a well written introductory message first and develop a rapport that way. Or try the chat rooms. Welcome to RHP world. Hope you have fun :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I first joined this site OP,I accepted a chat request,only to be confronted by a very large man...his body not his penis...wanking.While I am not very prudish I was more than a little shocked,it is always nice to be asked first afterall.Now I am wary of someone asking to chat before a message is sent,so I just don't accept them. Other than that,all I can say is,there are more men than women here,check and see if your messages are even being read,if they are then you obviously need to work harder. Your profile pic is well,not enticing,it is boring ...your written profile states that you are lost for words,find some ,FAST.There is not a jolly thing in your profile that screams,PICK ME ,PICK ME. Change it,make you enticing,make them want to pick you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
thankyou freya for being strait up
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RHP User
12 years ago
Who would jump straight into a chat with someone, at least not without a few messages back and forth first. it's that first message sent that determines whether they want to speak to you further along with your profile. Just clicking on chat now would put most of them off from the word go.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I try to do the right thing and reply as much as possible, but sometimes it is a mood and time thing i must admit....its easier to reply to a flirt with a general reply.maybe just message at first, rather than start a chat straight away, personally i prefer that....Good Luck:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
As Freya said, the first thing you need to work on is your profile. Men outnumber women on here by a significant amount, and hence women get many flirts, messages and chat requests. There is simply not enough hours in the day for a woman to devote significant amounts of time to communicating with everyone who contacts her, so for you to stand out among the masses you need an eyecatching profile to at least spark that initial interest. I know that some people aren't as good with the written word as others, and no it isn't really fair that you will be judged to such an extent on your profile rather than you as a person, but that's just how it is here due to the numbers game. Saying in your profile that you are "lost for words" is not going to spark interest from women, and neither is that profile pic. I'm not saying you need to have the ripped abs and all that, but try something a bit more creative that lets your personality come through. As it is your profile looks like the hundreds of others we see all the time, and it does not inspire a woman to think, "hmm he sounds interesting I'd like to know more." Also, perhaps instead of relying on chat so much you could try sending messages instead. I for one never use chat, I don't often have the time for it and I much prefer receiving a message so I have some time to look at the guy's profile and decide if I want further contact. Don't take any of this advice the wrong way, it's not mean to be personal, it's just that you have to learn how to play the game on here (it is a game) and what to do to increase the odds in your favour, particularly if you're a single male.Good luck!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' Other than that,all I can say is,there are more men than women here,check and see if your messages are even being read,if they are then you obviously need to work harder. Your profile pic is well,not enticing,it is boring ...your written profile states that you are lost for words,find some ,FAST.There is not a jolly thing in your profile that screams,PICK ME ,PICK ME. Change it,make you enticing,make them want to pick you. I rarely go online, but if I do and someone wants to chat to me that has never messaged me previously and I've no rapport with them, forget it!!To me it is no different than someone calling me without warning and intruding on my time.Work on your profile and pic. The wreath of flowers behind you stands out more than you do in that photo...Profile profile profile...Message message message...
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RHP User
12 years ago
How can a man be lost for words?? Sorry but OP you want a woman's attention and want to chat with them and your profile reads "I am lost for words" Am I missing something??? Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
How can a man be lost for words?? Sorry but OP you want a woman's attention and want to chat with them and your profile reads "I am lost for words" Am I missing something??? Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
to busy and cant see the point of it. dont do the chat rooms either, tried it and was bored shitless in five minutes more into offline stuff
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi jfoldbar Looking for ticks not crosses. You say you are single and clearly your pic is in a very girly bedroom...sorry I have been here quite a while and notice things. As to coming back later and lost for words, well you need to step up. Biggest turn off for us women is a guy being lost for words. Your pic is quite a way away although I do congratulate you on having your clothes on!! big tick. And selecting age group 18 to 99 is a big turn off for me. Good luck and hope you find what you are looking for. As to the chat requests, I often miss them, I am at my computer although am busy with writing my book so unfortunately I do miss them. xx bs
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well alot of women get harassed here,by guys so i would assume you would try to get their attention by jumping on a poggo stick in a pink tutu while yelling "look at moi,look at moi" OP i think most women here have put up their guard ,as bad experiences with men seem to be the norm.Try getting to know someone before asking to private chat.Just go into a chat room and have a laugh.Some people are here for sex ,others to have a laugh.Just be yourself and enjoy as best you can.I just let women make contact with me,if they want to,if not i watch youtube...I think thats youtube...Every time a woman chats to me it because i'm in trouble....haha
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RHP User
12 years ago
...I've actually started to look for a play mate rather than just hang out here. So I've been meeting people.On three occasions women I'd met and started build report with suddenly did not want to answer the phone any more. In every case the first excuse given was that they were too busy. Very long texts that would have taken longer to type than a quick "Hey can we chat latter, I'm tied up at the moment" phone call. Or a reply txt saying "Sorry i missed your call, can you call later"? Nope just silence..So jfoldbar, I think you may be onto something when you suggest are they too busy.I've actually been back re-read the stream of messages I've now got on my phone. It's amazing how similar they all are even though they come from different woman. I may have missed something, but I just don't understand the reasons given. They just don't make sense to me?I think people may just change their mind and don't know how to say so? Or they think we're a bunch of manipulating bastards with ulterior motives, which they are not going to say either.txt's are great for confirming times, addresses and casual hellos. I'm now begining to understand they are also a way to deal with something awkward without having to confront it.It's a little frustrating, but we move on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I notice that you say "if required' to safe sex. This is a concern when people decide who they want to chat/meet. BTW, you don't look like a hideous beast. You look nice. I am sure numbers have something to do with it too.. so many more guys than us gals.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I dunno...I dont bother with perving random profiles and send winks/msg's anymore.. I find its so much easier to go to chatrooms, meet and befriend other chatters.. and get invited to their parties.10 years later, i have gain COUNTLESS of wonderful friends. Maybe you should try that way? *shrugs*
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RHP User
12 years ago
... on truckin op, you'll get there eventually :-) And take note of the advice that has already been given. It's all in the self promotion and messaging. Good luck. KK xx
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SacralChakra
12 years ago
I know when I've been on my iPhone to check messages, the site leaves me logged in for hours afterwards even though I'm not online. And iPhone users can't do chat even if they wanted to. I often see chat requests but can't do anything about them...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' ...I've actually started to look for a play mate rather than just hang out here. So I've been meeting people.On three occasions women I'd met and started build report with suddenly did not want to answer the phone any more. In every case the first excuse given was that they were too busy. Very long texts that would have taken longer to type than a quick "Hey can we chat latter, I'm tied up at the moment" phone call. Or a reply txt saying "Sorry i missed your call, can you call later"? Nope just silence..So jfoldbar, I think you may be onto something when you suggest are they too busy.I've actually been back re-read the stream of messages I've now got on my phone. It's amazing how similar they all are even though they come from different woman. I may have missed something, but I just don't understand the reasons given. They just don't make sense to me?I think people may just change their mind and don't know how to say so? Or they think we're a bunch of manipulating bastards with ulterior motives, which they are not going to say either.txt's are great for confirming times, addresses and casual hellos. I'm now begining to understand they are also a way to deal with something awkward without having to confront it.It's a little frustrating, but we move on. You seem to be stuck on the issue of the text taking longer to type than making the actual phone call...I had someone call me the next day after going out with him late one evening and me saying at least 3 times I wanted to call it a night, he insisted on coming in, he said it was just for a cuddle... (WTF?)Then text me that evening at 10:00pm asking me if I wanted to chat on the phone.I texted back and replied no I didn't want to chat on the phone. I was on RHP checking my messages and just having "me time" before I went to bed.Then a few days later, another text wanting to go out for dinner during the week, despite me making it clear that I wouldn't be free for the next week and a bit due to moving etc.So I texted him and said I didn't see this going any further etc.Then a few days later, he calls me at 7:30 am in the morning, the day I am moving. Of course I didn't answer the phone as I was flat out.Then a text message asking me if I'd left my sunnies in his car.I texted back 15 minutes later saying no they're not mine.He then calls me straight away!I ignored the call because I was in and out of the house.Then another text message saying how I could have called him on the Sunday to tell him in person how I felt instead of texting... and it was wrong to just text it.A few text messages back and forth and then a final one from him saying the texting was doing his head in...Um, is it just me, or am I missing something here?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' Your profile pic is well,not enticing,it is boring ...your written profile states that you are lost for words,find some ,FAST.There is not a jolly thing in your profile that screams,PICK ME ,PICK ME. Change it,make you enticing,make them want to pick you. I fully agree with Freya here. Fix up your profile. If I come across profiles like those, I think they are just pic collectors or fake profiles. You say you've been here a couple of weeks, surely you know what you're looking for and why anyone should pick you. As for the pic, if you want your face in it, try taking one that is closer to a head shot and smiling. There's too much background in the current pic and not enough you.I don't do chat, whenever I have accepted a chat request, it was a guy who just wanted to cyber or to have someone watch them whilst they wanked so I would pretend to be Mr Otori... hehehe. I don't even accept chat requests nowadays, especially if they haven't bothered to send us a message to introduce themselves first and see if we are interested in them.
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Hanna_ybbn
12 years ago
A lot of people also tend to forget that Red Hot Pie is predominately a 'sex' site and not a 'traditional' dating site as such. Too many people join RHP and think they are here to find the love if their life here. Sure, happens sometimes but its the exception,not the rule! Eaither get out in the real world and meet people or recognise this platform for what it is! Cheers Han xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Chatroulette!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I often get chat requests when I'm on my phone or iPad, a nd chat doesn't work on those. By the timeI reply the other person is gone. Or, I sneak on to RHP at wor just to check for messages, and BAM, someone instantly requests chat- it's midday- I'm at work, aren't most people? So it's an I'm busy, sorry! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi bud.If you want to chat about any of this stuff just message us and I'll chat with you. I would rather do it privately than on a public forum though.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'.......SIGH....... DG Not another one DG!!! The competition just keeps ramping up doesn't it?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ooohhhh I am not busy at all..... . I am just rude
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'll grab the mop, we don't seem to have an endless supply of tissues here...
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Twisted_Mister
12 years ago
There are quintillions of male profiles on this site, and like it or not the :( fact is that the girls put profiles up and wait for their inboxes to fill up, but the guys generally spend all their time messaging, hoping for a bite. You just have to play the percentages, I guess - work on your profile wording (don't over analyse it though, it should reflect who you are), think about your pic (redoing mine as well, it occurred to me that quality ladies may not be dazzled by some gonzo with fruit in his mouth!) and... Just be patient. It may take some time to get messages, let alone ones that strike your fancy. It's just the way the world turns, my friend - but it's all about persistence (persistence, not stalking) and character.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Twisted_Mister' There are quintillions of male profiles on this site, and like it or not the :( fact is that the girls put profiles up and wait for their inboxes to fill up, but the guys generally spend all their time messaging, hoping for a bite. You just have to play the percentages, I guess - work on your profile wording (don't over analyse it though, it should reflect who you are), think about your pic (redoing mine as well, it occurred to me that quality ladies may not be dazzled by some gonzo with fruit in his mouth!) and... Just be patient. It may take some time to get messages, let alone ones that strike your fancy. It's just the way the world turns, my friend - but it's all about persistence (persistence, not stalking) and character.
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Vintagetatu
12 years ago
Quoting 'Messolonghi' Chatroulette! Chatroulette!! now that is a very interesting site to have a giggle on... OP, try it if you're feeling chit chatty...
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RHP User
12 years ago
~laughs~ Quoting 'Handmaiden' Ooohhhh I am not busy at all..... . I am just rude
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