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be careful of what you wish for

February 11 2019

We are a couple and my wife knows we have a profile here and she knows that our pictures are up here. Just about to verify our profile. i spoke to her and said that i was very keen to visit a swingers club and that i would not mind watching her with another guy and her response was be careful of what you wish for. can someone please tell how to interpret this?

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  • Connection1981

    Connection1981

    6 years ago

    That she is about to embark on a sexual journey and she is just discovering new inside desires and urges to explore herself. To find what she does and doesn’t like. And it’s new to her and she will need just as much a breathing air. And you need to either support her journey and allow her freedom and her own sexual identity or lose her! Seen it happen a million times. And for some couples who has a woman about to embark on such a journey, they live the most wonderful lives full of strengthened love... but for many others, it’s the next guy that gets those benefits and the “ex husband” misses all the fun. The fact you’re already concerned tells me your relationship might not be as rock solid as it should be to survive this season in your partners life. And you may have unleashed a force too powerful to contain within your relationship. Maybe you should train your mind to enjoy the cuckold fetish... could be your saving grace

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    I would take it as that if you wish for the site of her with another man, there is no way of taking it back once you have seen it... With it being a new experience there is no guarantee you will enjoy it as much as you imagine :)

  • Gr8distraction

    Gr8distraction

    6 years ago

    That she knows "we" have a profile here and that our (her) pictures are up.I'd say you're ready to roll

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    ....that she would have every intention of banging his little white sox off and wouldn't want you do become unnerved by her enthusiasm. Sometimes the thought of grass being greener in another paddock is far more delightful than paying the fertilizer bills that make it happen. At least she was keeping it real and communicating this to you. Best........ ʗɱ

  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    6 years ago

    Haha..... run for the hills dude. Sounds like she knows she's going to relish having other men...... you prepared for just how much?? I echo her warning because you can't put the genie back in the bottle.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    It sounds like she is very receptive to the idea of sex with another man and in an environment where others can watch. Being uninhibited sexually is very empowering and she may well be looking forward to letting her hair down and unleashing her sex goddess. Seeing your partner being sexual with another person can be confronting especially if you wander down the path of why doesn’t he/she do that to/for me? It’s about sexual exploration with others but knowing that sex with other people and the intimacy you have together are two different things and that sex with other people compliments what you have and doesn’t replace it. You could be in for quite a treat seeing her with someone else... it’s incredibly fun to let the hair down and the juices flow..

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    6 years ago

    It is not the fact of going to a club and watching your wife (enjoying herself), it is the consequences when you get home afterwards. Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Why would you even want to know what we think she meant? She could simply be referring to the fact that many people fantasise about stuff that in reality they wouldn’t be comfortable with at all. Maybe she’s more worried about you hating the experience than she is about her loving it...the best way to find out would obviously be to ask HER, not seek speculation and assumptions from strangers who know nothing of her wants, desires or intentions.

  • OkeyDoke45

    OkeyDoke45

    6 years ago

    She is of the opinion that she would love every minute of it, you would probably love it a good deal less.

  • Rlee552

    Rlee552

    6 years ago

    We cannot interpret a comment made in a conversation we were not a party to. We have not seen context, are not a party to the entire history between you, do not know her and her character, do not know the tone, did not see body language etc So, ask her. What did you mean when you said this. We can make some educated guesses as to why you may be asking this question of us.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    I think you should ask her. She's the one that said it.

  • ReyandJean

    ReyandJean

    6 years ago

    Ask her, for sure. Might be an idea to agree some ground rules about playing separately, kissing, mutual attraction, codewords for stop, etc. before you both start playing. You could both read The Ethical Slut or one of the other books on the lifestyle to help frame expectations and make sure your relationship is ready for the inevitable changes.

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    6 years ago

    too many maybes ,so ask her ,but please report back ,so we all find out ,my maybe is she has been dreamin of big dicks and will go to town on them like you have never seen before and she is worried you won’t handle it as well as you think 🤔 mr b

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Wouldn't have a clue mate but it doesn't sound good.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    OMG typical

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Umm... I know this is radical, but um, ask her. Why are you asking us? 😊

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Too true, ask her and talk about it rather than others thoughts as everyone is different, each to theirs.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    You can't unopen a marriage.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Exact same response as I heard from the wife. Not long after had a hotel booked, arranged two dates one after another, she took first one up, had him ravage her for almost an hour non-stop, sent the guy away, showered, got dressed, met the second one at a nearby restaurant, repeated the first scenario, then staring at me with a dirty smirk on her face, still in bed, legs wide open, she went “You coming or what?” I was the third one that day, in a row. She never done anything like this before, I didn’t think she’d be standing after the first one, who turned her over in every direction in bed and fucked her in every position possible. So yeah, if you get jealous afterwards or try to go back to what you had before, it’ll be too late once she has done all that. She will know what it’s like and no bird ever wants to go back to a cage once out. If you can’t handle seeing her this way, it’ll be your doing alone.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'MaenadandCentaur' Exact same response as I heard from the wife. Not long after had a hotel booked, arranged two dates one after another, she took first one up, had him ravage her for almost an hour non-stop, sent the guy away, showered, got dressed, met the second one at a nearby restaurant, repeated the first scenario, then staring at me with a dirty smirk on her face, still in bed, legs wide open, she went “You coming or what?” I was the third one that day, in a row. She never done anything like this before, I didn’t think she’d be standing after the first one, who turned her over in every direction in bed and fucked her in every position possible. So yeah, if you get jealous afterwards or try to go back to what you had before, it’ll be too late once she has done all that. She will know what it’s like and no bird ever wants to go back to a cage once out. If you can’t handle seeing her this way, it’ll be your doing alone.