M48

bisexual partner

May 11 2014

Hi all, I am looking for a little advice from people who may have been in this situation. I started seeing my partner around 12 months ago and i knew she was Bi before we met. When we first met we had both had threesomes before but we have both never ventured into threesomes/ swinging while in a relationship. We used to talk about it a lot and both decided that we wanted to see where the relationship went first before playing. I have never had any problem with her bisexuality and she has always said that she would never play with another woman without me there. I have absolutely zero insecurities about this at all. The thing is, she has numerous insecurities that i will get bored of her and that men get bored easily and stray. I love my partner and hope one day soon we will be married so there is no chance of me even entertaining the thought. Today the subject of threesomes and swinging came up. when we first met we would often talk about it and she said she would love to see me with another woman and I would love to see her with another woman or even play with another couple. What i am unsure of most of all is whether i want to risk our relationship and look for a play partner with her. I am unsure whether she is secure enough to handle seeing me with another woman in a threesome. I have no doubts whatsoever that i wouldnt have a problem seeing her as long as i can join in even if only to touch my girlfriend. I worry that she would get jealous and makes me wonder if its worth it. Its funny, we are both very open-minded and have experienced quite a bit while single but when it comes to the relationship and swinging many other factors come into play. Would love to hear whether others have been in a similar situation, what did u do to resolve it?. Do you just let your partner go out and play alone? Don't know that i would be able to handle that side of things as I am sure she wouldnt be able to handle me going out to play with other women or guys (if i was bi).

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RHP User

11 years ago

you could allow her to be with another woman and you just watch, then you are involved but not touching and see what happens there. If there is any insecurity on either side, I am not sure that anyone playing alone is going to be wise. I think more discussion, and frank discussion is required. Make sure you discuss your concerns as well, making sure she knows that you are not comfortable with it and why.

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Mischeviouslad

11 years ago

Several years ago.... I exclusively dated a bisexual girl. She offered to share... but as her tastes in women were rather different to mine, I was more than happy to allow her to entertain the elements which I as a man, couldn't give her and that she periodically craved. Perhaps, allow you partner that same room... and in time, she way wish to share with comfort and the sense of security that pressuring her will only enhance. DG

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RHP User

11 years ago

I have been very lucky to experience a lot of things as one of the unicorns on this site, but having recently started to think about going into a relationship with some one the thoughts have crossed my mind many times. The thought of someone I care a lot about being with someone else or even me being with someone else while dating another just boggles my mind a little. So far I haven't been in a situation dating someone who wants to play so it has never come up but occasionally I meet someone through here and I can't get those thoughts out of my head and tend to just sabotage the relationship before it starts instead. I will be watching this thread for thoughts from people who have been in this situation in the past and wish the op luck in figuring this one out too! - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

11 years ago

But the one my wife and I are in is that we both enjoy watching each other play, and encourage it either in a two couple situation, or if playing with another person on our own (either her or me). There is no jealousy, but we have come across situations where there has been jealousy present. At the end of the day we know we are secure with each other and are in it because we enjoy it rather than looking for someone else. We know that we will always come home to each other. If you do decide to play, you need to make sure that you are all playing and not leave anyone out. Also communicate, before and after, and most of all, be willing to stop if either of you is uncomfortable with anything. Best of luck with whatever you decide. - Posted from rhpmobile

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