cleaning house

February 15 2016

Once upon a time I would hang onto texts , emails, pics and home movies from previous partners , fbs and fwbs but after the last 12mths I now realise that where I once held these thing as reminders I now realise cleaning house is such a great feeling and think that will be my new moto interested in what others think ....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    when its done i ditch them , they no longer serve a purpose :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    A significant relationships ends, I tend to do a spring clean. I take everything sentimental or of emotional value and put it away, usually in a box, depending on the size. I pop it as far away as I can in the back of the wardrobe so I don't have to see it. I always tend to run into it some time later, open it up ready to be overwhelmed with memories, but its never happened. I just read the words of cards or look at certain items and think, nope, I've moved on, this relationship ended for a reason So it gets tossed I'm not particularly sentimental when it comes to the end of relationships. What's done is done and I move on I think its healthy to toss, maybe not straight away, but when your ready. But that's just me

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    9 years ago

    Having exited a 20 year relationship last year, i have found i can and prefer an uncluttered life. I know you meant texts, emails etc but I'm saying i include the other bits of life as well in that statement. You dont need that shit. I should have reminded myself of past actions. There was a period of my life late teenage where having exited that period, i housecleaned and removed every last trace of that life. Photos, letters, documents. Everything. Except memories. I have no regrets of that. Live for now. Dont look in the rear view mirror

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    To Queensland in Ocober 1990 with two suitcases and a seven year old child..now I am trying to get back to being a minimalist,I have so much "stuff"..boo hoo ..It was very liberating getting rid of almost everything,yep OP get rid of it ,it will create space in your life for the good things to come in ..xxFreya

  • MrMechanic

    MrMechanic

    9 years ago

    It can be quite cathartic using scissors to snip them out of old photos too so you enjoy photographic memories without having to see them again.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    9 years ago

    Catch and release. ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Cleaning house... a metaphor, or literal? Are we talking emotional clutter or physical clutter? Forgive me if I don't have the right take on the question here... But if we're talking just literal, (semi) physical things... For the things that represent only positive memories, I don't see the need to get rid of, especially if the space is negligable or, in this time and age, digital. When a disaster happens, like a fire, the most treasured losses are things like photos and other life records, things with irreplacable value. I understand the need for some people to rid themselves of certain items at times to "move on", but that generally implies they are moving on from something negative. While some might say that whatever we get rid of, we won't lose our memories... but when we are grey and old, and our memories start to fail on us, anything that brings back memories of a life well lived would be of benefit. But then again, I'm sure other people have much more physical/literal stuff from past "lives/relationships/whatever the OP is implying" than I, in my case it's a few photos and a birthday card! :)

  • PurePeony

    PurePeony

    9 years ago

    ... there is a popular book right now on decluttering : The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying : A simple, effective way to banish clutter forever, by Marie Kondo. I need to be a bit brutal and cull my collection of books! At the moment, it is consuming all available space!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Enough boxes of my kids stuff so that's it anyone else gets the recycle bin, I less you bought me something practical, then your memory gets to hang around a bit longer !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Haha spat my coffee out, that's so bloody funny 😂😂😂 Have your fun and toss 'em to the kerb lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I need to cull a few action figures but I love them too much. I'm such a geek. My superheroes watch out for their wonder woman mmm lol 😀

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    You have the memories, dont need to hold onto anything more than that. I dont even keep jewellry that I was given. I pass it on to my daughter and daughter-in-law. Just doesnt feel right wearing something that was given with love and recieved with love, if thats gone.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    Some people make it sound like they have had numerous partners(dislike that word so much)Question is how does one go from one to another all the time. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • missmyyear2016

    missmyyear2016

    9 years ago

    Lol found and external hard drive in my office stuff then checked what was on it glad i checked it out in private many naughty pics and videos which will now make room for good stuff like my fav tv shows lol

  • missmyyear2016

    missmyyear2016

    9 years ago

    well said cheers for that

  • missmyyear2016

    missmyyear2016

    9 years ago

    well said cheers for that

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I used to do it daily 😛 or that was my aim 😀

  • RHP

    RHP User

    9 years ago

    I'm very dirty lol - Posted from rhpmobile