comparing yourself to partner/fwb in a gay/lesbian/bi r'ship/encounter

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  (joking) Definitely appreciate peoples differences. I tend to find them attractive, and get aroused by them, rather than let it eat at me. I don't want a clone. e.g I don't have an impressive rump, and love women with bubble butts. Everyone will have better features - and some a lot of them. I get involved with ... people I'm drawn to (ahh, that thing so oft difficult to quantify) - and only a portion of that is purely physical features. Did I mention I have impressive nail beds. hubbahubba

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Just in case my flippancy can be misread - since I can't find the sarcasm font - I don't actually have amazing nail beds.

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  TallBaldSexy

  9 years ago

  Well from a group sex point of view - No! We all cum in different shapes and sizes. It's about sex appeal. My sexy may not be yours and visa versa. So it's irrelevant to me if someone's six pack sits prouder than mine :-) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  PatchworkGirl

  9 years ago

  Hi stranger! Haven't seen you in ages. As for comparisons - yep, I can't help it. I've gotten much better, though, at appreciating the beauty that is the other woman, but not letting myself feel bad about how I look by comparison. If I do start to get a little self-conscious about myself, I just get a bit of positive reinforcement from my lover, who is happy to oblige. 😍

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  ...Not specifically as the OP asked, but having been around and quite up close but not quite so personal with many a naked male, I can only add that if you have no hang-ups with your own appearance you will have no issues regarding the better (or worse) appearance of another. Or maybe that's just average men. An example though... maybe a matter of LITERAL perspective, on one occasion the two males in a group (including myself) BOTH happened to think that the other had the larger member... (no we didn't resort to the tape measure).

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  MsSuperFoxy

  9 years ago

  I think it's more to do with self confidence and self acceptance, if anything. Why compare yourself to others? In a group or club situation no one really notices..people are enjoying their selves too much. If anything I think it's liberating. Yeah, we all have things we don't like about ourselves, however it's the perfect imperfections that brings out the beauty. I believe at the end of the day, beauty is only skin deep and comes in many many forms. There's no such thing as ugly smile, body or person. If one is constantly comparing their self to others, it turns me off them. TBH it irritates me, listening to the constant whinge and wine. No one wants to hear that negative thinking about themselves. How I stop, is to put myself in other people's shoes, and think would they like to constantly hear me compare myself to others and how would they feel?? What it says to me too is one is seeking validation. If one is happy with them self, they do not seek it from others. :) Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  men or women, I always punch above my weight no harm in trying right

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Have never knocked back anyone that I said I was going to meet up with, as hey I'm no oil painting (but not an ugly bugger either...) to say lets meet up and get it on to then trun around and say well.....u know ummm no thx I think would be down right rude and so off putting and ego crushing, and no one deserves that. I do however feel that the shoe is on the other foot and that I'm knocked back for my appearance and hope that you sexy ppl look again and well think how it can make us normal ppl feel😯 Hope I'm not off topic but well this is my rant....thx all for reading or just passing by😆😇 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  AnnieWhichway

  9 years ago

  Yet to be intimidated by another guy. Not saying I'm perfect, plenty of room for improvement. But comfortable with my conditioning. And in the company of a ripped stud i can appreciate the work and dedication he has put into himself and just enjoy the moment and make sure he enjoys the moment as well.

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  AnnieWhichway

  9 years ago

  Quote Yesjr "Have never knocked back anyone that I said I was going to meet up with, as hey I'm no oil painting (but not an ugly bugger either...) to say lets meet up and get it on to then trun around and say well.....u know ummm no thx I think would be down right rude and so off putting and ego crushing, and no one deserves that. I do however feel that the shoe is on the other foot and that I'm knocked back for my appearance and hope that you sexy ppl look again and well think how it can make us normal ppl feel😯 Hope I'm not off topic but well this is my rant....thx all for reading or just passing by😆😇" Appreciate your feelings etc. Surely you cant expect your meet person to play just because you turned up so your feelngs aren't hurt. People aren't obliged to give a sympathy fuck.....

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Me with the woman I do like a sort of a mirror image of myself , I like slim pretty ladies and have a big thing for blondes but don't get me wrong any gorgeous girl will always have my interest Men well yeh I suppose they have to be attractive but personally gets me going too if you can make me laugh and have a great time I'm very happy in a group situation were no one takes themselves to seriously just fun . So in a nutshell I won't take one for the team just because I feel I have too 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Interesting topic... Firstly. I do paint/ draw / illustrate/ and am learning shibari- bondage art so It is in my nature to analyse and deconstruct the human form. I am also a completely indulgent curios and appreciative pervert! Everyone is a candidate for my X-ray imagination! I find people to be intriguing in form, variation and how they inhabit their body and if I'm pulled end into someone's mind, I can't help but want to know them without the clothes! That said, attitude changes that physique very quickly and in my book the best way to make another and yourself more attractive... Is make them them feel great! And vice versa. Yes I have compared myself to another but never to diminish anyone or myself - more with an artists eye and I always feel lucky that they are here naked now. It's a gift, and I'm a gracious recipient. It has liberated my views on beauty. Sexuality. Confidence and age. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  TallBaldSexy

  9 years ago

  It's a bizzare thing self confidence isn't it. It too cums in all shapes and sizes. Our self confidence varies from situation, doesn't it. I've always felt completely comfortable in "group" situations, self confident in the Ocean miles to Sea floating around scuba diving, self confident in physical confrontations etc etc, but I'll admit I lack self confidence in office politics - it scares me actually. I think it's because of how competitive I am and really hate losing so I just try to avoid those situations. Maybe we all should have more faith in our own self worth!

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