F53
confused and frustrated
November 27 2014
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
Put a photo up. Then they can see for themselves!
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RHP User
10 years ago
;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
hard to deny when you put a pic up which is exactly why I have pics from my face to my body to my pink bits, anyone who contacts me knows what they are getting. Would save on a lot of emails that would be killing your self esteem. At least with a pic you know they like what they see.
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Bazingal
10 years ago
A picture tells a thousand words. You could also mention a size and or weight in your profile. Some people think size 12 is big, others 18+ However, some people can still be cruel. I remember a while ago there was a beautiful lady that posted saying she got terrible, unprovoked messages saying she was too big. You may still feel a negative effect on your self confidence. Good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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6exxy
10 years ago
Hopefully this will all workout well for you. This place can be a bit harsh and I do feel for you. The post above I hope helps. Pics and stating that I am a plus size # will let anyone know. You don't need the negative so update your profile with you. Then someone who appreciates who you are can reach out to you. It only takes one, so stay positive ☺️.
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RHP User
10 years ago
same as the others.. throw up a pic, I am a big girl, I am getting enough attention on here and all I show in public is the one you see here.. but I have some in my private albums as well.. try and fluff up your profile a little more, its bloody hard talking about yourself, but you can do it.. be confident and dont let the blow ins stress you or ruffle your feathers, they are what they are, breathe and move on from them quickly...
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RHP User
10 years ago
Buy a box of Kleenex :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
We humans seem so shallow and cold at times, and it is rough to be shunned based solely on your physical appearance, we all have warm glowing souls inside that need to held and loved. There is not that much you can do to alter the behavior and attitudes of others, but you can work on your own. You have two options, let it get you down, or don't let it get you down. So next time don't turn your frustration inward onto your self, its not your fault they dont like you, turn that frustration outward toward the idiot that has forgotten that we all have feelings and deserve respect.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am a big woman and short and aged. A photos says most but not all. Men who are not into big women will not contact you. So show yourself, be proud who you are, and remember you don't want them all anyway. L
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Missb4u
10 years ago
and its about protecting your self confidence as much as you can on here. By having pics that show your size (don't have to show your face in your public gallery) you will only be contacted by those that are ok with it. I have pics of everything in my pgs and I always make sure I mention my size early on, if they still say they are ok, then I show the pg1 for body size. There are a lot of men that go for bigger women but lots wont post publicly to admit it. Good luck and enjoy!
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RHP User
10 years ago
You say you're completely honest in your profile about what you are, but I think you're really not. You are hiding behind a grey avatar and using just one very vague word ("big"), to describe yourself. What is big? A size 16? 28? Yes, a lot of men like large women but in order to make an informed decision whether you are what they are looking for, they'll likely need more info to go on. That's fair, isn't it? Good luck.
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Quoting 'Missb72' and its about protecting your self confidence as much as you can on here. By having pics that show your size (don't have to show your face in your public gallery) you will only be contacted by those that are ok with it. I have pics of everything in my pgs and I always make sure I mention my size early on, if they still say they are ok, then I show the pg1 for body size. There are a lot of men that go for bigger women but lots wont post publicly to admit it. Good luck and enjoy! I have had several men say that to me. Foxy
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RHP User
10 years ago
We know the feeling. As a matter of fact we've pretty much shut up shop for the time being as its simply not worth the time, hassle and rejection. But all the best in your search and we hope you find what you're looking for.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My entire life I have been out there looking for a decent man that I can settle with enjoy life with, have fun sex & intimacy with, relax with & go on holidays with. I have done the good girl thing, I have done the bad girl thing, I have done the needy thing , I have done the independent bitch thing, I have always been fit & healthy. You name it I have been there, even prepared to put a roof over there head but still nothing. My body is now in good shape & better than most 18yr olds & woman my own age. Every were I look I see large obese loud noisy nasty women with rings on there fingers being spoilt by their husbands. The divorced men don't want relationships & have bro-Mandes with their mates or themselves & I am getting older quicker & it will get even more difficult. What is wrong with Australian men. Where are you coming from & what is the problem. Is obesity th in thing these days or Do you find chafed inner thighs & cellulite sexy & attractive.
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inspirit
10 years ago
The FIRST thing you may need to do is be confident in yourself. The messages you get - so what - why does it bother you when they don't get back to you - or they say AWWW..... For a person to say "AWWW" I would have to wonder what you actually wrote back to them. I really grasp at straws on here when people get a knock back and have a sad about it. I suggest you get over it and move on. Being hung up on a rejection is plain silly. Remember you are beautiful person and don't let others take that away as you are giving them your power!! I got asked how big was I once and I wrote back - not as big as your Ego and Shallowness.
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Missb4u
10 years ago
you sound nasty in that post... Maybe that's what you are doing wrong.
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inspirit
10 years ago
Quoting 'SensualGoodHeart' My entire life I have been out there looking for a decent man that I can settle with enjoy life with, have fun sex & intimacy with, relax with & go on holidays with. I have done the good girl thing, I have done the bad girl thing, I have done the needy thing , I have done the independent bitch thing, I have always been fit & healthy. You name it I have been there, even prepared to put a roof over there head but still nothing. My body is now in good shape & better than most 18yr olds & woman my own age. Every were I look I see large obese loud noisy nasty women with rings on there fingers being spoilt by their husbands. The divorced men don't want relationships & have bro-Mandes with their mates or themselves & I am getting older quicker & it will get even more difficult. What is wrong with Australian men. Where are you coming from & what is the problem. Is obesity th in thing these days or Do you find chafed inner thighs & cellulite sexy & attractive. Maybe men don't ant to be with an insecure moron.
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inspirit
10 years ago
You sound bitter and twisted on your profile - maybe that is your problem. I am sure NO "classy" MAN would even look at you twice after reading your vilification of people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
As mentiomed in the other posts, be confident in yourself. I have the mentality that you can only control what you do, what others do/think is irrelevant. If people like you, great. If not, whatever. Putting photos allows others to make their own informed decision. Might save you time by eliminating the time wasters.
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TheLuckyOne
10 years ago
You do sound like hard work but I must admit your profile gave me a chuckle. I'll be looking at men's feet now.... And haven't you heard? This is a sex site. If you're looking for a relationship, try eHarmony. Or so I've heard!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SensualGoodHeart'I honestly don't know what I am doing wrong Maybe saying stuff like "I am not into smelling like a common bitch with a flagged up stinking cervics & vag full of cum."? Injecting a bit more positivity into your profile and attitude might help.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well done SGH, the thread is now all about you. Omgniteseeker, you seem to have disappeared?
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RHP User
10 years ago
what the? I have never seen a profile like it, what is the obsession with douching? You don't want to smell like a common bitch? What the? Sounds like you are a little uptight about sex possibly.... maybe that has something to do with it? I will say that you do have an amazing body for your age, you look like a thirty year old. Amazing, I admire people that take such care about their health. I think men want women that are comfortable with themselves, who feel sexy and like all the messy parts of sex and most importantly, are happy people. Just my opinion.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am convinced that for the vast majority of relationships, its same for same, big people end up with big people, ugly people with ugly people, smart with smart, rich with rich, happy with happy and sad with sad. its just the way it is. When people complain about the problems that have with the people they are attracted to, and it seems to be an ongoing theme in these forums, I always have to suppress the urge to state the bloody obvious, well I think its time to point it out. If anyone is having problems with the people they fall for, with the same consistent problems, over and over and over, there is nobody else to blame than your self. Not that its all your fault, none of us get to pick who we are and what we look like, but we do have a level of control over our attitudes, and expectations. If you find your self always falling for someone that is a cheating arse hole, there is a good chance that's because you are one too, if you feel that they are highly judgmental about the way you look, its most likely that you are the same towards them. So take a deep breath, then slap your self in the face and grow the fuck up. Sorry by you pooped on us guys SensualGoodHeart for pop popping the men for spreading out a bit I will say "Open your eyes, there are plenty of fit, athletic, healthy older men around." What ugly thing do you hide behind those perfect plastic tits that they wont come near you? There are two types of people, those who expect the world to conform to their needs, and those that don't. There is nothing wrong with Australian men and women the problem is your expectations. I feel very sorry for you when I read,quote SensualGoodHeart "I am getting older quicker & it will get even more difficult." Sweet pee if you can not see what is wrong with what you said, it will unfortunately continue to get harder. You pride your self in beauty and fitness, you demand it from others, if that's all that matters, who's going to want you when it gets too hard to look young. I would be afraid too. Do not let the world find the ugly truth it not to late to grow up.“It’s often only as beauty fades that it becomes apparent it was ever there.” Jane Tara
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' Buy a box of Kleenex :) - Posted from rhpmobile Hand those Kleenex to poor old sensualgoodheartBecause judging by her post that is why she is all alone and probably will be for a very long time
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6exxy
10 years ago
sounds hurt.however this post may be the wrong place and time for what you are saying. It is a real shame however right now it is coming across in a negative manner. We are all trying to help Omgniteseeker be positive and come up with ways for her to move forward. Other than that shame you're in Brisbane 😳 we could uh err......... play some chess. 😘
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RHP User
10 years ago
You're hot!! And I reckon when I get a six pack and stick on to my ABS I reckon you'll ride me like phar lap on the home straight!!! :) Signed... The love of your life to be.... :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
Quoting 'SensualGoodHeart' My entire life I have been out there looking for a decent man that I can settle with enjoy life with, have fun sex & intimacy with, relax with & go on holidays with. I have done the good girl thing, I have done the bad girl thing, I have done the needy thing , I have done the independent bitch thing, I have always been fit & healthy. You name it I have been there, even prepared to put a roof over there head but still nothing. My body is now in good shape & better than most 18yr olds & woman my own age. Every were I look I see large obese loud noisy nasty women with rings on there fingers being spoilt by their husbands. The divorced men don't want relationships & have bro-Mandes with their mates or themselves & I am getting older quicker & it will get even more difficult. What is wrong with Australian men. Where are you coming from & what is the problem. Is obesity th in thing these days or Do you find chafed inner thighs & cellulite sexy & attractive. Even with this comment I will try and be constructive ........ 1. The first paragraph of your profile would have most guys running faster than Forrest Gump. At the very least why not put some more positive comments about what you are looking for and what you have to offer (apart from sex and heartbeat) as compared to all the negative comments you have on what you are not looking for. 2. Again to be brutally honest !!! If someone says every male/female out there is not looking their way and not interested what is the likely answer ..... that the problem is with every single male out there or ...... there is some aspect/s of you that turn off potential partners. You would be well served by talking with family and friends and giving them permission with no repercussions to tell exactly and with no holds barred what it is that they think is turning them off.
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RHP User
10 years ago
*Waits patiently on the couch for omgniteseeker to reply to the responses* *Whistles a happy tune*
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RHP User
10 years ago
Makes a change from the woe is me, nobody wants me stories from the blokes I guess.Cheer up SGH and OP, it could be worse, you could be male as well....lol Cheers, N
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
I agree with inspirit, your bitter and that's what you're doing wrong, maybe your username should be more like SensualNastyheart, because it doesn't sound to Good to me....
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RHP User
10 years ago
I personally like the full figured woman, and that's me.. U should put a pic up of urself and be proud,u are ur own person..
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6exxy
10 years ago
it would be nice to hear from the op. Cheers ☺️
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry I'm new to this site.However, may I say firstly I hope the poor girl who first posted her plight had gained some positive insights and advice from sections of this. Stay positive and think where you are looking and what you are hoping to find. Then think realistically what you like in life, what is important to "YOU" and where you have the best chance of finding "IT".The fact that you care enough to ask for advice says that you are a good person and smart enough to deserve someone your equal... As for "Sensual Good Heart", I hope you have read some of the very polite responses directed at you.They make a lot of sense, sounds like you have burned a lot of good people in your life for no apparent good reason other than your fucked up delusional view of how the world should be according to you. Obviously you have had reasonable access to money that you didn't earn and have a sense of entitlement giving you an unrealistic fairy-tale fantasy list of needs and wants.I think Bindman67 said it best on his parting quote...Sad thing is, I'll bet you could be a great human, you've just got to stop bullshitting to yourself and remember what life was like before you had any money..... Any undeserved expectations.... And your propensity for fixating on the only person in the world..."YOU"...Do yourself a favour and go apologise to a few of the people you burned recently if you have the guts, might make you feel better....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Men's feet...there is another regular poster here.coincidently also from Brisbane who refers to "Shrek feet"...too funny ...Oh and twitter and bisted is soooooooo very unattractive..But I suspect you already know that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You have closed your profile so I have no idea what photos you have or what you are looking for here...but yes there are the deeply shallow in this not very deep pond but occasionally amongst the minnows you will find a Gold Fish ... XxFreya
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MsSuperFoxy
10 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' Men's feet...there is another regular poster here.coincidently also from Brisbane who refers to "Shrek feet"...too funny ...Oh and twitter and bisted is soooooooo very unattractive..But I suspect you already know that. LMAO...Happy Feet... Foxy
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aussian43
10 years ago
Looks the the OP may have been driven from the site. Another thought to consider is saying you are size 14 or size 16, is a meaningless number to some men. I have only a vague idea what it means. As other people have suggested, a photo would give a better idea. Personally I prefer bigger ladies, ones with the curves to hug and cuddle. ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
Mean and uncalled for, in my opinion. It's no more ok than saying a woman has the body of "Free Willy" or a face like Quasimodo. Fuck body shaming.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It wasn't the feet I found funny but the coincidence.xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
My comment wasn't aimed at you, but anyone using the term.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yikes! Stop trying and just be you perhaps?... Cheer up emo kid - a graceful smile goes a very long way :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SensualGoodHeart' My entire life I have been out there looking for a decent man that I can settle with enjoy life with, have fun sex & intimacy with, relax with & go on holidays with. I have done the good girl thing, I have done the bad girl thing, I have done the needy thing , I have done the independent bitch thing, I have always been fit & healthy. You name it I have been there, even prepared to put a roof over there head but still nothing. My body is now in good shape & better than most 18yr olds & woman my own age. Every were I look I see large obese loud noisy nasty women with rings on there fingers being spoilt by their husbands. The divorced men don't want relationships & have bro-Mandes with their mates or themselves & I am getting older quicker & it will get even more difficult. What is wrong with Australian men. Where are you coming from & what is the problem. Is obesity th in thing these days or Do you find chafed inner thighs & cellulite sexy & attractive. You are what is widely known as a misogynist, you hate women and therefore yourself. Perhaps you should stop thinking in absolute terms, realize that having a good body does not make you worthy and work out a few of your issues before you run around whining about seeing "large obese loud noisy nasty women with rings on there fingers being spoilt by their husbands" when chances are, your whining, poor me routine is just a bit of a turn off. Here is an idea you *might* want to consider: Those large, obese, noisy, nasty women are amazing friends, daughters, partners, mothers and sisters. They might be the most caring, loyal, loving and giving people you could ever hope to know but you are too busy saying to yourself (and probably everyone else who will listen) that they don't deserve it because they are fat and you are thin and have no one. You, my dear, hate yourself. Simple. How is any man going to love you if you do not even like yourself? Your profile is so misogynistic that if you were a man, I would be concerned for the safety of whatever women you come in contact with.
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RHP User
10 years ago
makes OP look good. I'd ratherhave a girl with a warm heart than a hot body
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do not assume that because someone has a wedding ring they are happy !!!!!! Do not try to be something you are not just be yourself. Some guys find intelligent attractive women intimidating. I have always had lots of male mates (many i never had sex with) they want to hang out with me because they like my humour. People like hanging out with others that make them feel good and that feel good thing does not have to come from sex. And maybe don't go into details about personal hygiene. Guys dont need to know what you do to maintain this just that it is important to you. Your profile kinda reads like you are having lots of unprotected sex and therefore you feel the need to flush yourself out regularly. I am sure this is not the case but it just reads that way. Anyway that is just my half a cent............. Hope you find what you are looking for.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Agree photos might help And if you are a bit nervous about putting pics up you can always get a little creative and change the colours like i have done on mine but don't alter the image any other way so people can see your curves. Heaps of guys like curves.
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joanne1991
10 years ago
Size shouldn't matter, but I know it does, was size 26 and confident a few years ago, confidence sort of slowly extinguished by comments and meets, I am now size 8 and although have a lot more messages and offers, still regularly stood up or have excuses made, be proud of who you are and enjoy life. Remember this is a sex site not a social gathering so treat it for what it is and honestly I don't believe larger, smaller, prettier, ugly are treated any different, the only difference are the men and what they are specifically looking for in a random meet. And the girls are no different on here if we are all being honest.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'SensualGoodHeart' My entire life I have been out there looking for a decent man that I can settle with enjoy life with, have fun sex & intimacy with, relax with & go on holidays with. I have done the good girl thing, I have done the bad girl thing, I have done the needy thing , I have done the independent bitch thing, I have always been fit & healthy. You name it I have been there, even prepared to put a roof over there head but still nothing. My body is now in good shape & better than most 18yr olds & woman my own age. Every were I look I see large obese loud noisy nasty women with rings on there fingers being spoilt by their husbands. The divorced men don't want relationships & have bro-Mandes with their mates or themselves & I am getting older quicker & it will get even more difficult. What is wrong with Australian men. Where are you coming from & what is the problem. Is obesity th in thing these days or Do you find chafed inner thighs & cellulite sexy & attractive. You sound like a bitch
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RHP User
10 years ago
I never comment on these forums and don’t plan on making a habit of it, but SGH, your profile, is well, rather devoid of any warmth, personality, and perhaps cheerfulness. And, I’m sure that as all those men skim over your profile, they thank god that you won’t hurt their children or be a wicked witch toward them.It kind of sounds like children are perhaps something to be merely tolerated. And as to what you’re looking for? Rather than concerning yourself over meeting a classy man or any other type of man, perhaps consider wanting to meet someone that has a kind heart, that you’re crazy over, and who you can be really good friends with foremost. Unfortunately, life holds no guarantees but there is a huge difference between wanting to be in a relationship and feeling that you NEED to be in a relationship to feel that you’re a fulfilled and rounded person. Until you can like yourself, and be content with your own company you can hardly expect others to want to be in your presence either. And I can tell you, I have no problem taking little me, myself and I off to the pictures, a restaurant, a trip overseas or anything else that my heart so desires, all by myself. Being in a relationship doesn’t define who I am. And more than anything you should consider, perhaps wanting to be with someone that you have some common interests with, and are absolutely crazy about. You’re profile comes across as though you’d rather be with anyone, no matter how unsuitable they maybe to you, your life style and your future, just so that you can say your with someone. Personally, I’d rather be with NO-ONE than with someone on that premise.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I understand where your coming from, wait until you are a male on here and it is hard to even get a reaction from women on here. Don't know what it is but I message all polite, I am respectful and still no takers, sometimes , well mostly females on here don't even answer messages. Everyone says that the would like messages more than a sentence long but I seem to be the one putting in the time and don't even get a thanks but no thanks. Oh well, soldier on I suppose. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I name the fact that I am a size 18 and am fabulously comfortable within myself. I accompany that with a nice smiling pic. I'm brand new to RHP as of today but have been on another site and mostly my experiences have been good. I had 2 men abuse me with "fat" references but that says more about them than it does me. All of us need thick skins to be on here as people can be rude but honest representation is crucial. If still having issues I'd suggest a BBW specific site where men adore us! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Welcome!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Well it sure does seem in the forums at least personality wins easily over looks. I find that when you get to know someone you end up seeing only beauty. It is a shame that sites like this make it so difficult to see the real person. You do on occasion see the real ugly minds, it only takes one post to prove that. Yet it is much harder to see the very beautiful minds. The best thing is to be thankful that people will show their ugly side, rather than finding out after you have invested you heart. I will never know how someone can be rude to someone that they don't even know. Rejection is something you can get used to ( I certainly have) it has been good to learn, not everybody can like everybody. I am surprised it took me till this late in file to learn that. Rudeness on the other hand does nothing but make me feel sorry for the person at the other end, for I know that attitude is with them where ever they are, and that must make them very lonely people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Abuse is like an unwanted gift. Best to return to sender and unopened. Bman67, people say one thing and do something else. I've had a few responses from people who love my profile and what I have to say. Once I show them my photo, they go silent. Guess looks are more important than personality after all for some. It's all about quality rather than quantity. It depends what you consider important.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Big women are far more sexier than there thin counterparts.
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