M40
constructive criticism
January 15 2016
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
I find your profile photos distracting with the background mess. You need to tidy your house maybe? No one wants to be visiting there. Lol. Gives the impression that you might be a slob. You prob not but first impressions. Make the photos about you, not your clutter. And ask me in your relationship. Red flag flies up the mast saying married. If your married. Say so. Thats my take. Written part is fine to me. Good luck. Annie
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lovebitten
9 years ago
BUT the mess in the photos is distracting from any physical hotness you have going on. Like others have said, please disclose your relationship status. It looks like you are hiding something. That said, the girlie coloured body wash sponges pretty much tell me you have a live in girlie. Best fix that up, if you want to keep up a pretence of being single or discrete. Best wishes, Lovebitten. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have a Spanish wooden chair that needs fixing. In return Ill clean your bathroom? Otherwise, a bit of a riddle with the smoking, but a good profile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree with the majority about the photos. If I looked at your profile with intent to send you a message or flirt, I'd be keen as its well written but when I got to the part where you mention that your time is precious and request it not be wasted; I like to get to know someone through chat before deciding if I want to meet them or not. It takes as long as it takes and I'd be put off such a comment as I get the impression that if have to decide straight away if we're going to meet or not. Apart from that, I thought it was well written and looks like you've put a little time and effort in the text.
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RHP User
9 years ago
but.. I'm instantly put off by 'ask me ' on the relationship - just be honest... you are asking people not to waste your time , don't waste theirs with an 'ask me' in my opinion - harsh but it would be a waste of time for someone who only wants single people to bother messaging you only to find you aren't what they are looking for. I agree with the mess its off putting and says to me wherever we would be playing would also be messy I think this part is way too demanding "Take the time read all of this, as i take the time to read your profiles." People aren't going to read your profile just because you've told them too.. they are either a profile reader or they are not , putting that at the top of your profile isn't going to make them read it if they aren't that way inclined. "My time is precious and hard to come by, don't waste mine and I won't waste yours " Everyone's time is precious not sure why this needs to be stated in a few different ways though out your profile , not to be rude but your time isn't any more precious than anyone elses here so i don't see the point in stating it. I also think that a lot of guys think you are a time waster purely because you don't end up meeting after asking relevant questions - because perhaps they didn't like the answers or click well with you- that doesn't make them time wasters that just means that you didn't connect well enough .. you have to figure that out via chat and that takes time , you likely couldn't possibly meet every single person you ever speak to. I find this part too specific for a profile personally "Basically, if you are fit or semi fit (who doesn't like a bit cushion?) and well groomed, that's a good starting point. If you are a natural redhead then you get bonus points. Shaven/waxed is good, but i dont mind a little hair... a "landing strip" for example is nice, it reminds me that you are woman and not a girl. " - you're allowed your preferences but why not just cull that yourself by looking at photos to see if they are a red head or asking questions when you start talking regarding pubic hair status.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My shed was always a mess !
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RHP User
9 years ago
in the shower and as Summer said multiple toothbrushes and with a "Ask Me" as your relationships status, I'm thinking you are attached in some shape or form which will limited your chances with meeting many ladies. Not judging, just saying. And if you're after discretion , you can see your profile clearly in the bathroom mirror, so you may want to address that if anonymity is important to you. Your profile is ok but it wouldn't attract my attention, as there's nothing particular about it that stands out when compared with the other thousands of male profiles on this site. You appear to be really messy, so that would be a pass for me. But that's just me Good Luck with it all
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Summer...umm, I have three toothbrushes in my ensuite. My regular visitors don't need to bring their own OP. I like your profile it's well written - and you have penned it yourself. I always see that as a bonus. I totally agree with the previous posters regarding the bathroom. Total distraction.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
When I receive a message or flirt from a man, the first four things that I would check out before reading his profile description are his: 1) relationship status 2) drinking and smoking status 3) personality selection I have read other members' comments about your smoking status been a "light smoker", but when I clicked into your profile to check it out, it says "I'm a non-smoker", which seems like you have changed it from being a light smoker to a non-smoker?......now, up until this point, I don't even need to read your profile to say no, if I was to receive a message from you SirSwann because, clearly you are not single and you are hiding about your smoking habit too! Honesty is an attraction, even if it is only for a casual hook up because we all have preferences and that should be respected! :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi, only a few simple 'tweaks' IMHO 😁 plenty of positives, i'll get to those in a moment, but these are the things I would take out. Firstly, stats belong up the top in the stats section, no need to repeat them in the written part. And why do you state your endowment in the written part but you haven't put it in the stats. Do yourself a favour and put it in stats where it belongs. Those stats gets used in the search engine, would work in your favour, just keep the size honest, always keep it real. Instructing us to read all of it? Surely that's up to the individual, we'll either read it or we won't, but we can make that choice ourself. So that doesn't really grab me from the getgo and the same with the time wasting comment. What do you consider a waste of time? The term 'nsa' i personally hate. Always cringe when i see nsa dte on a profile, sorry but if you're looking for casual play meets, again, it's kind of repeating it. The smoking comment is a bit odd, you don't smoke or you do smoke? No judgment, but again, shouldn't that be in your stats? Lots of positives. I like that you have clear and bright pictures showing yourself. I get what the others are saying about mess, but I don't think it's that bad, few towels mainly, I was more impressed with the way you took the pictures, showing all sides, not hiding your body, perfect 👍 I also like that you have filled out most of your stats, love the 'what you're looking for' section, very honest, and although I don't have a landing strip, I agree they are sexy and I like that expression ☺ maybe i'll get a landing strip tatt hmm 😁 relationship status, leave it as is, why is it our business whether you're married or how you're attached, ask me makes it clear you are attached in some way. Women will either avoid you like the plague or won't care, 2 camps on that one. All the things i've suggested you change are only minor things, and only my opinion, but your profile is refreshing in the sense that it's honest with clear pictures and no templates, and shows you put thought and effort into it 👍
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RHP User
9 years ago
All good points. Thankyou. Will be changing the pictures and editing the profile a touch. I do have housemates, hence the pink/purple loofah and multitude of toothbrushes. Thanks for taking the time
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RHP User
9 years ago
All relevant and valid points. I've tweaked the wording a little and changed some of the "about me" information, to better reflect myself. The pictures will be a work in progress... its not that bathroom is messy or im messy, quite the opposite (I'm the clean freak of the house). It's just hard to find somewhere to put tour towel when there's 3 other people living in the house. And im not about to say "hey mate, would you mind taking some photos of me in my boxers...."
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RHP User
9 years ago
Perhaps he has children all you Miss Marples...😚but I do agree the bathroom is a bit messy xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not drawn to your profile at all, I find it rather demanding and negative, but others have said they think it's fine so really it's a matter of taste. Those pics are not very good though, as most people have pointed out. The mess is just distracting and offputting.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
See the cobwebs in the top left corner? Lol. And the dead blowfly bottom right........
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Joyce.....
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RHP User
9 years ago
...there's something incredibly attractive about your brutally honest demeanour on some forum topics. Just sayin'... Sorry for going off topic OP! Just having a stream-of-conciousness moment with my cranberry and bourbon this morning.I recommend it...it's very liberating.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Looks like my comments may have been a little too constructive for the moderators.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Whateverway' See the cobwebs in the top left corner? Lol. And the dead blowfly bottom right........ love it, just love it - ROFL
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RHP User
9 years ago
Being nice and fluffy has never been one of my traits
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RHP User
9 years ago
neither has mathematical ability....
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes, I get the feeling that your patience is in very...short...supply 😁
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' Sorry for going off topic OP! Just having a stream-of-consciousness moment with my cranberry and bourbon this morning.I recommend it...it's very liberating. The Bardstown Sling?
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RHP User
9 years ago
...I didn't know it had a name. I'd just finished work and I only had cranberry juice for a mixer. Never let it be said I'm a drinks snob...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Koolgrey' Yes, I get the feeling that your patience is in very...short...supply 😁 It's true I'm not the most patient person in the world, and my tolerance for bullshit is low. I'm also pretty blunt and direct a lot of the time, and I think that causes more issues sometimes because I'm a woman. People generally have certain expectations of female behaviour, I often don't meet those particular expectations. It's certainly made for some interesting times on the forums However, I can certainly be patient, empathetic, and tactful when I need to be. I wouldn't be looking to go into the area of work that I am if that wasn't the case. Oh, and when it comes to animals I turn into a gooey, fluffy mess Sorry OP for going a bit OT there.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...your a breath of fresh air and your qualities are just that. You wouldn't be studying to be a public prosecutor, would you...? 😉
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