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cosmetic surgery for me

August 28 2015

I went on a drinks meet with a man last night and he was not a bad looking rooster for his age (47). Actually, very good looking and quite successful in his corporate career. We had a great night chatting away, great laughs on all topics. I then complimented him on his looks and very smooth skin, great for a man who indulged in surfing when he was younger. He told me he had a face lift and a nose job.! I almost dropped my GnT, and took me aback for a second before complimenting him that the work was subtle. No Joker or waxy look but it did explain why there are no forehead creases and minimal crows' feet. I had so many questions to ask but bit my tongue. Well, glugged down my G&T. I have never had any plastic surgery on any part of my body or face. Personally, I don't have any reason to do so as I am a firm believer in preventative health management. But I can see why other people do need it to boost their self-confidence and will never chide/deride nor condemn people for it if they believe it will improve their way of life. In my line of business, iI meet a lot of women who have their face and body done to the point they become unrecognizable at times. They seem happy to align the physical to the mental image of who they are and good for them. However, I have NEVER met a man who had the 'works' done. I suppose it is becoming more common and meeting this man was a reality check. Maybe there are a lot of men out there who have the work done but just don't admit to it? So do you know any man who had cosmetic work done and why? This includes penile and chest/abs implants. How did you find it? Is it a turn-off or turn-on or anything else? How do you feel about it and is there a limit to the work a man has and will this be a determining factor for you moving forward? Your turn forumites.

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Seachange

9 years ago

title should read 'Cosmetic Surgery for Men'. As you were...

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RHP User

9 years ago

one cannot tell that one had "works" done I reckon it is OK... there are plenty of women and men out there where it is OBVIOUS that they had work done - I think this is -as with a lot of things- in moderation fine :)

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RHP User

9 years ago

Don't have much time for the plastic surgery thing. I believe in letting you be you. But I do understand those that actually have the need to have it done not just for aesthetic reasoning. Hey but each to their own

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RHP User

9 years ago

A young male workmate of mine was self-conscious about how his pecs looked, I think he had a small amount of fatty tissue in there that he couldn't lose even after some weight training. So he had the cosmetic surgery to make them look "right". He was 22 years old and after that did pursue some fitness modelling work which is what he felt his chest was holding him back from. Seems much happier and free with his body image nowadays but is very image conscious and is still single at 26 looking for his perfect fitness model girlfriend who "squats".

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RHP User

9 years ago

Women have taken advantage of the cosmetic industry for a very long time. So long as the work looks natural more power to the men and women who decide to try for themselves. Most don't take the decision lightly and a lot of research is usually done before hand. Its no different to women having breast augmentation for whatever reasons they have. Lily you look lovely and always come across as a very confident woman. I think men who need a little self esteem boost and feel cosmetic surgery will help them .... then by all means explore, research and if it feel right, do it! LG

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RHP User

9 years ago

If there's something your not happy with ' do something about it.. You only live once and you don't always live to please others.... At the moment there's no need, But I'd never say never...

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RHP User

9 years ago

Me ex had a nose job at around age 18. He lived in California, were plastic surgery for guys was and is quite common. He was 39 when I met him, and I had no idea until I saw pics of him as a teenager. The surgery was very well done, and my ex was open about it. He was lucky though, as (being overly confident as he was) he picked the first surgeon he saw listed in the Yellow Pages.

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Crackatini

9 years ago

A mate of mine had his ears pinned back by surgery. I am not a big fan for girls or guys. I prefer a natural look.

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Smilingwithfun

9 years ago

Each to their own.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Didnt ,Jennifer Gray did..now baby is still in the corner xxFreya

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RHP User

9 years ago

One day , perhaps me too want a plastic surgery and i dont see why not.... when i am older at the right time i guessed , as for now no need just yet , i had an Ex' and he was just 28 yo at the time , he was super fit ,looked after his body with almost daily Gym , he had everything perfect except for one little thing and it doesnt matter what he did , it wont go away and he decided to have it done ,so he did and couldnt be happier...so plastic surgery is ok and good if it boost some people confidence and to be happier person , i am all for it....nothing wrong in my book.

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225Special

9 years ago

I went to find out about a penis enlargement...Dr told me he was a surgeon not a miracle worker... On a serious note, if the work is subtle then good on you, not a fan of the over done look.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Part of their body affected them physically or emotionally, or caused them to be unaccepted or even bullied: Power to them. Those who went for it just to look better, because their friends did it, to attract certain people, to make money, etc: Whatever, not my business. Each to their own. Though I look at some people (likes this major with the crazy wedding Salim Mehajer) and think "ewww". I feel sorry for people like the the young man who spent a fortune to look like Justin Bieber (and allegedly committed suicide this week), or reality star Heidi Montag, who I think both suffer(ed) from severe body dysmorphia. I think it was their minds that needed the help and not their looks, and that just makes me sad.

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AnnieWhichway

9 years ago

I will have some work done in the future. Annie says yeeeeessss...... Male part says no fucking way! Us girls knows who's gonna win that one........ Suck it up fella!

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Seachange

9 years ago

Yes. there are always extremes. I read that on the news about the justin bieber look-alike. he was 35 and wanted to look 18 or 20 and spent $150k on his face? And still was never enough to fill the void of his insecurities. That is really sad. he must have been a very lonely person. wish people had good support around them to remind people that they are good and beautiful inside. I feel really sad for him. I remind my kids they are beautiful, kind and smart and they deserve good people around them, be a leader. I always remind them that they will never please everybody so jsut be themselves in whatever form they want to be, rather than follow the trends or be part of the flock. I hope to instill good sense and judgment in my kids to get them thru the rough patches of whatever lies in their future.

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Seachange

9 years ago

Quoting 'Meander' Part of their body affected them physically or emotionally, or caused them to be unaccepted or even bullied: Power to them. Those who went for it just to look better, because their friends did it, to attract certain people, to make money, etc: Whatever, not my business. Each to their own. Though I look at some people (likes this major with the crazy wedding Salim Mehajer) and think "ewww". I feel sorry for people like the the young man who spent a fortune to look like Justin Bieber (and allegedly committed suicide this week), or reality star Heidi Montag, who I think both suffer(ed) from severe body dysmorphia. I think it was their minds that needed the help and not their looks, and that just makes me sad. Just googled who Heidi Montag is. Well, she was very pretty before the surgery. and she had a record breaking number of surgeries in one go? like 10 hours on the op table? She does look very different from her 'former' self. Still pretty. they did a good job. And those bazookas!! OMG. I don't think I will go under the knife. Will take something really drastic for me to do that. Why mess with perfection?

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'lilyorchid'Just googled who Heidi Montag is. Well, she was very pretty before the surgery. and she had a record breaking number of surgeries in one go? like 10 hours on the op table? She does look very different from her 'former' self. Still pretty. they did a good job. And those bazookas!! OMG. She is full of scars you can't see under her clothes (or are photoshopped out of her pics) she says, and has publicly stated multiple times she is really unhappy and wishes she'd never had the surgeries.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Cosmetic surgery can add to your confidence,then why not...but if you think that in itself will make you happy.it won't ..There are a couple of models who are now over eighty and absolute inspirations...it's fairly clear that a surgeons knife has never been near their beautiful faces, their lives etched on that canvas xxFreya

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RHP User

9 years ago

I agree ' ... you don't need anything yet...

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