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couples and jealousy
June 10 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are you meeting with newbies? I wouldn't meet couples new to the scene I don't think. People think they want to swing and have group sex and it is a favourite fantasy but the reality can be hugely different. At the end of the day you never know how you will react to the reality of it all. Do you screen them well? Ask about their other experiences and group situations, how long they have been in the scene, etc? So no to newbie couples I reckon.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have tried to screen ........ For jealousy issues , have had 4 I won't call bad experiences but I will say not as pleasant or as fun as could have been , one in particular met had coffee which turned in to drinks and then dinner and then back to there place and then 20'odd minutes in to the raunchy stuff and he lost it couldn't stand seeing his wife enjoying someone but him yet it was he who wanted it the most and was real cool about it said they had talked about it for a long time blah blah I was really looking to see if she was reluctant nervous yes but not reluctant ...... Another time the husband called his wife a slut and up and left half hour in to it , having relayed these 2 experiences I have also had some great times but I have noticed there is something lurking beneath the surface with a fair amount of couples not lots just a fair amount so much so I will find my couples in bars or similar from now on hahahahahahaha bring on the attached women
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nah, though we play together so not really the same thing as your situation. But we've never encountered jealousy at all (at least, not that we've noticed) and we've helped a couple of couples into the lifestyle - we were ready for the jealousy but it never came. Shame for you to have to miss out on couples fun if that's something you enjoy. Mrs - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
But never from the male of the couple, but I'm talking couples play. I think it's important though for everyone to remain somewhat conscious of the other parties, so not just checking in with your partner but checking out how the others seem to be travelling and if necessary restraining your own behaviour. We've enjoyed MFM situations and they've been fun because the other M is relaxed, light hearted and shares. There's no chest puffing going on. Good that you felt you could read the situation and the vibe but getting up and leaving is a bit extreme, with good communication and careful selection that could be avoided... Sometimes.
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RHP User
12 years ago
So you are seeing newbies. That is always a mistake. Inaddition, couples with couples is a little different to having a single available man fucking your wife who may be doing a better job of it than you.
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sweetgem
12 years ago
First up, please don't misinterpret my message here Sarapis as I do not mean to be rude or anything negative at all. In fact, based on your line "bring on the attached women", I am interested to learn what makes you (or men in general) to feel so at ease that attached women won't get clingy to you? And that they won't cause any trouble for you and themselves, or develop emotional attachment to you if you guys keep coming back to play with each other on ongoing basis??? Unless it's a one-off and see you never again arrangement, otherwise there's always a good chance/risk for attached women to develop emotional attachment to a man who treats them right and fulfills their fantasies, etc., especially those who might not be happy in their relationships! Like I said earlier, I'm asking this question merely for my own curiosity, and I DO NOT speak for all women or anyone in particular, just from personal observation, I have seen some attached women who do want more than just a friendship and sex with another man outside their relationship. Apologies if you find my question offensive as it's not my intention.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well for me an attached woman is more desirable because she already has a life and is generally looking to spice it up a bit not so much a total change of life which suits me down to the ground , my life is good I travel a lot ( I'm actually off again in a few weeks for a month or so ) have a good career blah blah so I'm not looking to change my lifestyle at this point so hence my want / need for a non clingy person , I actually quite adapt at keeping someone as a friend and not letting emotions come in to play .....
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RHP User
12 years ago
It might seem extreme that I essentially up and left but it was the best thing to do , I didn't just hop up go and not say a word , I said words to the effect of " guys I'm picking up some bad vibes here , I think you need to really think what you really want , sometimes fantasies are best kept as fantasies " and then I shook his hand and gave her a kiss on the cheek and left
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hahaha I would like to think it is because I'm giving her a better one than he ever has / had I can be quite acrobatic and flexible and let's not forget the word inhibition is not in my vocabulary ( I had to use an online dictionary to be able to spell it hahahahaha :-)
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sweetgem
12 years ago
And that you didn't get me wrong with my question. It is always a knowledge to gain by hearing the answer from a man's point of view. I am similar in terms of what I want at this stage of my life, but it is not easy (for me anyway) to find, but I don't give up even though I keep running into idiots lol- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
The complete opposite in fact! Such a shame you've had these experiences, from your previous posts you sound like a couples wet dream ;) It would be supremely unfair for all of the couples out there to miss out because a couple of guys whose imaginations didn't match the reality, and I must give you massive kudos for being aware of your playmates. I'm with Meeka, go for experienced couples or the ones where you can take the Mrs for a spin first
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mrs
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RHP User
12 years ago
A couples wet dream .. Thanks for the compliment but I think that's putting me on a pedestal that I'm not deserving ...... I do love the mfm action but sometimes it's hard working the flow of some people with different mind sets that change I do try to be aware of what is happening around me , taking the lady for a ride prior sounds good in theory but I do really enjoy the visual stimulation that comes with being with a couple as much as I enjoy the physical stimulation ....... A bit like being in an interactive porno if that makes sense :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thats why we like to get to know a guy a little before we play and we pretty upfront about what we are after. As for taking me for a spin, it works for us A couples wet dream, compliment definately, you seem to respect the people you play with and are there for mutual enjoyment, plus you mighty hot!Definately Mrs!
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RHP User
12 years ago
now im blushing , I look at sex a bit like a business transaction its best if all parties are considerate of the others wants and needs and strike a happy deal where everyone is satisfied ..............and give good referrals
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