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couples going to far

November 04 2009

we recently befriended acouple who we were regulrly playing with they were newbies and she started falling for my man and then started abusing me on facebook how do i deal with these people

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Avoiding the people and the situation makes sense to me...If blocking is all it takes... YAY!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    get your man to tell her to back off....otherwise she will just think you're being a bitch....and make sure he isn't consciously or unconsciously leading her on or giving her hope that they have a future together.In the meantime....delete her from your friends list....coz she's no friend of yours.Just my opinion...BJxxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Hi funcouple.I was thinking the same thing as Trish..dam sticky situation for all...Does /is he aware of her feelings? (her bubby)And as missbj said.....is your hubby aware/ not aware of whats happening ?if so id get your hubby to say whats what. Some men as ive found can be oblivious at times,too wrapt up in their own stuff. I dont think she's your friend cant be trusted had it happen to me with my first marrage..but then i was he's second girl friend and longest relationship...meet him when he was 17yrs...But none the less..she can be poisoness to your realationship...Block block blocki wish you all the best...                              xoxo heymumma

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Customer69 - just got a little confused but now I know it's you....did I miss the name change??   funcouplefun - I agree with everyone on here about Facebook, remove yourself as a friend, this behaviour is definitely not on.    I also agree with Miss BJ make sure your guy isn't leading her on - he may be doing it and not realise and maybe you two need to address it together, eg both meet with her and her partner to tell her that this isn't acceptable, relationship over.   This is my biggest worry with this new lifestyle we are sampling.....   K.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    the woeds n bitchness coming from this women she said i hope you man rings me as i wanna fuck him still , wow some people have no respect thank you for all your support guys

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Seems like this woman isn't happy with her husband, if she was, why on earth would she be chasing another man so persistantly ?  You're right funcouplefun, she has no respect for her own husband let alone any male out there.  Block is the best option - if that fails - report.Some women shouldn't get married, pity the poor sucker that lands this type of female for life - she'll break his heart along with his balls.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    thats the risks u take wen swinging! ur husband shud tell her to back off she needs to hear it from him

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Agree with all the above!   It is the risk we take! As the male of our couple I would want to know and would be the one to tell the young lady in question its NOT ON! Mrs looking and my relationship is sacrosanct, this is in fact made clear to all who we interact with from the very beginning. As a part of that I would take the measures neccesary to make sure that stays that way! I am sure your man will feel the same way.   Kileetrev - we agree -  We talk as a couple about these scenarios often .... why..... because it pays to prepare for how it may feel or how you both think it should be dealt with. ( oh btw we are not preaching , sure you do to ) Luckily we have not come across this. We have thou at times had people play favourite, that stop even discussion with us VERY quickly! We agree just NOT worth the risk!   Suppose you never know when this is going to happen thou.   Wish you all the best. Take care           Block her yes!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    be carefull, alot of couples use swinging as a way to excite their own marriage, so there may be problems between them to start with, and they are only going to involve you guys. We have had it a few times, where couples have tried swinging as a last resort to spice up their marriage, and it doesnt work, as generally, jealousy starts creeping in as well. No matter how attractive etc they may be, stay well clear of any couple who are not secure themselves. we have found that being with others, has made our own relationship so awesome, we love seeing each other with others, and has made our love for each other even stronger, which is the way it should be. Dont let others ruin your own fun or relationship

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    What we do is basically keep it all separate. We have a separate email address/msn chat etc for our playtime friends and dont even give them facebook details.   Our family & friends are on facebook and our personal emails.   We like to play, but we arnt really looking to become best friends with our play mates, its great to get along yes, and be sociable when we meet up, but facebook to me is personal so they dont get that.   We also have a rule where we only ever play together, and that includes online too. Take us both or neither.   I guess it is one of those things that can go wrong. We generally only get together with guys anyway, so hopefully he wont run off with my man   Although we are starting to get more interested in couples ... so the warning of what can happen is always good to know. We are very much in love and secure in our relationship, and look for others who are similar. Bored married guys are good too coz they just want to get off   Anyway, good luck to you, MRS couple4umen

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Mr Ellandess here. We've had a few situations where a female friend has apparently developed some kind of crush on me, and I've been completely oblivious and had to have it explained to me lol. I'm hardly a superstud, but I'm generally a friendly, chatty guy and apparently I put out some kind of vibe that appeals to a certain type of person, who then somehow gets the idea that there may be some "spark" there worth pursuing, even though I'm in a secure, loving and very stable relationship already.In the very early days of our relationship, this led to some jealousy and cross words. She thought I was encouraging the behaviour, I thought she was imagining things (because I'm mr. thicky-oblivious heh). Fortunately our relationship is strong enough that we talked through it openly. As a result, she learnt to be able to tell me when something was going on without sounding accusing, and I learnt to take it seriously without getting defensive and to make sure to put a stop to it. funcouplefun, I don't envy you at all, but it's always a risk in this lifestyle that someone is going to let things get out of hand. I hope mr funcouplefun is able to take it seriously and will back you up and put a stop to the nonsense before it causes either of you any real problems.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    well my man put at stop to it and all contact we are not associating with these people no more so all is great having fun and enjoying life xoxoxox thank you all for you help