M50
cuckholding/open relationship
March 01 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am in a committed relationship and yes...I am faithful. Whether he is or not remains to be seen. When I am in a committed relationship I dont like to play the feild. Why would I bother with a relationship if that is the case? If one man is not enough for me then in my way of thinking he is the wrong man. I dont share my (b)toys at all. I never have and I never will. I could not handle it at all and yes that makes me a mite possessive but I do not care. All the couples can tell me until they are blue in the face that they trust thier partners, that they share true intimacy only with thier partners, yada, yada, yada. To me, someone giving thier partner "permission" to play around is just another way of saying they do not care at all what that person does. Not "I care enough to see them happy and if fucking someone else makes them happy then go for it" Not for me thanks. I can not and will not handle it at all. It has nothing to do with insecurity, nothing to do with jealousy. I just dont share. What is mine...is mine! Fortunately my partner feels the same way.
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RHP User
12 years ago
most women,single or married think like that.However there are obviously quite a few that don't.Centuries of social conditioning is very difficult to unravel.Serial monogamy seems to be the norm. Most women are still looking for a commmitted relationship but in the meantime some will explore other olptions,that is why they are here.Finding the ''perfect'' is indeed difficult OP,but all things are possible.
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RHP User
12 years ago
If it's a committed relationship then I dont want to share. End of story.
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trynsee33
12 years ago
Interested as to why you are reading and making comments about this lifestyle on RHP if you are not wanting share yourself or partner? We as a couple have been enjoying for only 3 months or so after 28 great years together but never ventured to be on any of these sites previoulsy as not relevant if you are not at least innterested or curious.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' Well spoken Freya , personally I think it goes much further back to primeval instincts where the woman is the child raiser and depends on her man to go out with his club to protect and provide food for the family ...if that man has more than one family to protect/provide for he can't be giving his whole to to that one woman , therefore detracting from his performance in that role . most women,single or married think like that.However there are obviously quite a few that don't.Centuries of social conditioning is very difficult to unravel.Serial monogamy seems to be the norm. Most women are still looking for a commmitted relationship but in the meantime some will explore other olptions,that is why they are here.Finding the ''perfect'' is indeed difficult OP,but all things are possible.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Furthermore that woman will continue to seek the best man for that role until she is satisfied that she has the best possible match , then hold onto it and fight off all other rivals with every means bar none that she can .Kinda explains why women can be such ruthless bitches when they feel the need ... they generally don't have the physical prowess of a man and as such have to resort to their wit to be as devastating as they can .
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RHP User
12 years ago
Freya, any person looking for their 'perfect' mate is doomed to fail. There is no such person except in their head.
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RHP User
12 years ago
By all means in main stream society many singles will play the field and enjoy a varied and experimental sex life, but when that special partners comes along yes they chose to say ok it's been fun but now your mine and mine alone. If that works for you fantastic and best of luck. We are married and yes we are very happy and in a better place now in the last few years with 3 kids down than we were in our earlier years of marriage. Yes we have started swinging and that's just one of many reasons why our life is pretty good at the moment. It's not mainstream normal I know but there are lots of people on this site that having a "sharing" marriage is working very well for them and have them in a happier place than they would have been if they werent sharing sex with other people. As long as my wife and I are committed to our family unit and respect that, if we share partners on the odd occasion to add excitiment to our relationship I don't see that a bad thing. Be the first to agree its not for everyone, and yes if my wife says one day I don't want to share anymore and that day will come as we get older I'm sure, I will be happy to do so as she is the most important person to me in my life. Just because we enjoy a little variety in our sex life as we enjoy variety in what we eat for dinner and drink day to day does not mean we are any less committed to each other or our family unit. Same old story everyone views it differently and what works for you is not works for someone else.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Women who are into the cuckold lifestyle are out there ...some just need a little time and education to embrace the lifestyle. I'll admit it was raised by my husband and it took me several years to get comfortable enough to embrace the lifestyle in it's entirety. We "dabbled" for sometime before fully committing. One thing i will say is that the emotional states of all parties need to be monitored and managed carefully.In many ways the dynamics resemble polyamory and it can be hard work making sure that everyone is having their emotional needs met. Unless it's a deal breaker for you, perhaps just look for open minded women who are happy to swing, then educate them on the benefits of a cuckold lifestyle over time. I think for some it just seems too good to be true, that the lady can play and the gentleman will remain faithful. Not to mention being treated like a queen
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RHP User
12 years ago
Karyns advice is solid,Look for someone online (we all find our relationships this way these days anyways) and click, if she is already open to play or at least interesting in learning about it, then she may be more reseptive to it.
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StookyAndChooky
12 years ago
We are both together for the long haul I don't understand why women wouldn't want a an open relationship after being single in the swinging scene. I was in the scene as single women before getting with my man. We have a happy healthy relationship we both go after women. We see it as a little bit of spice on the side.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'trynsee33'Interested as to why you are reading and making comments about this lifestyle on RHP if you are not wanting share yourself or partner? We as a couple have been enjoying for only 3 months or so after 28 great years together but never ventured to be on any of these sites previoulsy as not relevant if you are not at least innterested or curious. He did actually ask a question of single women. Although I am not one now, I have only ever been in committed long term relationships or played the field as single. . Stooky and Chooky. What is not to understand? It is each to thier own and I personally fail to understand why you would want to play around with others and yet tell us all that your partner means the world to you. No no no dont bother to explain your reasons....I have had it explaind ad nauseum. The thing is...we are all different! Open relationships are just not for me. It would drive me absolutely insane and spell the end of any relaionship I was in. In my mind it is the same as cheating. Just because you "have permission" does not alter anything. IMO This has nothing to do with society norms, jealousy, or insecurity. It is just the way I am. I play the field when single and remain faithul when committed. Otherwise, what is the point of being in a relationship? I might as well just stay single.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Handmaiden' He did actually ask a question of single women. Although I am not one now, I have only ever been in committed long term relationships or played the field as single. . Stooky and Chooky. What is not to understand? It is each to thier own and I personally fail to understand why you would want to play around with others and yet tell us all that your partner means the world to you. No no no dont bother to explain your reasons....I have had it explaind ad nauseum. The thing is...we are all different! Open relationships are just not for me. It would drive me absolutely insane and spell the end of any relaionship I was in. In my mind it is the same as cheating. Just because you "have permission" does not alter anything. IMO This has nothing to do with society norms, jealousy, or insecurity. It is just the way I am. I play the field when single and remain faithul when committed. Otherwise, what is the point of being in a relationship? I might as well just stay single. I get that you say its not for you and why its not for you, but to make comments that couples who are in a loving healthy relationships who choose to sleep with others consensually somehow care less about each other "how can you play around and yet your partner means the world to you", i find pretty insensitive and judgemental. You personally seem to define "cheating" as having sex with another person, whereas the majority of people whould define the act of lying about it as cheating, not the act of having the sex. So would it still be classed as you cheating, even if your lover came to you and said it was his number 1 fantasy to see another man pleasure you?As you have said "we are all different". Some couples use sex toys to enhance their sex life, some use pornography, others use other people. "This has nothing to do with society norms, jealousy, or insecurity". OP, in response to your original question, i think it has EVERYTHING to do with these reasons! Its not necessarily a bad thing, or a judgement on others, but a pure fact that many people (both men and women) have too much jealousy to allow their partner to have sex with another person (even if it turns them on!). A lot of men and women would feel to threatened and insecure to allow it, too afraid that their partner may have a connection with the person they are sleeping with i guess. And as for society norms, of course when youve got people like handmaiden runnng around saying "you have an open relationship, surely this means you cant really love or care for each other that much" then there are going to be women who wont go there for fear of judgement from others. Just my 2 cents hehe Mrs 2easy xxx
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WoodyWoodcock
12 years ago
I had recently found references to this curious fetish and personally, I think that is cool, sure a little weird, but still cool..everyone wins! Indoctrinated social Norms go out the window. Who is the Dom here? The Cuckold is getting right off on observing his wife enjoying herself...a lot ! Oh yes... The humiliation of watching her being fucked senseless by several bulls. He is probably moving in to catch the semen in his mouth as each fires his respective jiz rounds. Not only does his have to watch his wife getting the fucking if her life, but he takes the dehumanising step of gonnling up the mess. Sounds like a winner! His wife is getting he bejeezus pleasured out of her and whoever the lucky fuckers are that get to drill the wide has a big load off his mind and is feeling very relaxed. See everyone wins, but the wife holds the trump cards. Sounds like a pretty conventional situation. I'll put my hand up now. Anyone around Melbourne who lives this lifestyle will make me very happy if you would allow me to to come along to one of your events. I have really only just stumbled the Cuckold fetish so I hadn't put this one on my bucket list, but it has just been adde. I really have little idea about the real Cuckold, but even if I have this half right, it still looks like win/win/win and so on... Fingers crossed for an invite 😄 See we learn all the time...
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WoodyWoodcock
12 years ago
Should be asleep. The typos might make the read more interesting 😄
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RHP User
12 years ago
Me - I do not like to share.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well said 2easyones, couldn't have said it better. This is a swingers site which implies that couples are going to be wanting to share partners. Are people trying to use this as a dating site, kind of like going to a brothel looking for a girl friend.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's not for me because I am jealous and possessive :(. Useless emotions really, but it's just who I am...
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RHP User
12 years ago
i think an open relationship and cuckholding are two very different things... perhaps you should research both of these things OP and then comment... although woodywoodcock has and helpfully posted what cuckholding is:-D....note the key use of the term "humiliate/humiliation" this is cuckholding... humiliation is NOT what an open or polyamourous relationship is about .. I'm in an open relationship, i don't cuckhold my partner...big difference! and beas what several people before me have stated each to their own... have fun, enjoy and be safe FFJ
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RHP User
12 years ago
Freya hit it on the head for me. Monogamy is something that has been historically thrust upon us through the ages. I for one don't think that we are wired for monogamy, just that we have been taught to repress our animal instincts. Not wanting to make this a religious topic, but I think the mainstream religions have a lot to answer for in forcing monogamy and marriage to be the norm.Rant over, please continue searching for new sex partners
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WoodyWoodcock
12 years ago
Quoting 'slm114' Well said 2easyones, couldn't have said it better. This is a swingers site which implies that couples are going to be wanting to share partners. Are people trying to use this as a dating site, kind of like going to a brothel looking for a girl friend.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mrs3D is quite happy to share herself with other men when the mood strikes, which is pretty often!We much prefer mfm threesomes over group sex or fmf but we don't take cuckolding to the point where mrs3d uses men to degrade me and make me feel inferior.Our relationship dynamic is just about having fun, we may be married but that doesn't stop us from being allowed to experience other lovers, monogamy is a concept developed by the church and honestly goes against our very evolutionary nature.
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RHP User
12 years ago
We were individuals feeding our sexual needs as people do, now combined and never looked back, befor we met we were who we were, now we're a cpl and have been for some time, b apart of it, her exp should b a turn on, if she is telling u about her past gang moments, take your clothes off and start finding out were u fit in, try not to b negative mate, from us, hope u go alright.
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