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domination of a woman.....why do they love it
October 23 2011
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RHP User
13 years ago
This will be more than just interesting ......Brae
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RHP User
13 years ago
am nearly 50, have yet to meet a woman who loves to be dominated in the bedroom.... and dont really want to...so i guess i'm just lucky so far?
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RHP User
13 years ago
l When it comes to deep (not penetration deep...soul deep) and intimate, I prefer the missionary position. I can look at my man and every nuance that crosses hs face can be wondered at and acted upon. It is a feeling of having a big strong man in my arms but also the knowledge that I am still in control. I CAN do things that make him cum quicker or more slowly. I have more freedom of movement and am able to access and touch more of my partner in this postion than any other. Oh yes there are those that will say being on top gives greater freedom in this area but I dissagree. I am not a very tall person and the stability when it is woman on top (especially when the man has a large body frame) just isnt there. Even though many would see the missionary position as male dominated, to me that would be doggy. It is all about what the man wants and feels in doggy and rather impersonal at that. l I think that the way we live now, women have power in every facet of thier lives...not all but many in our western society do. For them to give it all up in the bedroom must be a tremendous release. I get told that the subbie holds the balance of power and I have had it explained to me ad nauseum. I tend to disagree with that. I do understand why many would want to enter a domination scenario...especially if thier working lives are so "in control" A matter of handing over the reins and control to someone else for however a breif time musy be intoxicating. Many men (and here again I must generalise as I do know it is not all men) use the idea of the male dominated role in sex as an excuse to be a bully and indulge in rougher than normal sex with scant regard to the needs of thier partner. l I dont want to be dominated. I dont want to dominate either. I much prefer the give and take of equals.
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RHP User
13 years ago
women love being dominated in the bedroom, because it makes a female feel female, being girlie is what we are designed for, nurture, love and affection xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Being dominated in the bedroom, is liberation for a female, it makes u feel girlie I love being dominated yet during everyday life it's about political correctness!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I agree totally. I have so many decisions to be made in my day to day life, that I enjoy surrendering to a man now and then. I also love the man being on top so that I can see his face, take those soft kisses, espcially after he has cum.
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RHP User
13 years ago
well, i can only speak for myself...but i only love/want to be dominated by my husband... submission is a gift, that comes from trust and respect... he treats me like a princess out of the bedroom (and in it..lol) ..he loves me, takes care of me, protects me and adores me....and so i just have this overwhelming desire to pleasure him and submit to him... i think when a woman feels, that she has a MAN by her side, she will want to be a WOMAN...and in the most primeval way, especially when it comes to pleasing her man..... being together for over a decade allows one to achive such a deep trust...where although i am in the submissive position, i still get exactly what i desire.... he knows my body like the back of his hand...he respects it, pampers it and worships it.... how could i not have the urge to submit to such qualities? :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
well, i can only speak for myself...but i only love/want to be dominated by my husband... submission is a gift, that comes from trust and respect... he treats me like a princess out of the bedroom (and in it..lol) ..he loves me, takes care of me, protects me and adores me....and so i just have this overwhelming desire to pleasure him and submit to him... i think when a woman feels, that she has a MAN by her side, she will want to be a WOMAN...and in the most primeval way, especially when it comes to pleasing her man..... being together for over a decade allows one to achive such a deep trust...where although i am in the submissive position, i still get exactly what i desire.... he knows my body like the back of his hand...he respects it, pampers it and worships it.... how could i not have the urge to submit to such qualities? :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
well, i can only speak for myself...but i only love/want to be dominated by my husband... submission is a gift, that comes from trust and respect... he treats me like a princess out of the bedroom (and in it..lol) ..he loves me, takes care of me, protects me and adores me....and so i just have this overwhelming desire to pleasure him and submit to him... i think when a woman feels, that she has a MAN by her side, she will want to be a WOMAN...and in the most primeval way, especially when it comes to pleasing her man..... being together for over a decade allows one to achive such a deep trust...where although i am in the submissive position, i still get exactly what i desire.... he knows my body like the back of his hand...he respects it, pampers it and worships it.... how could i not have the urge to submit to such qualities? :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
well, i can only speak for myself...but i only love/want to be dominated by my husband... submission is a gift, that comes from trust and respect... he treats me like a princess out of the bedroom (and in it..lol) ..he loves me, takes care of me, protects me and adores me....and so i just have this overwhelming desire to pleasure him and submit to him... i think when a woman feels, that she has a MAN by her side, she will want to be a WOMAN...and in the most primeval way, especially when it comes to pleasing her man..... being together for over a decade allows one to achive such a deep trust...where although i am in the submissive position, i still get exactly what i desire.... he knows my body like the back of his hand...he respects it, pampers it and worships it.... how could i not have the urge to submit to such qualities? :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
well, i can only speak for myself...but i only love/want to be dominated by my husband... submission is a gift, that comes from trust and respect... he treats me like a princess out of the bedroom (and in it..lol) ..he loves me, takes care of me, protects me and adores me....and so i just have this overwhelming desire to pleasure him and submit to him... i think when a woman feels, that she has a MAN by her side, she will want to be a WOMAN...and in the most primeval way, especially when it comes to pleasing her man..... being together for over a decade allows one to achive such a deep trust...where although i am in the submissive position, i still get exactly what i desire.... he knows my body like the back of his hand...he respects it, pampers it and worships it.... how could i not have the urge to submit to such qualities? :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
well, i can only speak for myself...but i only love/want to be dominated by my husband... submission is a gift, that comes from trust and respect... he treats me like a princess out of the bedroom (and in it..lol) ..he loves me, takes care of me, protects me and adores me....and so i just have this overwhelming desire to pleasure him and submit to him... i think when a woman feels, that she has a MAN by her side, she will want to be a WOMAN...and in the most primeval way, especially when it comes to pleasing her man..... being together for over a decade allows one to achive such a deep trust...where although i am in the submissive position, i still get exactly what i desire.... he knows my body like the back of his hand...he respects it, pampers it and worships it.... how could i not have the urge to submit to such qualities? :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
sorry everyone, i had no intention to post the same comment...hmmm... 6 times?... the page said "failed to post comment, try again"....and so i did.... liars, liars...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Firstly not all women like it so be very, very sure before you go down that path. I can only let you why I like it from my own point of view. In my career and at home I rule and make all the decision and it is exhausting. The last thing I need to do or want to do is make more decisions in the bedroom so the bedroom then becomes kind of a break from my normal reality which makes it much more fun and in fact it gets me thinking about sex a lot more than I normally would. At work NO-ONE would EVER question me so to be "taken in hand" for a good spanking takes a big man to be able to do (call it a primal thing) - and that's a fabulous thing for me and also brings the ego down a bit (puts me in my place again). Sometimes I think the expectations on women has just gone too far and we feel the need to be all things to all people - this is the outlet where I don't need to be that in the same way as in the "real world". The domination is only half the story though - I still believe in being taken out by a man, the door opened for me, dinner paid for, attentiveness to my needs wants and boundaries - this is really already giving him the power whilst still maintaining respect for you - so I just feel I am being respectful in taking that power into the bedroom with us as well. You can also take the dominance into your dates and even a little into daily life building the anticipation and foreply before you have even touched. If you do some research into domestic discipline they are some of the happiest marriages and relationships around - it may seem odd into today's society but maybe we don't have it right all the time. I for one and tired of proving myself all the time and working so hard so embrace such dominance so I am just free to be me. The bedroom is supposed to be fun and enjoyable - domination can take many forms from from just role play to full on sex slave. Whilst I don't want the the later the first one, and some things inbetween turns me on and makes me feel great about myself and my lover also gets to feel the power of domination along with making me happy - I've never seen men happier than when they get to release that side of them - that way everybody is happy.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well said. I too got the failed message a number of times so hope I have not done the same things sorry if my message comes up a number of time as well everyone - thanks for understanding.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Postings, that is... ;)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I do not like being dominated at all not so far in what I've experienced. Taking the lead is a different matter fucking is like dancing you want to bring out the fire not extinguish it. I like a partner to lead but not always it really depends on who i'm fucking guy or girl but pure domination no I tried it with strangers and for me its an absolute no no unless I trust that person implicitly. There is only one guy who has that trust.Although I'm still looking for the right girl...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fiona as with most topics, great insight - always love to see your comments. Domination of woman in the bedroom. Hmmm, are you sure who is dominating who. Just because a woman is on her knees in front of you does not make her dominated. Being held down (consensually) is not being dominated. Even is she asks for the more serious forms of domination, is she really being dominated. Who is in control mentally. Sucking you, yet could stop and you are left begging for me. Held down with just a touch of implied force, are you not loving it, yet it has been at her request or allowing. Have you ever stopped to think these are things the woman wants as part of her excitement. Apart from non-consensual force aspects (wrong wrong guys don't even think it, always get agreement), I'm yet to find a woman not dominating me, no matter what we are physically doing. Even if through finger and tongue play, you have the woman squirming, shivering, calling out for more (just love that - go the ego) I want her being pleasured just as much as that is what is getting me excited. Tease you enough, even by giving you what 'you' want, still has you prepared to beg if taken away. I have a friend who worked in the sex industry for 17 years. Played many 'roles' yet always ensured she was in control. Fine line though, get the man excited enough he is yours like putty, yet push too far with the wrong person and the guy to turn nasty. She has discussed some very interesting views on domination. Occationally talks about a fictional concept, Gorean Slavery. In a way, talking about the woman in an agreed sex slavery role. It is still only giving over physically not mentally. Domination is an art, more than a physical art, it is far more psychological. You only think you are dominating. Seriously, think about it guys. Work the mind, not just the body and maybe, just maybe you can start to dominate a woman in the bedroom.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If you can adore and cherish her,learn about her psychologically better than she knows herself, bring out the very best in her in every way, help her grow in a healthy way, challenge her, entertain her,protect her psychologically, physically and emotionally, seduce her and be worthy of her adoration and fiercy loyalty........you might just enjoy the enormous privelidge of her submission. It's a rare man in the BDSM community that is worthy. 95% wannabes and pretenders goodgrl
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cbdlivin
13 years ago
Goodgrlzsayplz I do like that way you put things. Anyhow not all woman like to be submissive, but if you up for the challenge of a submissive woman the challenges can be outstanding. In saying that my personal opinion is getting that match who matches you is still the challenge. But between the wannabies and the people who decide there is only one way of doing something and god forbid you disagree with them the BDSM community can be a pain, though if lucky you can have great fun. B
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RHP User
13 years ago
Like your comment tooty sometimes the man feels like that to. A time to relax and not have the decision making responsibilities for just a short while. As far as kissing after orgasm it should be the only way to finish a love making session.
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RHP User
13 years ago
As with the other female posters on here, I am in control of so much at work and home that sometimes I just want someone to totally take charge and make ALL the decisions for once. Let me just enjoy it without me having to constantly use my brain. Be a bit rough, let me know who is the boss. I want it to be hard and furious but passionate. Walk through the front door and just grab me without even saying hello. Hmmmm This would have to be with someone I totally trust and respect though. Someone who knows what I like but also knows my limits. There is a fine line between domination and abuse sometimes!
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RHP User
13 years ago
you can do all those things goodgrlz, and still have her look you in the eye as an equal. and i guarantee she'll love you more for treating her properly,with care and respect.......... because the other stuff eventually sours or overwhelms people...........
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'jas10119' Domination is an art, more than a physical art, it is far more psychological. You only think you are dominating. Seriously, think about it guys. Work the mind, not just the body and maybe, just maybe you can start to dominate a woman in the bedroom. Well said jas. Pusscat xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Generalisations about all women aside, I'm going to go ahead and say that it's for the same reason men love being dominated. Submission isn't about weakness or anything, I think it's actually about freedom. The freedom from having to think and take charge and make decisions, and to just let somebody else deal with all that for you. It's liberating to just let go and be in the moment.xx Stuck
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RHP User
13 years ago
When you say domination do you mean that you simply take the lead and decide the positions and activities or do you mean BDSM type domination?The first is physical, the second is psychological and there is a world of difference in between.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Being open to your own desires is one thing, being open to explore is another, but being taken is something you have no control over. Although you need to do it with someone who knows how to play you...........t
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RHP User
13 years ago
Interesting question and everyone will have a different answer and it really does depend on what you mean by domination. Do you mean on a one night stand or in an established relationship? Dominated as a sub, pet, slave..? Or maybe you meant why do "some" women like men to take control in the bedroom. I too, like other ladies that have replied to the OP, have total responsibility and control for my professional and home life. For the most part, I love this and this is my choice. However, how I prefer to handle the different aspects of my life are very different (work, home, bedroom). So many times I have heard guys (young and old) assume that a woman CEO/boss/manager etc, would be a "hard bitch in bed 'cause she has balls of steel" and other comments about lack of femininity in any aspect of her life. Perhaps this makes it difficult for some to understand why a woman in aposition of control and power in "one" aspect of her life, craves the opposite in another aspect. (possibly why ironically I tend to attract submissive men! oO) fionabee made a really great point with her comment about handing over the reins and control to someone else being intoxicating. However, handing over the reins doesn't mean being a silent starfish or a non participant. For some women, including me, it makes me connect deeply with my femininity. "My" perfect ideal of a Dominant is someone who will connect deeply with me pychologically which will then enable him to push limits/boundaries in a positive way - like personal growth/learning but we BOTH benefit from it even though our needs are different, the result satisfies both. This level also requires complete trust which I believe can only develop over time (and a patient Dominant ;p) Being dominated doesn't have to include BDSM or other kinks. I know a sub who gets off on humiliation - I personally couldn't think of a bigger turn off. It's about balance. Some people manage to evenly balance each aspect of their life and some balance it differently ;p There's a good article about Dominant women enjoying submission fantasies here which might give more food for thought for some.. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psyched/200905/why-dominant-women-enjoy-sexual-submission-fantasies-part-1
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RHP User
13 years ago
There's a good article about Dominant women enjoying submission fantasies here which might give more food for thought for some.. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psyched/200905/why-dominant-women-enjoy-sexual-submission-fantasies-part-Great article many thanks. Very interesting reading..I have to say if you have got to 35 and have never met a woman who enjoys being dominated, I think it screams more about you than says anything about human psychology. Surely we all have the foresight to recognise that with all society comes diversity. That very diversity itself is one of the things that make us who we are as humans. To acknowledge that you can't see another persons opinion is a reflection on you , not the other. .Brae
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RHP User
13 years ago
Makes me hornier to let the guy think hes dominating me...........but is he really ;) xxTrips
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