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etiquette with regards to couple to couple contact
November 21 2013
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madotara69
11 years ago
we give out our phone number, either one of us will be answering the call. If it were to be a phone call to another couple, we would expect to have the option of speaking with both halves of the other couple.Once we gave our number to a couple, though when the phone rang we became aware that there was no female half, we had a bit of fun with the bloke as he was pretty funny and had an entertaining story to why he was so lonely at the time.He did not bother us again after that so it was all just a bit of harmless fun.Since then we are much more careful to who we give the phone number too, as we were lucky that the bloke left things at that, others might become a pain in the arse.It is much easier to find more genuine people through becoming familiar to themselves through posting to the forums. We have had no problems for that.Mado Tara xx
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Perhaps, if that's what you want you need to let them know that in the beginning? Or did you? We've had contact via message both ways around... Girls talk, boys talk, and crossed over. It depends on the couple we're talking to. X Me
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RHP User
11 years ago
only text. We prefer to meet in real life if we are interested....see how the chemistry is that way. But I think your thinking is right - male talks to male and female to female.
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
Hers is a work Blackberry, not to private.
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luvsilver
11 years ago
Mrs Luvsilver is always the one who does the texts or calls to the other couples, single woman or single men. Nine times out of ten the number given to us from other couples is usually the males. Mr Luvsilver
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2interestedinu
11 years ago
We prefer to have the girls talk to each other and make plans.....I couldn't organise a shag in a brothel ;)
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rupamohan
11 years ago
It depends on how you want to define your choices...even etiquettes can differ..but we like to define as phone rules. We tell our default rule of engagement is when we pass phone number.. There is one basic difference between us and most who have some kind of rules. We are flexible and happy to explore changes to protocol but only if we can be shown the merit. We don't mind who picks up or call but we expect female to come on line after exchange of greetings.
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Openly_Curious
11 years ago
Our profile includes reference to wanting to ensure a profile is genuine, which is easiest to do if the women chat briefly. So far that's worked well. On a related but slightly different note, many couples sign emails with both names. After a few exchanges I start to get a feel for whether it's the male or female writing (or if they take turns) but I really appreciate when a couple identify which one is doing the writing. Tess
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am the planner/organiser/party co-ordinator so it is normally me (female) who takes the calls/texts. He is also a bit shy so having a conversation with strangers is not his thing.
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fortands
11 years ago
As a rule now we only communicate with the female as a preference as male chats have been tinged with a one sided view in our limited time on RHP. We feel that most females are the ones who generally decide the flow of things as the guys can seem a bit blunt and lack the necessary guile. There are so many guys who say they're allowed to play alone and use a couples profile to try and get a foot in the door too. Bit shameful but some people will try anything!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Paradisepair
11 years ago
When my worklife gets hectic it rings non-stop so I actually like not using it when I can BUT even so we feel it's important for the calls to be either girl to girl or couple to couple. This is to confirm it's a real couple and she's a willing participant. Had a conversation with a lady who runs party once and she says when she insisted on speaking to a man's wife, after excuse after excuse, he did a monty pythonesque attempt at getting the address from her pretending to be the non existent wife.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like to speak to the woman first. It has also been good to catch up with the woman prior to meeting the couple. I don't know why but it seems to make it better.
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jafuncpl1903
11 years ago
when we do get to the calling part we like to have the female half chat on the phone and arrange things
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chevtrek
11 years ago
As Mado says
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rupamohan
11 years ago
Quoting 'fortands'There are so many guys who say they're allowed to play alone and use a couples profile to try and get a foot in the door too. Bit shameful but some people will try anything!! - Posted from rhpmobileI allow my man to play alone when I am not around or when someone ask. But they still go thru me. Mostly these are couples we have already met or sometimes Asian girls who don't like third person around.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi there, we arranged for a time where everyone is one the phone with speaker phone just to start. You can hear their interactions, and you can tell if it is staged and non genuine. This really helped us
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RHP User
11 years ago
Conference calling is a good idea - we might try it next time. In the past we've just kept it simple. If the other "organizer" is the guy, then I (the guy) will look after it and vice versa. Ultimately my partner and I don't mind as we share with each other the messages before/immediately afterwards so you really are dealing with both of us.
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Mr_MrsJones
11 years ago
Mr Jones doesn't like being online, messaging or generally organising a date. Some would say that is a bit lazy, I will reserve my judgement. However that means if you message us you will get Mrs Jones replying about 95% of the time. Generally I find the person doing the chatting is usually the male and I don't mind. I find females hard to talk to a lot of the time so crossing genders is not an issue for me. I do have a healthy respect for wives and girlfriends though. If I even get an inkling that the female half of the partnership is feeling insecure or threatened or pressured or is non existent all bets are off!
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Taby_DK
11 years ago
We have met 2 couples from RHP so far. DK usually prefers that I'm the one to exchange messages and make first contract rather than him as he is very busy with his full-time job and doesn't have the free time. I feel more at ease if I'm conversing with the female member of a couple and things just seem to flow better this way and DK prefers this. With both of the previous couples we met up with I have only ever texted the female member, it never got the the stage where they felt they had to talk to us on the phone as they felt comfy with us and both meets worked out well. So we defiantly have the rule that if I give my number to the couples it is the female I converse with In this way I can also get a feel for how "into it" the female half is and weather or not she is actually keen or simply doing it because its expected of her. Its better if all members want to be involved Taby
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RHP User
11 years ago
We find that when exchanging details, there is no real set way. I guess we've had a bit of luck with who've met so far. The initial contact varies but we find when the girls have a chat, even if for a cpl minutes by phone, maybe to confirm a time and place for example. It provides a confirmation of the meeting between genuine couples. Having said that, there have been occasions where he gets on with she and vice versa. Generally is starts on the right foot and continues into a pleasant all round experience for all. Unfortunately so many are time wasters but with a bit of experience in phone screening, they are flushed out and you can move onto genuine cpls, who fortunately are also out there. Thank god lol so we can endulge;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
It has been great hearing everyone's views and opinions on what the correct etiquette is. For us we aren't so hard and fast with rules that we are too concerned whether the female talks to the female, male talks to the male or one of the males and one of the females talks. At the end of the day, the main thing for us is making sure there is actually a couple and not a single guy whose partner mysteriously fails to materialise when it comes time to meet. We like the idea of a phone conference, quick and easy way to weed them out :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi verry new to this site finding this mobile app extremely difficult to navigate posted one pic but not up yet waiting approval wtf please explain ?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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precious142
11 years ago
I have been approached by quite a few "couples" on this and other sites..............amazing how many of the females are at work/away/sick etc.......and when you ask for them to go on cam - surprise surprise!They (the profile) disappear - go figure!!!!Just saying.......
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RHP User
11 years ago
It should not be hard for any couple in a secure relationship to both be involved in conversing with either person in the other couple. This is not primary school. There is definitely an issue of 'fakes' on here , thats why it is best to meet or have a phone conference soon after exchanging a few messages so that the truth comes out sooner rather than later. Just means you have to keep things more local. The bigger issue her is the number of people that read you message check out you profile, a few times, then never reply , not even with a 'no thanks'. Rude and frustrating! (Although the worst are the entirely made up fake profiles of hot single women...)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Devixen123 - Pics have to be reviewed first by an admin. It'll eventually get approved. ;)
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