RHP

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flaccid males

September 26 2013

Have just read thru a topic similar about couples who meet then the male cant perform, mine is similar but a bit different. Have recently met 2 men (at different times) enjoyed chatting enough to meet. Enjoyed the meeting enough to want to meet up for sex. Then while we were naked & starting to enjoy each other the first one said "my medical condition doesn't let me get an erection" with the 2nd one it was "haven't been able to get an erection for years". This is a sex site & I know penetration isn't the only way to enjoy sex but for me it's a pretty big part of it. Shouldn't it have been spoken about before? or am I asking for too much? do I need to put on my profile 'only contact if you can get hard' any thoughts, ideas or help would be appreciated, thanks

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    😊

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Clear non disclosure of essential information. Did their profile names elude to erectile dysfunction? I bet they didn't! It's a fair expectation that basic sexual function exists. DG - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    both gents just had a soft spot.FOXY

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    there is a high percentage of men over 50 who have this problem...some are prepared to do something about it,eg Ciallis or Viagra,some can't due to other health problems and some just wont.I met a man when I first joined who didn't disclose hat he had a problem and when I talked to him about it he said sex wasn't important to him.I think it is very unfair to not have a discussion about this before you end up in bed,and yes there are heaps of things you can do,but as Mae West famously said..A good man is hard to find but a hard man is good to find''ps..always talk to them on the phone before meeting....a voice can tell you much.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Just flip him over and poke him with a Strapon. That way someone gets fucked. 😝😝

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    It has happened to me once, its an, awful situation. Didn't make me sexy or attractive and I thought it was me. It was not till later he disclosed, it was him and guilt. Sometimes a man just can't get hard...there's various factors...stress and nerves mainly too I think. If it is medical, for me I would want to know prior, that way I can make a choice. If they don't tell me, my choice is taken away. To me it saves that awkard situation. Communication is the key. FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile

  • wingman2014

    wingman2014

    11 years ago

    All those much maligned profiles with cock shots . Just maybe all us guys should have at least one stiffy pic on our profile.....as hard evidence And you're right , it is definately a detail that should have been brought up in conversation well before the meet.... Very selfish.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • wingman2014

    wingman2014

    11 years ago

    Your lucky they didn't also suffer from a flaccid tongue or missing fingers , but then maybe the stump would have been interesting 🍆- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    Lol @ stuffy proof.... .... because EVERzyBODY is using recent pics in here to sell their wares LOL- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Bahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    those who are ready for some prime advertising, back on topic though, it's poor form. Rank actually.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I think you should have definetly known about the "conditions" prior to meet for sure

  • ruby_blossum

    ruby_blossum

    11 years ago

    joins an Adult site....with holds the info and then wonders why some women get upset.They had better be fabulous in other ways of satisfying a women.

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    What could I possibly say .....?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    This is why i want them young ...but i know those young ones will be old too one day , xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    just like females who have no libido etc do exactly the same, join an adult site et al

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    What OTHER stuff they're withholding???- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Coops27M

    Coops27M

    11 years ago

    I took mine a few weeks ago? Should i use old ones instead? Lol- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    For the majority of men being able to get an erection is an integral part of what makes a man a man. To admit to this being a problem in his mind will make him less of a man and therefore more undesirable. Touch is still very very important. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    At least you don't have to post that they only wanted penetration, wham bam thank you ma'am.But seriously, lies of omission suck as much as any other kind of lie.

  • cleopatrababe

    cleopatrababe

    11 years ago

    Agreed not enough honesty from men leads to mistrust with woman ,,, be upfront and tell us how it is , there are some woman who dont mind no dick so dont be ashamed none of us are perfect

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    have been known too carry Viagra.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    I always talk about sex with potential meets. I want too hear about there experiences as ummmmm...... If some one said too me they hadn't had sex in ages I would take a wide berth.

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    11 years ago

    B====D~~

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Sometimes they can, and sometimes they can't, happens about our age. Luckily I've never been left feeling wanting.   But as to the OP's situ, disclosure should have certainly been made prior to meet on both occasions. Without a doubt.

  • threesixty

    threesixty

    11 years ago

    If the workings of the penis are suspect, might be time to explore medical intervention guys. What's the point of organising a HOOK UP to tell the poor girl your Roger is not working? WTF.. Why waste her time and your....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Roma, the guy was in the wrong for not being upfront about his condition, especially since it's going to have such a big impact on the reason for getting together.I've only just come back to RHP this past month after taking 3 months off - I injured my neck during a training session, and it lead to some of the worst tension headaches I've ever had, and the most excruciating of those coming on right after sex. I still had a premium membership at the time and (being the type of guy who turns lemons into lemonade) messaged a few women who may have been interested in other things besides penetration judging by their profile. I explained my situation, told them I was essentially "flaccid", and that I love giving oral, caressing, and playing with toys - no luck at all, don't know what they thought because I didn't get any responses. It wasn't a bummer, MsNewCouple was fantastic (as always) about the whole thing, and we got to know a few new silicon friends quite well.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'inspirit'thier.... *Their     I've never used Viagra, where would I get it?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    all you need to do is pick their pockets

  • ruby_blossum

    ruby_blossum

    11 years ago

    cwhereitgoes...I dont understand why women with no libido are on Adult sites either, Justforfun...yes, I agree, lies of omission suck, what ever the reason.As Handmaiden said, touch is very important ! It really is vital to our wellbeing...I can understand the men & women need to feel the power and happiness of touch, just baffles me why they dontlet the other person know before hand so they dont find themself in a situation of anger and guilt.

  • wingman2014

    wingman2014

    11 years ago

    A George Clooney mask- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Plain

    Plain

    11 years ago

    No excuses you should have been told, if that guy new that he had a problem, its the least he could have done. My situation resulted from a medical condition that was over zealously treated, that was the symptoms and not the cause, in short my body produces to much adrenaline and I have extremely high blood pressure. Back to the discovery of the inability to stand to attention, was my partner and I getting frisky and i said that there was something wrong, I said normally I would have an erection by now and nothing she tried to get him going, the worst of it was the ejaculation when flaccid. My partner looked at me guiltily as though I was no longer attracted to her, this pre major cancer operations and was certainly not the case at the time. I even did some thing foolish and tried an escort service nothing, so I went to see my GP and after 3 three years of experimenting and patience I am back to near normal, I wrote (near) as I have had the odd I wont say missfire but difficulty in staying up right and hard. For me Viagra and the like are not options as they are lethal to my present condition. It is a touchy subject probably struck off everyone who has an interest in me list by now (Yeah I know typical bloke self deluded and conceipted). But there it is my short abridged story, I have a lady friend who understands the situation and so far she has had no complaints about things, so you compensate and she now knows what fun foreplay is now!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mesmerised' Quoting 'inspirit'thier.... *Their     I've never used Viagra, where would I get it? Don't bother with Viagra, Cialis is the one to get, lasts at least 36 hrs I/2 a tab at a time.You need a script from a gp but it is available online. I have no experience with online stuff, I just don't trust it. Although I would listen to reccomendations.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If its a medical condition then the guys a prick. He should have been straight up. If its one of anxiety, unfortunately that happens. For men it's sometimes more about not wanting to disappoint their new found friends! When you over think things it can go from bad to worse pretty quickly. Once a guy becomes comfortable with you he relaxes. He then has a better chance of performing with a full set of golf clubs so to speak. Not much sympathy for the loser with a medical condition unless he is upfront. Just my thoughts.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Sympathy for the guys in question, if it is a true medical condition - but FFS this is an adult sex site. Did you really think it wouldn't be an issue?No sympathy if they're simply covering up performance nerves. Apalling form.Either way, honesty disclosure, as early as possible is the way to 'man up' when this occurs.Following on: I agree that Cialis is the way to go over Viagra, but never get anything online (so risky). Have a chemist give you the right stuff after you've seen a GP for a script. Side effects may occur - i.e. minor headaches the next day, and exhaustion from shagging all night.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Who else has had men go flaccid at the sight of a condom? One of these days I'm going to learn how to put them on with my mouth so they don't see it cumming I agree if its a medical condition then it should be discussed. If its performance anxiety I always reassure them there's more than one way to satisfy this pussy . . . .meow

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    yes - there are other ways, but it's deception by omission I'm afraid.. no play without honesty for me... if he chose to tell first then maybe things could have been sorted out and everyone could have had fun - this way both of you were disappointed I guess :-(

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    thanks everyone, I was starting to think I was being unreasonable. I don't expect anyone to put it up on their profile but all I really want was to be told so I could make an informed choice. If it were a performance anxiety thing then no prob I can work with that. Might have to change my mind & start looking at you younger men!!!