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'flogged' forum topics - old topic - new members

December 28 2011

While reading through some forum posts, I noticed some members getting rather uppity about topics being discussed that, had already been discussed in the past (I also noticed some members not being distressed by this and instead offering a link to past discussions on the same topic).What irked me was a recent post by a member who was expressing his "disappointment in RHP management" for continually allowing posts on the said subject, stating it had been "flogged to death many times before" and then a suggestion to point people in the direct of previous posts so as to "not waste anyone's time".Rather than hijack that thread, I would like to point out that:No one is forcing anyone to read topics that clearly (according to some) have been flogged to death. If it annoys you, skip it, or perhaps add a link to a previous post if you think it might help gain a greater insight.New members may not have joined to spend endless hours/days reading through past posts - in fact some may consider that a waste of their own time. I have tried the search function and found the success rate moderate.With new members comes (hopefully) new insights and view points. Perhaps these new members like to be actively involved in the discussion or sharing of their view points. I find it more than a little arrogant to read comments that basically condemn "newbies" to the corner of the forum archives rather than shed new light or personal opinions on topics.Failing all that, perhaps such members would like to create new, never spoken of topics, for the viewing and contributing pleasure of all members - seasoned or new.Now if you will excuse me, I need to go find my dummy and if I find anyone else's, I promise I will return it.

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RHP User

13 years ago

and damned if ya don't.Someone starting a new thread has two choices: forge ahead and take the chance of recreating an old topic or using the search button and resurrecting an old dead post.If they do the first, some idiot will rip into them for not using the search button.If the do the latter, often the same idiot will rip into them for bringing back a dead thread.Personally, I would rather create a new thread each time. If you bring back a dead one, I think it stifles any new thoughts and there are people who posted on the old one that might not still be around to defend themselves if others disagree with their opinions.With a new thought, everyone can say what is on their mind about the topic, it is fresh so to speak.As for the good old chestnuts like lack of replies, no profile pictures etc, they will come up once a month, they don't last long, and they can be fun. Remember as Newkee says, if you don't like the topic name, don't read it and FFS don't make an arse out of yourself by bitching about it !mooka

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RHP User

13 years ago

I have been on here on and off for a few years.. (Either I am getting so much sex, I dont want to leave - or I am getting none but am particularly optomistically persistant - or I am getting very little, and therefore obviously here for something else) I dont bother searching for old posts and do see repeats often. I dont get very many posts accepted, so, when the topic is repeated, I get to TRY AGAIN. Your DUMMY hit me in the eye, and I will hold it until you show proof you have read my email to you. caveman

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RHP User

13 years ago

@ cavey50 Ok still laughing as I type this. If only I had of seen this post before I responded to your messages, I could of demanded a description of my dummy. Is it the princess bling one... or not? lol@ mooka Quite right. I simply don't get the angry tone in some of the posts condemning people for topics that have been discussed previously. I DO get that it can be a little 'old' or repetitive for some (and when dear old gran tells me the exact same story for the seventh time, sometimes it does take more than a little effort to look surprised and super excited as if I am hearing it for the first time... but hey, she is having a ball!). Sometimes I just wonder how many other "newbies" are reluctant to join in discussions on forum posts for fear of upsetting some people (it's one of the reasons I am too scared to ask why some of my inbox messages are highlighted in pink/red... and trust me I have searched the help area lol) ;p

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RHP User

13 years ago

People come and go on the forums. It is like anything else...ever evolving. Those who have just joined the forums are full of new ideas, new veiwpoints and are just intitled to have thier say as someone who has been on here for two or more years. Those that have been around for a while need to stop and realise that this is all new to someone who has only just joined and stop being so impatient. They didnt join in the last time the topic came up and imagine how boring the forums would be if all we could do was resurrect an old topic and read the replies. Apart from the information and advice given out in the forums it is also a means for people to notice one another, see what someone they have thier eye on has to say on a point of interest. I also agree with the others who said that there is no requirement to post on a topic if it no longer interests you......move along.

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Paradisepair

13 years ago

This is something that happens on boards everywhere. No matter what the niche which brings everyone together there is always a couple of topics which no-one can agree to disagree on and the claws come out. The first time I ever tried a forum I got flamed for reopening an old thread on a hot topic, I didn't really understand what the fuss was about as I just wanted to add my 2 cents. Armed with an understanding of forum ettique I'd only consider bringing very specific topics back to life if it's dropped off the first page... Things that not everyone can relate to or contribute to.

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RHP User

13 years ago

We are with you guys, we see no harm in raising a topic that has been discussed before. The ones who complain ....... Why cant they read the title and think.....yes remember that one I know everything there is to know about that, and move on.

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RHP User

13 years ago

I don't mind topics repeating themselves...If I have a view or opinion on the topic I will comment...maybe I may have the same opinion as the last time I have posted on the same topic, maybe in that space of time from the last post to the latest I have had my eyes opened and changed my mind and opinion.... I certainly will never make comment that this "topic has been done to death"...then offer a lenghty post on my own views regardless...

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RHP User

13 years ago

we dont think so.... the topic might be repeated, but the sentiments of the posts reflect a whole new batch of peoples opinions.... it doesnt matter how often some of these topics are recycled, theres always something that can be shared or indeed, even learnt, by being involved in the discussion.... in between might be the time we need to go away and reflect, or put into practice something we've read, shared or realised after being part of the forum process............. i personally am looking a little more inward of late, and am attempting to adopt a more forgiving and understanding point of view.... hopefully without losing my sense of who i am and who we are as a couple, along the way.... so... bring it on, lets look at some of the topics that people actually care enough about to ask over and over.... and see what we can discover about ourselves and each other............. how can that be anything but good??

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