RHP

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frustrating head !!

April 11 2012

after being in a very long term relationship with a woman who didn't mind to give head ( but didnt really love it) but would never take me to the point of orgasm from the oral as she was worried about taking my cum in her mouth or on her body anywhere, i now find that because i have not ever really allowed myself to relax and enjoy the feeling that i cant actually cum from oral sex. She very much loved to receive oral and i really enjoyed giving and did at most of our love making sessions. Guys have you been in this situation and ladies have you had issues bringing a partner to climax from oral? any suggestions on how i can turn this around ?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ...about 17, my girlfriend was sucking my dick quite well for a beginner. When I told her I was cumming, she jumped up and screamed. With that, her mum came running into the room. As a result, I was unable to cum by blow job until I was 30. I was with a lovely lady who was giving me an amazing blow job in the front seat of my car. I was getting the most amazing feeling and it was with some surprise that I told her I was coming. She didn't stop so I told her again. She actually picked up the pace and clamped her lips around my cock. I blew long and hard. It was fantastic. She took every drop. When she was finished, she licked her lips and asked, "How was that?" "I told her it was the best I ever had." Then she told me she loved me so I promptly drove her home to her husband. The "L" word was even scarier than the mother but at least I was cured.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Just relax and tell all your potential blower's that ingesting cum is good for a woman's health.Particularly in Winter, possibly even a cure for the common cold.....lots of phagaocytes ....or something like that.Can also be good for the skin and when collected in jars a delicious ingredient for chocolate cakes....they should be lining up for you then,x Hugs H

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Yes I agree with Jensman here, it's mental conditioning or the result of a little scar (or scare depending on the mother lol) Once you find a lady who 'loves' no likes to do this for you, it may change dramatically (if you let it go mentally) just knowing the woman really wants you to cum, hearing her moan as you get closer and closer may just inspire you to get her a little wet around the mouth ;) I would probably discuss it with your partner or partners in crime, but not to the point of making it an issue.......you want to let them know it's not their fault if you dont cum from the oral, but in the same breath let them know you really would like to some may see it as a little challenge and that could be a bit of fun for both of you while taking it on a polar opposite of the head space you would usually be in where it's concerned. I have had to overcome many things sexually, and most have been to do with my own mental approach to it, I am still a work in progress but cumming along nicely now

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ...it only takes 21 days to completely change a habit, or 21 women each day that are willing to wait. I'd go for the first one so just keep looking for the right woman. | No, three times daily for 7 days is not the same. Read the label...follow the prescription.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    for about five years with one woman.. as soon as i'd get near cumming she'd back away.. such a turnoff.. next one after that would just nibble on the head but would swallowwhen i was 15 my first girlfriend used to take my 8 inches into her throat, touch her nose on my stomach and swallow.. if i'd known then what i know now.. ie. that virtually no women can or are willing to do this i would've put a ring on it..oh well..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I think you may find that there is a very different culture of women on here...woman who love their sexuality, who love to please love to be pleased and definitely love to give head;) I had a very sexual man that surprised me by saying in one of his messages " I don't really like BJ's". ...that issue has since been " cured" ;) of course it makes a difference to you mentally and physically when you kniw you are with someone who luuurves to give. Don't put pressure on yourself to perform just make sure you are with the right partner and lay back and enjoy. Gosh you will have some fun during that " treatment process" Good lick oops I mean luck Minxy xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    im with the above...its all in your head the only person that can change that is you my ex had the same problem....his ex would never let him cum in her mouth so he trained himself not too...then i came along and i love to swallow cum so he had to retrain himself to be able to cum in my mouth   good luck in finding the perfect girl to help you   Hugs

  • ruby_blossum

    ruby_blossum

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...it only takes 21 days to completely change a habit, or 21 women each day that are willing to wait. I'd go for the first one so just keep looking for the right woman. | No, three times daily for 7 days is not the same. Read the label...follow the prescription. Rite !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    For two years I suffered. I could not have an orgasm during oral sex for the life of me. No matter how hard I tried..it just would not happen. Then a few months ago I met a man that really did not spending more than two minutes down there. He did not lie in his profile...he really did like giving oral for hours and hey....problem solved. . Seriously, I agree with the others above...it is a mental block, keep trying and one day someone will manage to get you there.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Just let me swallow this mouthfull first so I can answer that. Oh and need to wipe stuff off my tits and belly sorry what was the question again?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I enjoy getting head, but prefer going down on my lady friend. I feel guilty almost as if I am taking advantage. Up until recently I hadn't cum from receiving oral in two years. I wouldn't worry about it mate, honesty is the best policy with your partner. Its always best to voice what you like and your concerns.....alll the best, btw Your pic looks like that toothpaste commercial "Hi this is Ron he is a dentist, Say hi Ron"

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    hi all thanks for the positive comments and encouragement ! i will keep you posted on my progress cheers

  • xFunlovingx

    xFunlovingx

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'hungryhippylover'for about five years with one woman.. as soon as i'd get near cumming she'd back away.. such a turnoff.. next one after that would just nibble on the head but would swallow when i was 15 my first girlfriend used to take my 8 inches into her throat, touch her nose on my stomach and swallow.. if i'd known then what i know now.. ie. that virtually no women can or are willing to do this i would've put a ring on it.. oh well.. The one that got away? Lol too funny......Gave me a good giggle! Hugs...xFunlovingx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    From an early age I was seeing older girls that loved to swallow, so I guess I was lucky in that way...lol. You will find a lady that just does it for you....pushes the right buttons and that you feel comfortable with. Girls give head the way that they are used to so it might not be the way you like it....never be afraid to give some tips on how you like it ;) There are surprisingly a lot more women out there who love to swallow than you would think....bless them all lol

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    13 years ago

    why the hell then can't i change my habitual sexual desires Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' ...it only takes 21 days to completely change a habit, or 21 women each day that are willing to wait. I'd go for the first one so just keep looking for the right woman. | No, three times daily for 7 days is not the same. Read the label...follow the prescription.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    ...one of those 12 step programs to recovery. | Quoting 'inspirit'why the hell then can't i change my habitual sexual desires | Quitting is for losers who don't care where they finish the race...go hard or go home, or at least do them in that order and never forget to say thank you before you close the door. | The first step is easy....I'll admit to my addiction and who cares if I am powerless. The second step, well in this environment the women seem to be the higher power and please do attempt to restore my sanity. Naaaaa...skip that, I don't suffer from insanity...I enjoy every minute of it. Besides, reality is the only roadblock to success. | After that...I quit, but please do grab about 20 other amazing women and meet me in the basement! | If this works...it will just be faaaaaaaaaan-tastic! | | PS...this guy needs to jump threads! There's a hot chick on another one who can't get her guy to do the deed and well, she's talking like she might just suck the bedsheets through his butt if he gets her motor revving. Good luck!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Love to do it, happy to swallow. Guys cocks are shaped like lollipops for a reason Hope you find the lips of an angel to coax that cum out of youI, on the other hand, am yet to have a guy bring me to orgasm with his tongue or his fingers. I get close but never tip over the edge and I get bored if he's been down there a while. On my own I can do it in a few minutes, or longer if I have the time. Don't know why it's this way, am hoping that at least one of my new lover boys can sort me out

  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Heaps of guys can't cum from just oral sex, some don't even like it that much. Everything doesn't need to lead to climax you know, just relax and enjoy the attention you're receiving, stop putting so much pressure on yourself. :)