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hard being single when you are hard and single!

August 10 2010

hi everybody, discotrash here, you may also know me from my couple profile dms2004. i'm just writing to say that i completely sympathise with single guys right about now! mrs dms is OS until december and we both decided to make the most of the open and honest relationship we've built over 16 years. so i re-instated my single profile discotrash thinking i may be able to meet some other folks out there who are like me in regards to the joy of sex and are looking for experiences they can remember for ever. OMG! what a drag, it's certainly been tough and i'm a really broad minded individual and can find compatibility with heaps of different sexual situations and fantasies... but how soul destroying is it fellas? i'm always very careful to read profiles thoroughly so as too make sure i feel as compatible as possible and can write a really personalised and hopefully enticing message but always seem to be the wrong guy! don't get me wrong, i'm lucky to have a number of good friends who are sometimes around and able to offer benefits but i prefer to play with people that i met on that premise as there is usually no risk of ruining a friendship. don't worry, my chin is up and i can't take rejections too personally as these people who've replied in the negetive (thanks for taking the time by the way!) really wouldn't know me from just reading my profile and looking at pics... not sure why i'm writing this, maybe to make myself feel a bit better about it, maybe to vent or maybe i'm fishing for sympathy votes! anyway folks, i hope you are all having a blast! love and crazy times, discotrash.

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14 years ago

try being a single woman/man you have someone....why are you whinging??? try actually being single....you know. having NOBODY not just married with the wife away for a week geez you married men are annoying off to my rant post i think...feel another one coming on roxxy

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14 years ago

Sorry couldn't help myself, after you wrote " you may also know me from my couple profile dms2004." i immediately thought of Troy McClure from the Simpsons. Though seriously, yes it is, that is why i gave up looking while i still had some obscure sense of self worth!Cheers Nev

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14 years ago

"...really wouldn't know me from just reading my profile and looking at pics..."that's why it's so important to have a profile and picture that reflects your personality as much as possible, that has more to say than "have cock, will fuck!". at the very least, enough to intrigue a person into wanting to find out more. something that makes you stand out from the rest of the men...especially since adult dating sites are pretty much a womans market and the harsh reality is that they've got the luxury to pick and choose who they want to play.

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14 years ago

Oh Disco baby ........ hard and single ....... I too have both a couples and a single boys profile I too have a wife and kids........ I too am hard and ......oh you get the point ....... I get stacks more attention on my couples profile , I have always put it down to the fact that Sarah's arse is a whole lot more sexy than mine! I must say while I have been lucky on my boys profile having a couple of luuuuuurvely young ladies come by and say hi buuuuuuut it is harder ! So all this leads me to a support group for happily married horny dad's who wanna get laid (HMHDWWGL) for short and cause its obviously easier to remember ! We can sit around at the single blokes nights at lotus and couple club for example egging each other on about who is gunna get lucky and get invited to join a couple for a ...... drink ? Or do a bus tour of sex shops ....... Perhaps sit around and tell stories about how we almost had a single or married chick interested in our single guys profile ........ Anyone else keen to join .....So fella's you with me ...... how about the ladies ....... anyone keen to play a "special guset role" at a meeting of HMHDWWGL ? Brae ..... the founder of HMHDWWGL ...... still looking for his Mojo !

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14 years ago

I have to agree with you discotrash. I have been here on and off for a while. I've never had anything but knock backs. I don't even bother trying to meet anyone anymore. I have the added disadvantage of having a head that not even a mother could love, and a body that has a genetic throwback to the apes (body hair). When you look at someones profile and see that they have a heap of friends with the bodies of Charles Atlas, or the schlong of John Holmes, or both, you know there's no point. I'm lucky enough to be seeing a lady at the moment. Her guide dog is cute too. I think this is likely to be a short term relatonship, rather than long term, but I'm under no illusions of being able to come back here as a willing participant and find some fun, or a relationship.

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14 years ago

hey thanks for all the replies folks, i never expected it at all! @tassierose- no-ones whinging here, reading your post it seems though that you are whinging about married men! and obviously i was single before meeting my wife so yes i have tried it and know how lonely it can be and i tell you what? i prefer it to my current situation which is me being personal slave to two children, having my sexlife practically disappear and having next to no social life or adult contact apart from work. i recall loving single life and i had a blast using my time to it's best effect. @brae- please let me know when the club is starting up... i can maybe trade you some mojo for membership. @casava- i hear you but this is a sex orientated dating site and quite frankly i like rude pics when done well, plus for obvious reasons i'm not gong to put my face pic on my profile1 besides the kind of people i'd want to play with would enjoy the picture selection i've put up. @goingdown and nev- youse guys make me laugh! never intended this thread to actually go anywhere so thanks for the efforts (good and bad!)

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14 years ago

doesn't work! I've tried, lots! :)

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14 years ago

"..but this is a sex orientated dating site.." of course it is, but it doesn't mean people have to be completely coarse and vulgar about it, at least if you are, pepper it with some kind of personality and humour.that kind of narrow scoped thinking rarely ever results in any kind of success. some people (most women and the more mature minded men) are actually interested in the life support system attached to the genital organs, regardless if they're only interested in a brief liaison or something longer term. at the very least, they want to know that this person isn't going to bore them to death in the 5 min interim between shagging sessions, or he isn't some kind of psychotic sociopath.basically, they want to know why they should pick you in particular, over the 50 other men with the same message "have cock, will fuck, worlds greatest lover". and they probably won't unless you're a brad pitt lookalike."..quite frankly i like rude pics..." sure, but aren't you trying to attract other people, not you...? also, 99% of guest members are unable to view rude pics, unless they were a previous paying member sometime in the past."...obvious reasons i'm not gong to put my face pic on my profile..." there are so many other photos composistions other than sticking a mugshot and still remain relatively anonymous, be creative, it might actually give the impression that you're a creative, imaginative lover...which is a stronger reinforcement to claiming verbally that you are."...besides the kind of people i'd want to play with would enjoy the picture selection i've put up..." if they were around then this particular forum thread wouldn't exist. isn't it one of the signs of insanity... doing something the same way over and over again and expecting different results to what you've been getting..?POSTSCRIPTI wrote all the above lecture without actually looking at your profile. Made the ASSumption that you were the usual lazy arse guy on here. So for that you have my deepest apologies.Before, if i found a profile of that calibre who also fitted my physical preferences, found him attractive and it was reciprocated, I'd be definitely pursuing where it would lead to and the possibilities. It's reality that we can't attract everyone and the opposite, not being sexually attracted to every person we come across. Even on a sex site.I also had your problems but the reverse. untill i got neutered. now I couldn't care less whether I find someone or not.

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14 years ago

Quoting 'discotrash' hey thanks for all the replies folks, i never expected it at all! @tassierose- no-ones whinging here, reading your post it seems though that you are whinging about married men! and obviously i was single before meeting my wife so yes i have tried it and know how lonely it can be and i tell you what? i prefer it to my current situation which is me being personal slave to two children, having my sexlife practically disappear and having next to no social life or adult contact apart from work. i recall loving single life and i had a blast using my time to it's best effect. well now you should try being single and looking after those kids all by yourself...have no one around to help you...only have a break one night a fortnight...only adult contact you have is on here, or unless you want to drag 4 kids along with you...what the fuck is sex and a social life at least when it all comes down to it you have a person you can turn too and that loves you...maybe you should be grateful for that im fairly sure each and everyone of us would love to go back to our single life before shildren when we got all the sex we wanted and didnt have to worry about anyone but ourselves see that is what annoys me about the married men...they just dont see what they have roxxy

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14 years ago

"there is no try, only do" - yoda

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14 years ago

Just when I was thinking.... where is the love. , , , Here it is!! lol

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14 years ago

@casava- so glad you wrote that retraction at the end of your post becuase as i was reading it i thought "this person hasn't even looked at my profile" and just fyi, i am starting to get somewhere on the site and have started meeting some people... atleast online which does give me some nice fantasy fodder! i agree with everything you wrote... yay! @tassie "well now you should try being single and looking after those kids all by yourself...have no one around to help you...only have a break one night a fortnight..." um, tassie, that is my current situation. and i DO know what i have and i thank the universe for it everyday. this post was not about finding a soulmate it was about finding horny likeminded people. please don't generalise about married men, i'm sure it's based on past experiences and i'd never be so bold as to be-little that or assume that it couldn't scar your perceptions but it's a big world out there with people of all sorts of sexual natures and varied personal relationships. i know i'm one of the lucky ones but i don't feel there's anything wrong with wanting more in life, sexually or otherwise! maybe read a person's profile before taking shots, your aim will be better. love, disco.

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14 years ago

Quoting 'TassieRose' Quoting 'discotrash' hey thanks for all the replies folks, i never expected it at all! @tassierose- no-ones whinging here, reading your post it seems though that you are whinging about married men! and obviously i was single before meeting my wife so yes i have tried it and know how lonely it can be and i tell you what? i prefer it to my current situation which is me being personal slave to two children, having my sexlife practically disappear and having next to no social life or adult contact apart from work. i recall loving single life and i had a blast using my time to it's best effect. well now you should try being single and looking after those kids all by yourself...have no one around to help you...only have a break one night a fortnight...only adult contact you have is on here, or unless you want to drag 4 kids along with you...what the fuck is sex and a social life at least when it all comes down to it you have a person you can turn too and that loves you...maybe you should be grateful for that im fairly sure each and everyone of us would love to go back to our single life before shildren when we got all the sex we wanted and didnt have to worry about anyone but ourselves see that is what annoys me about the married men...they just dont see what they have roxxy Actually I NEVER got "All the Sex We wanted" when I was young and Single...I couldn't 'Pick-up' in a Brothel! lol...ALL the Sex I've had has been in a Relationship!...NOW that's SAD!...haha...

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