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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It took years of talking before my husband and I finally bit the bullet.  I think it's really important you know and respect what each other want and how far to go.  Have some ground rules but also some backup plans... for example when we first started playing my hubby didn't want me to kiss the guy, he found that too intimate and personal yet one day we were in the situation where it felt right and he just gave me the nod to go ahead... so have some secret signals you can give each other to say either yes this is all good or no I'm feeling jealous and it's not working for me.   We also started slow, hubs organised a guy to meet us at a hotel room and just give me a sensual massage, that way if we had of wanted more we could have gone further.  Swingers clubs are often a good place too because you don't have to do anything you don't want to, it's ok just to watch and see how things go.  It's a pressure free environment (provided it's a good club) where like minded people can meet, openly talk about what they want and how they think they want it to happen.    Hope this helps you and good luck K

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  thank  you soooo much we didnt end up goingto the swingers party  the other nite but never mind we will get there one day at least we are talking about it bit more freely now days

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