M43
how bad looking is too bad looking
October 15 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
Mate:..Sorry to hear about that mate...But.. Fck it...I wouldn't fck you...just saying... Mind you.. I wouldn't fck you even if you were a good looking fella like me either... Good luck with the treatment mate...
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
There is nothing to be embarrassed about. It's a perfect imperfection. We all have them- every one of us. I had a lover who had the same condition. The fun part was after a shower I would rub zinc castor oil cream all over his body. He told me he was ashamed of his condition and had trouble finding women as it's a mood killer in the bedroom. I told him, there was nothing wrong, as I saw him for the person he was. There are women out there who are going to see past and see you for who you are. Fuck the rest! Go get em Tiger! Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
No I wouldn't mind at all. Ive dated a guy with psoriasis when I was younger. I also went out with a guy whose left side of his face and neck had been burned in an accident. The person inside the skin is what attracts me the most. So if someone has an issue with you thats their problem.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Personally no, it wouldn't bother me. But as with any question like this, the answer is some won't be bothered, and some will. Despite saying that you want honest answers on here you'll probably get few or none of those who would be put off by it posting on here. Most people don't want to take the risk of offending when it comes to a topic like this, as well as knowing that if they are honest they may well cop flak from some of the other posters. You say that you wouldn't want to be with someone who has your condition, I'm interested to know why that is, can you elaborate on your reasons? I had a bout of psoriasis when I was younger so I understand a little about how the visual look of it can affect your self-image, although my case was not as severe as yours and it cleared up fairly quickly (it seems I've now developed the associated arthritis but again quite a mild form so far limited to my toenails and fingernails). I wish you the very best of luck with your treatment.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Firstly,I wouldn't touch you because I'm not of that persuasion.....😊 What I am on here to do is say how strong you are to come out and ask such a question. I hope it all works out and hopefully you can find someone to rub the zinc cream in... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
8 years ago
I guess if I was looking for a fwb or a fb - Yeah I think it would bother me and I don't think I would be intimate with anyone that had a severe case. I don't know much about the condition but I would be concerned of hurting you and what happens if I dig my fingernails in and scratch you? Does that cause pain. Also is there a clean up afterwards, with sheets and things? However if we were dating or already involved and you developed it I think that's very different scenario. Just my thoughts and opinion having never been faced with such a situation.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Plus 1 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I too suffer from psoriasis. It is mainly on my back and legs. I have been having light treatment at the hospital, free of charge. There is also a new injection that has just come on to the PBS, its called Cosentyx. I am about to try this. I haven't had anyone not want to play because of my psoriasis. Wishing you all the best. 😀 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes I agree with Missb for reasons of hurting you. I love oily sex so that might affect your condition as well. As for a long term relationship that would be different as there are feelings involved and I would be happy to rub medication on my lovers body. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well mate I've also got it and yes it suck the big one...but I've seamed to have mine under control ATM but that's not to say I don't get flare ups....I totally understand the shame and all the rest but don't do that to urself as it makes the condition worse as with stress and things like that is make it worsen..... Lovers, fwb and fb.....have them all and have never had anyone complain mention or even look at my spots......and I have a few on my dick at times.....but with treatment (I'm using UVB light treatment) it has reduced it to nearly gone/manageable..... After all my ranting.....the point is just keep playing and lookin..... Happy hunting in the pie..... Jeff - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
...Haven't seen you for a while, Dryphuz. I'm not into guys, but I doubt I'd mind if a female friend had a skin condition. As long as I think she has a pretty face, I'm attracted. I have a friend who has quite severe acne scarring and she's hot as fuck. I guess the rest of her package...her wit, intelligence, looks, humour...outweigh that minor observation. However, I'm well aware that she doesn't think it's as unimportant as i do. You sound like a clever guy D, play to your strengths perhaps.
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are many different things that go wrong with the human body, no one is a picture of perfect health and physical appearance. You have one thing, which for you manifests visibly, others have underlying things that also cause them worries - nervous, muscular, skeletal problems etc. I have harmless lypomas which are fatty lumps under/within the skin. Others have more severe issues through to disabilities, and would love just to have normal bodily functions. Chances are if people are able to accept imperfections in themselves, they are able to accept it in you. But I do understand, when you have something (physical or other) that shows outwardly, it can be hard to find someone to become such loving and accepting partner to begin with. My advice is to do everything to get out and meet people through all social occasions here that come up. You will find many are looking for the real you and will take the time to get to know you, and not what may be on the surface. Once they know you, chances are they won't bat an eyelid at such a condition.
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Dryphuz
8 years ago
@ luckdragon- My reasons would be the same ones Missb4u put forward. I didn't specify, but i did mean fb and fwb. A true partner, someone I'm in love with would be a different story. I guess when it comes to just sex without the extra attachment I'm into the fantasy of the thing, and my fantasies don't include a skin condition like mine. However, posting this and reading the answers has made me think and maybe I'm starting to temper that fantasy... rubbing cream all over each other does sound kind of appealing. @missb4u- No more pain than normal, but scratching will be more likely to draw blood than normal skin. So clean up will depend on whether you get blood stains on the sheets or not. However i rarely bleed unless i scratch a plaque too hard and not all of it is deep enough to bleed regardless of how hard you scratch. Some plaques are really shallow. Otherwise clean up is a matter of a vacuum basically every day, which is little enough, but is a pain in the ass. Zinc cream? I've had psoriasis for around 15 years now and I've never come across anything with zinc in it. mostly its vitamin d, calcium and corticosteroids. The artificial vitamin d is a bitch because its a pill and you cant drink at all while on it. not that i'm a heavy drinker or anything it just sucks to be the one nursing a coke in a crowd of beer drinkers. the calcium stuff, you have to watch your dairy intake cos it helps your body retain calcium so much it can give you kidney stones. And the steroid stuff is just a pain cos its greasy to the touch and takes hours to sink into the skin. I guess this is the response i'd expected. Some will be fine with it, others wont. I'm a bit of negative nancy though so i tend to expect the worst and am often pleasantly surprised when things turn out other than i imagined. Pessimism has that one upside.
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Missb4u
8 years ago
The others that suffer from this, do you tell partners before hand, show them pictures of what to expect or just don't mention it and see how they react once you're naked?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Has the dermatologist suggested any of the biologic injections like Enbrel, Humira etc? I started Xeljanz, which is a twice daily tablet for rheumatoid arthritis, nearly two weeks ago and within 3 days my eczema had cleared up. They are also using this for Psoriasis with very good results. Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have wrinkles, stretch marks, scars, when I pick up weight I have a putting green on my arse, and yes, sometimes severe eczema too. Especially on my hands. My attitude is fuckit, if people can't see past that then they won't be seeing any other part of me. My advice is meet people and discuss it face to face. Hopefully they aren't that shallow that they judge you on your appearance. Try stick to natural products for washing, there is so many harsh additives in just about everything we buy, I hope it goes well at the dermatologist
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couplefairride
8 years ago
Have you tried moogoo for psoriasis. That is great lotion. No I wouldn't get with someone with a skin condition. But long term lover yes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
And I think it's more prelavant in the hotter states, where as the flare ups don't seem to be as bad in the cooler climates. Have I got that right or is it the other way around 😂And depending on the severity of it, good size patches here n their shouldn't bother most. It was the last thing I was picking out when it came to choosing my partner I wanted to date in my early 20s. I could see why it would bother you, I'm single to and we all have our flaws... but I think your flaws bother you More than what they would bother a potential partner - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
No, I wouldn't take on a lover who was covered in psoriasis. But I've been known to be quite fussy, shallow, whatever you want to call it, I'm a visual person and I'm not going to apologise for it now. I've been rejected because of the way I look and I'm not offended by it, most people have preferences and that's completely understandable. I wish you the best of luck with your treatment. 💋
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
No i wouldnt take on a new lover with any sort of handicap. Too much choice to get what you would rather have. Different though if a person you have emotions for is stricken down with something. You stick by them if the love is there. I had a lover many years ago who became diagnosed with MS. I did not have a deep love for her and i parted company. Call me what you want but couldnt visualise myself pushing a wheelchair around
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'll preface this by saying that I don't judge/look down upon people with skin conditions and I've suffered with eczema in the past. You're who you are not what you have. In saying that unless I have feelings for a lover, I don't think I could go there. I'm like Summer in that someone's face is the most attractive part to me. But I'm one of those that can't stand people peeling their sunburn, and anything coming out the skin kind of turns my tummy a bit - even on my own body. Friends and family not an issue. But being intimate with someone however is completely different. Like Lovinit said Ive been turned down because of my appearance and that's ok. Again like Summer I'm a sucker for scars. I find them fascinating and a bit of a turn on. I'm scarred and have issues with that. Whereas a lot of people find scars revolting. Sometimes we can't explain why things turn us on or off it is what it is. But lots of people have said they wouldn't have an issue and I believe that's the case. Best of luck OP!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I always love your posts 😘 Unfortunately when it comes to this site, if people just want to hook up it all comes down to looks. But the beauty of it is that there is such a range of what people find attractive, along with what people are looking for relationship wise that everyone has a chance. I have lots of freckles and spent my teenage years trying to cover them, lemon juice them and bleach them (with actual bleach) Some people love them and are attracted to me because of them. Others think freckled skin looks dirty, or only like the look of "pure" skin. I can't do anything about them unless I undergo painful laser treatments and never see the light of day again. And I think freckles are a great example - you've got people paying a fortune to have them lasered off every inch of their body. While hundreds of YouTube videos and magazine articles are showing you how to fake them with makeup? We've all got physical "flaws" - wrinkles, skin conditions, balding, sagging, stretch marks, crooked teeth etc. Some people will notice them and write you off on site, some won't notice at all, and then some will find the flaws intriguing and be instantly attracted to your looks as a result.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious'But I'm one of those that can't stand people peeling their sunburn, but that is the one up side to sunburn! Before it dries too much and rubs off like snow, when you can ever so slowly and carefully pull away large soft sheets of skin. You're weird Soft ;-)
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RHP User
8 years ago
In the States, people all starting to look the same. Plastic surgery, teeth straightened and bleached ( oh and dont forget butthole bleaching! ) and liposuction. One of my friends was horrified that I have no intentions of having my slightly crooked teeth fixed and whitened. Our flaws make us unique. This may be veering off a little but it comes down to the same thing. Physical attraction can wear off. A deeper connection can become stronger.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You were so that boy who picked his scabs in class, weren't you??
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sounds like you'd love those Asian nail bars. They file ladies feet and what's left on the floor.....well let's just say I don't visit them anymore 😕
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Dryphuz
8 years ago
S check out milky foot... I've seen pictures of people who have managed to peel off a perfect footglove worth of skin. Thanks for replies folks. Especially those of you willing to say that no you wouldn't be able to deal with it. I was expecting more of those. I try and always let potential partners know before hand. Funnily when my forehead was pretty badly plagued i was less self conscious about it. People could see there was something when meeting me. Now i have to be naked before it becomes obviously apparent and i think that has something to do with it. Having to talk about it and explain, sight unseen, while before people interested would ask and have some idea what they were in for before that critical nude phase. Soft I like freckles. Always have.
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inspirit
8 years ago
Just dropping in say, I'd FUCK you UP.... 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Now don't laugh yet. About 40 years back my wife had psoriasis on one foot and went to her Doc about it. He was an old codger and said to collect her pee and bathe the condition with it. It's because pee contains urea was the reason given to use it and it worked. Now her condition was nowhere near as bad as yours but it fixed it up and hasn't returned either. I forget now being so long ago exactly how long and how many treatments before everything was fine. But if I were you I'd try it on something small for a period and see how it goes. Worst could happen is you'll have the dogs sniffing you. Best of luck but give it a go.
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