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how much are we willing to compromise...to get what/who we want?
May 31 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
planned liason with said lady revolves around fullfilling a particular fantasy? There in lies your answer.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am not sure OP, if you mean you only want to play with a man in a MFM situation,because that is your fantasy, and you only want to play that way? I am a little confused because your profile states you only want to play with a female. Given that we can have more than one fantasy,and more than one person to fulfill those fantasies,if you play with this man itdoesn't mean you give up the fantasy,it just means he my not fulfill it. Of course ,I may have misread your post,and for that I apologize.x Hugs H
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Letsgetcrazy09
13 years ago
Does your desire make you want to play? Are you prepared to play with the one desired even if that means that your fantasy will not be fulfilled? Personally, if I had a fantasy and that was what I was on here for and only to have that fantasy met, and that fantasy wasn't going to be met, then that would be the end of the story. If however I was open ended on what I was here for then there would be no problem. It is up to the individual concerned as to what they want and if you are not going to get it don't proceed. If your reasons change from your original intention, then go for it. JMO Cheers Lets
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mmmm...sorry, it is a little confusing...i also have a couples profile...i mean to write this topic from there...Ohhps..hope i am making a little more sense now
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RHP User
13 years ago
sorry if my post was slightly confusing...lolthe situation, that aroused that question, was not the primary point....what i was curious about was not so much a solution to my story...but the hypothetical question itself...how much would most of us be willing to compromise, to get the person we want/like/desire..?there are a lot of "hit "n" miss" on this site...so when you finally find a person, who you really seem to resonate with...on more levels, than one...how much of your original fantasy/desire are you going to let go of?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ahhhhh now I get it.....thanks.....xHugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
...you don't have to 'let go' of a fantasy just because you indulge in another. The original will always be there for you to come back to if you get temporarily side tracked.
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RHP User
13 years ago
It is a rush when we start chatting with someone who we think may have a similar take on our fantasies..you know that moment when you think mmmmmm this could be fun...then we look forward to chatting more and waiting for an email reply etc..but if nothing comes of the chat then how deflating ...all dressed up and no were to go !!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Taipan12' It is a rush when we start chatting with someone who we think may have a similar take on our fantasies..you know that moment when you think mmmmmm this could be fun...then we look forward to chatting more and waiting for an email reply etc..but if nothing comes of the chat then how deflating ...all dressed up and no were to go !! You hit the nail on the head there!that excitement, that anticipation...that is a big part of the build up for me !!it's a little bit, like the old times...before credit cards...when you had to save up for something, you wanted...how much more excitement you got, out of something, you had to wait for a little, when you finally got it !!wait and anticipate...till it was finally yours !so much more satisfying, then just like it and get it on the same day...that was the part, i would have had to skip...as for the "all dressed up and nowhere to go"...LOL...it's better to be loved and lost, then never have loved at all!!(English is my second language, so please forgive the errors in the quote...)
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RHP User
13 years ago
"sensualtimestoo" is the couples profile of "lady2lady"....i never know, where i am !!!damn you, red wine !
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was in a couple situation online once,gave in to my parteners needs too much. I did enjoy the buzz for awhile but then thought,why play with this dickhead. I can get what I want without sacrificing my needs. So for me now,no I will not give in to have a playmate. Have more self respect now!
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RHP User
13 years ago
PRIORITIES.....like anything else in life....Is the most important thing the connection and attraction to the person??? or your attachment to the fantasy???Now by engaging the person over time you may convince them to help full filed the fantasy....If the connection is strong enough it is most likely that it may happen.....Choices will always be there to be made......What will it be ????
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RHP User
13 years ago
isn't that fulfilling a fantasy in itself? May not be your first fantasy but you can always fulfil that one later. If you desire him I'd say go for it!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Illbursecret' isn't that fulfilling a fantasy in itself? May not be your first fantasy but you can always fulfil that one later. If you desire him I'd say go for it!! very much what i was gonna say... problem i think is in lady's case that she wants to play with the guy but he doesnt want to play with her whilst her partner is there and lady is a lady and wont play without her partner being present..l.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Me personally.... well im sick of compromising because if i think about each and every 'liasion' for the past say 6 or even 12 months... ive given all i can give and in all reality - yes i've been satisfied but not fulfilled... im done putting on a smily face and saying yes.... now its my turn!
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RHP User
13 years ago
True fullfillment only comes with a true connection and pair bond. Love perhaps.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ramee01' Me personally.... well im sick of compromising because if i think about each and every 'liasion' for the past say 6 or even 12 months... ive given all i can give and in all reality - yes i've been satisfied but not fulfilled... im done putting on a smily face and saying yes.... now its my turn! Quoting 'feloniusfossil' True fullfillment only comes with a true connection and pair bond. Love perhaps. Cheers FeloniusIt's not something you find in casual encounters. Believe me, I've tried.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' Quoting 'ramee01' Me personally.... well im sick of compromising because if i think about each and every 'liasion' for the past say 6 or even 12 months... ive given all i can give and in all reality - yes i've been satisfied but not fulfilled... im done putting on a smily face and saying yes.... now its my turn! Quoting 'feloniusfossil' True fullfillment only comes with a true connection and pair bond. Love perhaps. Cheers FeloniusIt's not something you find in casual encounters. Believe me, I've tried. I understand what you guys are saying but i meant fulfilled as in my fantasies and/or desires being fulfilled... I tend to aim to please so much so, that i forget about myself and those i am with have their fantasy, desire...call it what you want... met and they're done. I generally hear back for repeat performances but not alot changes. I'm now with teasegoddess....I come first.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'meet2plzu' Quoting 'Illbursecret' isn't that fulfilling a fantasy in itself? May not be your first fantasy but you can always fulfil that one later. If you desire him I'd say go for it!! very much what i was gonna say...problem i think is in lady's case that she wants to play with the guy but he doesnt want to play with her whilst her partner is there and lady is a lady and wont play without her partner being present..l.that was not the case, actually..:) the problem was more the fact, that he was involved with someone...deeper than i first thought...and that would have put limitations to how much he was allowed to " get involved", interact, etc....which in turn would have put limitation to my mental foreplay...a part of my fantasy...
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RHP User
13 years ago
That is the way it should be,a please for a please, Too many lazy men out there,who died and made them Kings????Quoting 'ramee01' Quoting 'jensman1903' Quoting 'ramee01' Me personally.... well im sick of compromising because if i think about each and every 'liasion' for the past say 6 or even 12 months... ive given all i can give and in all reality - yes i've been satisfied but not fulfilled... im done putting on a smily face and saying yes.... now its my turn! Quoting 'feloniusfossil' True fullfillment only comes with a true connection and pair bond. Love perhaps. Cheers FeloniusIt's not something you find in casual encounters. Believe me, I've tried. I understand what you guys are saying but i meant fulfilled as in my fantasies and/or desires being fulfilled... I tend to aim to please so much so, that i forget about myself and those i am with have their fantasy, desire...call it what you want... met and they're done. I generally hear back for repeat performances but not alot changes. I'm now with teasegoddess....I come first.
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Smilingwithfun
13 years ago
Perhaps if the age bracket of the men you seek was around your age not lower then maybe the attiude of the men in bed may be different.- call it the Cougar effect. That is the man thinks you want him for his age, whereas same ages you both want each othre. Just a thought- almost a new topic
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Smilingwithfun' Perhaps if the age bracket of the men you seek was around your age not lower then maybe the attiude of the men in bed may be different.- call it the Cougar effect. That is the man thinks you want him for his age, whereas same ages you both want each othre. Just a thought- almost a new topic the person mentioned above was actually the same age...but i think i understand what you mean...:)
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