Bubbaj

Bubbaj

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how to stop the thinking....

June 01 2013

so just been out to a very packed orgy nite.....lots of fun been had by all except me.....i need help in finding out on how to let go... how to stop my mind thinking and just do....i want to do things but then my brain kicks in and says dont embarrass yourself...they might not like what your doing etc.any tips/advice to help overcome such thoughtsfrom a very frustrated self pleasing lady :P

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Me too. Well, I do get undressed and indulge in lots of naughtiness but I am also hold myself back from going totally wild. Damn Catholic upbringing. Now BubbaJ last night was a totally relaxed, absolutely anything goes night. Everyone would have loved anything that you would have done. Maybe if you start small and take baby steps. It helps me when I am there with my regular lover as I feel totally safe and comfortable. ...But can I say it was a great night last night. I thoroughly enjoyed myself!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I forgot to say goodbye. It was nice to catch up again.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You are a beautiful girl inside and out. Learning to let others enjoy your body is a leap of faith. Last night was a house full of people who wanted nothing else but to please each other. We want to please you too. Anytime you want me to hold your hand just ask xxx- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    in with a cuppa and watches this thread with interest.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Someone that thinks like me!!- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    12 years ago

    Thanks for sharing :-) I would hazard to guess that a fair portion of the people there would have at least some nerves before a night. Also everyone has to start something for the very first time and get over nerves etc, even the people who have been doing it for ages. Wishing you all the best. Cheers, W.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    When I'm really nervous and over-thinking something, I'm hyper sensitive and alert. You could try reducing the sensitivity by closing off one or more senses, and therefore reducing sensory intake. I close my eyes and it reduces the sensations that trigger the fear and nervousness. So, maybe you could get into a space with one or more people you already trust, close your eyes, and let them start touching you - without words, with few sounds, no visual stimuli, just physical touch. As you get more relaxed with that - maybe in that session, maybe over a few - move to words and sounds, and then move to looking and being looked at. Sometimes the hardest and most intense thing is to look at someone, or have someone look at you, when you feel self-conscious. So for now, maybe just don't :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Norm and I used to go to those lovely key parties in the 70s I always brought along a blindfold or two.People just thought we were kinky and shaking with excitement.

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    12 years ago

    3 wise words. I close my eyes cos I tell myself they can't see me just feel me. Lol stupid but it beats the paranoid alternative. Don't know how I'd handle a group thing.....guess I'm going to find out on my safari. Fingers crossed someone's there to hold my hand and make me feel....comfortable and welcomed.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Seriously the other 50+ In the room were quite busy... And I am not sure closing your eyes would have blocked out all that moaning and arse slapping. Hehe

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'Seriously the other 50+ In the room were quite busy... And I am not sure closing your eyes would have blocked out all that moaning and arse slapping. Hehe sounds like I missed a good night?

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    12 years ago

    On hearing the appreciative moaning, moreso the other persons. Lol but thanks for that!!! What happens when it's only 4 and you're body conscious? Cos my apron fcks with my self-image.- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Only the very open minded guys should go... It's a bi-sexual party. As in mainly all men there playing with each other. Oh and some ladies too on occasion. ;-)

  • Bubbaj

    Bubbaj

    12 years ago

    from all :) might have to try the blindfold i think! hehe hold my hand please! or can i hold a boob? :P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'It's a bi-sexual party. As in mainly all men there playing with each other. Oh and some ladies too on occasion. ;-) That is pretty fucking HAWT!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Oh my lord...I know exactly what you are saying. For me, it was a complete sensory overload, I didn't know who was who, there were so many people, but I realised very quickly, that we were all there for the same thing, to have fun. I loved the respect that was shown ( well by most). The thing that really helped me was having someone I trusted there with me, and very soon I just got caught up. I will definatly love to go again, and if you'd like, I'll hold your hand, unless it has that paddle in it again ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Anything my sweet, you are so going to be chained up and spanked on Friday... But it's okay I am sure I can find a few people willing to suck your cock at the same time, bite your nipples.... We can give you overload!! Woo Hoo!! BubbaJ, it's A&D night at CC this Friday. You should come along if you are free. We can take some baby steps if you like... And if not you can just spank Anythingrightnow. :D

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I'm the same BubbaJ but I'm learning that to really let myself go I need confidence - pretend your someone else, dress up and play character or capture that feeling of being the confident person you are when youre out with good friends!! And of course champagne works for me for feeling sexy... ;) we can do it -- be fierce & sexy sister xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I so wish I could come along as I would be a very willing volunteerQuoting 'Meeka100' Anything my sweet, you are so going to be chained up and spanked on Friday... But it's okay I am sure I can find a few people willing to suck your cock at the same time, bite your nipples.... We can give you overload!! Woo Hoo!! BubbaJ, it's A&D night at CC this Friday. You should come along if you are free. We can take some baby steps if you like... And if not you can just spank Anythingrightnow. :D

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    but I have to work (chin wobble) I will be thinking of you all though and definitely up for a raincheckQuoting 'Meeka100' ;-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You can hold my boob any time lovely! Wonder if another meet and greet like last time would help you ease into things. Get to know people first. KB bar anyone?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I hope my paddle is safe. He gets scared when he's away from Sam and Bruno. Miss Poppins, WORK SCHMORK! And Bubba, I saw you pretty comfortable a couple of times ...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Paintme, that is a rocking profile pic :-) Your paddle is fine, although I'm kind of attached to it now. I'm definatley up for a meet and greet with the lovely peeps from RHP. BubbaJ, I think you should come along on Friday. Dress up, pretend your someone else and let go. It will be my first time as well. I'm not sure what to expect, but after meekas post I'm thinking that it will be a really fun night :-) Meeka, please thank your lovely male friend for an amazing night.

  • Bubbaj

    Bubbaj

    12 years ago

    lol the temptations.... it would b quite a weekend then if i go to A & D and also the sensual ball.....maybe A & D can be my warm up night after i have shopped for an outfit for sensual....

  • subgal_gc

    subgal_gc

    12 years ago

    Like Friday is going to be a great night. Wish I could join you

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Bubbaj - The beauty of these types of events is that everyone is free and open and don't really care what you look like, or do as long as you're happy - For me it is the attitude and personality of people who are comfortable to lose their inhibitions that is the greatest turn on..... I'm probably going to be in Sydney over 3-4 August weekend and keen to attend and play, is there a there a similar event on then?

  • flimac

    flimac

    11 years ago

    I'm in Sydney at moment at was thinking couples club tomorrow but sounds like tonight's a better night?- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    A&D is Angel & Demons, the best night to go to couples club. First Friday Of every month. Don't know where you got tonight from? Otherwise Friday and Sat nights are the same... Just depends in the night