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RHP User
11 years ago
That's what the Polys believe. And I believe it too. I would love to have a full time boyfriend who is bi-sexual and open... So that I can still keep my part time boyfriend. Fingers crossed I can find it. PMSL. ⊂(◉‿◉)つ
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RHP User
11 years ago
This is the same old question. You can love many people ... So what does "being in love" actually mean? Is it a sexual love?
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
I guess you can love 2 people for their different qualities. It's emotional attachment to each person...loving them for who they are. Good post Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
To tell the truth...I don't exactly know what it is??? That's why I posted the question. I would like to know the answers to your questions as well. I find this subject intriging and curious as there are many various meanings. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am with at the time. Does that count? It's the only kind of love I can do I'm afraid. (except for my family of course but that goes without saying.)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe it is certainly possible to be in love with more than one person at the same time. Making it work being with both at the same time is not something I have tried to do though and I have no idea if that would be viable for me or not, although I suspect it would.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe you can. I also know however that it doesn't work too well for me. My personality being what it is, i find it hard to invest in more than one emotionally at a time. I prefer to invest all my energies into one beautiful relationship.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I think yes, you can. But how to work with that, I don't know. I became something very close to what I thought was love for someone else a few years ago but my feelings for Mr never changed. As it turns out, it was closer to infatuation for something I thought I wanted but it felt pretty real at the time.Fascinating subject - will follow with interest.Mrs.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think so, no. Be in "lust" with two people maybe. Love is not possible without trust. What is trust? Our faith in another person (and theirs in us) to make good and respectful decisions relative to US and OUR feelings and emotions. At some point There's going to be a conflict of interest, you're going to have to priorotise, the one you LOVE will come first.- Posted from rhpmobile
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wingman2014
11 years ago
I wish I knew the answer - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are so many Levels of Love.. Every Woman I've ever been Intimate with ( for more than a couple of hours ) , I have Loved her in some small way . I wouldn't share that time with someone if I didn't see something Special in them . We all define Love in our own way. That can make things difficult when two people come together , yet they have differing views on what Love is , or should be . Can someone Love more than one person at the same time ? I think it's possible ... GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
as I have had an emotional bypass.
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RHP User
11 years ago
... but I found its like walking a tightrope. As good as your intentions are, balancing the understanding of 3 different people is a big ask. Unless you have a unbelievable understanding where everyone is happy with the arrangement it's bound for problems...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it MAYBE possible for a very very short period of time.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
How to actually do it...I have no clue or answers.FOXY
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sweetgem
11 years ago
I personally do not think it is possible to be in love with two people at the same time. To me, beside love/relationship, there are also other important life components such as family, career, friends, health, hobbies, etc. that require a great amount of my time and energy to invest into too. Therefore, I don't think I can handle having and building up two serious relationships at the same time. Too much hard work and I rather invest that extra time and energy into something less heart aching lol However, I do believe that I can dearly and deeply love a man emotionally and mentally, and like another pleasurably at the same time, but it's more like an admiration of certain thing(s) that the second man carries, e.g. Intelligence or charm.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have date nights or sleepover nights. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
You can't be possessive, or jealous. You need to be open minded And for me... You have to like a certain amount of independence. I have never understood couples that live in each others pockets. Interesting that you all associate being in love with hard work and heartache. But I suppose I haven't had my heart truly broken. I hope I never will. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Everyone needs to respect every body else and their needs and if you have a primary relationship you always need to put that first. I don't imagine it is easy particularly setting up the ground rules and ensuring all the parties are satisfied. But first you need to change you expectations and our ridiculous perceptions of love and what it is supposed to mean.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you really are curious you should read The Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy & Dossie Eastman.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't think true love can be divided. I've had several relationships and have not felt loved or in love until I met my wife. Even when I thought I was in love previously. Only when you find love, do you know it. However lust, loving ppl is totally different. In my opinion anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
11 years ago
You're lucky that you haven't had your heart truly broken. Believe me, you don't wanna go there! However, I don't regret any of my past relationships, because those experiences have made me who I am today! :-) And I still love men and believe in true love :-) its only a matter of time that I'll meet my Mr again. But for now, career and health first thank you lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
You could be right. I am absolutely no expert when it comes to relationships or love. At all! So nobody should listen to me!! Lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will order and read that book. x Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have said it before...scares the Crap out of me to be honest...I have no clue what so ever what it feels like or how to do..I guess growing up I was not exposed to Poly relationships so therefore only exposed to only two people in a loving relationship..Funny I asked my daughter the same questioned posted...her reply was "I only know what its like having one mum and one dad so I think its f*cked up to be in love with more one person- its not right mum!". It makes me think - Am I denying her of what open loving relationships are and what it is like to be "in love" with more than one person??? BTW she's 17 1/2...mmm its a very interesting Topic for me! Curiosity has got the better of me... Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
There was an interesting thread a few years ago. Is love a choice? Do you choose to fall in love?
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RHP User
11 years ago
consulted the scar tissue and it just laughed at me.
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inspirit
11 years ago
can love as many as you want.. just depends on how much you want to give I believe
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'OutbakJak'I don't think true love can be divided. I've had several relationships and have not felt loved or in love until I met my wife. Even when I thought I was in love previously. Only when you find love, do you know it. However lust, loving ppl is totally different. In my opinion anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile Anyone who has a family will disagree with your first statement (including me), but I understand you're also talking about being in love. I fully believe it can happen, but am kinda glad I have never had to deal with that. I'm currently madly in lust with more than one person, and that seems to work well for me.
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
In the words of Johnny Depp 'if you are in love with 2 people at the same time, choose the second one, cause if you were really in love with the first person, you wouldn't have fallen for the second person'....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think if you fall in love with a second person, the first person is not "The one", or your "Soulmate" if you believe in that. But do they have to be?
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is no such thing as "the one " it's a fairy take myth. And what does soulmate even mean really? Sure you can have more than one. Is being in love mean you can't live without the other? That no one else compares? That you don't want anyone else? That the other person can fulfil all your needs? If that is the case OutbackJak, what are you going here?
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chevtrek
11 years ago
Hell Yes This could be hard to explain so I will just say been there done that and because both wanted me and I loved both I had to pick and boy was that hell. Steve
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Direct' I think if you fall in love with a second person, the first person is not "The one", or your "Soulmate" if you believe in that. But do they have to be? I am not sure but I would one to be the first one (primary) with the control.I think soulmates are different and a whole other topic - I believe they come in many different forms/types.FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
You had to pick??? so to you were truely "in love" with two people and had to pick or make a choice?Does being in love with two people mean you had to make a choice - one or the other??I don't understand!! FOXYQuoting 'chevtrek' Hell Yes This could be hard to explain so I will just say been there done that and because both wanted me and I loved both I had to pick and boy was that hell. Steve
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RHP User
11 years ago
NOW I AM CONFUSED as all shit!Just having a discussion about the word "love" and everything it about it, just does my head in - I mean if just talking about it does that, what the heck would I be like "in" love???LOL F*ck that!!FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being the main full time relationship or primary relationship does not mean you have control. You don't control people. Fuck if anyone told me they wanted to be in control I would tell them where they can stick it. But of course some people like others to be in control. Personally I only would want relationships were we are equal.... I am too unhappy otherwise.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am not talking about "control" of another person..I think you maybe confused...when I mean control I mean it as in the situation and control of ones self to make choices...I could not or be able to control another person...not right in my eyes. I would want someone to accept me for who I am and vice versa...Being in-love to means individuals not one having control over others but some control over the situation...having choices and being supportive of them..Isn't it better to be supportive and understanding?? Even if they were in-love with another as in poly relationships?? FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Would be very very unhappy indeed, if another person tried to control my relationship with another person. If they chose when I could see them and when I couldn't.. F*ck that- NO thanks!!!:-( FOXY
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