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is there a word for
June 20 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wikipedia says: "Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly], meaning "many" or "several", and Latin amor, "love") is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved." If you were to end up in a relationship with two men, you would be a polyamorous woman.
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RHP User
12 years ago
thank u miss direct :-) is there anyone who is a polyamorous women who can give me some advice- Posted from rhpmobile
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QLDtwo4fun
12 years ago
Polyandry, two, or more husbands. Polygyny, two, or more wives. What ever works for you guys.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I reckon it's called ... 'bliss'.Follow your bliss.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lucky!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Most say it's the joy and struggle of one relationship, multiplied, but if you can get it right it's wonderful. Best of luck xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have tried/are both. Takes a special type of person to successfully live this as an actual lifestyle. Biggest thing I had to learn, 2 partners - twice as much work. Well worth it if you can find the right balance.....MSG me if you have any questions :-) Mrs B- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi Sexylips4u, I started exploring Polyamory about two years ago and it has been a breathe of fresh air learning how you can have an ethical non-monogamous relationship. I have found a wonderful community in Sydney who have discussions and social events. I would recommend looking to see if there is a community in W.A. You may also find a good local network of Poly people on Fetlife as well. Also just to clarify Ms_Directs point a polyamorous relationship doesn't just have to be with 2 males, it can be any combination e.g. 1 female and 1 male, 2 females, etc.... Happy for you to pm me if you would like to chat one on one. Ms NC2147- Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
12 years ago
JealousylolDG
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RHP User
12 years ago
No jealousy in poly relationships, just compersion Mischieviouslad. : ) Ms NC2147- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Huh? I don't get it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There are already a few topics on this in the forums you can read. If you are interested in the life style read The Ethical Slut. It is a little over the top but is does discuss all sorts of different relationships, living arrangements, sexual arrangements and how to deal with it all.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are things that need to be managed in order to successfully have this arrangement. Don't listen to caveman DG. *eye roll*
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RHP User
12 years ago
Haha, the exact opposite. There can be elements of "jealousy" arise, but ultimately it is the absence of jealousy that makes being open, or "poly" (loving more than one - I use the term loosely) possible. Finding 2 (or more) people you can love equally, and uniquely is a magical and liberating experience. Go for it! Know your weaknesses, and your strengths well, and be prepared for a hell of an adventure :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
There is always someone who is happy to oblige you with a relevant and accurate explanation on rhp and if not? Like Ms_D has offered..... there is always Google and it never laughs at you when you ask it!You only know, what you know, you know?Up until yesterday, I didn't even know what the term 'Unicorn' meant? ....I had to Google it!I could have gone on oblivious for years....happy under my rock.....and thinking it really was a white fantasy horse with one horn.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It would depend on the seriousness of the relationships wouldnt it?? I think a lot of us would have more than one "special" person in their lives, i thought that was part of being kinky and playful...until they get more serious
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RHP User
12 years ago
The words are 'Tilda Swinton'. Apparently she's openly poly with an older and a younger guy. Because THAT's how you be a movie star. MsK x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Depends on how committed you are I suppose... Me? I got tired of the chase - the looking, small talk (been on this site 5+ years, can get exhausting) - I just wanted (read NEEDED) someone who knew me inside and out, no explanations. Someone besides my hubby, who could be my late night booty call, would listen to my gripes when I was having a crap day, that would encompass my life as part of his. I needed an equal. Trust + amazing sex = something you don't wanna question/lose. ... Maybe, don't give it, your lifestyle, a label, just go with what feels right for you - not just advice for the OP, but all RHP-ers. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
being a happy camper
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's called "living the dream- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think it is called hot wife lifestyle where hubby allows or even encourages his wife to have a boyfriend or pick up guys to play with on her own and paintme is right in saying it is bliss
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On_Safari
12 years ago
- I just wanted (read NEEDED) someone who knew me inside and out, no explanations. Someone besides my hubby, who could be my late night booty call, would listen to my gripes when I was having a crap day, that would encompass my life as part of his. I needed an equal. Trust + amazing sex = something you don't wanna question/lose. ... I WANT one of those!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Waiting for someone to claim to username Poly_Amory. How cute is that? And MrsBoom, how is it working for you on a daily basis? How do you divide your time, for example?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have just been discussing this exact topic with a few close female friends. For me, the idea of a polyamorous relationship is very fulfilling, but I must explain why. I have said on previous forums that I am open to the idea of love and a possible one true love, however, in recent months I have also begun to explore sexuality and have met some wonderful people. For me polyamory is where my love and another lover may exist, in a open trusting environment. The idea and concern of jealousy is a worry, but I would like to believe that if we are open and honest about things that this shouldn't occur.... Having said that, I know of three polyamorous couples, where two of the initial relationships prior to the development of the polyamorous relationship, failed and became bitter...
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RHP User
12 years ago
having a casual third person or more seems to be the easy part for us girls, its the more intimate, sensual moments that are harder to find. I love hot sex but I do miss the feeling u get when there are feelings involved. for me it allows me to truly relax & enjoy the experience & with 2 guys... oh my I'm getting wet just thinking about it... & i agree with everyone it would be PUSSY BLISS - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been married and had a lover that my husband knew about, they met, i spent a couple nights per week at his place,and we all three of us shared meals together etc. I loved both men for a period of time. I personally found being aware of and meeting the emotional needs of two men to be very difficult. It may just have been those particular men as one of them was pretty needy, or it may just have been my own personal struggle with having others so emotionally dependant on me. Jealousy did become an issue, and my husband did feel as though he had to compete for my time and attention. However, There was a period of time when i felt i'd found the ideal situation. The perfect lover and the perfect husband! However things do change and it is essential that open and honest communication be the basis for this type of arrangement. Be very sure your marriage/primary relationship is rock solid before you go down this path otherwise the cracks will soon appear.
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RHP User
12 years ago
LOL, i'm trying to decide between this and Ms Andry for my new kitten's name. Quoting 'Ms_Direct' Waiting for someone to claim to username Poly_Amory. How cute is that? And MrsBoom, how is it working for you on a daily basis? How do you divide your time, for example?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hotwifing is a more casual arrangement not an ongoing arrangement with emotional atttachment with one other lover. Quoting 'girlhavingfun71'I think it is called hot wife lifestyle where hubby allows or even encourages his wife to have a boyfriend or pick up guys to play with on her own and paintme is right in saying it is bliss
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ding26'It would depend on the seriousness of the relationships wouldnt it?? I think a lot of us would have more than one "special" person in their lives, i thought that was part of being kinky and playful...until they get more serious Wikipedia actually stated that polyamory differs from swinging as the relationships are serious, where swinging is based on having recreational sex with others.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Totally different. Polyamory is being in relationships and possibly being in love with more than one person. The relationships of course can have different forms or arrangements. But they are regular lovers who are more than just fuck buddies. Most of the time there will be a primary relationship that has to be out first for it to survive.
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RHP User
12 years ago
:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Direct' Quoting 'ding26'It would depend on the seriousness of the relationships wouldnt it?? I think a lot of us would have more than one "special" person in their lives, i thought that was part of being kinky and playful...until they get more serious Wikipedia actually stated that polyamory differs from swinging as the relationships are serious, where swinging is based on having recreational sex with others. recreational sex.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have recreational relationships.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Really! There's a 'Word' for you..Assuming you don't engage in 3somes with these two Men (maybe you do?), there is the likelihood one may stray and find another woman while you're busy with the other? You may find, in the end, you have the failings of both and the merits of neither?.It is difficult to see the 'Happily ever after' on this one (Not that you asked - just pondering)
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's like being unsure and hedging your bets but eventually, a decision needs to be made. Obviously a lasting polyamorous is possible as has been demonstrated in other cultures (Mormon, muslim etc.) but I wonder how long it could be sustained in our own society. How long could one person meet the needs of two 'spouses'?
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chevtrek
11 years ago
If you get the right balance I had 2 women for 3 years and 3 for 3 years but it was stress as women get jealous and wanting more of your time... Guys are more easy going so you should have lots of fun but its better if the guys are friends...
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Splicey
11 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' It's like being unsure and hedging your bets but eventually, a decision needs to be made. Obviously a lasting polyamorous is possible as has been demonstrated in other cultures (Mormon, muslim etc.) but I wonder how long it could be sustained in our own society. How long could one person meet the needs of two 'spouses'? I had a lover for just over a year. I was totally capable of looking after my husband emotionally and sexually and I was also able to look after the other guy sexually and socially. We were best friends and we hung out a lot. For me it worked because my friend was not the type of guy I could be in a relationship with, but he was the type of guy I could be friends with and thus having a level of trust and connection.It ended because the guy I was having sex with got a little too clingy and his needs changed and I was unable, and unwilling, to meet them, that and he wouldn't give us a threesome.I personally couldn't have a emotional relationship with two men. I refuse to meet the needs of two men in a sexual and emotional relationship - that's for my husband, which is why I married him. It's difficult to really condense the meaning of polyamory to one meaning. What's intimate to one person, may not be to another.However, like all types of relationships, it's perfectly understandable that some people can and will do it successfully based on their definition.MrsSplicey
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Playful2looking
11 years ago
As long as they pay the morgage as well not fair just having the sex and let the other girl/guy pick up the tab.
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
I knew a guy a few years ago who was married - but he and his wife shared the same girlfriend... I think in the end it got alittle ugly as he preferred the girlfriend & fell in love with her.Im sure that there are many people who do this. If you watch the television show "big love" all on polyligomy...It could work, but jealousy would need to be a non existant emotion.....
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Mr_Invisible
11 years ago
As long as everyones getting what they need out of the relationships without any animosity or jealousy... its called funAnd we all like alittle fun
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RHP User
11 years ago
The answer is No…. any made up variation to the answer No is just your ability to juggle and have an extreme sound time management skills dealing what could be an on call emotional dribble of eager participant who in their own wisdom didn’t get the answer to the first question… but only after they are sexually exhausted. However, in your question you have a very tenacious nature… please do share some juicy stories… time management of anticipation is amazing… Love your work, love your question and in variation of which I wish results in smiles and none of that clingy icky substance without little loves. Cause it is about you
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RHP User
11 years ago
What mes said :)
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chevtrek
11 years ago
I tried it years ago but it only lasted around 6 months. If you can make it work go for it but tery to give both even attention.
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SEXUALLIASON
11 years ago
I would love to meet such a woman,more than happy to be the 2nd male. Win win for both myself and her. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your post made me giggle cos u r right... Being a free spirit has allowed me many varying experiences which I have thoroughly enjoyed :-) I don't do anything by halves & am pretty full on except when I'm resting lol which isn't often ;-) I have people in my life who mean a lot to me, I've know them for a long time & we keep in touch regularly, sex is just part of our chemistry. My 2 most regular fwb's are guys I dated (one is my second partner from when I was 18, the other ive known for 2 years) & we never stopped wanting to have sex we just didn't want to commit. It started accidentally as they both pissed me around a bit & I lost interest, they always make all the effort to chase me & it's all on my terms, I dated in between as did they, it wasn't until recently they both confessed I was their only partner for some time. I wouldn't say they are over the moon about me wanting to be carefree, I am completely upfront with them, they choose what they ask & i answer honestly, if they don't want to know the rule is don't ask as I don't lie :-) they know they can walk away at anytime, I'll always be their friend :-) They also know I don't want any limitations put on me, they know I'm bi and luv bi guys, they are both straight, one is my vanilla man the other my hot hot kiwi lover, I truly care for both guys, I love them dearly, they are my dearest friends & they know I would do anything for them anytime ;-) they accept me for me :-) I'm sure this arrangement won't last forever, many times they have dated & we stop having sex, we always keep in touch regardless, they always come back :-) maybe one day they won't who knows. If they were to meet someone special I would be the first to congratulate them, I want them to be happy, being a true friend means wanting them to be happy to, they have said they don't want to loose me & agreed to said arrangement. I'm sure some people are struggling with how I manage all this, I know I am capable of loving more them one person, this current arrangement isn't the first I've had & prob not the last. :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are playing it right… communication head on… and you looked to the future… I like it
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks hot stuff...mmmmm damn your hot but so so far away lol :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
...exactly what a "Unicorn" is...i mean in RHP terms...Quoting 'deepbluesumthing' There is always someone who is happy to oblige you with a relevant and accurate explanation on rhp and if not? Like Ms_D has offered..... there is always Google and it never laughs at you when you ask it!You only know, what you know, you know?Up until yesterday, I didn't even know what the term 'Unicorn' meant? ....I had to Google it!I could have gone on oblivious for years....happy under my rock.....and thinking it really was a white fantasy horse with one horn.
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