M39
just wondering how many validations can lead to some negative feedback
March 27 2017
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EarthQueen
8 years ago
Want to judge you on your validations that's their problem. Maybe they feel threatened or a bit insecure about measuring up somehow if they spend time with you. I guess it comes down to what you are comfortable with people knowing about you and you can adjust your profile to suit if needed. I wouldn't change it for others if you are happy with it though ...., and it seems like it's working for you. Hey if you are a walking stud, own it I say 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
why the need to share your notches with the world? I'm genuinely curious why you would want to do that. I personally don't find it appealing in a profile. It's the equivalent of saying in the about me section 'I fuck 50 women a week, if you're lucky enough, you can be one of them'. Do you see my point. We don't like to be a number. So it's a no from me, and not because I care how many people you're with, just an honest opinion about how I would feel if you were hitting on me. A lot of my guys have hardly any friends and nil validations on their profiles, but they're incredible. They don't however, feel the need to tell the world, and aside from what I say on here, neither do I. Discretion is also a major priority for me and I seek out the same, guys who for whatever reason, are very discreet and need me to be. One of your conquests has over 700 friends, please, yes I judge that one, I've always believed that profile is fake, it may not be but either way, all this doesn't equal discretion in my opinion, it wouldn't work for me, but that's me. I avoid the inner circle, lurk around outside the circle I only display a few friends and no validations, ever, I don't want them and I don't give them. But ignorance is bliss sometimes, although I don't want to be exclusive with anyone, and I'm turned on by them being with others, by reigning in the display of previous bedmates, I feel a little more important because of that, hard to explain but like they need me more or something? I like them to be desperately horny lol not make me feel like just another number. It is all in the perception, absolutely no judgement, just being honest. Have you considered deleting some, just leave a few on there? Up to you, it's your profile and if you're happy, that's all that matters. Whatever works for you
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RHP User
8 years ago
Shit mate you look like great, Young Fit and strong but guess what your shit does stink and put a shirt on.Why do you have to be like every other wanker. I sure most women prefer to see a well dressed gentleman and they don't wont someone that is prettier than they are.Women have a hard enough time competing with other women let alone pretty boys like you.Grow and be real. Funlovenfun
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RHP User
8 years ago
You have 11? What's the problem with that? Do some women think that sleeping with 11 people is a lot?! Hahaha! I'm confused as to the point of this question, although I haven't read your validation so. I don't see why it matters how many you have, unless it's in the hundreds lol then you might have some negative messages. But even then, that's just someone making judgements. I would worry about it.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Considering only 1in 3 would give a validation, it reads to me you've had sex with about 30 people in here. Go you. That would make me hesitate and consider if l want to be another notch or trophy 🏆 on the list. Nothing wrong with that, not judging but some would and ultimately that would have a negative effect on your game stat's by missing out on enlisting rookies. At the opposite side of the coin you may pick up extra veterans who would read the validations as someone that is maybe a valuable player and give you a training run to see if you could be an asset for their team. That in itself is problematic as having so many games with different teams, many would consider you unable to be a valuable team player and miss out on regular games with their team. Which is where you are at now. Missing out on selection
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RHP User
8 years ago
Haven't you asked this before? Seems you have, two years ago when you had 10. Did you gain one, or have a cull. Each person will have their own view. For some 1 is too many. For some you look like a sure thing. For this lil duck it is more that you refer to them so often in your profile that is off putting. But if you like them, seek others who feel the same way about them. They should be easy to spot Have fun
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RHP User
8 years ago
And I'd have less problem with your validations than I do with some of the wording in your profile. You are clearly looking for NSA fun, add this to a number of validations and people are starting to presume (rightly or wrongly) that you're a 'player'. Your 'validators' also look aesthetically 'fit' and this may also lead people to believe you're looking for a particular 'type'. In my opinion, all those factors would turn me off. My biggest concern is with your line about 'mentally stable women' ... I cant articulate why but I find it's actually very degrading and speaks volumes about your attitude to women ... Mary xx
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Chx - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
Now that's a first ,butt dial posting from me ,please continue on don't try and work out post above ,wasn't even looking at this thread ,wtf my phone has a dirty mind of its own ,and was feeling left out ,?,could have picked a better thread .lmao - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well after reading your profile including validations from others Op they all have alot of positive feedback,and that your a true gentleman. 😎😊😊 I personally don't need or ask for someone to validate me nor would I validate other's. Privacy thing for me but I can see how other's might think you get around. Which again is fine if your happy in your own skin. As kiss kiss mentioned judgmental people can think what they like ? A validation doesn't always mean you slept with someone. Could it not be a meet & greet. ? No different then individuals going to a gang bang or event and having sex with multiple people. Wait are we going to stop and ask everyone at a event to validate me ? plz 😉😂 Only thing I could possibly say Op is check your spelling and grammer in your profile. I'd has a commer lol. People can be spelling Nazis out there.😉 I'd probably lose the mental health remark. Believe me mate my ex wife had boarderline personality disorder so I know what you mean. 😭😭😭 Good luck Op just be safe. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Now you're gonna get the warts and all. Firstly, you asked this question before? This is what I was really thinking.... I didn't like your obscured pictures and don't believe you're as fit as you make out you are. The spa picture highlighted that, where is the muscle definition in your pecs? And then a picture of your back? That always screams they're hiding a bigger stomach or the real vision. The spa picture is blurry, so this is your lineup of 3 whole pictures, which may or may not be you, then you state they must have clear pictures?? lol righto Validations are quite often set up and can be done from fake profiles, as has been illustrated here on the forum before 😎 you can shove your report card fair where it fits 😉 so I think you're maybe not as popular or as fit, as you make out. Also a classic example of the 'not after time wasters', who are in fact the biggest time wasters, getting more pictures for a start. Also agree the mentally stable line is more a slur on you. Stressing nsa sounds like a guy will fuck you once and you'll never see him again. Why? If it's good, why not do it again, and again, well you get the picture. Sorry dude, not for me, just seems like you're trying too hard or something, doesn't ring true to me. At least that is exactly what I was thinking when I was looking at your profile and you did ask the question? Not to say what I'm seeing is true but you get one shot at impressing people according to your target market. If your target market are like you, you're all good, why ask us if you clearly want to keep it that way?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hahaha omg I'm crying laughing. I've done the same, fall asleep and drop the phone, then roll on it 😂😂😂 few times discovered posts I was about to make. No-one would notice the difference with mine though 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Your obviously having a fine time here, who cares what a few beige drones think ? Let them eat cake.
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Jealous much? The OP asked a question about validations. It wasnt an invitation for you to start a pissing contest about who has more testosterone. Respect should be shown. Feeling inferior is no excuse. He is running his profile the way he wants, chooses what he shares and has a profile pic up.......
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RHP User
8 years ago
I don't care how many people someone has had sex with, but I'm not really a fan of the broadcasting of how many and who you've slept with publicly. I also agree with Pepper about the references to it in profiles, when people emphasise how they're validated and therefore a sure thing and a certain performer, it just makes me think of buying a car or a kitchen appliance. Your mention of 'using this site as it's intended' is also a bit off-putting for me, because there really is no one intended way for this site to be used and I dislike it when people state that it should be for fucking and fucking only. If that's how you want to use it then that's fine but not all of us approach it that way. All of that plus the validations would make a profile like yours a no from me because it's clear that we wouldn't be compatible, but there are plenty of people here who would be compatible with your particular approach and who don't mind a lot of validations, so just stick to communicating with those people. For what it's worth I would never send a reply like the ones you've received. Someone assuming that you have STIs because of the number of validations you have is being a judgmental asshat. P.S. I also agree with Mary about your 'mentally stable' comment. It's off-putting for a number of reasons.
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lily1970
8 years ago
Go forth and have fun I say.....fuck what people think or say!.......You never know if your next one may be your last!!
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langton11
8 years ago
I personally wouldn't want any but tbh more than 2 or 3 would put me off
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RHP User
8 years ago
Who gives a fuck what other people think!!! Pusscat xxx
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Same question could be asked if having over 1300 friends 🤔 I mean do you actually KNOW all these people or are you a "friend collector" or just a super dooper Networker but actually have zero interaction with 1299 of the people on your friends list? 😳 Off topic but kinda not. Thanks OP for letting me ponder out loud 👍🏽 ~ Indy
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langton11
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2'I didn't like your obscured pictures and don't believe you're as fit as you make out you are. The spa picture highlighted that, where is the muscle definition in your pecs? And then a picture of your back? That always screams they're hiding a bigger stomach or the real vision. The spa picture is blurry, so this is your lineup of 3 whole pictures, which may or may not be you, then you state they must have clear pictures?? lol righto Hope you're not going to critique me anytime soon rofl
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is your advertisement.People will respond to the information you give them...depending on what they are looking for..don't change a thing,it reflects some of who you are and your thinking. BTW Cheekyasss, it's comma. Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
You need to really ask yourself is, why do you feel you need these public validations at all ? Are you not comfortable with who you are ? Exactly how much validation do you need and why ? Just curious Sexual validations are a turnoff for me. I believe in discretion and one persons joy is always another's disappointment
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Seachange
8 years ago
Read your profile and I don't see anything wrong with it. It is well written and you seem to know what you want so kudos. It also shows that you have standards, as you should. So agree with Q, don't change anything. It reflects you and you will attract the right people. Your validations are fine, nice and flattering for you. Not sure what the magic number is but does it matter? If people have issues with that, then it's their issue, not yours to resolve or own live and let live I say. 😉 There's just one fault I found... 😎😱 You're in Sydney?!!! 😝
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RHP User
8 years ago
Auto correct and I did notice it afterwards but unable to correct it, but thankyou for pointing it out. 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Cazz61
8 years ago
Gives a rat arse about validations and from what I read about yours they are all positive, not only are you are gentleman you are a great listener what more can a woman ask for If I could find a man that would happily listen to all the shit I dribble I would be as happy as a pig in shit
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Cheekyass71'I'd probably lose the mental health remark. Believe me mate my ex wife had boarderline personality disorder so I know what you mean. 😭😭😭 - Posted from rhpmobile before perpetuating the already terribly damaging stigma around mental health conditions, based on one or two people you knew. Removing myself from this thread also. I'm doing well today! I'll blame the weather.
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casanovastudd
8 years ago
Ive never had any dramas with the couple Ive received.
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RHP User
8 years ago
don't do much for me but hey... each to there own.... I don't need validations to say i am real or real good... lol People that i have meet and know me from around the traps ...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Perpetuating mental health issues ?? Excuse me ?? My remark about the Op was purley that he should maybe reconsider better word's if he doesn't want anything to do with someone how has mental health issues. There has been alot stronger more abusive word's been directed at the Op. To be honest am regretting trying to help and shoukd of stayed on topic. Oh that's right Validations ??. Not a personal attack on the Ops profile. Sorry Op for trying give some friendly advice. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I grew up with a father who suffered mental illness. Lucky for him he was able to seek counseling and with anti depressants.He was able to overcome it. Please don't dare presume you can tell other's if you don't know there story and what experience they have had on the subject. I find your remarks offence and poor taste. You have singled me out a few times now on different subjects within the forum so I'd appreciate you pull your head in ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
At least it proves you are real and... not a mass murderer....
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sydney_tradie
8 years ago
wow seem you just love putting the boot into ppl hey
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Bazingal
8 years ago
I prefer validations of a non sexual nature, mainly to indicate the person is worth your time. Where you go from there is up to you. Lol, I wrote one for someone once and the response was "It's like we had a great chat over coffee". As Q said "Is your advertisement.People will respond to the information you give them...depending on what they are looking for..don't change a thing,it reflects some of who you are and your thinking." As for nasty messages remarking on your profile or validations.... Best you chalk that up to them not being compatible with you. I am sure you will continue having a good time regardless Baz x
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've been wanting to 'critique' you for a while now, rather actually meet you first though, just to be thorough 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
As long as your certification doesn't carry the hallmark (or warts) of a frog. - Posted from rhpmobile
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