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leaving Husband to watch,
October 09 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey Steph,Just wanted to ask if you can clarify - R U married or single ( as shown in your profile ) ... i.e .. Is your Q entirely hypothetical or do you seriously have a husband who has lost interest in you ? ( which is perhaps more the issue )
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ummm why do you have single on your profile? Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
and is the only way that you can fully feel wanted and appreciated is via this method...??? perhaps work on some self love first ..just a thought
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RHP User
12 years ago
Why is you NEED a constant amount of attention?? Your post makes you sound insecure, or your not happy in relationship, either way your question is superficial to more deeper problem.
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RHP User
12 years ago
are just addicted to the flirt,the attention,the more you get ,the more you crave...it gives you a rush of endorphins ,a temporary high that leaves you craving more. Most people if we are honest, love receiving positive attention,but to crave it is symptomatic of low self esteem or narciscism. Perhaps your husband enjoys watching you, knowing that at the end of the night you are leaving with him. What is puzzling is why say you are single on your profile and out yourself here as being married. Why have you not discussed this with him.?
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RHP User
12 years ago
the one who you should be worried about 'needing' or 'wanting' you, is surely your partner?i believe that if its others whose attention you crave, maybe you'd be better off single, and if it were my wife asking this question...i dont think i could have her bags packed and her ass out the door quckly enough..........
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RHP User
12 years ago
We have agree with MikeandShel's comment. Well said!
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RHP User
12 years ago
smells phoney
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi, I think you may find some direction by putting yourself in your husband's shoes. So, if he felt like he was missing attention, would you feel ok if he was seeking the attention of others? It maybe the right moment to approach him about the lack of attention he is giving you, there maybe underlying issues there... Good luck :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'slinkey'smells phoney Agree
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RHP User
12 years ago
your doing it in view, i bet he ain't.. paybacks a bitch!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Because you should be discussing this with husband. If he is interested in seeing you with other people and its something you both enjoy then sure, but it seems that you are behaving in an untrustworthy way (from husband's point of view) for your own motivations which you haven't discussed with him.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi this is Hey2012 from Redhotpie. you sent me a message yesterday and I am replying your flirt. Would you like to chat?ThanksDanuel
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RHP User
12 years ago
its better if you talked to your husband first,if he's ok, test the water and bring the men of your choosing into the relationship, introduce them both and have them sometime together, let them develop understanding of what you want,how do you feel like having 2 men giving you the attention you need, without jeopardizing your relationship?
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RHP User
12 years ago
People here are so judgemental. There are plenty of men that would love to see their wives with another man ... But I suggest you talk to him about it first to check he is one of them. Maybe try a hotwifing or cuckolding site if you want less judgemental opinions Best Regards MR SR
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Splicey
12 years ago
not a forum.MrsSplicey
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RHP User
12 years ago
If both enjoy and are consenting then go fir it. Tell me where you head out lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nothing wrong with an innocent flirt. Probably not a good idea in front of your partner unless this has been discussed with him and he does not mind. Kissing? The question is....is HE okay with this? Maybe he hates it. Maybe it drives him insane. Maybe he is just watching and waiting and seeing just how far you do intend to go. It is a dangerous game and could have a dangerous end. Would you mind if the shoe was on the other foot and your husband was dancing/flirting/kissing others while you were left alone to watch?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Probably 50% of guys would get jealous and for you it wouldn't be good for your marriage. The other 50% would think it was so hot and would want you to go further. You need to find out which group your husband belongs to. Regards R
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Playful2looking
12 years ago
If this is about just getting other guys hot for you or does hubby enjoy watching you.Is that called prick teasing. Do you intend do more then flirt. In my book prick teasing is when you want attention but dont want to bang them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Always check first!! That should be basic "Swinging for Dummies" rule number one! If then, he says yes, go for it, have fun. You could be creating huge dramas if you don't communicate with your hubby and he's not cool with it.I like seeing Mr Otori having a flirt with others on occasion when we go out but I don't think I'd be comfortable with him going as far as kissing some random chick at a bar, unless I was getting in on the action as well and she was coming home with both of us. But we don't play separately, so there is a natural limit to the amount of flirting with others. My point is don't overstep the boundaries.If you need attention, as you say in your post, I think if you aren't getting it from your hubby, you sound like you need to take stock of your relationship. If you are feeling un-appreciated or unloved, maybe discuss it with him and move on if you have to. Don't remain in an unhappy relationship... this is just speculation of course. On the other hand, if the only way you can feel appreciated or validated in this world is through sex appeal, there is something massively wrong with your self esteem and I would suggest you go get help for that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
if my wife was....'at that piont in my life where my need to be wanted and appreciated is very high'.........and she went to anyone else but me.....i'd be telling her very loudly....and very clearly...to keep on walking and dont dare come back.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Oh people, she said that she does it already and her hubby never said no. I know of a lot of couples that the guy loves to watch his wife flirt and kiss and come onto other guys. It is all part of their fun and games they play. If hubby doesn't have a problem neither should you if it's what you both want, a lot of couples do this and then go home and have great hot sex talking about what they just did. Leesa xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'couplesint'Oh people, she said that she does it already and her hubby never said no. I know of a lot of couples that the guy loves to watch his wife flirt and kiss and come onto other guys. It is all part of their fun and games they play. If hubby doesn't have a problem neither should you if it's what you both want, a lot of couples do this and then go home and have great hot sex talking about what they just did. Leesa xx Just because hubby hasn't said no, doesn't mean he's happy with it and "doesn't have a problem" - that's the point many are making here, which you seem to have missed.
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RHP User
12 years ago
At this stage, ask him this..."Would he (hubby) like to see you/watch you do a little more than flirt?" So rather than judging your behaviour, I assert, you may be at the beginning of a vouyer/exhibit' stage of your sex life together.
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RHP User
12 years ago
All you rules experts and shame manufacturers (those of who will find themselves "In the Right") No not Leesa or anyone equally positive...let's see if Mr Hotsexysteph is offended and needs to desert the marriage first before you-all go round and help him start packing...YEESH!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' the one who you should be worried about 'needing' or 'wanting' you, is surely your partner?i believe that if its others whose attention you crave, maybe you'd be better off single, and if it were my wife asking this question...i dont think i could have her bags packed and her ass out the door quckly enough..........
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RHP User
12 years ago
My wife dances with other guys at clubs and she does flirt. I have flirted with other girls while we are out. There is a line though and we both know each other and know where that line is. In the end we both agree it is nice to be paid attention to, it is a boost to self esteem and ego. My wife would never make out with another guy at a club, crosses the line and not her personality.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Tonguecramps....well then hubby should speak up..lol as I said it was said that it has been done and he hasn't said anything....so one would assume in a perfect relationship that he would speak his mind if it was a worry wouldn't one..lol Just saying.. Leesa.xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I love to see my wife mixing it up on the dance floor with another guy. and if things progress from there well even better .. But we also know what each other wants and we also know the limits to our escapades . In answer to your question .. My opinion is that perhaps you discuss with him what you want and be honest about it.. And from there perhaps there is something that he is willing to explore him self .. Its a two way street give a little to get a little. Good luck lassie xx
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