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love
July 19 2012
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justswingingbi
12 years ago
Yes, it's worth it...You can't find it, it has to find you...You know when you've found it by the terror you feel in losing it...You keep it alive by having a really good fight every now and then (because you have something to compare it to and making up is AWESOME!)No, there is not just one true love. Occasionally I give in for love when I shouldn't...Have never not done something for love that I should have...Mrs Justswingingbi
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it worth knowing someone so intimately that you innately know their every utterance before it spills their lips or their every move - in bed - on the lounge - and what it means when they stretch their hips or swing their hair...........it's worth it alright. True heartfelt love is worth everything and anything.But the true question may well be, how do we maintain those lovely happy moments? Despite getting the bills paid and the long hours at work and the pressure of raising kids and be being perfect parents. Despite long weeks of stress and bother and deadlines and schedules and commitments..........How do you stop the dross of life from darkening those sunny happy moments and convincing us that it's not worth it? That is the question.
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RHP User
12 years ago
word for word what I would have said :-) Quoting 'justswingingbi' Yes, it's worth it...You can't find it, it has to find you...You know when you've found it by the terror you feel in losing it...You keep it alive by having a really good fight every now and then (because you have something to compare it to and making up is AWESOME!)No, there is not just one true love. Occasionally I give in for love when I shouldn't...Have never not done something for love that I should have...Mrs Justswingingbi
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
Do we ponder about love when we are not in love& when in love think how wonderful it is & not ponder the why's,if's& but's.Do we question love when not in love & totally believe in it when in love.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love, yes its worth it. It finds you when you least expect it. How do you keep it alive - respect, communication and awesome sex and a little experimentation for some spice. I've had several great loves in my life. It's all good. Every relationship is a learning experience for the do's and dont's. SFxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it worth it ? Abso f****lutely What are you willing to do to find it ? Everything and anything however it its meant to be, then it does tend to find you, especially when you least expect it- two planets collide etc etc How do you know when you have found it ? Because when it leaves your life and ultimately it will via one form or another , you can barely breathe, let alone exist How do you keep it alive ? If we all knew the answer to that, there sure as shit would be a lot less divorces, breakups in the world…the problem is you never value anything until it’s truly gone. How do you keep it alive ?, realise that every other thing you do in life, is because of that, without love we are nothing…and without it in our lives, it’s all pointless. Do we have only one true love, or are the possibilities endless ? I believe we have many loves who are appropriate for the various times and situations in our lives, but I believe that you only have ONE TRUE LOVE…and usually they are the one that got away – I also think we often compromise after that loss What have you done for love that you wish you hadn’t ? Gave up my home, my country, my career, my friends, my familiar way of life, to travel to the other side of the world to be with that One True Love……nope never again… cause in doing that I gave up a part of me and , I wasn’t true to myself ..older, wiser and date local now… What didn’t you do for love that you should have done Um depends, if I was trying to save it – love - then I should have been more accepting…..turned a blind eye, shut my mouth, pretend and ignore…and then I wouldn’t have the lonely Sunday arvos that I do now....but in saying that, if I had done those things, I again wouldn’t be true to myself , this above all things to thine own self be true ---rite…? As Carrie said: “But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you, you love, well, that's just fabulous””
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RHP User
12 years ago
As Carrie said: “But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you, you love, well, that's just fabulous”” Ahhhh nice to see another SITC fan.... call me romantic... but I believe in love.... always have and always will...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love can give us hope, and make us crazy. It can make us do good and terrible things in its name. No I do not believe we have one true love. As there are so many kinds of love in the world. I find love every day of my life. In smiles of strangers , In the voices of my daughters as we make cookies together. I like to watch love in the movie s, watched Jane Austin book club last night..fairy tale for grown up women. Definition:a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. 2. a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. What I should have done, is perhaps not be so selfish in my own needs. But then I would have to deny my sexual self I have not done anything bad in the name of love ,yet. You cant keep it alive, its like a river it runs its course, some longer than others.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Still, unfortunately, it doesn't guarantee happiness and not every couple can make it work even if they are in love. When it does ork, it's joyous.
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
Pretty much what they all said :)Is it worth it: Yes - its a level of extreme emotional intimacy which requires vulnerabilities, strengths, challenges and honesties which are uniquely mixed. Love provides unique learning, insight and exploration opportunities from which we grow, change and reevaluate ourselves. It is however only worth it if one values it. Is there only one - I don't think there has to be any limit - i think it depends more on one's openness to different types and levels of love. Deep profound love, from my experience, does not just happen on day one, although it may feel like it, but unfolds over time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I said Love I said Pet I said Love I said Pet
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RHP User
12 years ago
Not to be confused with Infatuation nor Lust. Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it worth it? Ohhhh yes. You cant find love, it finds you, when you least expect it and am not looking for it. If you have to ask how you know when you have found it then obviously you have not found it. I would echo Justswinginbi here again and say that if you are faced with losing love...the sheer terror you feel...there is no other way of discribing it. The ocassional fight does indeed keep things humming along better. That means that the air is cleared, there are no ill thoughts harboured and like I said to my partner a while ago...mashed potatoes is pretty bland without a bit of salt and pepper...one needs the occassional bit of salt and pepper to spice things up and to make sure we are not taking each other for granted. Make up sex is pretty awesome as well. No we do not have only the one love. We can love many. Each one is different and if we think each relationship will be the same we will be sadly mistaken. We love each one uniquely. I dont do anything for love...rather do things FOR the ONE I love. Yes there have been things I have done for the one I love that in hindsight perhaps I shouldnt have, some immoral and some just plain illegal. If we all know about the pain of breaking up...if we all know that it is going to end then maybe we would not take the chance on love, too afraid of getting hurt....... ' "Life is better left to chance If I had known about the pain I would not have had the dance." Garth Brooks. . Sooner or later it will end. Whether by death or breaking up the end will come. But the dance IS so worth the pain in the end. Imagine missing out on all those good times?
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RHP User
12 years ago
which alters when it allteration finds....William Shakespeare Says it all really.I have never experienced that kind of love ,the love that moves beyond romantic love. Does it exist?I hope so.Will I do anything to find it?No, I just hope that maybe one day I will,but if I don't, I know I have experienced other kinds of love and for that I am gratefulxHugs Hesione Optimist
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Mr_MrsAraps
12 years ago
It is definitely unexpected and finds you not the other way around.I can't imagine a life without being in love at some point as it make you whole and changes you for the better.It take a lot effort, communication and thoughtfulness to stay in love though. Without these its very easy to slip into routines and suddenly...Can say from experience after 17 years that sometimes doing everything you can to make it work is sometimes not enough so I would lean towards love having different needs depending on what age / phase.
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RHP User
12 years ago
when your in love... She tells you... you're in love...
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RHP User
12 years ago
......inexplicable. It just is. And yes, it's worth it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice question lil bit :)In hindsight, I am not sure I can really answer it as I don't believe I have the experience.However, the desire for it is there enough for me to have hope.One thing I do know from experience is I would absolutely prefer being single than to settle without it.Is nice reading the replies too
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it worth it?ummm.. you make it sound like you have to give something up or that it has a cost. I don't think either of these things are true. Love is beyond value so worth nothing. What are you willing to do to find it?Be patient. I am happy to wait. Rushing in is for desperate folk. That is not me. How do you know when you've found it?You are scared. How do you keep it alive?If you need to, it's not love. Do we only have one true love, or are the possibilities endless?You can have as many loves as your heart is big enough to handle. A small hearted person my only have one or two. Others...... What have you done for love that you wish you hadn't?Nothing. I'm certain about that. I have no regrets. What didn't you do for love that you should have?Let go. But that was a long time ago :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is addictive like a drug. Once you are hooked it's hard to give it up.
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RHP User
12 years ago
it all just comes out bold..i blame ISS.. and poor ajax :-P
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RHP User
12 years ago
This is special Tolkien love?LOL Quoting 'jensman1903' When it does ork, it's joyous.
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RHP User
12 years ago
How do you know when you've found it?An open and honest trust is formed that leaves no room for doubt :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
How many people feel good about love :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is it worth it? (if this is regarding the potential pain of losing it, by however means, then yes and yes and yes). What are you willing to do to find it? (it's like the end of the rainbow, it can't be found, or held, or obtained in any way, but you know it's there and it makes you happy!). How do you know? (you wake up one day with a terrible headache from the ambush and realise that at some point "mine" became "ours" and "I" became "we" and you can't sleep right with the bed all to yourself even though you get more than 1/4 of it and more than 6 inches of blanket :) lol). How do you keep it alive? (it keeps itself alive, it's the relationship born of the love that needs feeding and tending). One true love? (nah :) ). What have I done that I wish I hadn't? (Given and given and given until I bled myself dry. Stoopid). What didn't I do for love that I should have? (remembered the first rule: to truly love, one must love self first). Love is... a gift.
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RHP User
12 years ago
girls who are hooked on that feeling of a new love, and fall in love to easily. We all experience that feeling of sparrows flying outta your arse when we first fall in love with someone. But some become addicted and cant help themself. Thats were the heartache begins....
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RHP User
12 years ago
just ... mehi love my kids ... but i can see why that part of the womans anatomy they came from got the nick name it did
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RHP User
12 years ago
well as you stated it was a bit lovey, feely in heresomeone had to do cynical ... and as you know its all about me ... :P
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Zsuza69
12 years ago
Love Is it worth it? Since im back in love again with Mrs Zsuza yes it is worth it but with my last marriage im not too sure if it was worth the heartache for 15 years, 3 houses later and to have it all taken away and left with nothing. But then my two beautiful daughters more than makes up for that. What are you willing to do to find it? Almost anything How do you know when you've found it? Butterflies in ya stomach at the thought of seeing your other half How do you keep it alive? With great sex that lasts more than 5 minutes and often average 5 times a week and probably more important dont lie tell your love everything even when she doesnt ask. an honest relationship is a very strong one. Do we only have one true love, or are the possibilities endless? The possibilities are endless but may only find one or two in a lifetime What have you done for love that you wish you hadn't? Moved to england for ten years only to breakup and start again with nothing.But then if i didnt i wouldnt have met Mrs Zsuza so thats a double edged sword. What didn't you do for love that you should have? I only have one regret in persuing love and that was when i was very young and that i didnt ask he girl i had a crush on out. i now know she would of said yes and my life could of been a lot different but i didnt have the nerve to ask and i have never seen or heard from her again.Mr Zsuza
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RHP User
12 years ago
Come here and let me give you a hug, a pash and a pinch on the bum to cheer you up xxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
But who say I need cheering up :) You know me... I keep the squishy stuff for special occasions... And rainy mornings
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RHP User
12 years ago
... Tell me honestly what is worth more? ... You know it's found because nothing else compares. It is terrifying, confronting and ecstatically inspiring, healing and freeing......... It keeps US alive! But it cannot grow without passion....... Love is what's true; if sustained (passionately) in relationship - that's the one. If not, the possibilities are endless...... I have done everything for love, that I would do it all again. But then again maybe I shouldn't have and now just let it take it's place...... I think we are heavily influenced and corrupted by what being in love/ in a relationship/ marriage should look like by severely outdated social mores.... So I think the best with love is to have no expectations....such amazing responses to your questions, you got us all thinking about love :) ... I think you are a little bit of an angel Cassandra
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RHP User
12 years ago
An angel with a slightly broken wing Cassandra ;) I share your view that nothing is worth more than love, but also see that life has a tendency to challenge and complicate love. Only the strong survive x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Its not just attraction......or lust.I'ts there between the two of you.......he knows it.....you know it.It's in your heart and soul....your mind and body.It's there forever........
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hacked mine off... Much more efficient to run...
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RHP User
12 years ago
was visiting a friend in hospital and in the bed next to her was an elderly woman.She was 92 , she told me that she had been married to her husband for 76 years.They met when she was 15 and he was 17 ,her parents did not approve and so they ran away together.They even slept under a bridge one night. She said that it was very hard when he went away to war and she was alone and only 19. While we were chatting her husband arrived,even though he used a walking stick he rushed across the ward to his wife and embraced her.He sat at her bedside and they held each others' hands while they talked.''I can't believe you are not there,I still call out to you and then I remember....you aren't there'' My friend and I both had tears in our eyes when we heard this. How amazing that after so many many years ,this lovely couple are still so devoted,something that I had ceased to believe was even possible xHugs H
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Hesione' was visiting a friend in hospital and in the bed next to her was an elderly woman.She was 92 , she told me that she had been married to her husband for 76 years.They met when she was 15 and he was 17 ,her parents did not approve and so they ran away together.They even slept under a bridge one night. She said that it was very hard when he went away to war and she was alone and only 19. While we were chatting her husband arrived,even though he used a walking stick he rushed across the ward to his wife and embraced her.He sat at her bedside and they held each others' hands while they talked.''I can't believe you are not there,I still call out to you and then I remember....you aren't there'' My friend and I both had tears in our eyes when we heard this. How amazing that after so many many years ,this lovely couple are still so devoted,something that I had ceased to believe was even possible xHugs H I want that xxx
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