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lust more for someone who you can't have

November 17 2013

Is it just me or are there others who lust more for someone you cant have then someone who's right in front of you?

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  • him_and_me

    him_and_me

    11 years ago

    I was wondering the same thing today. Whether unattanability is a desire-enhancer for many people?(Bit like when you decide to go on a diet and all you can think about is chocolate!!) I'm sure you're not the only one. Something I've noticed in here is that you are never the only one to do/feel/wonder something. Actually, that's one of the wonderful things about forums like this in general. It's always nice to know you're not alone.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I want one of my friends badly (yes I've told her) and she doesnt want me. I know she has the power to have any man she wants but that doesnt stop me from wanting her.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    OHHHHHHHHH the good ol..."I want them, they don't want me, They want me and I don't want them" Can't always get what we want...sort of thing?NEVER!FOXY

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Originalbadboy :p- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    but just as hard to mow". John Butler.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    We strive towards what is forbidden and always desire things that are denied us...Ovid 43 BC-17AD

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    You know the trick of dangling a piece of string just out of a kittens reach?!String Theory. But you can choose at which end of that piece of string you wish to be positioned. DG

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    11 years ago

    If your treated like an option, take yourself out to the equation....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Sometimes we miss that chance to have the one we deeply desire ?? It's often only a small window and sadly many of us don't get to that window before it closes

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' You know the trick of dangling a piece of string just out of a kittens reach?!String Theory. But you can choose at which end of that piece of string you wish to be positioned. DG Nice analogy ... or we could just quote Mr Spock"You may find that having is not so pleasing a thing as wanting. It is not logical, but it is often true."

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    11 years ago

    something or someone that holds our wishes or desires, because we can dream and imagine. But that will pass over time, as there will always be something or someone else that will take our desires in a newer direction.   Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'You know the trick of dangling a piece of string just out of a kittens reach?! String Theory. But you can choose at which end of that piece of string you wish to be positioned. DG I can never figure out which end of the string is the start and which end is the finish..xknots

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    That makes you the cat lol- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I know I cant have it But I WANT IT!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    There's a sexy bald tradie I'd love to get my hands on...but can't. Actually, I've decided it's kinda fun to lust after him knowing it's just not going to happen! The land of daydream and fantasy can be a wonderful place. (Mrs)- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    11 years ago

    Sometimes the person with whom you lust after the most, is the person you are best off without - just saying :-)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Reverse the situation a little.... And remember you may not be able to have them, but they don't get a chance to know what they're missing :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Plain

    Plain

    11 years ago

    By a wet fish so to speak, she is married and appreciates the attention, but alas is not interested in moi for that, back in the friend zone. But life changes, so ever the optimist and dreamer. Still very good friends.!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Then stop feeding her want she wants......she should be getting fed all the attention from her partner.... By you giving her what she wants you're enabling her to keep you there. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I always seem to lust after men who live a long distance from me. Great for chatting online but not so much in the physical setting.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    My friend's (slightly estranged) wife and I have an "unrequited lust" arrangement going on. When I met her, we'd seen each other across the bar in the same circle of friends. When we finally manoeuvred to meet at the bar, we both went to speak and locked eyes. Electric silence. thirty seconds of shocked mutual silence. "What was that?" I asked. "I have no idea, but it was intense!". We've been super close ever since. So, we are allowed to openly lust after each other as long as we don't ever seal the deal. We're agreed that if we did life would become miserable for the three of us. And so I get to stare openly, brazenly and wantonly at her perfect arse as she wiggles around the bar. Once, she handcuffed herself to me and dragged me into the swimming pool. I carried her in my arms and swum in circles as we stared into each other's eyes and talked. No spanky.In this I would definitely prefer to want than get. The wanting is hawt! Getting would be sticky.RA

  • Plain

    Plain

    11 years ago

    Over time laddy, I have learned the best things in life always come to those who are patient, you may or may not accept that but I choose to age disgracefully but never bitter or anxious. But the other side is perhaps I have moved on and as we see each other frequently, we both keep tabs on each other, so it is a reciprocal arrangement just no need for seduction at the moment!!

  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Stir_it_alot' Then stop feeding her want she wants......she should be getting fed all the attention from her partner.... By you giving her what she wants you're enabling her to keep you there. - Posted from rhpmobile Was going to say pretty much the same thing as you lurk.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    And... If someone is forbidden to me (attached, gay, too good a friend)... I switch them off- so to speak, emotionally. I make a choice... On the other hand, If they don't want me (as if!!) ... I respect their choice and where they are at in their lives and don't persue it. The lust can be overcome with logic... Mind over pussy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    So it only lasts 10 minutes

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Maybe it was my upbringing (or lack thereof) but someone who rebuffs my attention gets friend-zoned without much thought... and if they become interested later I have to work to allow them in. When someone says "No" I believe them and don't press.So no the Elusive and Forbidden don't enhance my lusting, the fire of desire just burns quickly down to warm embers. If someone shows interest up front then I don't hold back... heart on sleeve, soul bare to the world and let the bedroom burn.In my early 20's there was a girl I had an interest in... I expressed it to her and she gave me the "Sorry, just not that interested" line... from that point on we were just good friends and I treated her as I would any other. Then she started to flirt and push herself on me... took a few months to open up again and allow in the interest I once had. Once that interest was reignited......SG

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad'You know the trick of dangling a piece of string just out of a kittens reach?! String Theory. Finally, string theory makes sense ;)

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    ....for unanswered prayers. That just because he may not answer doesn't mean he don't care Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered Prayers. But FFS couldn't you provide a lustful alternative instead of a drought? Sheesh you made it flood for Noah and everyone came to the ark! Hang on what was the question? Oh yes, yes I have, am and are. 😖 And yes I have been, am and won't go there.... Sometimes not getting what you want IS for the best. And yes sometimes the lusting and fantasising is better than reality.....but sometimes it's not. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Cheekyarses'If your treated like an option, take yourself out of the equation....

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    ...now I'm sand bagging!! ah well, when it rains it pours right? I love that picture Kiwibred.....so pretty!!