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meeting couples
October 09 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
How can we answer thata when you haven't told what you are scared about. The first date? The sex part? Not sure how to treat Mrs in front of Mr? What are you worried about?
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RHP User
10 years ago
In ways like meeting with them for fun was told some couples ar straight and some bi but as a straight man do couples always look for a bi man - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
All cock photo for the world at large to see...... and you're scared to talk and meet?! You've met LOTS of couples in your life..... you just had your pants on.Try ... that.
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Twisted_Mister
10 years ago
1. Meet first the same way you would a lady/chick/girl/female/woman (did I get it right girls? :) ), in a public place for a drink/coffee. Have a chat with them BOTH, and if there seems to be chemistry then talk about what exactly they're after, any boundaries they have, and so on. 2. Remember that you are, and definitely will be the third wheel. This is about the couple, not you. 3. Don't go all out at the F half and ignore the M half (as part of a previous couple I've been on the receiving end of this, and the answer was no!) 4. This will usually (but not always) be part of the F's fantasy, depending on the orientation of the M. 5. Be polite, be respectful, but if it happens be prepared to be carried away with the situation if it happens. Not that I'm saying you wouldn't be. 6. Enjoy! It's one if the best things ever if done right! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
really? Is Billy just a big dick. Damn, to me he was just a grey ghost like lots of other profiles. Thanks for the heads up DG. (get it, get it)
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think ye are all taking me wrong im saying as I have never been with a couple to have fun with is it just pleasing the girl as im straight and not bi and also I have been to meet and greets events thats great but never left with a couple - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
some couples input here about how they like to approach the situation but if you are not bi and def not curious, you need to be upfront about that when chatting. Assuming that because you are not bi, you will have no intention of doing anything sexual with the man so you can safely say then it has to be about the woman. Discuss with the couple their boundaries and respect their relationship. Things you may like to discuss are if anal is off the table, if not, what about DP? Toys, roleplay, watching, being watched. Ask the couple what they expect and how they see it playing out. Then if all seems good, set a date and have a couple of drinks to calm the nerves if you have to, but not too many and stay relaxed and go with the flow.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is when we meet a guy for a few drinks and have a great time chatting and every one is just being there selfs then it is easier to discuss boundaries ect Then when it comes to playing bring a drink or 2 and just go with the flow while remembering boundaries and focus on the girl but make sure you don't forget the husband Once you have finished DONT be in a hurry to leave sit down and have a drink and a chat for a few minutes , you never know things might just start up again ;-) Good luck - Posted from rhpmobile
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Look for profiles where they want to experiment with MMF. We play with one gorgeous man as a MMF on a regular basis. He approached us, we talked and we met. The chemistry is awesome and yes I am the centre of attention:). Our playmate is the consummate gentleman, I'm lavished with attention, but the guys actually talk about many things and simply get on, our plays are not all about him fucking me (though that always happens). Your validations would impact my decision as a part of a couple if we played. Finally, head Twisted_Mister's advice. - It's SPOT ON. Mary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Now that helps a lot thanks I think ill get to know the couple first and see what they like to do and go from there its something new to me so will take my time . Thanks again - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Twisted_Mister'1. Meet first the same way you would a lady/chick/girl/female/woman (did I get it right girls? :) ), in a public place for a drink/coffee. Have a chat with them BOTH, and if there seems to be chemistry then talk about what exactly they're after, any boundaries they have, and so on. 2. Remember that you are, and definitely will be the third wheel. This is about the couple, not you. 3. Don't go all out at the F half and ignore the M half (as part of a previous couple I've been on the receiving end of this, and the answer was no!) 4. This will usually (but not always) be part of the F's fantasy, depending on the orientation of the M. 5. Be polite, be respectful, but if it happens be prepared to be carried away with the situation if it happens. Not that I'm saying you wouldn't be. 6. Enjoy! It's one if the best things ever if done right! - Posted from rhpmobile We both agree with Twisted Mister's first point, it's exactly what Mr we do. We like to meet men we are interested in (and vice versa) somewhere not too busy for a drink, to see how we all get on. Usually we don't play on a first date (we make that clear ahead of time), and we find it puts less pressure on the evening. However, we absolutely disagree with TM's second point. The men we play with are never a third wheel, it's about all three of us! We usually prefer to meet bi men for this reason, but have been very happy with straight guys too. Billy, if you feel a couple treats you as an ""extra" instead of a "guest star" we say walk, you deserve more. Not sure what TM meas by "ignoring the husband". Does it mean don't get in his way? There are plenty of ways to please a woman at the same time and just as many for her to pleasure you both. Point 4: We don't think that's true, we've seen many profiles here where it is hubby's fantasy to see his wife fucked by another man. It could indeed be one of the best things you've ever done! Yes, be respectful of boundaries, including your own. And should you meet a couple who chooses to forgo a condom between them (a deal-breaker for us, but not everyone), that doesn't mean the same goes for you. A few pointers: Cock shots are mostly an instant no for us, and if you don't put any effort into your profile a couple may think you won't put much effort into sex either. The same goes for messages. The "hey, i liked your pics, want to meet?" messages are a dime a dozen and not very inspiring. Also, why should people contact you when you're a paid member? Again, we feel it shows a lack of effort on your part. Here, a post to rival the length of our profile, hope you get something out of it. x Ms Shout and Mr Tryst - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
We went to our first swingers party on 31/12/2012 and since then have been to a few more, although none this year. We have also visited a few swingers clubs. Whilst we have a little experience, which we can share, we are not seasoned, hardcore swingers. From our experience at swingers parties, swingers clubs and then swinger/dating sites like this , it is obvious that males [genuinely single and those pretending to be single] are in over supply and far outnumber the females / couples. The fact that there is thus a lot of competition [so many men and so few couples/females] means that for a man to get lucky, both on here and at a swingers club [on those nights where single men are allowed in] he really needs to make a good first impression and be polite and respectful with regards the initial contact and the way he approaches a couple. When we were paid up members, both on this site and another, we used to spend some time in the chat rooms. We rarely would initiate a private chat with others. During our time in the chat rooms, we would receive dozens of private whispers/solicitations from men, despite the fact that our profile at that stage made it clear that we did not want to receive whispers from men in the chat rooms. The majority of these whispers opened along lines as follows : hot pix, wanna fuck ? or hot bod, wanna sit on my face ? etc etc In our opinion the guys clearly had no tact nor any clue as to how to chat to someone in a respectful manner. They were obviously frustrated and turned on and more than likely were not thinking with their large head [the one that has a brain] but rather with their small head The majority of them had dick pics as their profile pic and nothing else. Needless to say we ignored their advances and in many instances added them to our block list. Not all guys on here and or on these swinger/dating sites are like that. But those that are like that result in all guys being tarred with the same brush and so when a guy sends us a whisper and or approaches us, we are immediately expecting the worst. Then there were guys that started off a conversation in a normal, sedate manner - idle chit chat - and then slowly steered the conversation in a sexual direction. It was very obvious, and entertaining, as clearly they thought that we did not see it coming or that women were too stupid to see it coming. Who knows .... but pretty soon they too got added to the block list when then did not want to take no for an answer. Many of them then tried to get the female, of this couple, to meet with them alone. Again that showed lack of respect on their part, that they would honestly think that a happily married female would be prepared to cheat on the man that she loved . In many instances these single men happened to be cheating on their partners and so expected the same from us. Clearly they had no respect for the female of this couple. They wanted what they wanted - a quick root - a blow and go, wham bang thank you mam. The swingers parties that we attended were couples only and so there were no problems with so called single men. However, we went to a few swingers clubs on nights that single men were allowed and found their attitude no different to what we had experienced in the chat rooms. Guys would approach the female of this couple and make open and direct solicitations, without even a hello nor an introduction - they got straight to the point. Others would follow us around the club like dogs on the hunt. In many instances they even followed the female of this couple to the toilets, not once but several times, which resulted in them being thrown out of the club. We once played in an open room [ a room that did not have a door to lock] with another couple, and within minutes found ourselves surrounded by 10 guys, their dicks out, wanking furiously. They started to bark orders [just as they do when one is on webcam in the chat rooms], and then proceeded to grope the women and to then try to shove their dicks in their mouths. We were forced to leave the room and to find one with a door that could be locked, but despite that were followed to the room and then once the door was locked the men tried to get in and or climb over [ as the walls stopped short of the ceilings]. We went back to the clubs, a few more times on those nights that men were allowed, but it was the same every time. Other couples had the same experiences and the forums, on another site, were full of complaints about the same swingers clubs [all local ones in Melbourne] Just because we are on a sex/swingers site and or at a swingers club, does not mean that we are sluts and or will open our legs on command. In fact one does not have to play nor have sex at all. No means no. But so many guys have the attitude that because this is a sex/ swingers site, that they have the absolute right to demand sex and or push and hunt and grope and follow. The same with swingers clubs. If they have paid $100 to get in, then they expect something in return - and if there are couples / females then they expect to have sex with them and get all pissed off when things dont go their way. Its however not all doom and gloom, as on our first night at a swingers club, a very polite well spoken man approached us , introduced himself and starting chatting politely with us. Our intention was never to have a MFM 3 some, but we ended up having a 3 some with him and have, since then, had several more 3 somes with him. So what made him different to all the other men that had approached us? Why did he succeed with us where others had failed ? It all came down to the way he approached us. He did so gently, with respect, politeness and manners. He did not rush in and start talking about sex and or groping and grabbing. We spoke about all sorts of things, our experiences, our boundaries etc etc, which in hindsight was very important as it made us feel at ease with him and it gave us the confidence that not only did he respect us, but that he would also respect our boundaries and for that reason we have played with him several times now. Lets not beat about the bush - we are all in it for the pleasure. The sexual arousal, be it physical or mental. The visuals , the sensations, the enjoyment. For us, it is about our enjoyment and in that regard we are selfish, but not in a bad way. That does not mean that the other guy or couple will not enjoy themselves, but if we are going to have a 3 some with a man, then our enjoyment is more important and we make the rules with regards the 3some, and what may / may not be done. If we did not enjoy it then we would not be doing it and he would not have the opportunity to play with us. We set boundaries as to what is acceptable and what is not, and we have made sure that he knows exactly what they are and in this regard we ensure, every time that we may meet him, that he remembers what they are as often in the heat of the moment one can forget and then end up crossing a boundary and or doing something that we may find unpleasant. So Bill, if you are going to be successful with regards meeting a couple and having a 3 some with them, you need to approach them in a polite ,respectful manner. You need to listen to them and to discuss your and their boundaries, your and their needs, wants and desires. Dont be pushy and dont force things to go too fast or in a certain direction. Remember always that you, as a single guy, are in over supply and that couples can really pick and choose who they wish to play with, and that in order to get a foot in the door, you need to appeal to what they are looking for. That does not mean they/we are arrogant or un-approachable, just that we have standards and we like to be 100% sure before we rush in and do something that we may regret. We have had a few unpleasant experiences that just about put us off the whole swinging scene . We even received death threats and threats of physical harm, by a few people that we have turned down. Because of the negatives, we have not played with anyone [besides our 3 some man] for over a year now. The Melbs meet n greet this past weekend was the first meet n greet that we have been to since March 2013. Again due to some negative, rather pushy people that we did not want to bump into. But went along and had a good time, met a few of the chatters and had some interesting conversations.
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
In your post above you stated : And should you meet a couple who chooses to forgo a condom between them (a deal-breaker for us, but not everyone), that doesn't mean the same goes for you. What do you mean by this ? We have been married for many years and when we, as husband and wife, make love to one another we never use a condom as we have been in a monogamous relationship for all these years and as such the sex that we have, with one another, sans condom, will naturally be safe sex. However if, on those rare occasions that we play with others, safe sex is very important and that means that if we are going to be swapping partners then condoms must be worn, and a fresh condom used if the penis goes one from vagina to the next. However, lets expand on this, with regards what you wrote. If we were having a 3 some, or a 4 some, we would not wear a codom if we were making love to one another, but in the 3 some/4 some the male of this couple would naturally wear a condom if playing with the female of the other couple and we would ensure that the male of the other couple [ in the case of a 4 some] or the other male [in case of a MFM 3 some] would wear a condom if playing with the female of this couple. Your post seems to imply that you would not be happy if the couple [male and female] you were having a 4 some with did not wear a condom when making love to one another. How would this be a deal breaker for you ? If the male of the other couple, then pulled out of his wife, and then put on a condom before playing with the female half of your couple then what difference does it make with regards safe sex and the risk of a STI ? If they were a couple in a long term monogamous relationship then sex without a condom, between themselves, would still be safe sex. Obviously if they were not in a monogamous relationship and had unprotected sex, with others, then certainly for us that would make them a no-go / deal breaker s, even if they wore a condom when we played, as we would consider them to be high risk. That said condoms are not 100% safe, and wearing condoms, but then swapping other body fluids - saliva / mucosa is pretty much unsafe sex, as mucous [from mouth to mouth, mouth to penis, mouth to vagina, mouth to anus] can certainly bee a vector for the transmission of many STDs / STIs
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Hottie1
10 years ago
Billy 'heed' Twisted's advice. I'm not sure how he feels about 'head' his advice Where are my grammar Nazi's, are you hiding? xxMary xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I only meet at my place.........and we get to know each other first.....texts, calls.I have met so many lovely people here.Many are are friends for life now, we chat on facebook and stay in touch.One only needs to be honest and accepting of others and meet their individual needs.And, of course, be a lovely,splendid host.Personally, I really love being with a couple.I enjoy making people happy.love Karin........XXXX
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jason_Leslie' but if we are going to have a 3 some with a man, then our enjoyment is more important and we make the rules with regards the 3some, and what may / may not be done. I wouldn't go anywhere near couples who have this type of arrogant attitude. Why is your enjoyment more important? Because you're a smug couple doing the poor single guy a favour? Blergh. I don't understand at all why there is this idea that the single men in MMF/MFM are just 'third wheels' and should be expected to be grateful for whatever crumbs they are thrown. Seems like the couples who think like that could just use a dildo to the same effect.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jason_Leslie' Your post seems to imply that you would not be happy if the couple [male and female] you were having a 4 some with did not wear a condom when making love to one another. How would this be a deal breaker for you ? Say for example Mr Tryst and I had sex with you both. If Jason were to cum inside Leslie, it would be quite easy to for someone's hands to get cum on them and for it to potentially end up inside my vagina. Not something I'd want to keep track of while lost in the moment. Also, creampies are really not my thing. x Ms Shout
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jason_Leslie' That does not mean that the other guy or couple will not enjoy themselves, but if we are going to have a 3 some with a man, then our enjoyment is more important Quoting 'tryst_and_shout' Billy, if you feel a couple treats you as an ""extra" instead of a "guest star" we say walk, you deserve morQuoting 'Luckdragon23' I don't understand at all why there is this idea that the single men in MMF/MFM are just 'third wheels' and should be expected to be grateful for whatever crumbs they are thrown. Seems like the couples who think like that could just use a dildo to the same effect. JandL, sounds like you're after a free gigolo?
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RHP User
10 years ago
If youré talking about RHP, first step is to read their profile and find out what they are seeking, and whether that fits with you. All couples are unique and there is variation in what they are seeking. Whether that be as a third wheel, an active player in an all-in, focus on the female or a Bull in a cuckold situation... If you're approaching couples on here, you should probably expand your profile to describe what situation you're looking for and what you have to offer a couple. Also note, that profiles who are guest's can't see your profile pic.
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
Yes we get your point re coming and then ejaculate getting onto fingers and from there into your vagina .... But what about vsignal fluids getting into fingers and then being transferred to another vagina? Pretty much the same risk. That said, Jason always leaves his coming till last, that way he does not have to share his ejaculate with anyone but his loving wife. He always uses a condom if entering another woman (only been inside 2 other women so far) but has never orgasmed with another but reserves that for me.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jason_Leslie'But what about vsignal fluids getting into fingers and then being transferred to another vagina? I'm just as careful there. x Ms Shout
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