M37
nice guys still get girls???
December 10 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just love a Scottish brogue DG,very Gerry Butler of you...hmm what was the question again? Nice men versus bad boys...why would a woman choose a man who clearly has psychopathetic tendencies,maybe if she is a masochist I suppose. Nice men win, win always for me
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Too much cockyness = arrogant and considered a jerk Too much niceness = gay best friend, or, the guy who gets used for dinners and gifts hoping one day, she'll be attracted enough to shag him. Hint - she wont. Be funny, be nice, be bold, be nice, be confident, be nice. Be masculine, to her feminine. Calibrate what is needed, when, and with who. You forgot a few: Be wild, be nice, be a kinky fucker, be nice, be a sexual deviate, be nice, and take her like a fucking ANIMAL. In the nicest possible way.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Too much cockyness = arrogant and considered a jerk Too much niceness = gay best friend, or, the guy who gets used for dinners and gifts hoping one day, she'll be attracted enough to shag him. Hint - she wont. Be funny, be nice, be bold, be nice, be confident, be nice. Be masculine, to her feminine. Calibrate what is needed, when, and with who. You forgot a few: Be wild, be nice, be a kinky fucker, be nice, be a sexual deviate, be nice, and take her like a fucking ANIMAL. In the nicest possible way. Ms D said it perfectly on my behalf also
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RHP User
12 years ago
She's a rabbit.....no one likes to have their leg cut in two by metal jaws!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is seeing some smoldering HOT babe.... On the back of a Harley, attached to a big, FAT, ugly, HAIRY biker dude. I guess it really is all about what is between your legs (I mean the bike). I suppose I am a nice guy in public, and it was part of my job to be polite, treat a lady with respect, but yes, when you get her in the bedroom..... The gloves come off. If she wants nice slow, erotic sex, no problem, but if she wants rip-your-clothes-off-and-slam-you-against-the-wall sex, then that is good too. I prefer the latter. Initial hot, fuck me NOW animal sex, then maybe tone it down to erotic once the formalities are over with. I do like making out on the couch too. I would REALLY prefer the 'Mr and Mrs Smith' approach to foreplay, hunt each other down in the house with fully automatic weapons and shotguns, beat the shit out of each other (who's your daddy NOW?) and then the neighbors calling the cops type sex. It looked like fun of tv. Angelina Jolie can beat the crap out of me any day of the week:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
HT,Hugh is about to devour yet another pink bunny...lucky girl...and he does have a rather strong looking jaw
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'hardtruckin2011'She's a rabbit.....no one likes to have their leg cut in two by metal jaws!!! Would prefer to have my legs spread by iron grips...
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RHP User
12 years ago
My question would be, did they ever? Well, maybe if they were looking for a beta male to care for the alpha male's young. Then again, don't let evolution get in the way of your feelings, your hopes and your dreams lol...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I hope that makes me a nicer guy, and not your standard, crude American:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
A good set of stirrups, and a deadly weapon??
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RHP User
12 years ago
But isn't that what the ladies want? It's defininately a balancing act. One I'm not good at Be nice but take charge at the appropriate moment.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Cav tradition when u survive combat, you get the 'order of the silver spurs', effective from this date until internment at fiddlers green ( where all cav troopers go when they die). After desert storm, I saw a young cav lieutenant with a caste on his leg.... And he still jammed his spur in to the caste. Hardcore to the end...l
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RHP User
12 years ago
is most definitely the key here, most of you get it. I feel the majority of women want someone who treats you well, but can toss you around the bedroom when it's called for and who can stand up for you when it's needed. Oh and when we ask that you can carry a conversation it doesn't have to be scholarly, just that you have had some life experience, a good sense of humour and can extend a conversation to more than footy and fart jokes. A fine balance of the sensitive and the strong. It's really not rocket science.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The old adage "nice guys finish last" may be hundreds of years old but it still rings true in 2012. The bad boys, bastards and arseholes win every time. Here on RHP is a small example of it at work.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice guys do tend to come last even though Saskia has described the right balance. Reason maybe because its difficult to demonstrate and communicate in public that balance hence the reason that the louder, extraverty, rough type guys get the girls. I think women seem to observe and feel the polite quieter guys don't have enough spark or aggresive traits when in fact a lot of guys like this are the strong type in the bedroom and when its needed. Maybe women misplace arrogance and ego for confidence in the rougher type guys which is why nice guys miss out.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I like a nice guy. Who doesn't want to be sweet talked and made to feel beautiful, loved and adored? The whole girls like bad boys is a myth - well to the emotionally stable, confident woman anyway.
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RHP User
12 years ago
has always been a winner for me in the real world.. and the only way I know how...But on here it's different... I meet a girl off here early this year who was surprised I had a personality and ( in her words not mine ) good looks .. Tells me she was expecting me to be a guy abit full of himself and desparate... of which I'm neither...Goes to show how some of you girls can get it wrong when you pass up a promising flirt or message... To avoid mismatches ' I always make a point and state it in my profile' that we meet for a coffee or drink first.. That way if theres nothing doing .. we can leave it at that and move on..Whats do they say ' you cant always judge a book by its cover ?? how true
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RHP User
12 years ago
Being loud and extraverted doesn't equate to rough. I'm not a rough man but I can be the maniac of the venue I am in if I feel that way at the time. Being the 'nice guy' has not only got me a lot of female friends but has got me into a few of their beds too. As Beesknees said, what girl doesn't want to be flattered, the difference is knowing whether she wants the attention from you or somebody else. If it's somebody else, bow out gracefully and you may end up with a friend. Excuse me while I try to chat up the barmaid. " Your looking particularly nice today, did you do something with your hair?'
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ofcourse they do. Once the bad boys are finished with them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Being nice has got me lots of female friends. Sadly I haven't slept with any of them. There is a balance but you've gotta look for the girl you want too. Contrary to popular belief it's not all about the woman. You gotta find the woman who wants to make you as happy as you want to make her.
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RHP User
12 years ago
No they don't. I'm (I think) not unattractive 6' with a PG qualification and I earn in 6 figures. I'm also wide read and all women want to do is be "my friend" while they're off shagging other guys.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nortty, your last comment in your question? Are you saying you love to sweep a woman off her feet? I would love for a man to sweep me off my feet. It really feels like forever since one has. That is totally hot but I find that men are too polite these days.... I can't believe I am saying this but as DG says I want a MAN who won't listen to me when I try to reduce everything to a joke or to purely sex basis. Mmmm where is he? Meeka xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
yes i meant sweep off there feet, and meeka in answer to your question.. im here im just in perth aha x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi!Naughtyenglishboy Thanks for the Topic.. I tend to agree with Saskia and others who encouraged Balance in a Guys Personality, Character..when dealing with Me in a General and Sexual way.. Sure the Badboy Image is Interesting but it loses it's appeal very quickly especially when he's a Moron ,who only has time for his Bike and Mates . I don't go there anyway .. Or the self Absorbed Stud with the Looks ,who's brain is in his pants and can't communicate past the basics .Bores me very quickly. Verbal Bantering is a Major turn on for me especially when it's Titillating and explosive in an erotic way because there's Chemistry between us Oh! Man! that certainly fast tracks to My Bed and an swesome shared Sexual Encounter he!he!..Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
unless if you make harder the way they can have you because what they like or what i think they like is to play and have some opposition because if you get every thing you want when ever you want. life will be boring so let's get some new chalenge.I am really nice guy my self but he took me a times to understand that i have to invite ay girl as friend for a drink first and see what she got and why I should to go with her and not the one t the next table so we have to creat a game who the prize is you because if you don't play you won't get the right one for you. But that's my opinion.really good reply so far,RHP is really interesting,beny.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Between 'nice' and 'wet'. I'll go for nice any day but not 'wet' or boring or a pushover. I hate a 'yes' man, I want someone who challenges me and stands up for what they believe in, has opinions, asserts themselves. Women with any self esteem don't go for bastards or abusers.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And I want a man who can handle me. Take that how you will.
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RHP User
12 years ago
how on earth do you hope to attract women on this site if you are a guest?Obviously you can afford the membership.I read your profile and it is well written and you sound interesting ,so be more proactive in your search. ps DG a profit in his own land is just nevah listened to,already told you that
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been caught in this many a time because yes, I'm nice.the trick is, as others have said balance.Being nice is attractive to most but it needs to be balanced with a good serve of masculine, be assertive, be confident and be your own man, assert your needs wants and opinions.Never be afraid to be the man.Nice combined with compliant, servile sycophant will get you just good friend status every time or less !Be very aware however that you cant please everyone, some women just don't know how to be with a nice guy, they have never experienced it, they don't trust it, and it scares them.So rather than take up a career in social repatriation, stay on your own path and appreciate those who see the good.
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RHP User
12 years ago
is the physical chemistry, and I know you are all thinking "ohhh here we go, you have to be good looking!" Okay, yes you have to be good looking, but who is to say what good looking is? We all have our own benchmarks, what is attractive to one person is not to another. It has been said on here time and time again. It doesn't matter if you are nasty or nice if the attraction is not there. Some say that a GSOH or great intellect can turn a non attraction into an attraction, I usually feel that if the spark's not there to begin with it's very hard to turn that into a 'yes' from personality alone, but the reverse is not true, I can be attracted to someone and they will then turn out to be an asshole, self absorbed or complete dick and that can very quickly turn my switch to the off position. Summary, yes personality is the clincher (balance of nice guy, knows what he wants guy) but if there is not attraction...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Whilst the myth of nice guys has surfaced, may I mention that there is another myth worth mentioning too. The myth that women like tall, not over weight, well groomed, men riding big motorcycles and driving exotic Italian sports cars. RUBBISH! I have all of the above and have never ever been approached by a woman.What I have observed though is that a large fat wallet on any man works a treat. Ever seen a rich man without a bevy of beauties around him? Proves the point.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That I'm an ugly fucker. But I own dat shit!! *does a little dance*
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you need to buy someone's affection and attention, clearly you've nothing else to offer eh?? Kinda sad really, but each to their own.
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RHP User
12 years ago
But seems to be true. Both genders it appears are initially attracted to the loud, cheeky, flamboyent characters in the crowd. By the time it is realised how shallow, meaningless and self centred that person is, the ones who were really worth knowing have given up, lost interest or just lost faith in themselves. *sighs*Hubby is one of the kindest, gentlest men I know, always there for anyone at any time, great friend, wonderful lover ( hell he even looks good ) but as he is shy and non pushy, he is quite often overlooked or thought of as weak and a pushover.Just goes to show, I scored and thousands of others missed out! and we should definately look under the cover if we want deep and meaningful.But - if its just quick, loud and wham bam thankyou maam; go the peacock; if you can catch them pml
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RHP User
12 years ago
i got the girl didnt i? and i'm a bloody pushover....hopeless romantic to boot...lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mischievouslad,yes you're right I was describing my superficial elements.I would like to think I'm funny (well ladies are always telling me I am) I'd also like to think I'm a sympathetic listener but, like most males I do tend to try and find a solution when all the lady wants is a shoulder to cry on. But for all this all I get is that hoary old tale: "I like you as a friend" bullshit.This is getting tiresome. I hven't had a sexlife for nearly 20 years because I did the right thing!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Next time they give ya the poor me diatribe, just tell em That's sad, but it's in the past leave it there, WE are the future.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice guys finish last,so their lover can finish first What guy wants to cum first ,when they can cum last
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RHP User
12 years ago
Then pick her up, and say we're going out. Take her go-karting or some where fun not funny, then to a dinner in an unusual place. Or take her to a place special to you, take her back home and say get the hell out.:p
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a nice guy , a really f......n naughty one though and hey I'm not complaining ! Sure some of my friends would agree , I think as long as your confident in yourself obviously not arrogant , can't imagine shy working too well but honesty going a fair way .
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RHP User
12 years ago
Depends on the girl. I like nice guys yet i go for tattoos and the bike or surfie types. I like the romance YET I NEVER GET IT. Just be yourself i believe its better than trying to be something your not. Try new things if it doesnt work for you move on.. I love nice guys thought but there hard to come by as there always taken by the bitches!! I like a nice guy in like and a naughty guy in the bedroom.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Relationship = Niceguy RHP = Badboy I think Bad boys Win. Just my opinion ,more element of excitement! You still have to be nice about it Its a necessary evil...
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RHP User
12 years ago
where are all the emotionally stable women???? nice guy (how i was brought up) is not working for me.......
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RHP User
12 years ago
Me thinks you're here for games... Im sure there are plenty that could more than handle your whims.... take that anyway you want...
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CountrEE_Girl
12 years ago
I find that the self proclaimed "nice guys" always want the hot slutty girls who are off rooting the hot bad boys,.. whilst the nice girls are left under the cyber palm....
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RHP User
12 years ago
One point I feel I have to raise....it sounds like so many people try to be someone/something and act in some way to attract/please others. Just be who you are- nobody should have to change. I would not want to change for or change anyone I am with. This leads to unnatural behaviours and inevitably problems/ breakup/ heartache or at least increasing the chances of....... Thoughts anyone?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hardtruckin, just repeating what women say they want. Also if they don't get the money when they meet the bloke, they certainly get it ten fold when they leave. A very good investment.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'soslowsam'This is getting tiresome. I hven't had a sexlife for nearly 20 years because I did the right thing! Sam, you did the right thing by whom ?Yourself or someone else ?Start doing for you and acting in your own interest and looking after you.The respect you gain may surprise you !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well said in both Saskia .... But you need to define what your 'nice guy' characteristics are??Chivalry ain't dead ... neither is being assertive ... if you don't know when it matters .... well then you don't matter ..Wants, Whims, Turn-ons/offs, Expectations will vary for all of us ... even when the Chemistry is right you'll be holding the door for the guy escorting your gal ....
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RHP User
12 years ago
It certainly doesnt work for me! I cant change that I am a nice guy or that Im too honest, but it certainly gets frustrating when I am lucky to get a single response ( A polite no usually) every 6 months
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RHP User
12 years ago
A Bad Boy fessed up & told me..(LoL, thanks Jase). The term "Bad Boy" is a dynamic label for loser. The conversation was a turning point & motivated me to change it up & have a go at meeting "Good Guys". WoW, Living the Dream.. I have been totally blown away in every way & some!!! Bye bye Bad Boys :P Hellooo Good Guys, how youuu doin??? XxX
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good guys (and yes I would describe myself as one of those) really only have one function on this site. We are the poor buggers who try to do the right thing, try NOT to be what is often described as a typical RHP sleaze. We don't send the 'hey wanna fuck' messages, ours actually are often well thought out. Which means that most of the time said messages don't get read, and definitely don't get replied to. The Good Guy function here seems to be the 'friend' the one who the woman calls or contacts when for the third time this month some Bad Boy has used and abused them. The GG will patiently listen, politely remind said stupid woman that he did say that the guy wasn't right for her, listen to her swear she will never again chase that type knowing she will again. And in the end it will be the GG to decides that it just isn't worth it and stop contacting the woman. What a lot seem to forget here is the other side of the equation on this site. There are a lot of women here who don't deserve a GG, they are users who will quite willingly string the poor guy along for their own amusement or benefit. yes there are men like that here too, they are called Bad Boys - go figure!
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RHP User
12 years ago
There is a private and a public side to most people. Generally the private side of girls will lead them to wanting a " nice guy"... The public side may be more interested in the "rebelious, nauty, tough guy".... Then there are those who just cant help themselves, they are addicted to troybled and abusive guys.... But no one really seeseeks a pain in the arse guy.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Bad_Habit
12 years ago
If it is a contest between myself (a nice guy) who is fit, clean and d&d free, but 5'7 in height and a drunken douchbag at 6'2, the douchbag gets the girl every time.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Good guys (and yes I would describe myself as one of those) really only have one function on this site. We are the poor buggers who try to do the right thing, try NOT to be what is often described as a typical RHP sleaze. We don't send the 'hey wanna fuck' messages, ours actually are often well thought out. Which means that most of the time said messages don't get read, and definitely don't get replied to. Quite the opposite, as the more eloquent gents here whom I've sent replies will attest to. (Btw, I reply to every email, well thought out or not). For me to be interested, you would have to match my criteria though. And being 53, (or 5'7, Bad_Habit) would not be what I'm looking for. But then, neither is a drunken douchebag!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'mooka' Good guys (and yes I would describe myself as one of those) really only have one function on this site. We are the poor buggers who try to do the right thing, try NOT to be what is often described as a typical RHP sleaze. We don't send the 'hey wanna fuck' messages, ours actually are often well thought out. Which means that most of the time said messages don't get read, and definitely don't get replied to. Quite the opposite, as the more eloquent gents here whom I've sent replies will attest to. (Btw, I reply to every email, well thought out or not). For me to be interested, you would have to match my criteria though. And being 53, (or 5'7, Bad_Habit) would not be what I'm looking for. But then, neither is a drunken douchebag! Ms Devious, whilst that might be true for you, I still stand by my statement that the crude and rude message must work otherwise why would so many men evidently send them? As for me, I don't know why you needed to tell me why I would be rejected by you. Like most here, I know what type of lady I am after, you don't fit my criteria as I don't fit yours, hence why I have never contacted you!!! BTW, try 5'11"
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Good guys (and yes I would describe myself as one of those) really only have one function on this site. We are the poor buggers who try to do the right thing, try NOT to be what is often described as a typical RHP sleaze. We don't send the 'hey wanna fuck' messages, ours actually are often well thought out. Which means that most of the time said messages don't get read, and definitely don't get replied to. The Good Guy function here seems to be the 'friend' the one who the woman calls or contacts when for the third time this month some Bad Boy has used and abused them. The GG will patiently listen, politely remind said stupid woman that he did say that the guy wasn't right for her, listen to her swear she will never again chase that type knowing she will again. And in the end it will be the GG to decides that it just isn't worth it and stop contacting the woman. What a lot seem to forget here is the other side of the equation on this site. There are a lot of women here who don't deserve a GG, they are users who will quite willingly string the poor guy along for their own amusement or benefit. yes there are men like that here too, they are called Bad Boys - go figure! I consider myself a nice guy and I think the ladies from here that have met me or are in contact with me will agree. Treating people with respect and honesty will get you a long way. And on occasions, it will get you all the way. And while you're treating people with respect, make sure you do the same thing for yourself. If you let people treat you like dirt you're only going to meet dirty people.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry Mooka, it was not meant like that, I was trying to make a general point. And I'm certainly aware that I'm not everyone's dream woman either. You ask why so many men evidently send so many crude and rude messages? I wouldn't know, luckily I rarely receive them. And Funlover: Absolutely!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with you that the crude messages must work. I think that, perhaps, these guys send them out en masse to as many women as they can. Even with a mere 5% success rate, it would be worth it and they would be finding the exact kind of wooman they're looking for. The easy ones. Why would they want to put in the effort of good manners and feigning interest when a simple "let's fuck" gets it done. What I don't agree with is MissD not being your type. Trust me, Mooka, unless you're gay (and I'm pretty sure you're not) she's every red blooded man's type.
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RHP User
12 years ago
yes, nice = win can't fake it though.
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RHP User
12 years ago
mooka,I looked at your profile,your age range is 35-46 ,women who are closer to your age,53 are not on your radar it seems. Most women here, 35-46 are not seeking men in your age range.Perhaps that is why they are treating you as friend material and not as a potential lover.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' mooka,I looked at your profile,your age range is 35-46 ,women who are closer to your age,53 are not on your radar it seems. Most women here, 35-46 are not seeking men in your age range.Perhaps that is why they are treating you as friend material and not as a potential lover. Freya, thank you for being so observant. Did I even say that I am looking for someone from here, I only come on here for the forums. I don't think I have updated my profile since I joined. And just to clarify, I was talking generically, not just the experiences from this site, but others as well, both adult and vanilla. Also, most women my age aren't seeking men their age, I am kind of screwed whatever I do, hence the lack of care factor here apart from the forums.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi! Mooka. I'm glad you enjoy the forums..No you're not screwed either way. Online is just casting a wider net.But those Women who are meant to be in your Life ,will be for whatever reason and time. So chill drop a Line and Post on the forums too Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
very well, and hello indeed, how you doing there ? check out my profile, come say hi, promise I wont bite .....
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