F40
oh the mess!
June 12 2016
Comments
-
Forus1234
9 years ago
It does bother us if there is mess in people's photos. If they cant clean up their act to make their profile pics more appealing, we can imagine their hygiene standards would be quite poor as well. We don't meet people at their private homes, nor would we ever consider inviting people to our personal home, we wouldn't compromise the safety of our family, especially if things go pear shaped. We like to host at hotels/apartments or accept invitations from people at their hotel/apartment, it's always nice to know there is security in the building floating around somewhere 😉 We did visit a couples house when we first came on the scene, what they didn't tell us was, they had a child asleep & their child woke up, so you live & learn, there is a time & place for everything!
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Yes it's happened to me, but a guy I met in the real world, not off here. Just random chemistry in a shop one day lol we were both intoxicated with other, exchanged phone numbers and spoke on the phone, then arranged for me to go to his place, where he shared with other guys. Yeah, hard to say too much on here but hmm hell of a nice guy, but, seeing him in his own habitat, well I'd need David Attenborough to describe that. And there's something else I wish I could say, damn it
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Went to meet and went well so back to her place with flat mate (female) there for a drink and perhaps more. Dishes on sink dogs in house clothes every where just filth, not just untidy but disgusting. Got out of there without even having that drink. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
What the?? Sorry, I have to stop at that.That's just vile, especially if one can not even pick up the smell. For me, I would say something, I couldn't help myself. No way could I continue, that would be a deal breaker, make an excuse and leave . No way am I going to clean it up! LOL. If I stay at a lovers place for first time, I do make a note that I do love clean sheets on a bed. ;) I'm a buggy when it comes to personal hygiene. If someone can not put in an effort into their surroundings or to their self, they certainly can/will not put in an effort with me. Yes it does bother me. I find women are the wost, when it comes to mess in the background of their pics. Some pics I've seen (both sexes) shows and says to me, they are just dirty grubs. *Sorry to name call, I can not explain it any other way. Ms Foxy
-
RHP User
9 years ago
I have had an offer from someone who isn't on this site and every time I think maybe I go to there house and instantly say no and make excuses to leave. I've dated women in the past gone back to there's and literally had to suck my stomach in to get past the hord of shit stacked in there house at there front door all the way to the bedroom. Another thing I can't stand is dirty dishes piled up!! (insert cold shudder) is it that hard to clean up?? - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Seen some messy back grounds (and bathrooms) in pics, but havent actually been in a hosts home that I wasnt comfortable in being in.
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Definite turn off.
-
Livingandloving2
9 years ago
We won't meet at private houses - meets always in a hotel as it provides a feeling of safety should things not work out well. Plus , for me, it adds to the role play aspect of meets that I find extremely arousing . Personal cleanliness is also on the top of the list so if that isn't on offer... It's a polite thanks but no thanks :) Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
I went home with a guy once and when we got to his place the stink from an over flowing litter tray (in the lounge room) was revolting. I was out of there so fast.....disgusting I also check out the background in pics. If it's messy it says a lot to me. Grubs😒
-
RHP User
9 years ago
The good ol' boys have a name for that.... what kind of trailer were they pulling behind the car? No from me.
-
RHP User
9 years ago
After meeting a toy boy a couple of times and finding he was very romantic, generous and kind, I felt quite safe visiting him at his unit.He treated me very well however his home was untidy and he had made no attempt to clean the place prior to my visit.I wanted to leave but not be rude about it so I hung around for a short while but I declined any play when I entered his bedroom and saw the mattress on the floor with dirty, animal fur-ridden sheets and blankets. His 2 cats were allowed to roam all over the bed.......hayfever wise, I can tolerate cats at a short distance but if I played/slept in a bed such as that, I guarantee it would trigger off a hayfever or asthma attack.
-
nattyocean
9 years ago
I've once been in the situation when I accepted a dinner invite to a mans house after we had met socially. I turned up and as soon as I walked in the smell of bleach was so overpowering I thought I was going to suffocate. It quickly became evident that we lacked compatibility with regard to hygiene in that I am described as a neat and hygienic person but this guy was a whole other level that was incredibly off putting. Needless to say no further dinners were had after that night especially after leaving with a massive headache too. But with regard to the ops question, I haven't as yet but most certainly would hightail it out if someone's place was extremely messy, smelly and as for sheets etc well that's very important and just decent to have clean sheets - Posted from rhpmobile
-
DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
We like to think that we have high standards of hygiene and neatness, reflected not only in the way we dress, our personal grooming, but also the way that we live and the neatness of our house. We would be very much put off if we met up with a couple, to find that their house was dirty, smelly and untidy. If they could not make the effort to clean / tidy up then they probably would not make enough of an effort with regards personal hygiene either we think. Profile photos often show clutter & mess in the background ( and sometimes worse) and so we always carefully study them before deciding to meet someone or not. If we go out to meet someone we shower, shave and dress nicely -ie we make an effort, as s sign of respect for all concerned. We have had people arrive unshowered, dressed in dirty track suit pants and running shoes, greasy hair etc ....clearly too lazy to make an effort to present themselves in a more appealing way. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Seeing a client in their home, the smell of three wet dogs was so overpowering it hurt my eyes and remained in my hair clothes and sinus passages for hours. Absolutely nasty. I do shake my head at the sheer number of guys using the " here's me in my undies in my messy bathroom or bedroom" Weird - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
It has to be clean and tidy, a comfortable clean bedroom that has a nice scent is not only inviting but relaxing. Couldn't and wouldn't have it any other way. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Go with your gut instinct
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Just say no and go go go. If they don't look after their environment they don't look after themselves and certainly won't care about you. Safety first. Whilst no one should expect perfection lack of basic standards should tell you all you need to know. Couldn't agree more on the photo comments, clean up people, you only get one chance to make a first impression and on a profile that photo is it - make a little effort and you will attract the same type of people in return.
-
RHP User
9 years ago
same thing happened to me where I found it too clean. Might sound odd to feel that way but the guy had a maid or housekeeper, the towels were even folded like in a hotel, trendy expensive house. I was frightened to touch anything in case I messed it up and I can be messy
-
RHP User
9 years ago
think I was frightened to tear off a piece of toilet paper what if I forgot how to fold it the same way
-
RHP User
9 years ago
My friends understand my OCD and that I'm a clean freak! I try very hard not to be so stressed about it so I don't put them off! Similarly, I can live with mess just not unhygienic places! Yes, I've walked away from a play when I've struggled with their level of hygiene :( Mary xx
-
pussywillow26
9 years ago
I have a play friend hes a hoarder i give him shit he lives horrid but he is a lovley An we have a spark when i got to his an we play its always outside i will only ever go in to his place if i have to pee a an even then i stilk might pop a squart somewhere i dont know y he lives so horrid i cudnt do it but it dosent change the fact hes lovely but we will only ever play in my bed id ever go in his room 😱😲oooohhhh nooo - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Some of these sound rank! I can handle some clean mess and clutter. Some. But there's a big difference between a basket of clean washing and pile of mail, and rubbish everywhere and dirty clothes. Clean sheets are a must!
-
Lifes_great
9 years ago
WTF.....it's called having some respect for yourself and the person you are seeing. A house can't always be spotless and tidy but no excuses for not cleaning. All the voices in my head would be screaming 'Run Forest Run'!
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Toilets in the background of pictures are totally off putting. In the event there its no blanket to cover the loo the old long arm or phone timers work wonders in a more enchanting location. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'BadKitten25' Toilets in the background of pictures are totally off putting. In the event there its no blanket to cover the loo the old long arm or phone timers work wonders in a more enchanting location. - Posted from rhpmobile I've even seen an un flushed toilet :/
-
RHP User
8 years ago
Toilet pics say 2 things, 1) attached and its the only safe place mrs isnt going to barge in while said camera and hard dick is in hand. 2) its code for being into golden showers. Lol
-
RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Willow_1' Toilet pics say 2 things, 1) attached and its the only safe place mrs isnt going to barge in while said camera and hard dick is in hand. 2) its code for being into golden showers. Lol 3) Into scat
-
RHP User
8 years ago
#4 they are a plumber 😝🚽
-
On_Safari
8 years ago
Lol!! Yeah loos in the background are a no no for me but out of curiosity I do zoom in if there's a vanity to see how many toothbrushes on supposedly single men's profiles (amazing how many have 2/3 toothbrushes great oral hygiene? Or Novelty toothbrushes you know the kid variety 😳 And skin care products, make up, ladies deodorant among other things. 😂
-
RHP User
8 years ago
Great detective work! And yep I zoom in for the same thing lol! It amazes me how many people are dumb enough to not notice it's blowing their cover
-
RHP User
8 years ago
I wouldnt slam anyone as not being single just because they have 2 or 3 toothbrushes or basic female products on display. There are lots of parents on these sites, so a few extra toothbrushes are more than likely their childrens.
-
MsJonesy
8 years ago
Or they have regular fwb who stays over alot...who may have toothbrush/es in your bathroom for that very reason. Which may..or may not...be the case in my bathroom (*insert embarrassed wink here)
-
On_Safari
8 years ago
Taking notice.....there are many single parents here yes.
-
RHP User
8 years ago
Was of a woman dressed in a purple negligee in front of a piled up sink full of dirty pots and pans accessorised with a dirty washing basket? I have to admire her huzpah ..at least anyone who contacts her will know what to expect..bring the rubber gloves and the platinum Fairy Liquid 😅 Q
-
RHP User
8 years ago
Another fave was a couple's profile..they were in their fifties ,conservatively dressed and their profile pic was of them doing the dishes I have often thought that they wold be a good match for the aforementioned lady 😈 Q
-
PurePeony
8 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' Was of a woman dressed in a purple negligee in front of a piled up sink full of dirty pots and pans accessorised with a dirty washing basket? I have to admire her huzpah ..at least anyone who contacts her will know what to expect..bring the rubber gloves and the platinum Fairy Liquid 😅 Q That's classic! :D
-
PurePeony
8 years ago
ATM, I am in the midst of revamping my apartment and it is messy because I had dragged stuff out from cupboards and shelves to sort them out and do a major cull, but then work, a recent injury from exercising too vigorously and then budget issues that prevented me from getting the furniture I wanted, all meant that I'm now stuck with a mess! It's an uncomfortable standoff! I want to do this thing right as well but for a booklover, it is really really hard to get into the right frame of mind to do a heartless culling of the huge collection of books. It's disheartening to realise that I have a loooooong way to go from achieving my ultimate goal but oh well, it takes as long as it has to take to get it right, I suppose! In the meantime, my apartment is a Works In Progress and it is Out of Bounds. :P
-
RHP User
8 years ago
Hey pussy willow check our last messages to each other, you will find how to contact me there.
-
RHP User
8 years ago
Hey pussy willow check our last messages to each other, you will find how to contact me there.
Boards
-
Hot Topics
Topics: 14361 Comments: 120840
-
Girls Ask
Topics: 1355 Comments: 14709
-
Guys Ask
Topics: 2425 Comments: 17234
-
Couples' Corner
Topics: 2405 Comments: 12737
-
Swingers Lifestyle
Topics: 794 Comments: 5154
-
Fetish & Fantasy
Topics: 1148 Comments: 6957
-
Hot Travel
Topics: 622 Comments: 2145
-
LGBT
Topics: 156 Comments: 1150
Forum help
-
Something related with that
-
Going somewhere & want to hook up?
-
Hasn't that topic been posted before?
RHP's popular dating tool
-
Where the heck did that topic go?
Discover what RHP is doing offline
-
RHP member's RL secrets
reply
like
Share