M68
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February 21 2015
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
OK..... i am NOT in the same position as you, but, Ive read your topic and you've asked for comment. Heres how I see it. You DONT. You've brought it up several times.... she wasn't interested.... so the great time YOU think you'd have isn't shared by her. You have to let it go. Thats the answer you need to hear..... but... Im guessing you're looking for answers that you want to hear.... on how to change her mind. Im not going there. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
It seems that you have decided to play alone anyway...just a small point..you have a significant typo.I think you mean you are not into pushy people,not pussy people..XxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Bob, my opinion is its never cool to try and coerce someone into doing something that they seem to have made clear they do not wish to do. If you love your wife as much as you say you do , you will respect her position. These are YOUR needs/wants you are attempting to meet , not hers. As ML says .......let it go. Should you on the other hand , decide to play alone , you'll probably need to post some pics and pay a membership at the very least. You can't message anyway as a guest and 'gray ghost' profiles don't attract a lot of attention. Good luck.
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RHP User
10 years ago
What DG said. He nailed it. Nothing else to add, except to say take care and good luck. Much love, Elle xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
But I agree wuth DG - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
Option 1 - As DG said. She doesn't want it, you can't force her, so get over it as it will most likely never happen. Option 2 - Try to negotiate an allowance for a hall pass or two as you want outside sex but she wants to remain monogamous. Option 3 - If it's vitally important to you to have outside play then you can risk the marriage entirely and put an ultimatum out there. May backfire entirely ..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've had discussions with my wife about sex with others, but she is not interested. The big difference here though is that my wife is fully aware of what I'm seeking on RHP and I have her blessing. To reach our situation took a lot of two way conversations, it wasn't easy, but we are both now happy with the outcome. I could not do this behind my wife's back, but I guess that's just me. Thanks darling, I love you.
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jandv
10 years ago
COMMUNICATION is the key here. I would even start with a "web cam" with other couples in your own home and just say you would like to try something different and just wear masks to get her to feel comfortable. Then if she likes that progress from there. Just remember it is a two way street. Like no one would ever expect her to do anything against her will BUT no one should ever stop you from living life either. My other advice would be if she simply isn't down with any idea's of yours, then go see "call girl" (might be a way for you to scratch that itch with out jeopardising what you have at home). I wish you all the best and let us know how you go?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I've been married 33 years. When my husband wanted to put us on RHP, he said that he asked. I most probably said " Yes, do whatever you want" and took no further notice as I was too interested in chatting with Members on Beauty Forums. Later he showed me what he had done and I must say that it peeked my interest. In your case, your wife does not want a bar of it at all !!! If you really need to pursue this, take Araps advice. Best of luck !!! Amy
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inspirit
10 years ago
Hmm that would be NONE. OP..... I wish I could give advice though I have never been in the same position ALTHOUGH before I left my husband, sex was bland and I did say he could play with others for his sexual fulfillment (there were many issues I care not to discuss in here) Anyway he said "You only want that so you can go fuck what ever you want" . This was the furthermost from the truth. My advice - Tread lightly. You could destroy what you have if she is in denial.
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RHP User
10 years ago
"IN-the-SPIRIT" of things would be fun..Just thinking out loud here.....
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inspirit
10 years ago
Quoting 'jandv' COMMUNICATION is the key here. I would even start with a "web cam" with other couples in your own home and just say you would like to try something different and just wear masks to get her to feel comfortable. Then if she likes that progress from there. Just remember it is a two way street. Like no one would ever expect her to do anything against her will BUT no one should ever stop you from living life either. My other advice would be if she simply isn't down with any idea's of yours, then go see "call girl" (might be a way for you to scratch that itch with out jeopardising what you have at home). I wish you all the best and let us know how you go? is the difference between a "call girl" and a girl on here seeking just fun! Oh hang on, so a MAN is charged for sex it is NOT so bad. Oh Please - I personally think you need to think about what you just wrote. THIS is why woman do feel like free hookers on here. FFS! In my opinion of course! Choose your words wisely
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inspirit
10 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' "IN-the-SPIRIT" of things would be fun..Just thinking out loud here..... Or would it be sadism
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RHP User
10 years ago
Theres only one thing worse than a man who tries to talk the wife into swinging and shes totally against it. And that is when the wife agrees to it to keep him happy so he doesnt sneak off and fuck behind her back.Emotional blackmail... Seen that before. ** staying in line with political correctness....it could be either the man or the woman doing this.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Araps' Option 1 - As DG said. She doesn't want it, you can't force her, so get over it as it will most likely never happen. Option 2 - Try to negotiate an allowance for a hall pass or two as you want outside sex but she wants to remain monogamous. Option 3 - If it's vitally important to you to have outside play then you can risk the marriage entirely and put an ultimatum out there. May backfire entirely ..... Option 4 - You can have sex with other women behind your wife's back and hope she doesn't find out. You've already taken the first step by being here. I'm also with DG on this. It's a no-win situation, move on.
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RHP User
10 years ago
PERSON - note the gender neutral reference?? - that's more consumed by sex than their integrity.... If you put so much focus on your sex life than leave your wife citing sexual incompatibility..... If however you don't wish to hurt or risk your marriage then you need to leave RHP citing your commitment to working with your wife to achieve the contentment you're clearly not experiencing at the moment.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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jandv
10 years ago
Sex with a call girl is a business deal. There is no emotion connected to it. If I went to a call girl I wouldn't expect her to remember my name 2 mins after I walked out the door. That's all I ment by it. The OP obviously wants to take things further, that's why he is on here. Its not up to us to say he shouldn't do "other things" like he cant say to his wife "to do other things". He is obviously stuck between a rock and a hard place. He feels like he is missing out on a part of his life.
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Mr_MrsAraps
10 years ago
Your option 4 crossed my mind as well but was looking to put forward some more ethical solutions to the Op :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Id suggest the wording on his profile... as has been pointed out.... makes point 4 a moot point..... mhos already searching.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Araps' Option 1 - As DG said. She doesn't want it, you can't force her, so get over it as it will most likely never happen. Option 2 - Try to negotiate an allowance for a hall pass or two as you want outside sex but she wants to remain monogamous. Option 3 - If it's vitally important to you to have outside play then you can risk the marriage entirely and put an ultimatum out there. May backfire entirely ..... Option 4 - You can have sex with other women behind your wife's back and hope she doesn't find out. You've already taken the first step by being here. I'm also with DG on this. It's a no-win situation, move on. I keep assuming - and I clearly don't know why, since it appears to be a pipe dream - that a site like RHP offers unprecedented opportunity to actually be who you are and do what you want. If you want to bring someone into your bedroom, awesome, if you're both on board. I've been with couples who weren't both on the same page and it's dreadful. Once, shame on them - twice, shame on me. I won't do that again, if I can help it. If fidelity to your wife is somehow fitting in to this scenario, in an "it's not cheating if my spouse is watching" kind of way, then again, I think you need to be on board. If you don't have a hall pass - and I agree going down this way is fraught with possibility of disaster, abroad and at home - then you need to psych' up and say, "I'm cheating on my wife and looking for someone who's OK with that." Don't try to rationalise it and get someone else to buy into the fairy tale. Call it what it is. If nothing else, it means that everyone who's involved by choice knows what's going on. If you *are* wanting more sex, your wife isn't giving it to you, and that's ALL you want from the situation, perhaps it would be easier to go to a brothel. Or a marriage counsellor. Just open your eyes and don't expect to be able to pull the wool over others' eyes, especially your wife's. . o O ( Hmmm... I think that might be closer to about $0.50 than $0.02... )
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