F45
possibly the worse sex ever...
June 17 2016
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0z_boy
8 years ago
As Mr Bean would say, Hmm hang on he dosent say anything.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi. Great topic that should open up discussion. I'm also not a fan of selfish lovers so hear you there Well done for lasting a few months. He has a learning curve in front of him, and the biggest curve ball will be feedback from play partners, those who speak up, those who don't want to see him again, of maybe those who can potentially get him to enjoy them more/put out more it's a journey that I don't think can be sped up, he needs to want to improve to be a better lover but time will tell. Actually some guys never get any better. I usually think they fall into that category if they haven't made any attempt to change by their 30's, I think it's all over, forget it. The sad thing is he doesn't know what he's missing out on, he may never know. When and if he does, only then will he understand the extreme pleasure that comes from giving pleasure, each person getting the other more excited, your arousal and excitement being taken to the extreme watching and feeling the other get off. It intensifies for me, gets stronger with every encounter, turns me on even to talk about it. He doesn't yet get this. Hopefully he will in time and there's no point warning other women about poor sexual performance. It's just one person's opinion really, although I do believe and appreciate what you're saying, but his encounters with other partners could also be more suited to him, who knows really. It's up to those women to lay out what it is they want and set their own ground rules. But yeah, few month, you're a better person than I am
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RHP User
8 years ago
months I meant, all thumbs
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wouldn't feel the need to warn people. If you've not kept in contact with this guy then you don't know the reasons behind his putting up a profile on here. Maybe he is actually ready to start trying address his particular issue/s with sex and making an RHP profile is part of that process for him. Maybe he doesn't intend to actually meet people, maybe it's just to try and get to know some people first...so many possible reasons. How would you warn them anyway, when you have no idea who he might potentially be in contact with or meet? It's not like you can put out a blanket broadcast to all the women on RHP To put it bluntly it's none of your business anymore. We've all had our bad sexual experiences but it's not our job to police the future actions or partners of those that have left us unsatisfied. Take what you yourself have learned from the experience and move on.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm going to steal a friend's idea and say maybe 'there wasn't a connection' between you and this person! I applaud you for persisting with him, sometimes first time sex can be ordinary! I'm an advocate for giving people a chance, you did, you tried, you chose to move on - you need to look after your needs and they weren't being met by this person! If I was in your position, I wouldn't name and shame, that's not ok! I wouldn't 'befriend' him either so as not to be put into any compromising position if asked about him in the future! If you were asked about him, discretely say 'we weren't compatabile'. I've had two sexual experiences in my two years here, which were shocking! With one I'm not sure whether to be offended or hi5 myself :) In that instance, he came twice in 30 minutes alone, I just used my mouth! I was still dressed when he left, 30 minutes after arriving at the hotel! He did not kiss me or touch me! 😝 The second time, a meet in Perth! He bought a friend, we awkwardly sat around, eventually we took the play to the room. His friend was in a cuckold relationship, she was taking pictures sending them to her hubby, constantly stopping the play! He managed to fuck her doggie, he came, he got dressed and 'was going to get more wine', it's a bloody long way to the bottle shop, I'm still waiting lol! He left his friend there too, she said 'shall we play', I gave her her clothes and said, I'll see you out! I filled the spa and sat in that for the rest of the night lol! I've never 'outed' either of them, nor validated them lol, but if I ever get asked about them, I'll be very honest! Mary xx
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Mischeviouslad
8 years ago
This topic isn't really about bad sex..... as much as it's about letting people do their own screening and selecting. I'm sure you would be rather unimpressed if he (or anyone else) described your personal matters publicly. He is just not your concern anymore. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Name and shame on a public forum, is a low classless act to me and the fact that you wish to do this says more about you than him. IMHO I think there is more to this story that what is written, but of course that is the case. In a situation like this, would you like it if he wrote in a public forum about you and name and shamed you for any perceived act ? I appreciate your frustration sexually, but you know, he wasn't for you but may be for others It didn't work out between you for whatever reason and we all don't need to know why. Move on As for discussing lovers , past and present, that's a No from me
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Livingandloving2
8 years ago
i think that's an awful thing to do. Just because two people don't click... It doesn't mean they won't click with someone else!Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think what's good to one isn't to another, perhaps he's since fixed his clinical issues. Even if you contacted someone to warn them you'd only come across as the jealous ex, not saying that is what you are but assume someone contacted you saying that about someone you are about to sleep with and they were the ex.. how much value would you put on what they say? I say leave it be.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Err. So a friend passed on information to you which she though might effect you, something that friends do btw, and you roast her for it? Lol. Bet she never tells you anything now. ;-) Agree that one person's experience is never the same as other people's. Kizz, just chalk it up to a lesson learned. Great sex is not that easy to find sometimes.
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RHP User
8 years ago
BOLO 4 BS
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RHP User
8 years ago
... has often come because of or even at times, at the expense of someone else. Personal taste is a quant... I may enjoyably eat escargot and others just suffer through snails. Would I jump on the back of my horse, ride through the centre of town ringing a bell and calling out.. ''The bad sexter is coming... run away, run away?'' No... that's too close to a Monte Python outtake and unemployed Town Criers are not a viable commodity. Be well........
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compressor
8 years ago
is is a shame the guy did not take the time to please sou but telling others may not be the best move
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RHP User
8 years ago
Advice in the world..never give it 😇Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
What you said! I agree with you fully. I might add to the conversation that I genuinely feel bad blaming anyone for a bad experience and I can't help but think maybe it was a lack of chemistry rather than a lack of 'talent'. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There's always to sides to the story , move on and find someone not so clinical that you click with sexually . There's plenty of more men on here that could satisfy you . No need to name and shame it's not worth the negative energy, it seems like there's more to the story as both of you know we don't need details . Sometimes people need to vent and I hope you can move on soon .
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inspirit
8 years ago
Why would you want to do that? Its actually true form of someone jaded in my opinion. In answer to your post, do want you but just remember the ole "K". I had a friend who warned me of a lame root. She actually said pretty much what you've said.... I went there and turned out he was one of the greatest roots ever and some. I even went back for more muchness. Goodluck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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xoKIZZEZxo
8 years ago
umm..looks like a few ppl have drawn their own conclusions from a hypothetical question lol but that's fine each to their own, and I did ask for your opinions : ) Thanks! I don't think anyone I know would ever consider me a vindictive, jaded or immature person. I didn't outright 'name and shame' the anonymous person described in my post, I just thought I'd put the situation out there and see what other's experiences have been. Maybe it might even make for an interesting topic. Apologies if I offended anyone.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Is another mans treasure...... :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hypothetical about your post. Your hypothesis ceased to exist when you used the words "....knowing sexy RHPers are in for some super UN-satisfaction and definitely not require a repeat visit?", your stating a fact (a perceived fact as you see it) not hypothesizing especially when you used as the example, your real life situation You may not be vindictive, jaded or immature in your self examination , none of us know that, but IMO opinion the fact that you felt the need to ask others what they would do if they had a unsatisfactory sexual encounter and found that their selfish former lover had dared to open up a RHP profile, and then give scenarios of what one could do to make the former lover (although not named) publicly uncomfortable , indicates very strongly to me, that one has a public axe to grind My random thoughts on a Saturday night and happy to be wrong
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inspirit
8 years ago
I gave a hyperthetical answer. 😆 - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
8 years ago
I would not waste my time by hanging around a few more months, if the sex was that terrible and the man was a selfish person! I am not here to judge you, don't get me wrong, and I'm sure you have your reasons why you had hung around for a few months. It's just in my nature that I don't often waste my time on someone who is not compatible with me on that many levels. What's the point? I am aware that you could be talking about seeing the man in question for a serious relationship, but if I were you, I would not stick around if the man was a selfish person with clinical problems in his sexual performance! I used to disagree with the saying of "try before you buy" when it comes to choosing a partner, but after my own experience in the "did not try before I buy" department, as well as seeing so many married people cheat on their husbands/wives (with the reason of unsatisfied sex at home), I have thrown my naive thinking into the bin! Hence, my point is, I would not stick around with someone who is that much incompatible with me. As for whether I would warn other people about the man, if I were you, I would ignore and mind my own business! Because I have no interest in presenting myself as a bitter weirdo to total strangers. Besides, I believe in energy and vibe, so I certainly do not want to draw any negative energy to me by "giving warning", even if the intention is good :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
The next time I get caught with my hand in the cookie jar or even my pants down... I'd like to have you represent me! Please ... don't say you'll be working for the prosecutor's office.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wouldn't tell shit..I have been with ladies who we just never clicked.. and the sex was not too good..I know I am a good fck when "Things" are right.. but.. it is hard to get it perfect when they are not so..I have a lovely woman in my life who is a very close friend (and more) who had had a REALLY fckd sex life.. Our demons appear to like each other.. and we had/have AWESOME fun..Let it go.. and try someone else..IF you wish OP..I can arrange a time with you, and give you some definitive feedback to work out if the problem was actually with you .. OR if it was just a "One-off" thing :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' The next time I get caught with my hand in the cookie jar or even my pants down... I'd like to have you represent me! Please ... don't say you'll be working for the prosecutor's office. Words are my day job :-)
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inspirit
8 years ago
Was GOLD. 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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lovman8
8 years ago
Amittedly some times it has not reached great heights of pleasure because of lack of connection or becuase we have had different reasons or expectations for getting down and dirty, which has made the deed less memorable. Which sometimes ironically makes it more memorable.And every memory of sex , good ,exceptional or ho hum, is welcome to me and I on some level I am honoured and thankful that every woman I have fucked has been willing to share such an intimate moment with me
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Mooche' Words are my day job :-) ... I could probably talk the panties right off of a virginal nun when she was leaving the monastery! Communication is evrerything... words are one way we express ourselves.
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RHP User
8 years ago
How very kind of you 😀😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Really I don't like to remember negative things so the worse sex I have had is long forgotten ! (I think ) So these days the worst sex are the days I don't do either of two things one I don't have sex or two I don't get my self off !!
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
"Proper Clinical sex issues"? How do you know? Did he tell you? IF that's the case, that maybe something very very personal to him (what ever it is). He has placed trust in you OP, by openly sharing something. I'm sure he would want anyone discussing that with others, especially without his knowledge. That's not ok to do, in my eyes. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
8 years ago
:) Ms Foxy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Although I can't find any research ,that I have read something about incompatible hormones,DNA etc. Vaginas and penises just not being a good match sometimes. I have certainly had a similar experience where the sex was just awful but I think this man,although lovely,was very uninformed about a woman's body. He had been married to the same woman since they were both nineteen and was recently separated.He was in his late fifties. I know I should have talked to him about the awful sex but I was a coward. Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
But I believe most of us shrug it off as lack of chemistry and wish them well on their journey to finding the right match for them. Should you warn others of his limited performance in the bedroom? Absolutely not! Would you like one of your previous lovers doing the same if they found you to be unsatisfactory? Let it go and move on. I'm sure there's some who will find he suits their needs. We're all individuals who like different things.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I know right......!!I am just like that..
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