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profile information, what do women want?

April 17 2014

not just confined to say this website, but any sort of dating or friendfinding sites. What piques a woman's interest with regard to the type of information and also the amount of info that someone puts into a profile? Should it read more like a resume? Just the facts? Or does a little story go a long way. I read very varied profiles of girls/women and I know when I read some I get turned off immediately because it reeks of negativity or pure agro bitch. Such statements as "I am me, if you don't like it fuck off" and various others with words to that effect or they speak like they came from an African American ghetto. I ask this because you can still pump out a very positive sounding profile, sound like the best dude on the planet and then you still don't even get a hint of interest. Appearance and physically I am not an unattractive person. So perhaps there is something that I am missing, that golden egg that makes women go....yep, I want to get to know that guy. Everyone is different of course but I still think on a base level, on average there is a quality that all women desire and have on their checklist. Oh and my profile on this website has jack all on it as I prefer to choose myself who id like to talk to so I keep it brief so this discussion isn't how I wish to make improvements to it just speaking in general terms. Just a curious question that formed in my head after my morning coffee. go figure...

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I too would like to subscribe to this information. I am definitely missing something. Probably looks haha.

  • OPNmarriagecpl

    OPNmarriagecpl

    11 years ago

    I do feel for you single blokes on these kind of sites as you really have to be something special to rise above the masses (in my humble opinion). What I like when seeking out single men profiles is confidence. Not cockiness...... You may think you can rock the socks of every woman on the face of the planet but as a woman I get sick of reading profiles like this and move along very quickly. I like to be able to see that man is not desperate or just after somewhere to park his...... (You get my drift). Be funny, cheeky, spell correctly and most of all just be honest. Hope this helps😊 Mrs Curious - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I like profiles that are long, clever and make me laugh. And pics are a must.

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    Coops has most of the Hines on tap, chevy has worn out the rest.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Most are just going to bypass a profile with no picture. As much as everyone harps on about looks not being important, attraction is and you cannot gauge that from a grey silhouette. Call it shallow if you like but I am pretty sure I could find someone you wouldn't fuck because of the way they look and I would hope so, they are called standards and if you don't have any then no thanks! I find people lazy if they can't be bothered selling themselves, we all have something to offer, use it. I don't even bother reading profiles that don't match what I want or only have the 'ask me' options and the one liners that have been written on their behalf rather than coming up with something original. They are great to work with but personalise them! My favourite is...I am a sexual animal that can't get enough, pmsl, yeah right! That's why it takes a month to get actually getting around to meeting, then another month before you hear back from them and only because they probably can't get any anywhere else. Almost every profile has people wanting NSA, do not want a serious relationship, can't be bothered with drama, sex only...in some circumstances I can understand (eg, just out of a relationship, bad relationships fallout, etc) but why are so many people closed off to possibilities? Tells me you just want a one night stand, you aren't looking for anything regular, including sex and you don't care who you use to get it and you have no respect for anyone you are wishing to engage with. Then you get the profiles that tick all of those off, grey ghosts with no personality and wanting to get laid...WINNER!!... Not.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I often read comments they make on forums to get a little more insight on the man. Plenty learnt from this for me I must say.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Negativity in profiles is a big no for me. Even seeing the words time-wasters, weirdos, players, baggage, etc turns me right off. (Basically, only say what you're looking for, not what you're NOT looking for.)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I am sorry but a profile that is too well written can be a turn off....maybe not so sincere. Simple but not profile builder. It will be the pic and the initial message that will peak my interest. I will check out the statuses too like married etc.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Negativity in profiles is a big no for me. Even seeing the words time-wasters, weirdos, players, baggage, etc turns me right off. (Basically, only say what you're looking for, not what you're NOT looking for.) don't like the negative "no" lists either. Seriously, who is going to read that and think, "oops I know I'm a time-waster I'd better not contact them!". And to me things like 'no baggage' or 'no drama' are code for 'I only want to fuck and I'd prefer not to have to talk to you', because again, who has not accumulated some 'baggage' by the time they're in their mid to late 20s, unless they've literally been living in a bubble (hmm then again that would also generate baggage...). As mentioned, pics are a must, and I think a witty, well-written profile will usually go down well with most women. Leave out the sexual bravado raving about how great you are, how you can go all night, how none of the women you've been with have been disappointed, blah blah blah. But there is no 'golden egg' that you can include in your profile that will guarantee you lots of interest from women. It is difficult for single men on these sites because they outnumber the women by such a significant amount, so it can be a struggle to stand out from the crowd.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Negativity in profiles is a big no for me. Even seeing the words time-wasters, weirdos, players, baggage, etc turns me right off. (Basically, only say what you're looking for, not what you're NOT looking for.) This can say alot about you...not a compassionate person .....selfish.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    There was a fabulous new poster, who unfortunately didn't come back. This is part of the profile he had (which is still open): "(...) You should be aware that I do not accept cauliflower, irrespective of what you do to it to try and disguise its vile taste, be that drowning it in sauce or covering it in melted cheese. I'll have none of it - as in there is to be no cauliflower in the house. I will do random spot-checks to enforce this rule. And don't come at me with your ridiculous arguments about cauliflower being the same as broccoli, only a different colour. Broccoli is good. It shares nothing more than a passing resemblance to cauliflower in appearance alone. Cauliflower tastes awful, it looks awful, it smells awful, it has a revolting texture like eating cartilege of some sort and it has no business being on a plate next to food. And self-checkouts......if you use them, we're going to have problems." I sooo wanted to fuck him!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' There was a fabulous new poster, who unfortunately didn't come back. This is part of the profile he had (which is still open): "(...) You should be aware that I do not accept cauliflower, irrespective of what you do to it to try and disguise its vile taste, be that drowning it in sauce or covering it in melted cheese. I'll have none of it - as in there is to be no cauliflower in the house. I will do random spot-checks to enforce this rule. And don't come at me with your ridiculous arguments about cauliflower being the same as broccoli, only a different colour. Broccoli is good. It shares nothing more than a passing resemblance to cauliflower in appearance alone. Cauliflower tastes awful, it looks awful, it smells awful, it has a revolting texture like eating cartilege of some sort and it has no business being on a plate next to food. And self-checkouts......if you use them, we're going to have problems." I sooo wanted to fuck him! I remember reading the profile you're referring to and also loved it. Very clever and humorous.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    can understand the stance on cauliflower but why on earth is self checkouts a bad idea......unless u area complete tard sitting there with your trolley full of shit and holding up lil old me with 3L of milk and some sugar

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    You beat me to it! I'd vote that in as the best profile ever!

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    It's ok for you too sit there and laugh you don't have a snack pack shoved up your arse, I don't give a rats arse that that! poster did not like cauliflower, it's a lovely fucking vegetable that goes just as good with Brussel sprouts, how any one could be attractive that faults cheese sauce can't possibly be as beautiful as you think, fckn fruit salad. How'd I go guys

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Mate, your profile can be a lot of things. But.... In all honesty, it's of no use to you, if you can't back it up. So... It doesn't matter what the women here want in a profile, unless it's genuinely you. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Nice pic!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    sanshoo

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If I laugh when I read some ones profile, then I'm interested. My worst thing is NSA, or some casual fun and ask me under relationship status.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    11 years ago

    I used to help people with this one. I don't any longer. I now feel that being TOLD what people want only encourages people to show what they've been told, and that's unlikely to be a true representation of yourself. Many have whinged and biatch moaned that it's not fair because some are better capable of writing of expression.... to which I say....... PFFFFFFFFFFT!!! If your REAL self is poor at writing and expression, or visually unattractive, or as boring as a slug blah blah..... then pretending to be otherwise is deceptive, and destined for failure. .... and you'll end up whinging about THAT too in one of those " please tell me what I'm doing wrong" topics. DG - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Just be yourself. After all, everyone else is taken.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I just read your profile, what do you mean by "stereotypical douchebag"? To me personally it's an example of the negativity in profiles I mentioned.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    No matter what you say in your profile it won't attract all women, you can't write anything that will get all of their attention. The best you can do is write what you want and hope (even though how slim it is) and see of you attract anyone's attention. Unless you're a couple it's even harder to get attention and some women like men have particular tastes, some are interested in looks, some are looking for personality, the odds on you being successful are very slim. I honestly do better in the real world, meeting friends, going out and I have no problem. My advice is write what you want, don't write what women want to hear because some, not, all can smell bullshit anyway.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    whether u take that to be negative or not is point of view I suppose but to clarify what I mean by the "douchebag" is the guy who hits the club every weekend; uses and abuses the women that he sees, plays the field. Behaves in a manner that isn't conducive to being characterised as a good person. For some reason, some women, nay, girls are attracted to that type and the drama it seems to create. so I guess I am outlining that I am and not that person so I see that as being a pretty darn positive thing but that's subject to personal scrutiny haha

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I have no idea why you would put that comment about douche bags? It makes no sense, although it does make you sound angry. So you are saying you are a decent stand up guy better than other guys? I have always hated when people out their own sex down in order to show how "good" they are. You know why women love those guys, or "bad boys", because they are often witty, charming and know how to make a women feel sexy. Women are not drawn to them Because of the drama, women are drawn to them because they make them feel good. That is what women want... Not a nice bloke who is boring.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    really? I am still searching how you get angry from it Why am I going to be angry about other guys who treat women like dirt? If women wish to go for that type then power to them. But I have lost count the amount of times I have had to listen to the stories from girl friends who have been played by these characters. If they make them feel so good why is it they are crying to me about it. Doesn't sound to me as though they are having a good time. So it is acceptable for the bad boys to behave like that, treat women with minimal respect? That they are the only ones that make women feel good......and u are implying that nice ones don't because apparently they are boring? And cannot be witty, charming and know how to make a woman feel sexy. Am I reading you correctly? Am I a decent stand up guy? Yes. Make zero apologies for being one. Am I better than anyone else? Of course not. Maybe it is a neither here nor there statement, ill take that on the chin. I'll remove it as it seems to be an issue.

  • Lifes_great

    Lifes_great

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' Negativity in profiles is a big no for me. Even seeing the words time-wasters, weirdos, players, baggage, etc turns me right off. (Basically, only say what you're looking for, not what you're NOT looking for.) So I'm a little negative in my profile but you wouldn't believe how much luck I've had finding those man hating neurotics

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Beside all men can behave badly... The same way women can. To me you sound angry because women have chosen these men over you and it also implies that some women are stupid or totally shallow. It's just the way it sounds to me. And this "douche bags" get women because they understand what women want and what turns them on. That is why women go for them. Some men are good con men... They have learnt what to say and how to say it. Just listen to MischeviousLad he will tell you. Of course nice men can be witting and charming.... As long as they have those come fuck me eyes otherwise they often get put in the friend category. And nice guys can totally be arseholes too. Don't kid yourself about that.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Witting should say witty. :-)

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    11 years ago

    You are going to get one of two types of women interested, and too that for what they want? One is the logical mind type, who are less to feelings more to how the numbers crunch for a man. Then you will get the type who are of the creative mind type, who feel too what they want too being with a man. Not all women are the same, so no one woman should speak for all women, just as no one man should speak for all men. So who is the type of woman you wish to attract? I would suggest you write too them, don't worry about the rest. Please excuse the gramma. Not such a logical type of thinker, but I care for those who are. Mado Mado Tara xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    No, not in the slightest was just a matter of fact statement. devoid of emotion. Definitely not angry about being passed over for a bad boy or anything. Can't even recall ever being in that situation. Not like I have ever had the hots for someone who was going for that type of person and was being continually passed over. Then u could probably say I was bitter about it I suppose. But nah, not me. If I was ever angry or bitter about something in life it would simply be because I did not try hard enough to allow it to succeed. I do hear what you are saying though. Valid point of view.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Mum,is Mrs Cauli Flower.....named after Cubbi's uncle xx Q

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'arkangel1978' I do hear what you are saying though. Valid point of view. You took the douche bag comment out.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    yeh I adjusted it slightly

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Wow! African American.Ghetto.... wow. Points for politically correct race language but what a turn off. Maybe just chill about it. Write what you bloody want and try not to insult other peoples expressions of themselves. Awful. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    As soon as I saw the word "Rockhampton" I stopped reading.

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    11 years ago

    Varies profile to profile. It's about the whole package and how it all comes across. I like dot points though not long novels about your life... Some quirky one liners always make me smile.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    MsElle,what do you have against big brass balls:-) :-) :-) xx Q

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Ark I quite liked your profile....now if only I was sixty years younger:-) xx Q

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    My ex lives in Rocky. I avoid it like the plague!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Kez here (the bloke half of us...) - Going from what my partner-in-crime-party-pal-for-life looks for in profiles... We've found the simple act of actually putting face pics up saves some to-ing and fro-ing... the number of times we have to write 'Yep, you've got great bods... but we wanna see faces!!!'. I mean, are we weird wanting that?And... when people don't determine if they're smokers or not - that's a no no. Sure, we take it to mean 'I'm trying to give up, but want to be honest, so can't put 'non smoker'. C'est la vie!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Personally I like profiles that are a bit different and don't look like they want just anyone.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Good punctuation and spelling is a must! So is a photo! I, too, hate to read negative or aggressive comments. I checked your profile Arkangel, you pass :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I reckon the secret is to be yourself and be truthful (ie HONEST) about everything . Being yourself means if you are a goofball in real life, let it show out in your profile. If you are a straight up & down clean-cut guy, let THAT show in your profile. Be true to yourself at all times, people will respect that, even though some might poke a little fun at you for who you are - the saying goes "always be a first rate version of yourself, and never a 2nd rate version of someone else"

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Is what qualities do you look for in a profile. Make a list.... Then write your profile that ticks that list.... Pretty simple eh?? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' There was a fabulous new poster, who unfortunately didn't come back. This is part of the profile he had (which is still open): "(...) You should be aware that I do not accept cauliflower, irrespective of what you do to it to try and disguise its vile taste, be that drowning it in sauce or covering it in melted cheese. I'll have none of it - as in there is to be no cauliflower in the house. I will do random spot-checks to enforce this rule. And don't come at me with your ridiculous arguments about cauliflower being the same as broccoli, only a different colour. Broccoli is good. It shares nothing more than a passing resemblance to cauliflower in appearance alone. Cauliflower tastes awful, it looks awful, it smells awful, it has a revolting texture like eating cartilege of some sort and it has no business being on a plate next to food. And self-checkouts......if you use them, we're going to have problems." I sooo wanted to fuck him! Ha, what a classic! I wish I had of thought of something like that...Nothing like a good sense of humour apparently

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    So many point's well made on this topic to start with, then some cauliflower hater's profile takes it all off topic..... cauliflower is good though, especially as a mash potatoe replacement, blend it with cream cheese (not the kraft jar type), low fat, yummmmmm. Off topic see ¿ Keep your profile true to yourself...... after all in a way your selling yourself as a unique individual. Your personal qualities will shine through. We are not all born storytellers, and everyone seeks different things, is attracted to different people. But honestly, spelling correctly or grammer check.....a total must, but again an individual thing. Pic's are a must, the grey ghost just reeks of something to hide or to lazy or under confidence in oneself. One persons point of view (mine)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I don’t believe there is a universal fool proof method for writing profiles.In some respects, parts of the profile can be like a resume. Everyone has a few things about themselves that they feel compulsory to include in the profile. It could be a favourite feature, strength or even an interesting fact about themselves.The majority of the profile though is at the mercy of the reader. One person may absolutely admire a part of the profile and the next person may completely dislike it.Some people like reading lengthy and descriptive profiles whiles others prefer shorter versions.In my opinion, it’s all about presenting a glimpse of the real person through the profile. If you read the profile back and feel that it was fairly justified description of yourself; you have done your part.After all we can’t please everyone; nor should we try to.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    There once was a woman who lived in a shoe.....she looked at your profile and said " he'll do!".....but when she looked all around.....no cauliflower to be found.....ohhh what's a woman to do..... ;)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    I've been on RHP a while and I didn't have the list of negatives originally, it showed-up unannounced on a later re-write and even surprised myself. (Chalk it up to being jaded by finding whole squadrons of timewasters over the years!) I tried to be a bit funny and non-arrogant about it... but there's trying, and there's succeeding. I didn't realise those lists were such a turn-off for a lot of women... or if I did, I forgot. So I tried to write what I'm looking for in a more positive way, as Meander and others suggested. Unfortunately for everyone else, due to my incurable wordiness, this made my already long profile a lot longer. *pulls at collar and makes an 'eeep' face* I'll say one thing for lists of negatives: they're concise! At least it's been confirmed that a sense of humour is (generally) appreciated. Mine's on display, buried in the hundreds of words...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    Women want he same as us mere males....FUN(oops I said fun again Ms Elle!) and frivolity, and their prerogative to put whatever they like in their profile, it could be tongue in cheek or serious, it's up to us to decide how to play it, just like it is for them to check out our profiles and decide, If you want serious, try other sites, I believe RHP is all about having a good/great time, Sit back, relax & enjoy.

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    In every encounter......it's just that simple. If your profile has humour and a bit of substance coupled with a nice pic (yer yer not a cockshot) then you message me and it goes the same way then here's hoping when we meet we click on some level.

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    11 years ago

    I too share your affliction 😳

  • RHP

    RHP User

    11 years ago

    If you don't have a pic - pass....if you want me to "ask you" - pass. If you can't be bothered to take the time to fill out your profile, how much time will you be prepared to spend on getting me worked up? Selfish maybe, but hey, we all know why we're here and if you're a lazy typer.....just sayin......