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silence
October 20 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Im with you Bella... I dont see the problem with being honest (in a tactful way of course, its not necessary to hurt someones feelings) and say 'im sorry you're not my type' or something along those lines. We are supposedly grown ups afterall and the attractions gotta be mutual right? Some people are just rude or my latest theory is they get off on the chase for the sexy pic & sexy text/chat, then run a mile when it all becomes real.... I mean, what is the point of game playing? I certianly would prefer honesty - Id rather shag someone that was into me, than pull out my bunny and play alone over some pictures...
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RHP User
12 years ago
ive cpped the same problem time and time again from the females..it really annoying when you''ve chatted for couple of hours in the night then nothing..it just as annoying as people who post pictures taken years ago and use them as profile picture ,,im if and when you meet up people are goin gto notice the difference in looks or in some cases the age they say they are..
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RHP User
12 years ago
have no intention of meeting anyone ,ever.They just enjoy the sexting ,camming,even phone calls ... they are either married,98.9 years old,just not that into you ,scared , lazy or they are collectors.For some odd reason they like to collect photos of women who they have had some contact with.I no longer open my pg.for anyone who has no photos or have them, but do the '''show me yours and I'll show you mine''routine. And then there are the ones that disapear ....and weeks even months later send a text and are miffed when you have no idea who the hell they arex R
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't know.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Since i've been on RHP i've had message conversations with a nuber of different people, and i agree with freya13, most have no intenion of ever meeting face to face. I guess we just need to keep sending messages & having conversations until we find someone who DOES want to meet face o face.
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RHP User
12 years ago
message me i want to meet u
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RHP User
12 years ago
Its so annoying, the last guy to do it to me, we had been txting for 10 days, then I decided to show a closer pic of my face, then nothing
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RHP User
12 years ago
bella... trust me, women are the worst... they chat back and forth and all of a sudden nothing... i even had one woman who was super keen and gave me her hotmail address.. so i then sent her a e-mail and no reply.. so i sent another msg on RHP saying thet i added her to msn but still nothing... she was online all the time but no response....
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RHP User
12 years ago
really, thats how most messages and flirts get dealt with on here.
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RHP User
12 years ago
hi hot bella
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RHP User
12 years ago
Common courtesy seems to be to much to ask for these days.Look at it this way,if they have no time to reply to you ,or the effort you have gone to ,to send them a text or mail do you really want to be with a person who has that trait?I don't ,count yourself lucky instead bellaS you have seen them for who they are.A lazy person who thinks with their little head over there brain.I get it all the time i send mail to some lady's and don't even get a reply ,and im polite in my mail.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I meet up with a couple of girlfriends. One is no longer on rhp, the now shows gave her the shits so she just gave up. The other was on a promise from a rhp, man she had meet once for just a meet and greet thing. He was going to come down to see her, a drive of say half hour, but as she could not meet at her house,I said she could come to my studio instead Now that was another 20 min drive He said, that’s to far to drive This is what happens when you live on Mars, an hours drive from the city. I call it the long horny drive. I think people just do not want to drive that far to MCMuff burgers, and yes they may say baby I want you bad but then something comes up like the ironing a drink with their mates a ingrown toe nail And ait it amazing how many people all of a sudden get called into work. Sometimes ten minutes before the meet, or five minutes after they have fucked you. One of my girlfriends the guy got up, zipped his pants after ten whole minutes and said sorry my mates are waiting to put the boat in the water, I have to go fishing! And yes he has tried to contact her again several times, asking her to meet up for anther good time...she does not respond. She could, as in sorry your a terrible shag , and I do not have another five minutes to give you, and I will not get back the last ten I gave you. So they do not call as they put that little thought on the back burner till the next erection or moist on. Its just a game to a lot of people on the internet. Manners are just like rocking-horse shit, not a lot around
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RHP User
12 years ago
The worst thing, if you send some txt or try to call them they call you psycho or a stalker or ur pathetic. If you try to find out why they act like you dont exist.
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RHP User
12 years ago
The worst thing, if you send some txt or try to call them they call you psycho or a stalker or ur pathetic. If you try to find out why they act like you dont exist.
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RHP User
12 years ago
then sometimes the excuses are gold,after looking at my pic a man said,''Sorry you look too much like my wife's sister and mother''...I was sooo tempted to say''So I guess a fivesome is out of the question?''xR
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RHP User
12 years ago
You might not like it, and I'm not saying you should, but perhaps things will be easier for you if you simply accept it for what it is. Unless the person is dead or in hospital or otherwise significantly indisposed - in which case an online chat buddy is going to be the last person to find out - silence means no thanks. It's honestly that simple. The problem is not the silence, but rather how you feel about it. You can't control the lack of response from the other person but you can control how you react. My suggestion (and of course, please take it or leave it as you wish) - accept you feel like crap, take some deep breaths, have a cry if you need to, and then go and do something to distract you or make you feel good. Don't message them. Don't chase them. Move on. In the end, an online chat buddy is just that - they're a LONG way from being important in the grand scheme of your life. The other thing I've learnt to do is agree on a simple ground rule before I exchange face pics. I always say "let's agree that if either of us knows we're just not attracted as soon as we see the other's face pic, we'll just say so". So far every man has agreed and most times we've had a bit of a conversation about it before hand e.g. "yeah, not everyone is attracted to everyone, I won't be offended" etc. It takes the tension out of things and has worked really well for me. I've had men say no thanks, and I've said no thanks. Either way, it's been accepted with good grace and we've moved on.
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rk5tar
12 years ago
Quoting 'Freya13' have no intention of meeting anyone ,ever.They just enjoy the sexting ,camming,even phone calls ... they are either married,98.9 years old,just not that into you ,scared , lazy or they are collectors.For some odd reason they like to collect photos of women who they have had some contact with.I no longer open my pg.for anyone who has no photos or have them, but do the '''show me yours and I'll show you mine''routine. And then there are the ones that disapear ....and weeks even months later send a text and are miffed when you have no idea who the hell they arex R I find a lot of the women who make contact are just into sharing photos or sexting (even though their profile suggests more). Once you ask to meet up they're gone like a shot. I call them timewasters. I feel like being the chased one for a change.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is like common sense....not very common. I've just spent three days in constant email contact with a lady but, as of yesterday morning, nothing. I was worried for a while but after nothing for twenty four hours, I started questioning myself as to why I was so worried. I really don't know this person well and have no attachment to her. So I got over it. Although manners are nice we can't expect everybody to have the same values we do. We can only stay true to ourselves and trust other similarly minded people will find us.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I dont chase them, I only txt them or ring them on the day they stop txtg. Its more about the fact that no one has the balls to speak they minds anymore. Its like everyone is so scared ti say anything anymore. If you dont like someone just tell them, I mean is it really so hard to say Naaaa sorry mate, not for me sorry, goodluck or my favourite Goodluck goodfuck adios
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RHP User
12 years ago
ever rarely do i not show up if a meet agreed to.and then if i cant make it i let them know ,common curtisy and manners can go along way.even with you never meet..you got to take a lot of sites like this with a grain of salt...im now taking mine with a squirt of lemon and two shotts of tequelia.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Freya, the look on that guys face is you had have said that would have been priceless. RANDOM IDEA, just putting it our there, do you all (whoever is following this thread) think it is mainly people who are guests that pull out at the last minute for meets or is it a general thing regardless of level?????
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey Hun :) Thanks for the Laugh even better because I wasn't expecting it ha!ha! Cheers Lu :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey Bella.Thanks for the interesting Topic :) Sadly this does happen.Only a couple of Important times to me thank goodness. It was very hurtful because I had a close Connection with both of these Guys 27yr old 44yrs so no excuses really ..I'm still to hear back from the younger one . Frankly since Mob phones, Video Games etc. a vast Majority of Younger Males/Females some Immature older males, have lost the art of Social Behaviour and consideration towards others. Unfortunately they have no idea how to reply .Plus it's too emotional for them to deal with even if I ask why ..They can't cope or are so self absorbed don't give and Toss moved on.. Most Women and Gentlemen have those Social Skills and want to know why so they can have closure.. Not too much for them to ask but way to much for them to receive a reply..I never send Pics by phone or share Nudie ones on the Internet sites.. I jokingly say When I'm Famous those things will still be Online and I don't want them exposing me once again.I have a reputation to consider he!he! My little rant now ..Same Lines .. When I have a Convo ie texting between some younger Males.It's like they don't even bother reading My Text or answer my questions.They just go on oblivious to it all..Plus those 1 2 words less than a sentence constantly texting them instead of making up 1 full Sentence or Paragragh.Man that's so annoying and upsets My Energies big time! Even when I say!" I don't feel this is going to work"..to IT's NOT GOING TO HAPPEN BYE!! now how can you miss that he!he! .. 2 days later 1 Guy in particular took up where he left off!! telling me what he'd like to do and what he'd like me to do with him so on ..This was even before we had met too.. Man he came back 3 times.. He was on his way to see me in his car too at an arranged time figured I'd get it over with. Until I mentioned something he was well aware of .ie condoms I was taking a stance on that they're always worn if we did go there .He thought he would be the exception ..Hell No!!Cheers Lu :)
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Time wasters - they are everywhere! They enjoy the attention you give them.... They only want to take take take - no returning!
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I send a message I expect a reply simply because that's what I would do. But I'm learning that expectations based on your own actions will always be a disappointment because like it or not people are just different to each other for whatever reason
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RHP User
12 years ago
"Hey if it turns out you think I may not be for you, or something better comes along, please tell me. I'm a big girl. But I don't like to be left wondering".Maybe that would help?I have a group of German friends who all thing the "No show, instead of saying NO" is an Aussie cultural thing. That we'd rather do nothing than say no.
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