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social vs sexual
December 12 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
Would cater to your needs more than RHP perhaps. And yes I am sure that people use this site to meet friends and to have social interaction but I do believe that the underlying reason people join an adult site is to explore their sexuality or have their sexual needs met, and to meet sexual partners. So this will come into every interaction. As you have stated. I don't think people who want to widen their social circle or make new friends decide to join a swingers site generally. Certainly not couples.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Like any interaction you get on or not, if you click aka get on then it's a progression generally. No difference to meeting people via any other avenue. There are no strangers, only friends you haven't met - apparently...
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RHP User
8 years ago
that was the idea behind it, get a bit more open with things in the bedroom, talk about it more, explore some new ideas etc. and obviously this is quite a good place to get a wider view of all that. however there are many people on here who are quite interesting in hobbies they have, work that they do, etc... so it would be nice to see a good balance of that, or at least have less judgement or confusion as to why we are here. have no problem talking to people and being open and honest about things, but some people clearly try to push the buttons a little too far. makes one wonder just how mature they really are. just because theres a sex overtone, doesnt mean we cant still be decent mature adults. as for meetup, been there done that, it works for certain things. it doesn't really make for a great online community though. now rhp has included friendship and social in the looking for section, though many seem to ignore that and assume it still means sex.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well it has to be there for me, otherwise there is no tenderness, just groping, no care, just pawing, no finesse, just rutting, no timing, no kissing, just sucking and biting, no stimulation just prodding, no feedback, just gratification. Maybe I'm just old fashioned vanilla? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Get out of it what you will. You choose who to communicate with and who not to. But it can be hard to make genuine connections when even couples recieve expectations from others or from events that they should already be seeking to play. In response to Candy, yes you can meet people socially via other (perhaps vanilla) avenues, but I believe many people prefer even their platonic friends to be made in this scene, because they feel they will be more likely to be the open, free-thinking, non-judging, few/no secrets type they are looking for as true friends. Yes you can find peers/mates/friends elsewhere (like a man might at a pub), but it will be potluck as to their real nature when it comes to alternative or controversial conversation topics. Even for couples I think many live double lives, with their swinging nature a secret to many, and they may want a social network made in this scene as well as selected playmates. Especially in the east, you can go to parties more than once a week to play if you want and can afford, and while it's often a lot of fun, I believe many enjoy more ongoing mental wellbeing from having true, deep friendships in their lives, as opposed to various temporary arrangements. But I think the OP is also still right. There are more people just looking to play, but there is still a social/friendship making community here even if not the main priority of the actual site. And even if those connections are few and far between, they are extra special when they are made. I know I've made ongoing/long term friends here (either platonic and intimate) that are the first ongoing friends I have made for many years, outside of my long existing family and friends-of-friends/family network. Yes I've also tried meetup and the like. Frankly, if such platonic friends were all I found here, I would think it was still worthwhile, although I am speaking as a single male who's most regular companion is a dog after all :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm here for sex, and surprisingly, there is still judgment about that. I have no desire to make female friends. Perhaps guys, but they'd have to fuck me to be a true friend 😀
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Mischeviouslad
8 years ago
The lure of the site is sex. Check the advertising if you have any doubts on the target audience However, It seems that many in here consider having a profile with cock photos, a flexing bathroom torso and a few words written selling their sexual resume are all that's needed. But if that were the case, there'd be no need for messaging.... meeting.... social connecting... and perhaps escalation to sex. And the expectant, impatient and less social types typically become frustrated in sites such as this. So logically even if the agenda is sexual there can't be any without the social element first. Some have shorter social timeframes than others - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
8 years ago
I came here for the sexual and stay here for the social. It's scary when you consider some of my closest friends are all Pie Faces 😳 The upside being there's Noooooo sexual undertones among most of us. Either because we indulged and ticked it off OR upon meeting it was recognised as friendship potential not sexual. Yes there are people here who once they know they can't pants you will distance themselves and that's ok too it's the people who see beyond that and who keep in touch that make the difference. Don't get me wrong, if there's something I've wanted to try here I have BUT RHP can offer more than you expect given the chance. Meet up is a good site too but I generally find the people I have connected with here tend to offer a more genuine experience. Added bonus is friends all over the country who you can bunk with! No pun intended ~ Indy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'countrytouch In response to Candy, yes you can meet people socially via other (perhaps vanilla) avenues, but I believe many people prefer even their platonic friends to be made in this scene, because they feel they will be more likely to be the open, free-thinking, non-judging, few/no secrets type they are looking for as true friends. Yes you can find peers/mates/friends elsewhere (like a man might at a pub), but it will be potluck as to their real nature when it comes to alternative or controversial conversation topics. Even for couples I think many live double lives, with their swinging nature a secret to many, and they may want a social network made in this scene as well as selected playmates. We are lucky enough to experience both, having a great social network of friends met through RHP as well as continuing to meet new people for play and/or friendship. The underlying tone is always one of respect, acceptance, no expectation or judgement, and allows us to be open and honest about our sexuality, fantasies and desires.
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cat_n_the_hatter
8 years ago
We are limited by our language. Words mean different things to different people. What a friend is to one, is acquaintance to the other. Same as 'connection' or 'click' Everyone is different and there are no rules that apply to all. Relationships in this world or 'vanilla' take time to be defined. In today's world many want to take and not to give, but for me there is an artistry in doing both. People are far more than interchangeable objects and I am not ashamed to say that I hoard the good ones. Open and good people are rare to find. Anywhere. (Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have made some good friends on here, many have left RHP and got into relationships. A lot of women will stay just for the forums. You can get sick to death of sex and all the attention. that it soon looses its gloss. I touch myself, yes your right about judgments. when you wrote this "I'm here for sex, and surprisingly, there is still judgment about that. I have no desire to make female friends. Perhaps guys, but they'd have to fuck me to be a true friend" I thought that is one of the saddest things I have read on here. So that is judgmental of me. I really like making friends, no matter the gender and a man sure as hell does not have to fuck me to be called my friend. I guess that does show the wide range of reasons people do come to this site. So that attitude to me is one end of the sex spectrum. Its fuck me or your not considered a friend. The other end would be like some of the women I know, who come for the intellectual stimulus and debate on the forums Or for some open conversations offline. Some times. dare I say it, we talk about books we might enjoy or places we might have traveled. One woman on here I would meet once a year and we would go to places like the Art Gallery in Sydney. Yes we talked out rhp and sex but we also widened out conversations. Some have remained friends and come to my house for coffee etc. One even bought a painting of me and is still a friend. I came not for the sex, but I ended up with perhaps to much sex and attention, and that is the balance we need to get when on RHP . Sometimes its wise to refuse whats on offer. The social side of RHP is great, I have been to several meet and greets over the years, to Perth ones, to Sydney to Melbourne and to Brisbane and really enjoyed my time spent with great open minded folk. The only problem I do have is that I lead a double life, and it does not work for me to bring everyone I met of rhp into my social world. I think that applies to a lot of people. As often people who have been your long term friends would say, where did you meet her/ him? I am also a snob so introducing someone that is going to draw attention to their lack of social skills but massive cock is not going to cut the mustard. I stay for the social side of things, sex is the easy part that I can do just as well offline. Lady Tuscan
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Boy22
8 years ago
Open and good people are rare but they can be found. Even when found, it appears time is needed to develop trust and a definition of the relationship. The common factor is time. We are limited by our language. Words mean different things to different people. What a friend is to one, is acquaintance to the other. Same as 'connection' or 'click' Everyone is different and there are no rules that apply to all. Relationships in this world or 'vanilla' take time to be defined. In today's world many want to take and not to give, but for me there is an artistry in doing both. People are far more than interchangeable objects and I am not ashamed to say that I hoard the good ones. Open and good people are rare to find. Anywhere. (Ms)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Although I was looking for a friend "with benefits". Found that. Also made a lot of new like minded friends and now have a great social circle. That was a lovely surprise. People are on here for a host of different reasons and I hope everyone finds what they are looking for
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RHP User
8 years ago
And yet the same. People on this site think they're different to 'vanilla' sites.. Ho hum... All sites are the same ... A mix. I'm here because I wish to meet a man I can really connect with which means.... depth.... Take that to mean on ALL LEVELS/areas.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sad for who? You or me 😉 I'm happy as a lark thanks very much. You can do whatever you like, makes no difference to me 😀
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RHP User
8 years ago
Like others, I came here for sexual and found it, plus social and random venting/forum addiction/occasional laughs and stirring. Use Meetup by all means, there's a few great people there but then you get the socially awkward there as well. Beware: I didn't really understand asberges until meeting some people, 1 particular guy there that couldn't shut up (seriously couldn't get a word in edgewise) from there, that don't know boundaries >:( they push and push, even when you say no. Then I put my god damn foot down when it's too late. They've harassed me and another guy before they get banned. A very hard thing to control and police. I don't like to outcast these people but they don't know what they do wrong. Even for someone that can use harsh, blunt reasoning to make them understand is a massive struggle. You can't trust everyone, know when to be firm. Prepare for a mixed bag. If someone is not right, they probably aren't. I trust my gut so hard now. - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetfrangapani
8 years ago
Haven't found anyone here who can satisfy me sexually so I just stick to the social side on here. Have made some awesome friends!
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Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
When I first joined it was definitely for sexual experiences, which I had.Now its purely social. 💋 Then it was both sexual and social, forming friendship along the way.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' Sad for who? You or me 😉 I'm happy as a lark thanks very much. You can do whatever you like, makes no difference to me 😀 Of course I can do what I like, and of course it makes no difference to you. Why on earth should it. But my thing was, that the only way you feel you can make a friend is by opening your legs. That you are not here to make female friends, to me a friend of any gender is always something we can all benefit from at times. Women need not to see themselves as just an open hole, for every man to enter. and happy as a lark means this Very happy (sometimes with the extra connotations of being carefree or unaware of grimmer realities). I can only derive my assumptions from your posts, they are often a bit different from the norm. I only respond to the post, you as a person as a woman well I simply do not know what kind of well rounded person you might be. The one I see on the posts has one dimension, its a caricature of a woman who appears to like to fuck with impunity and that is your choice. Each person has their own way of dealing with the world I tend to have a more holistic rather than a hole istic approach
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RHP User
8 years ago
just here for the bitches holla
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' just here for the bitches holla super bitch
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Summer is and even she managed to find friends here ~ queue music ~ TALES OF THE UNEXPECTED??? 😂
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RHP User
8 years ago
For sexual exploration but gained so much more. Sharing stories, laughs and tears, meeting new people and making genuine friendships. Massive bonus for a site that people generally use to get laid. It's great to be around open minded people. S - noun or verb? :p
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RHP User
8 years ago
There are some really interesting adult topics I like to explore but there are few places to do that with such a broad audience as here.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' S - noun or verb? :p both, adjective also ;) Versatile, as 'Fuck'
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Accept it... People are different and their means of sex is sought in different ways. While some like the long drawn out seduction , others perfer to get straight to the point.. Personally I see " I Touch " as the latter. Less time stuffing around leads to more time doing what she likes best, and she makes no bones about it. Not as some women prefer , but it is in its self just another way a certain personality type goes about getting themself off , so who are we to judge. ? I think there would be some women here who would love to cut corners the way "I Touch " can and be game enough to let themself go the same way. Before you get the knives out , I am also aware there are other personality types who do things totally the opposite , and that also has its place. But whichever way we see things , we need to respect everyone for who they are , what they are, and what they like. As long as they are happy and not hurting anybody else... Let them enjoy themself...
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RHP User
8 years ago
The tryst 'a friend is opening my legs' lmao only just read that haha 😀 Jay, I need sex before anything else, it's a physical need and you nailed it, thanks. I have become friendly with people on here, but my primary interest and need is sex, different to many women, but my body is very switched on you might say, aroused all the time. It's amazing, and the ridicule comes from jealousy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Not always the domain of guys it seems. I have yet to meet the female who has made herself the centrepiece of this topic. Lots know of her, it seems she spreads herself very liberally around forums and chat, but no one I talk with have ever seen her at an event or meet and greet. There are no validations, so there is no feedback as to the satisfaction of her playmates. I find her fascinating to look at, as she reminds me of my wife, 36 years ago, who was then 18 and we used to entertain each other for 3 hours each night, rubbing after-sun in her sun burned body, with her paler bikini lines. It astonishes me how much she can write, and the quality of what she writes. Maybe she's a talented secretary that can do voice to text, whilst she's working at a keyboard or driving? Hence, on a basic level, I find her sexy and interesting, but it's the WHOLE social package that makes her interesting (for me) not just the HOLE. Writing all this, has made me come to realise, gang bangs or bukkaki parties are not for me! Andy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
There would be any jealousy here? If you are happy with the way RHP works for you then what other people do is up to them. Ive loved the social aspect. So add that to the great sex with some lovely FWBs and I really have nothing to be jealous about. Best of both worlds so to speak. And now Ive met a guy who is sexually my match as well as treating me like a Queen. Ive been very very lucky. To be honest, being sexually turned on 24/7 wouldnt appeal to me. I meet too many hot guys at work, it would be a hell of an inconvenience! It works for others, so thats fine. But its nothing to be jealous about as far as Im concerned. Jayme, I think most guys would like all women to be corner cutters, but a lot of ladies prefer to get to know people first. Thats why all the Meet and Greets are so successful xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
You never will, I avoid Perth socialites, discretion is a must for me, not a word in their vocabulary 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
We are a bunch of friendly, social and happy people and thats how we would like it to stay. Merry Xmas! xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Have a great Christmas Champers guys! One of my favourite quotes is one attributed to Groucho Marx, who said he wouldn't want to be a member of any club that would have him as a member. Well, with Perth Socials/ RHP I've finally found a club that doesn't mind me as a member, and I don't mind being a member! Happy Christmas-time 🎄 to one and all! Andy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's also a way of avoiding emotional connections, feelings and falling for people. Choosing to meet people who are never going to be available to you for anything more - for just sex is easy. It's hard for some people to meet people and to actually get to know them, spend time with them without falling hard. So they don't do it. Random sex is easy. I can understand why a lot people don't find it very satisfying in the long term tho. Most people crave intimacy at some point.
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RHP User
8 years ago
You are a very wise man 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol
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RHP User
8 years ago
What happened to my post? Someone obviously didn't like being caught out. Some strange goings on......
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