RHP

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G53

swingers partys and people who dont turn up !!!!!

September 23 2009

why is it that when you post a party and give people plenty of time to arrange to make plans they express there interest but as soon as you try to confirm numbers they come up with a reason why they carnt attend we go to alot of trouble to arrange these partys and hold them in upmarket places which cost a lot of money ( and by the way we make nothing on )so why bother ? some of these people say they are real but are they ?????

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Welcome to the world of swinger parties...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Bienvenido! Willkommen! Benvenuto! Bienvenue! Dobrodošli! :P If you do find out why, let me know! LOL

  • HotOzCouple_cc

    HotOzCouple_cc

    15 years ago

    How about a $50 deposit on booking, which is then returned in full on arrival.... Then if they don't show up, at least they've contributed to YOUR fun! Thinking out aloud here :p

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Yep, it is a pain, but it happens to everyone who organises parties unless you really know everyone. Of course there are sometimes genuine excuses, like illness or the car breaking down at the last minute, but in general when it comes to organizing these things, far to many people fantasise and say yes and when it comes to the crunch they just get cold feet.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Yeah, if you're asking them to pay for it, get a deposit.  No one likes throwing away a deposit.   If you're not asking them to pay, and they still aren't showing up... maybe your standards need to be higher so you can be more certain they will show.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Hi all,Leesa here on our "other" couple profile. Just thought i would respond to this again, in a little more detail.Owning a club and running the club is hard work. Weekly heaps of people register to attend functions and yet they dont turn up.Single guys are the worst, i think about 40 guys email me a week to attend and i book about 8 and if i am lucky 4 turn up.That is okay as i always limit the numbers to 6 anyhow so i always book more than i allow.You see the scene is still stereo typed as sleazy and grimy in some instances. People that have not been to a club or a party before have no idea what to expect and have this image in their heads that there are a heap of old, nasties sitting around naked wanking off. So they have this idea in their mind and feel the urge at the time to attend, but then get cold feet.Taking a deposit would simply not work, 1: how would they pay. ( we have on line shop, but that still wont work.)2: i would never take money off someone before they enter a venue they simply just might not like the party format.3: no one should charge to attend a party that is not a registered business, especially if there is sex on venue. ( Qld law)CI has worked so hard over the years to try to let people know that swingers parties dont all have to be sleazy and nasty, but a comfy alternative to the nightclub scene in the city. Safe, secure and heaps of sexy fun adults just chillin out having fun.You go to nightclubs and they have sex in the toilets, the girls kiss on the dancefloor, there is naughty play around, be it in the car parks or in the club. Not much difference really, apart from the fact that those that organise parties offer somewhere safe to come with condoms and lube supplied and heaps of adult fun on hand.So if you organise a party, dont be dissapointed if those that say they are coming dont turn up, until the scene is seen as a classy and fun place by all, there will still be a lot of people out there that are simply too scared to attend, because they think it is something that it is not.We get this weekly, Mails from couples saying," this is our first time and we are scared", our attitude to them is , if you are too scared to go to nightclub and mingle with others you should not come here, because there is nothing to be scared of , if not we are safer than nightclubs.Couples International has NEVER had a police call out in 5 years.....i think that says it all.So peeps if you want to go out on a limb and attend a party whether it be a house party, apartment party, club party, remember, we are not all freaks, but simply just like you, and we have put a lot of effort into giving you all somewhere to have some adult fun, support them or loss them .....keep up the house parties peeps, and the apartment parties as options are fantastic for our lifestyle and hold a very important place in the scene.Bryan and I have attended many over the years and so have the three of us , Bryan me and Coops, and we would hate to see people not hold them because others are just simply so closed minded that they are not up to exploring something a little different.And food for thought, No means No.........no one ever does anything they dont want to do in this lifestyle and you will never get touched while dancing.....etc......We have rules, not like the nightclubs etc....So come on down and party peeps...you just may like the parties, but you will never know unless you take that step and live on the edge for a change.Just my opinion.Leesa

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    But I'd also like to add that people not turning up for parties we plan as part of our everyday social lives is not at all unusual... in other words, it's just the way people can be whether out in the big wide world or on RHPCheersMrs P

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Well, I've see hundreds of people registering for bi-sex parties but when you look at their profiles, they're listed as straight... and really have no idea what they are getting themselves in for... hehe.   Lots of single guys see a sex party and they must think.... "Oh perfect.. I'll go along and show some guy how fucking his hot sexy wife should be done".. hehe.. (is it any wonder they're single with heads full of straw)... so they register for an event... no doubt some of them don't book in, just register... and obviously they think about it... and then you see just a few of them actually show up...   They're usually the guys standing around in their boxer shorts alone trying to brush off the affectionate attentions of real bi-sexual guys... and they're probably wondering why the women that they are lusting after are all playing with other women and their bisexual husbands.... hehe... Nope, if you are going to show up to a bisex party... you better be interested in bi-sexual play.... which is obviously the cause of people's inhibitions.   Experimental people are usually inhibited. They lose their nerve and don't show up... or they get to the door and cannot enter... or they enter and dash off thinking that they are unable to proceed.... but hey.. that's human nature. We have inhibitions for a reason, self preservation perhaps.. I dont know... what I do know is, if you drop your inhibitions you are going to have a fukin' great time! hehe.     Hugs Gazza

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I find the problem with registering is.If you look at the event invitation and then hit" interested"r, it makes it that you have registered.They may not actually have wanted to register, but it registers them automatically.Some people just want to see what the event says, and then they see they are registered and yet they had no intention of attending.So , it seems you cant read the event with out registering, which is a slight flaw i think in the way the events are done up.I have had many people email me and say," i am sorry it registered me for the event, i just wanted to read about it, so can you please accept my apologies and take me off the list."Not sure what can be done about it, but food for thought for rhp.I simply never take those registered as an indication of how my parties will go, it is not a valid way to gauge them.LeesaCouples International

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I'll say something else about inhibitions..... People are concerned about safety and for good reason. Being naked and vulnerable in a room full of people you do not know generates a healthy fear. More so for private parties more so than in clubs.   At least in a club you know that it is a legitimate business, with some security provisions and there is some solace in the knowledge that every other patron there is kind of like you in that they have paid to be there largely not knowing who is turning up. Private parties arent the same as clubs. These involve much more risk. You can bang on a motel door and until you enter you don't know who or what is going to answer, whether it is legitimate or not... you  know nothing. Its far more intimidating.    I'm very willing to meet people in clubs. I feel safe there. That is because Leesa, and people like her, go out of their way to ensure that people feel safe in the environment that they create.. and I can only imagine how hard it is to develop a reputation sufficient to establish a good club.   Gazza

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I think there are lots of peeps that love the idea of swinging...but shit bricks at the reality of it.If I say Im gonna be somewhere, then unless a real emergency comes up, I am there!As for peeps not turning up for private parties...we couldnt even get them to show to a meet and greet at the RSL!From now on...we are only having private parties and only peeps we know are invited...or peeps that someone we know can vouch for.I myself prefer the club atmosphere. You can play as much as you want...yet dont have to put up with unwanted attention.  Just like a party at home but with lots of sexy new peeps! Then if someone takes your fancy, you can arrange to get together and they are more likely to show up because you have met with no strings attached.Just my opinion...BJxxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I reckon if you make it known that your parties are invite only...and that if someone gets an invite and doesnt show...thats it...no more invites for them without some serious sucking up and a damn good excuse...People wanna go to the parties that are "exclusive" and "special people only".(of course...this really only applies to the rude cunts that don't show without good reason)Just my opinion...BJxxx

  • wildbrumby1971

    wildbrumby1971

    15 years ago

    if they were closer to me then i would turn up

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    I have a little black book of all the single guy NOT to invite , as they have let us down and booked and not turned up or simply not bothered to call to let us know to replace them...They all know who they are...heheheheheLeesa

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    Well as you can tell by our name .. we run parties as well .. and its not just guys that dont show up .. but couples as well .. and yes the same old excuses... got sick, got called into work, car broke down, had family drop in expectantly ... etc etc... we have heard them all .... ( we had one couple whose car had broken down and we thought yeah yeah .. but the next party they came along and told us the full story ... so sometimes it is true but you have to wonder sometimes) Because our parties are gangbangs .. we do have the number of guys ... but we over book the guys .. cause we know we will have so many no shows, so many actually cancel etc. It will happen all the time. The reason is (and it is usually for first timers to a party) .. they do get cold feet, especially if they do not book again when they say they will. Or you even get some that book .. dont cancel, dont show up .. yet book again ... For that our unwritten policy is 3 strikes and no more bookings will be taken from them. Yes it takes a lot to organise a party .. and because we have a website ... it explains everything - our rules, our philosophy even some reviews.. yet still even after they have read it ... they still are hesitant .. and we just say ... if you are unsure... dont come along... thats for males and females. Too many times you hear the same things as has been written by others... oh its my first time ... will you hold my hand and show me the ropes etc.... or the other bit of info ... is the size of their appendage ... as if they is really going to impress us... cause it aint the size but how it is used that makes a big difference. We get emails all the time... even from people outside our age range asking to come along, and they say they love the older women/man ... and we say no ... also the profiles on here (and yes we do read them if that person has sent us a msg) ... stating to play one on one .. and with women who are eg: 20 - 35 - when our parties are for ppl who are between 35-55 years.... I dont think many do read profiles... they just want to get a response .. if they are lucky. To take a deposit means that you will have records of a transaction .... so hopefully you keep good records .. All we can suggest is what we say to ppl .. if you cant make it ... just send an sms with your name and the word cancel ... (no need for made up excuses) ... it makes it easier for all... but good luck and hope it picks up for you. Partyinsatiable (K, S, T)

  • cantell

    cantell

    15 years ago

    yeah few year ago i  put my  name to come along to swinger . they put  me off that i am too old for party  that why i  was up set about this  i  can find  very hard , but iwas bit young fit that time . so i never forget that  i  have  hearing problem . but i have been there yet .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    15 years ago

    widebayswingers2 there are a few locals that are keen on going to your arrange parties but u dont seem to get back to them. when a party is arranged in an area like this we all like to get involved as they dont seem to be around very often. give some locals a chance as well so we all can enjoy ppl. cheers