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swinging guilt, not from playing but lying to friends and family baby sitters!
April 08 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would say, be your self. If you like swinging, and want it to be part of your life then you shouldn't be afraid. But each there own, I probably wouldn't tell people if you don't have to. N - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
a baby sitter,why do you need to tell your friends you are going out?......xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is hard - and we have a choice - we can afford a cheap night out or a babysitter - not both at the same time. Fortunately... the one person we rely on for looking after our kids found out about our swinging and is ok with it so we have a bit of freedom there - but it's not easy. and I don't want to wait another 6 years for the kids to be old enough to stay home alone
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RHP User
11 years ago
it can blow up in your face big time. as much as people love you, they go nuts over anything sexual for some reason you can go and shoot someone and they will gather around you fuck em and your in the shit so its a no from me
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madotara69
11 years ago
They won't believe you, or they will wish you the best of time while you are out playing with your friends. Well that's what we told my mum when we went to the meet and greet. She thought it was lovely that we were making some new friends. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Can't you just tell you family and friends you're having Date Nights? It's really none of their business what you get up too.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Can't you just tell you family and friends you're having Date Nights? It's really none of their business what you get up too. Foxy
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inspirit
11 years ago
They don;t have to know the details. Do you give a running count of what you do at the supermarket....Put into perspective. Besides above all that, does your wife feel guilty for swinging? Id so then why is she doing it? To please you? Just askin..if some one has a problem then is there is really an underlying issue....do you think?
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RHP User
11 years ago
just say that you are establishing 'date nights' into your relationship. Its not completely untrue and every couple needs time away from the kids...
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inspirit
11 years ago
*if *asking don't* an extra *is* in there Think I covered it
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RHP User
11 years ago
Our sitters are told we have a date night with a naughty glint in our eyes and we get asked no questions ;P Although two of our friends thought it would be hilarious to crash one of our date nights, Hubby had let it slip we were off to see a band (we were, specifically the guitarist ;) and they turned up! Discreet apologies made to the guitarist and we partied the night away with our friends. Hubby has been told in no uncertain terms that he is never to slip that much information again though. I was looking forward to the guitarist!
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Forus1234
11 years ago
You convert some of your vanilla friends like we did! Now we all go out together occasionally & have a ball. Some of our swinger friends still laugh about this! It's also good to have friends in your circle to talk to & share your secret with!
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Tell them what they want to hear...... 10, full volume. Then turn the dial up past 10 to 11.... blow their ears off and they'll be left wondering what the hell you just told them, if its true, and whether they should ever ask you again. "What are we doing? Well.... me and him/her are going out for a lovely night. Starting with dinner, then, cocktails...... (10) ......and then we thought we'd pick up another couple and engage in a night of sweaty full swap swinging. You should join us.. we bought new anal beads!" (11) DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' They won't believe you, or they will wish you the best of time while you are out playing with your friends. Well that's what we told my mum when we went to the meet and greet. She thought it was lovely that we were making some new friends. Mado Tara xx Bahaha!! That's awesome OP - you are adults, and entitled to have private lives and not be required to tell your family and friends your every movement. I'd be willing to bet that your friends have little secrets and things they don't tell everyone. You're not doing anything illegal and as long as you're playing safe and not hurting anyone, then you shouldn't feel guilty.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' They won't believe you, or they will wish you the best of time while you are out playing with your friends. Well that's what we told my mum when we went to the meet and greet. She thought it was lovely that we were making some new friends. Mado Tara xx I got busted by a customer asking what I was up to in the office at work, so I just bluntly said I was having sex, he just stood there with a dumb look wondering if I was fucking with him or not, haha. I agree with Luckdragon, it is nobody elses business, you don't have to explain yourselves to anyone and I don't think anyone has an empty closet.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If it's any consultation we are doing exactly the same, your right there is no alternative
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RHP User
11 years ago
some of our friends know some dont it is something we will only discuss if the topic comes up, otherwise its no ones business but ours. i like the date night theme and a lot of the time its nice to let other people think you are out on a date with each other. we also introduce people as new friends and play very straight.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It may just be that your wife is still dealing with how she was brought up regarding sex. As opposed to going outside of the normal boundaries. I say its your life and you if you choose it together then enjoy it together. No need to tell people what goes on inside your own sexual lives. Quoting 'inspirit' They don;t have to know the details. Do you give a running count of what you do at the supermarket....Put into perspective. Besides above all that, does your wife feel guilty for swinging? Id so then why is she doing it? To please you? Just askin..if some one has a problem then is there is really an underlying issue....do you think?
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'madotara69' They won't believe you, or they will wish you the best of time while you are out playing with your friends. Well that's what we told my mum when we went to the meet and greet. She thought it was lovely that we were making some new friends. Mado Tara xx Bahaha!! That's awesome OP - you are adults, and entitled to have private lives and not be required to tell your family and friends your every movement. I'd be willing to bet that your friends have little secrets and things they don't tell everyone. You're not doing anything illegal and as long as you're playing safe and not hurting anyone, then you shouldn't feel guilty. It hurts a little bit when everyone goes home
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RHP User
11 years ago
For the most part, our close friends know about what we get up to. Maybe the guilt would be reduced if you told the half truth. Our line is usually that we're having a 'date night' or 'dirty weekend' in the city or something along those lines. At the end of the day, if its your date night, they don't need to know anything else.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Last time I told the old man it was date night, he asked if he could smell my fingers. bahahaha Of coarse* he was kidding.
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RHP User
11 years ago
swinging is a bond and a trust and is something between the two of you. isnt the naughtiness of wjat your doing in private all part of the erotic experience. take a break from the kids and do wjat you please. cheers
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RHP User
11 years ago
My wife and I used to love swinging, but lately she only wants single guys and wants me to do the arranging.Fortunately I quite enjoy that, but I would like to hear from other couples in similar situations.
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