swinging or spice

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Everyone plays the scene for their own reasons. It is about each couple / single and what they/he/she want. It is really quite simple. they do what they want to, and use the scene for themselves, in a way that suits them. If a couple just wants to watch to spice up their lives, then so be it, great to see they have the communication to do such things together. If a couple wants to play, go on them great to see they have the communication to do such things together. If a couple wants to close a door, great for them. If a couple wants to leave a door open, great for US. If a couple just wants to have a drink and mingle, good for them.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  good question ... I think sometimes it can be both I know when I went to LL with my partner I was open to swinging, but wanted to start playing publicly with him, then as it happened the mood wasn't right for swinging ... no other couples we were drawn to etc I know lots of people on here, in hotchat, that do swing / hookup but most like to make a connection first

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  hey arrow6, We LOVE sex and are always willing to play........ Our problem is finding others to join us, we live on the mid north coast and usually only encounter time wasters, boring and VERY frustrating. We have talked about going to swingers clubs but have heard that many are there only to watch........get a porno.......if you go there you should be willing to play, its not hard to know you go to a swingers club what the aim is..lol.... Thanks for listening, Ljarrah

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  We are a couple, and we host parties,one on sat 27 th sept is advertised in parties and events,and our parties are mainly for couples, with a very restricted number of singles. We always have a very social group of couples whether they are regulars or newcomers to our parties and most certainly dont find that many come to just watch or talk,we always seem to have plenty participants and yes occasionally a door may be closed and or locked but that is the prerogotive of the people participating in that room,but in the main most of the time most doors are left open. bothtogether6

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  thank you for your responses, but do you think that couples who are actually looking for spice go to swingers clubs purely because there's nowhere else to go.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hello :) Ours prob started as spice but now has turned into a bit of def swinging but I wont due to my own ridiculous insecurities. So I think good on everyone who is out there :) I would love to swing freely lol

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  perthsensual

  16 years ago

  arrow6, its a great topic you raise... we are all for couples looking for either swinging or spice experiences, but what we find frustrating are couples that dont openly portray this in their profiles... too often do you read a profile, that says that they are looking for couples or males, and you find out that they only want swapping with the female, soft swap only or no male attendance... we often get a laugh at couples with groups and male ticked on there preferences and the words on there profile are so different... we encourage all to review their profile to ensure that it is as accurate as possible to elimate stress for both them and those that try to contact them...

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  We went to a couples club for the first time the other night and for us it was really a case of what we felt comfortable with. There is often a big difference with having a swinging fantasy and actually making the giant leap to playing it out with others. We would have been happy to watch and most likely would have if we hadn't met the hot couple we did. I think it is often a case of the more experienced couples welcoming newcomers and making them comfortable without pressure. That worked for us and we ended up involved in much more than we expected. We like spice in our relationship but are open to different possibilities but only with the right people. Does that make sense?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Some couples just like to watch ... ive been to many clubs were some couples dont get naked but prefer to watch .... and of course swinger clubs are about the only place to see people have sex...... So i guess that couples that dont swing but go to those clubs are after a litlle spice and have nowhere else to go .... Its all about what you want out of it all... if its spice then go for it if its full swinging ... even better .... You gotta get the spice from somewhere .... kings cross strip clubs and sex shops just dont do it lol...

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