the chasm between

Comments

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Eutopia...a place where the missing link is alive and well. The third gender...a unique combination of the best aspects of both male & female. Revelling in the absence of all that hinders  Adam & Eve. Goodnight, farewell, Amen xx

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  You are speaking in generalisation and like most of them i believe your premise is wrong. there has to be some attraction is a common theme.   To me you have to have a click factor if you have sex...mindless fucking is not my scene really. I want the person to be at least a little bit inside my head and for me to be in theirs as well...it makes things more intense.   Also this is probably as much a life style / sex / Relationship site...i do not feel it is exclusivly a sex site.   So this male does look for an emotional level in his sex life...it does not mean romance, or Long trem relationship...just a level of emotion which i feel is essential.     LC

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  women want different things from different people...we are just as capable of separating sex from emotion as men, when we choose to..women like sex and sometimes like "just sex"... a lot has to do with the people involved..sometimes we get blindsided.... knocked down and knocked off our feet... but we get back up, stronger than before..the differences between men and women should be celebrated and not navigated... the water's too deep lol :P

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I agree, that there is would be some level of physical attraction. When you read the posts of MIA MEN! BLOODY SOOKI LALA'S, do they go missing because they get cold feet, concerned that it is just not going to be a dalliance but might be dragged into something else. An acquaintance complained of not having sex for at least 1 yr after a number of short term relationships which followed on from a divorce. It seems that from her comments, jump anything that moves, must be all weekend, just wants sex, and then comes out with "wants to find someone for the rest of her life someone to look after her" Is it that something we don't have we fantasise about but when we do get it, it become familiar all too quickly. Are we always jumping the fence trying to getting to the greener pasture. I might be making generalisations, but so far, for all the outer pretences of marriage and the ones I am close to how we ever live together beats me. Some aspects of the animal kingdom appeals to me, the females wanting the strongest male and then mating frequently, then to be told to bugger off, a dam smorgas board, shame I wouldn't be the strongest male dzynr

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Just a hunch.. but you might have more chance of getting laid if you try and mate within your own "species" .... boy... girl.. whatever.. but puleazzze try and shag something at least resembling a human!   Hugs Gaz

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  In the real world as a kid I noticed that unless you were particularly odd most kids had a friend. Tis not until the hormones kick in that boys and girls view each other differently. Before then, youngsters could still have an attraction to the opposite sex… and innocent boyfriend and girlfriend attachments did happen, much to ribbing of your mates. Even then there was unrequited feelings. The sad thing is that the plain little girl with freckles and plaited hair who harboured a secret crush, but never took your fancy, grew up into this beautiful creature. But boys in a family without sisters can find themselves at a disadvantage. Girls can then appear as another species, when one is lacking the basic skills to communicate with them. So many misconceptions can develop from this. Then there's peer pressure to act in a way you may not have chosen if you were doing things on your own free will. Being able to communicate with the opposite sex with confidence and in return gain their confidence. Not presenting your self as a freak worthy of suspect, but a genuine guy who will listen and learn from each encounter. It's all about open communications and who you can relate to. Sometimes there are instant attractions, other times the opposite, but usually some common ground to explore. Expecting instant gratification without establishing trust and feelings is being a little over optimistic. But then unexpected things do happen… surprise opportunities come your way right out of left field. You discover that apart from sitting down to piss and having periods… they're not all that different from us.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  goes over my head....ahh...your imagery...i think that is so true about giving a piece of your heart...i too give some...but can't afford to much...lol...as my ex took most of mine last time...sigh!...cheersjose...

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  hey.The only relationship i want is a friendship.....as for anything else...pffft..im over being treated like a door mat..only then i didnt know any better....now i do...lol....for the first time in my life...i like myself..and never going torely upon men/women...to make me feel of value....and i dont need marrage..or a father for my kids..as for the "one" soul mate...pffft...thats a fantasy...Thus sex is sex nothing more...but like most people..there has to be some attraction mentaly and physicaly..and trust..and no pressure.....Our differences..are to complement one anothermen are logical,visual,they dont seek answers..rather solve their own issue/s by themselves...non communicatorsWomen will communicate..to find a solution...we feel....we were im afraid. cursed to crave man..xoxoheymumma

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi All, All fun aside, posts such as this screams black and white thinking at its worst! Such a devestatingly sad indictment on just how little progress we have made regarding understanding and empathising with our fellow HB's. Respect & affection are not dirty words...and like Trish, I refuse to compromise my standards....albeit shaky ones at this point time due to being sucker punched by someone who's primary motivation appears to be haunting the hallways of RHP in search of strong women...with whom to test his archilles heel heat seeking missile and knee cap them in the process. Of course, ppl of this ilk are but a pimple on the arse of mankind. And as such should not be afforded any more time other than what it takes to evacuate their infection, wipe it on a tissue and flush down the toilet. It's Trish, heymumma, jose, Nev, even stalky (lol) & their ilk that deserve time, attention and....affection...respect...quality sex...and whatever else they feel warranted from potential partners.   Instead of contributing to the great divide b'tween men and women dzynr, why not join the revolution? You may even get laid...and walk away without fear of finding yourself attached from the kneck down!

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well blow me down, it looks as though the number of xx chromosomes that I based my stats on was too small a number to correctly reflect the population, (like most political surveys) heymumma balances the scales. trish- casual sex does not exclude respect, tenderness and sensitivity to the other person, I am not a WBTM type of male, you definitely open yourself to someone when intimate, but if after 2 or 3 meets, 6 months or 6 years if it doesn't go any where then move on. I am living with the reality of after 27yrs the wife writing to someone saying that she really didn't love me in the true sense when we were married. But I would not seperate until the children leave home, I went through that when I was 9 and would not wish it on anyone. So I keep the knowledge of what was written hidden and in another 10 yrs see what happens. however back to the topic so far the perception is that, okay a number of women, still hold fast to the fantasy of finding the knight in shining armour. friendships are just as hard, always letting you down, the benefit here is it is easier to avoid them for a while until you forget why they pissed me off. this is generally not to long for me, short term memory loss. dzynr

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  it is there and you cannot ignore it, understand it, but play with it no. Playing with peoples emotions, telling them what they want to hear so they think better of you is to be condemned. Drop the bullshit and say what you mean. We all put on pretences, put our best foot forward, to be appealing to the opposite gender. We don't have to be crass or hurtful, so I accept what you say but may not agree with it. revolution - what are you implying? A DRAMATIC AND WIDE-REACHING CHANGE IN THE WAY SOMETHING WORKS OR IS ORGANIZED OR IN PEOPLE'S IDEAS ABOUT IT : I want to throw up any time I hear the phrase "you go girl" or "girls have to stick together". Do they think they are the fairer sex, I think not. Someone reminded me of a quote recently, where a lady responded to the question of equality with IF THAT IS ALL YOU ARE OFFERING THEN I DON'T WANT IT. I WANT TO BE ABLE TO BE BETTER. we are all individuals and able to achieve anything we put our effort to, some better than others, but I still think there are basic difference, to understand, be appreciated and accept, but how do we live with them? Dzynr

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It's interesting that all my old school friends that I've known from as far back as primary school... and that I'm still good mates with... that none of them has been divorced, and all seemingly happy. Yet of the many friends I've met since working, a very high percentage are either divorced or married multiple times. The extenuating circumstances with work was the long hours and being married to the company. In addition the incredible number of parties among workmates of both sexes. So many opportunities to stray whilst working and playing. Can't speak for all companies, but did witness a high level of nooky taking place at the workplace. There was a large staff, many departments, varied occupations, with people so familiar with each other that it was like a family... the whole place had an air of incestuousness about it. People were attached to each other and to the firm. A remarkable number of marriages resulted between staff, even if not all survived. The work environment made this happen... and I'm sure this is common with other places with similar circumstances. In contrast, picking up women off RHP seems like ships passing in the night, unless an effort is made to gain familiarity, to be known and trusted. This obviously works both ways. I often wonder how dysfunctional the average RHP member is when it comes to dealing with the opposite sex? I only ask that based on the type of topics posted here in the forums.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well I'm new to this forum, but I see a distinct trend about the people here:   1. I AM WOMEN HERE ME ROAR; generally opinionated, seemingly empowered women (I say seemingly as no one knows for sure how she feels/is, all I have are opinions / rants / raves to go by). Have been f*cked over before and vows never to bend to a man's wishes again, but potentially (hopefully?) a softie inside and when the right man comes can be turned into a big pile of goopy sweetness. ;) Would generally be stand-offish to male advances initially, spite her again and she comes back twice as strong, but has to be careful not to be (4) below if she gets too hard-done by.     2. I'M A MODERN MAN YOU CAN ROAR TOO: the also opinionanted, equality-empowered man who would agree/disagree with type (1) above but (to their damnest best) try not to generalise or marginalise much. Its hard not to though. These guys have often stepped out of a marriage, or have a wealth of insight into their own psyche, due to personal exploration (travelling alone for two years?) or having had meaningful relationships in their lives of which they have learnt from. Would probably like to be more confident with ladies in general, but once in their element; good dinner, good drink and good conversation; will be exceptional company.   3. WE'RE A COUPLE AND WE LOVE IT: the ones who enjoy RHP the most i think, and one or both of them sometimes browse through the forums, commenting here and there. (Guilty as charged! Heh). Pretty good at dealing with people outside of their relationship, as a team, who knows how they deal with each other tho?   4. SOOKS: Both men and women who complain, rant, and wait, complain a little more, and blame the world their problems. Generally shallow people, simply seeking attention, stubborn and would generally be hellish to be with, but may very well be a victim of circumstance; we are never ourselves when going through a tough time, hopefully will turn into (3) if he/she finds someone that grounds them and makes them happy.   Have I covered everything? Chauvanists can go into (4) above as well, btw. They only post something when they're upset, no? ;)   xx Michelle

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Bugger me NaughtyIngenue, I don't like tho think of myself allocated into any of those identified trends... Please Mistress... may I please have another? Maybe Narsiccistic Sookie Modern Male Chauvenists or something... just a hint.    HUgs Stalky

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  ooh, number 2 I guess - though, you can hold the "good drink" that always sounds like a misnomer for "wine" and frankly I'd rather have a coke it tastes better and you don't have the whole snobbery of picking the right one - well unless you have the option of canned, which is always so much fresher, stronger, untarnished by gas diffusion  (I don't know that jager bombs or girly-alco-pops-that-actually-taste-good fall into "dinner drinks" - though I daresay they'd be more fun). I don't know if I'd say i'm disfunctional, just a bit of a hedonist. (what was the original topic? oh, what women want? you'll get as many viewpoints as datapoints - but generally "sex and no strings", "sex and strings","no sex please we're british","relationship and I'll make you think you'll get sex", "sex with ken dolls", "My tyres pumped up, lavish me with attention NOW!!! look at my tits" , "shoes" etc.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  customer 69, yes I experienced the hitting and screaming of parents, in my case it was the mother having the affair and doing the hitting and scratching mostly, and I suppose if I look at the alternatives, the single parent was the lesser of 2 evils. I do look at the black and white and really after a tumultuous teenage life all I wanted was to be loved, get married and live happily ever after. shit happens, which is why we become slightly jaded, maybe in my case charcoaled. And the fantasy which is portrayed in every aspect of the media is far from reality for most. Look at the movie Avatar, (same plot as Pochahontas set in the future), guy with problems overcomes adversity plans to rape and pillage another culture, falls in loves, rescues the culture they were going to destroy and lives happily ever after. My biggest gripe is that as a male I always feel as though we are being criticised for everything we do not do right, don't bring home enough bacon for the wife to live the good life, don't help around the house enough, never know when to be sensitive, don't show emotion, it is our responsibily for the female to be sexually fulfilled, list is endless and and gleaned from listening to the radio. I suppose I am classed as always being too serious but my initial question was just a question to hear other peoples ideas and thoughts, it was not meant to be a criticism on the XX chromosomes but an understanding of reality. sorry not to respond to the sms message as I would not want to receive a sms incase my son or daughter saw it. Hope you get to the end of the discourse, diatribe. there are 2 unforgivable acts from my viewpoint, pedophilia, rape or physical abuse of a female, where the key should be thrown away. regards dzynr

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Actually... I was referring to a glass of good quality scotch and (yes I agree canned is always better) coke. Though, being vain as I am, I opt for coke zero. But meh, semantics. ;)

  reply

  like