M54 F53
the elusive couple....
August 11 2013
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Have had a bastard of a time trying to find someone for a couple/couple scenario!!! About given up actually....
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
Yes we are also finding it hard. Perhaps we are just too fussy or have set our sights too high? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have to agree with the sentiment that it is hard to find compatable couples to play with. Finding a couple that is attractive to both partners is a worthy mission, but it can take a long time. Especially if you are not out to place more notches on the bedpost, or you are particular in your desires (as we are). We have found the party scene to be the best place to really canvas a large number of couples from a broad spectrum of backgrounds and allows us to hone in on those who arouse our interest and more. One-on-one coffee dates of potential playdates takes a lot longer, and when you are time poor it can seem like it takes forever to find a couple that clicks. As for online chats - that has never worked for us. The profile is a good start to pique the interest, but it really takes a face-to-face meeting to see if there is a spark. By the way - I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E that is a hot profile! Funny, interesting, and the kind of one we would try to follow up with if we were closer.
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couples4usplease
11 years ago
sigh...... yes have almost given up too..:( was thinking of including single ladies and men in our search but am sure we will b inundated with more men than women.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We decided a little while ago that events are where it's at. Far simpler on many levels.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lady of the outfit here. I am not sure that we will have any adventures with a couple together. I may be happy to meet a couple whom I found attractive and vice versa
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RHP User
11 years ago
Go to the couples club, is a good way to meet like minded people
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RHP User
11 years ago
Absolutely... Go to the events, clubs,meet and greets, etc. I haven't really bothered with the online dating thing, it's too much effort for no reward. I find going out and meeting people much better. Make some friends in the scene and go out. I have friends I attend swingers clubs and sex parties with, some I play with & some I don't. I have to say people in the swinging scene are really friendly on the whole and really cool. You should go out and meet some. :) Stop wasting time online.... Or at least arrange to meet people at events, etc. if you click, well great. If you don't, plenty of other people to chat too. Having said that I have met heaps of people through this forum and made some good friends. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Or try a meat and greet!!! :p- Posted from rhpmobile
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rupamohan
11 years ago
I feel less committed are more online these days. it is easy to sit behind computer. More committed have moved to clubs. Few years back we could online pick up matching member every 3 wks now it takes about 5wks. Ageing can be another factor...crossing milestones like 35, 40, 50 can result in drop.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
That's a lovely thing to say.....and Meeka you are so right and yaaay I'll get to meet some of the RHP Crew soon!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
We're members on three sites, and honestly find them all a bit of a waste of $ and time really. Theres sooooo many talkers and fakes out there. We've found that the best place to meet with like minded couples are at the private parties and clubs, as you get to meet the person, not the profile.
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madotara69
11 years ago
The thing is, well what seems apparent, most couples that show a sense for being genuine are middle aged family people, they have all the pressures that living as a family brings and finding time to experiment with something valuable (love) is not up just for grabs.In reality we are not looking for "playing" 24/7. Work, family, commitments and rest, takes us all to different times for feeling comfortable to get in amongst things, which I believe makes this lifestyle difficult.It is also apparent that like us there is a lot of people naive to the swinging lifestyle, so risk becomes an all fair contributor with seeking the right people to chance with something we hold dearly. And sites like this, with forums streaming with majority of real genuine people seeking information to help protect their interests, by and with sharing opinions and knowledge is possibly more substantial than actually "simply meeting for play time". It is fairly easy to tell a fake persona, as there is real things real people relate with, and false is not going to express that. But this is a fantastic way to prepare for the times people do find the moments for sharing.This is Mado and Tara is watching cartoons, guess who with? A hint, we are talking about important things, teddy bears, picnics and hats. Later we will be talking about you.Mado, Tara xx
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rupamohan
11 years ago
There is difference between online or in store shopping. Where as in store shopping allows you touch, feel and use body language information. The convenience of Online shopping comes at the cost of added responsibility. The responsibility to be able to spell out clearly what is the requirement, ability to ask clear questions, use technology to manage efficient verification ( for example disposable phone number) without compromising privacy, use experience to form clear rules when to stop. Treating profiles same as a person is like doing online shopping in "In store mode". A profile only becomes person after you start knowing the person behind it. Extending courtesy to a profile like you do a person can be inefficient. If you follow these rules it may not increase success but you will certainly NOT waste time. The predominant reason for wasted time is mismanaged self control.
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RHP User
11 years ago
They are so effing hot and kinky. Will be spending quite a bit of time with them exploring our fantasies.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Events, like sexpo and clubs or private swingers parties r where you'll find exactly what u both want, your online and looking for contact, so reverse your Oder, go and meet couples and use the online for further contact...just an idea, bride beach rock pools in summer is a great public place to meet
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have just recently decided that we are no longer searching for couples on RHP. If couples contact us we will engage but too much time & effort being spent in the 2D world. We both agree that it is time to mingle in the 3D world.There have been some very worthwhile adventures off RHP but it takes too much effort to actually meet someone on here. Neither of us did online dating when we were single, so time to get back to reality.Look forward to seeing you at meet & greets, house parties, RHP events and of course Passions in Paradise.D&A
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Playful2looking
11 years ago
Yes we also have trouble. We know why though its our location 400ks south of perth. We are both bi when a lot of the couples on here really want straight sex swap. Also our age though we are not typical oldies we mix a lot with younger people because we are out doing stuff like listening to live music. There is no way being this far away from capital cites that we will have access to the club scene or swingers groups so I guess we rely on the on line connection. This means we have fewer sex adventures then most but we do enjoy when we can. Yes the online thing still works for us but. I think chatting people up in a party or club scene is better so go for it join a group see what happens. By the the way being 400ks South of Perth means we have clean air and healthy food. On a clear and fine day we can see the Japness whaling fleet... just kidding.
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Fun_playfull_cpl
11 years ago
Yes we have found it hard due to our location and are unable to host! All tho we are looking at branching out into the 3d world more as in clubs but I think we are afraid of reactions and or being found out by others as is very discrete for us!..
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couples4usplease
11 years ago
Kust wanted to say thanks for everyones advice - met a great genuine and fun couple at the club on the weekend that we plan on keeping in touch with
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good for you Couples4!
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RHP User
11 years ago
finding a cpl that both are comfortable with is difficult. throw in the fact of all finding a time to at least meet before the play is almost impossible. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
As relative newcomers to the couples scene, we are finding it hard to even get a reply. As playmates, it also seems that other couples may not view us as quite as committed as "true" couples. Perhaps a few tips on spicing up our profile might be handy. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are couples interested in single guys ? we seem to have a lot of couples searching for couples and coming up short..
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have given up meeting any couples. We are just attending parties and hope for the best.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'mayfind2' As relative newcomers to the couples scene, we are finding it hard to even get a reply. As playmates, it also seems that other couples may not view us as quite as committed as "true" couples. Perhaps a few tips on spicing up our profile might be handy. :) You don't have enough in your profile at all. How long have you know each other? There is a huge difference between a committed couple to shag buddies that don't know each other that well, therefore I think it's important to discuss your relationship a bit... just to give people a sense of what you two are about. Other questions you may answer are, do you want to meet couples for shagging only or do you like to get to know a couple a little first? Have you been in the swinging scene long? What sort of play are you after, what do you like, etc.Maybe some better pictures would also help.Why not read the couple profiles you are interested in to get a better idea. At the end of the day you will most likely have to snag the females interest to really seal the deal. My knowledge of women is they like to see a more rounded profile, one that discusses more than just sex. Maybe a bit about your personalities or something. I mean I could be wrong..... I think with couples it is often the man that does the vetting and emailing, but the woman has the final yes or no.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Byronfuncpl' Yes we have found it hard due to our location and are unable to host! All tho we are looking at branching out into the 3d world more as in clubs but I think we are afraid of reactions and or being found out by others as is very discrete for us!.. Everyone wants discretion Byronfuncpl. I would say that swingers will not out you because they don't want to be outed themselves. If you meet people in the "every day" world you wouldn't mention that you happened to see them in a swingers club last Friday night getting gang banged by 20 blokes while hanging in the sling. You know. At clubs you don't discuss names, or jobs or where you live etc. Not sure why you are afraid of reactions? Reactions to what?
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RHP User
11 years ago
the majority of couples have the same up yourself attitude of single women in that they sit on their arses and wait for others to come to them.So if you only get what the tide brings in, who's fault is that ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
The difference is us single ladies can just sit back and watch the offers roll in. Ahhh life's good. No? :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
Agreed meeting couples that both couples are attracted to is difficult but it's supposed to be memorable and that's never going to be an easy fantasy to fulfill. Same as single women for couples non existent or everybody's happy to chat bit not meet. We like parties and events at least the people you meet are real.
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