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the most shunned word on RHP

May 22 2013

would have to be CELIBACY.Have you ,or would you ever consider a time in your life when you would CHOOSE to be celibate? I have recently come to the conclusion that seeking sexual partners is exhausting and stressful...quite the opposite to what it probably should or could be . Going to meet and greets,exchanging emails constant ,texting,providing a venue etc etc, after three years I have decided that internet ''dating '' is not for me . I know that many people will say that their experiences have been positive and that they could never contemplate the thought of ever embracing a celibate lifestyle voluntarily,but I was intrigued by Mr.Green's comment on another thread ,where he said perhaps if we stopped having sex we would actually communicate with each other. I am a woman who just adores a stimulating conversation,what about you?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I have stopped meeting people as I too am exhausted from meeting people, putting myself out there, putting in the effort and then zip zero...Have just stopped!!I am really happy with my lifestyle right now.Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    On your definition of celibacy? No sexual interaction with anyone? No penetration? No self loving? I'm a sensual being, I love engaging all my senses and do so in all my daily interactions. To turn that off would be impossible. I'm honestly not sure I could do celibacy! I've joked about it and my friends laugh at me :-(- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Yep I was celibate for many many many years. Why? Not really sure but I too hate the emailing and online dating thing. It's why I rarely do it. :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    even when I was divorced for ten years i did not date   sex yes but not often   could Igo back to live without sex with a person? yes as I have a vibrator.   I would miss it but Ican turn it off at will   yes I do get what your saying its a lot of time waste, and bullshit and not to many men want any conversation or intimacy no matter how much they bullshit it.   If they did they would be out there in the world, and doing the hard yards to engage a woman in every day normal conversations. to actually ask someone out with out expecting sex, you know like in the olden days   to grow a realastionship ...no body wants to tend the garden anymore its instant everything   i know a shit load of women that are doing just that, as they just cannot be bothered with men or sex anymore. and guys are the same they go to working girls or just keep themselves busy as most women are also after instant man,with what can you do for me.   we talk about the younger generation but we have fucked it up ourselves by not keeping up the art of conversation in our hectic life   but living a life of no sex will not kill ya so long as you have girlfriends.   but right now there is no way in hell I am giving it up as now I know how all the buttons work!

  • jensta

    jensta

    12 years ago

    Seriously ... never would be a choice for me I freak out a the thought of no sex

  • Mr_MrsAraps

    Mr_MrsAraps

    12 years ago

    All that emailing Freya is so exhausting that is made you age to 90 years In seriousness though I can understand the thinking of sometimes its just too all hard when all you are getting constantly is the opposite of what you are after. But for me I couldn't stop trying though would consider having a break if needed, but isn't something I would rule out completely. On that I have a question for you Freya. Are you saying your just being celibate because there is nothing worthwhile on offer and taking a break (and if something good came along then all bets are off) or you have shut shop completely?Cheers,W

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    No way! I love sex too much! But I hear ya about the online dating thing. I don't like it either, it IS stressful and time consuming. That said I wouldn't have given it up unless I had a few friends I could call when needed.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Sex is THE only entertainment they know.....lol I do feel sorry for the poor sods.... For me it takes a little more substance of person to have even WANT sex with them....- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Up until late feb this year.. I had been celibate for 16 years... it did end up a choice... I tried on and off the date and try and find the right person to be in my life, but everysort of unsuitable to be around and have near my young child came to the surface.So I gave up trying and just got on with being a mum.. Now my boy is 17 and having sexhimself, I thought stuff this, my turn!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Ill be taking a hiatus from all sex. Not something Im looking forward to but necessity dictates that I take a lapse.   Well its winter and mees tend to hibernate so summer will be full of pleasure.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Would give Rocky Horror a run for it's money. Love your new name.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    .......and me with my profile pic trying to emulate an Aubrey....although RHP deems it unsuitable for the eyes of guests.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    But who knows what the future holds?? Never say never, right?- Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    And I could do it again, but it would make me very sad. Having said that, the longer I don't have sex, the less I miss it. And damn you, Lysistrata, now what will we call you on here?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Well I guess I should have my say... I love good Conversation/Communication . Mental Orgasms ARE possible . But , in these circles , Conversation is also Foreplay . It's how so many of us screen potential Partners . If I meet someone and we don't have anything to talk about , it's not going to happen. Choosing Celibacy ? At 42 ? No ! I lived a Celibate life in my last Relationship for more than two years . A part of the Real Me was denied . Continuous lack of good conversation could lead me to involuntary Celibacy . I'm not worried though because there's an abundance of intelligent Conversationalists right here @ RHP ;) GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile

  • Cheekyarses

    Cheekyarses

    12 years ago

    I'm (. & mr cheeky) are at a point in our life's where we are really happy with what we have! We have a few couples we see sexually, it is not an every week thing - more like a few months here n there... We also like inviting a male to join us for mmf or female for ffm or I play in a ff situation! Conversation n friendship is the thing that I love most.... We have experienced lots of sexual things n will continue to do more, but give me a close friend anytime xxx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    joined not long ago and results are positive so far....pretty cool people,open and willing people on here Iv found so far.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    pleasantly surprised by all your responses,thank you...and Ms D you may call me anything

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Usually my self imposed bouts of celibacy were due to the lack of willing women, so for my own self esteem i labelled them "celibacy" But in all honesty Miss Freya, I too also feel the vacant space of communication and sex as a combined facet. In saying that though, I will also add that whether its here on the net or in "real life" (god that place scares me !!!) the same problem arises. So giving up on the net and such sex sites as this is NOT the answer. Being more diligent in choosing with whom we have sex IS. Its not that I have given up on sex its moreso that I have become more choosie about the people that i pick to have sex with (which does limit my opportunities, but alleviates that hollow feeling after the fact) also I have categorised the feelings and emotions that I wish to please and choose the required person to satisfy those particular lusty desires. A fuck, if thats all I want, then the job goes to someone deserving of my cock and thats it. Or a trusted fuck buddy if I need mental and sexual stimulation.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I think the most shunned word here is commitment but I digress.I did 6yrs in my marriage, I survived, but never again. Especially if that included self pleasure, shoot me !